*They call me Mister Spamtastic 6/2*

Re: *They call me Mister Spamtastic 6/2*

• tiffletons518 member

  June 2014

  ColieAnn31 said:

  I just don't know what to say or do to get it across to him. "Shape up or get out"? I don't have anyone to talk to about this. My mom tries to take matters into her own hands and makes things worse so I stopped talking to her about stuff like this.

  I think "ultimatum" usually screams 'bad idea', but there has to be some better communication. It's the worst and most annoying thing IMO "talking about things". I hate being that serious. I'd much rather make jokes and take things lightly. But, something has to give.
  

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• ColieAnn31 member

  June 2014

  Thanks ladies. I'll try to have a talk with him tomorrow when he finally drags his ass out of bed. I just hate confrontation. But the jackass drank all the damn wine. Now I am drinking a razberrita on an empty stomach.

   

  
  

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• ColieAnn31 member

  June 2014

  Thanks @NaChelleBeck‌ I'm keeping my distance from him tonight in case I say something I'll regret. Hopefully tomorrow I can work up the courage to talk to him. I seriously hate confrontation.
  
  
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• ColieAnn31 member

  June 2014

  I am drunk. But I wrote a 4 page letter expressing my feelings and I gave it to Alex. Writing down my feelings is way easier for me than saying them face to face. Thank you everyone for the advice and support. Hopefully we can get through this but if not at least I can say I tried and move on. Life is too short to be unhappy all the time. I owe it to Grayson to give him a happy childhood. I love all of you even though we've never met. I also had a really good cry when @tiffletons518‌ told me she's been where I've been and gave me good advice. Thank you for always being here for me. Sorry to bring down the spam thread.

   

  
  

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• pkp2 member

  June 2014

  Good luck @ColieAnn31‌ I hope he man ups and realizes what he has!

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• WasNotWas member

  June 2014

  Colie, one more thing. You seem to always go to ultimatums and that's a bad idea. I get it, you get mad and want a reaction and, hopefully a change, but when you make empty threats you lose your power. Disappointment and compromise are much stronger words and easier to follow up on.

  

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                                                                     Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13

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• Cricket81 member

  June 2014

  He woke up a half hour earlier than usual, but LO only woke up once last night!! That's a first!!

  

  

  
  

  
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  June 2014

  I'm paying the price for having too much fun last night. Hangover central here!

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• tiffletons518 member

  June 2014

  Well, I had the 6. I'm not hungover. I have no idea how I got that lucky. I expected to feel at least somewhat crappy. I may still get a fountain Coke at some point just because it's delicious.
  
  @ColieAnn31‌ I hope things went ok last night. I did giggle rereading my long winded responses, but it was all true. And I meant it about being here if you wanted to chat. Anytime lovely.

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• ColieAnn31 member

  June 2014

  Thank all again for the advice. I don't know if he's read the letter or not yet. We'll discuss everything later today. Last night was rough in regards to sleep. Grayson woke up screaming about an hour after I went to sleep. Scared the crap out of me. I finally got him back to sleep and he did it a couple more times. And why don't babies sleep in when they stay up later?! Lol

   

  
  

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• ColieAnn31 member

  June 2014

  I really really really want some donuts!!!

   

  
  

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• ColieAnn31 member

  June 2014

  subliminalrabbit said:

  @ColieAnn31, me too.  This low-sugar diet is going to be the end of me!!
  

  I would load up Grayson and go get some but my brother parked behind me and I don't want to wake him up just so I can go get donuts :P lol
  

   

  
  

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• nikel13 member

  June 2014

  ColieAnn31 said:

  99% of Grayson's care is on me. Getting him to do things is like pulling teeth a lot of the time so I just do it all myself. He works long hours and his job is physically demanding so I know he's exhausted when he gets home so I don't ask. I know I'm not assertive enough. I never have been. I don't know how to be assertive and put my foot down. When Alex wants to be a great dad or boyfriend he's amazing. I'm just at a loss of what to do now that I've let it get so bad.

  @ColieAnn31‌ I understand what you are going through. H works in a trauma ER for 12 hours a day. Yes it is 3 days a week, but he and I have the understanding that he has to be a functioning part of the family. That means eating dinner with Lily and me and he doesn't get to play video games until Lily is asleep. If he wants sex or to hang out, the game has to be shut off. It's easy for all of us to tell you what we think should happen, but you have to be willing to maybe stir up some shit to fix things. It was rough getting to this point, but I couldn't deal with never having a break of my own. I don't let H get away with the excuses often and I let him reap the consequences of his actions. If he wants to play video games until 2am, that's fine. He still has to get up in the morning and be a dad and husband.
  

    
  

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• ColieAnn31 member

  June 2014

  Does anybody else watch flip or flop on hgtv? I am addicted to this show lol

   

  
  

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• ColieAnn31 member

  June 2014

  Ugh!! Why are people so rude!! I'm so sorry you're having to deal with that @subliminalrabbit‌

   

  
  

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• riansmommie member

  June 2014

  After bringing Jameson to bed with me last night he slept freakin awesome!!! 1040-515, nursed and slept for another 2.5 hours. He must have known I really really really needed that with how busy I've been these past couple of weeks.

  
  

  

  DD1 5/16/2006 8lbs 3oz 21" (2 days late, 36.5 hour labor)

  M/C 12/08/09 6w5d

  DS1 6/27/2013 7lbs 9oz 19.5" (1 day late, 17.5 hour labor)

  M/C 12/18/13 6w1d Twins

  BFP#5 4/6/13 EDD 12/16/2014
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• ColieAnn31 member

  June 2014

  @riansmommie‌ I was just coming to ask if you were able to get any sleep last night! I'm so so glad to hear that you both got good sleep!

   

  
  

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• ColieAnn31 member

  June 2014

  mcbush said:

  @kames12‌ I could have written that post about your H. We have the same conversation about attention/sex. I think I need to have that hour long sit down talk with him too. I seriously want to ban cell phones after working hours at home. All he's doing is scrolling through reddit and it drives me nuts.

  I've banned cells phones during dinner time but I might have to up it until Grayson goes to bed. Alex is always looking at something on his phone.

   

  
  

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• WasNotWas member

  June 2014

  Another naptime conundrum: wine, nap, work, pedicure?

  

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                                                                     Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13

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• tiffletons518 member

  June 2014

  Ok, maybe a little hungover. I am never ending hungry today. I need a cheeseburger in my life.

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• riansmommie member

  June 2014

  Def a pedicure today @wasnotwas the place I go to you can get a package that includes wine to drink while getting it done

  
  

  

  DD1 5/16/2006 8lbs 3oz 21" (2 days late, 36.5 hour labor)

  M/C 12/08/09 6w5d

  DS1 6/27/2013 7lbs 9oz 19.5" (1 day late, 17.5 hour labor)

  M/C 12/18/13 6w1d Twins

  BFP#5 4/6/13 EDD 12/16/2014
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• lioness13 member

  June 2014

  @ColieAnn31‌ - pour some water in the video game.

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• lioness13 member

  June 2014

  itsStackie said:

  Some people scraped off the icing from LO's cupcakes, so I am eating the icing as a late night snack. I think it is grossing DH out, because he told me to stop.
  

  This pic is mesmerizing. Can't stop watching....

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• ColieAnn31 member

  June 2014

  lioness13 said:

  @ColieAnn31‌ - pour some water in the video game.

  I've thought about it. I've also thought about taking a hammer to it. He'd kill me though.

   

  
  

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• riansmommie member

  June 2014

  @ColieAnn31‌ just hide the power cord for the stupid thing . Tell him he is only allowed to look for it for 30 mins a day but only after he has spent a set amount of quality time with y'all/just you two. He can have the cord back once he finds it. Just make sure to hide it super good!!!

  
  

  

  DD1 5/16/2006 8lbs 3oz 21" (2 days late, 36.5 hour labor)

  M/C 12/08/09 6w5d

  DS1 6/27/2013 7lbs 9oz 19.5" (1 day late, 17.5 hour labor)

  M/C 12/18/13 6w1d Twins

  BFP#5 4/6/13 EDD 12/16/2014
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• WasNotWas member

  June 2014

  @ColieAnn31‌ MH and I have a very you, me, us strategy to our relationship. I get my time, he gets his, and we have ours. We try to schedule it as much as possible to reduce conflict.

  

                                                                #Bodymber14 #Bodygate #itsMillerTime

   

                                                                     Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13

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• WasNotWas member

  June 2014

  I snuck wine into my pedicure!!

  

                                                                #Bodymber14 #Bodygate #itsMillerTime

   

                                                                     Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13

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• Cricket81 member

  June 2014

  Ugh! Our neighbor always seems to wait until I've just gotten LO to sleep to start doing yard work. An he sucks at yard work. He has no idea how to make any of his machines run smoothly, so it's always this loud, pulsing noise no matter what he is doing. It drives me nuts and better not wake up the baby!

  

  

  
  

  
  

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• WasNotWas member

  June 2014

  Omg @NaChelleBeck‌ and @34blondie‌ you have to make these!!

  

                                                                #Bodymber14 #Bodygate #itsMillerTime

   

                                                                     Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13

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• itsStackie member

  June 2014

  Almost 1000!

  

  1st born June 2013
  

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• WasNotWas member

  June 2014

  Tomorrow's should be SPAM dun dunun let the boys be boys!

  

                                                                #Bodymber14 #Bodygate #itsMillerTime

   

                                                                     Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13

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• WasNotWas member

  June 2014

  Or I got 99 problems and SPAM ain't one

  

                                                                #Bodymber14 #Bodygate #itsMillerTime

   

                                                                     Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13

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• lioness13 member

  June 2014

  ColieAnn31 said:

  I just don't know what to say or do to get it across to him. "Shape up or get out"? I don't have anyone to talk to about this. My mom tries to take matters into her own hands and makes things worse so I stopped talking to her about stuff like this.

  I haven't read every post so this advice may have already been given. You can't just say you want him to do better. You have to be specific. Say, "I expect you to come home from work, spend 30 minutes playing with the baby without interruption, eat dinner with us, give him a bath and put him down for bed. Then you can play your video games for an hour then spend an hour with me. I'm not going to keep reminding you of this. It is your responsibility to make sure this happens." This is just an example.
  
  PS- a few drops of water at a time over a few days won't leave any evidence. No evidence. No charge.

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• Western Diva member

  June 2014

  Finally caught up on all the words after being sucked into the dec 14 drama. Loving you guys right now!!

   

  

  

   

   

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• lioness13 member

  June 2014

  Yesterday I pulled out the 2 convertible car seats hoping to get them installed this weekend. DH walks in and says, "Somebody been shopping?" I was confused because I shop all the time but wasn't going to confess to anything. Then he referenced the car seats. I looked at him like he was crazy. I bought the first car seat like 6 months (or more) ago and the second like 3 months ago. The huge boxes have been sitting in our garage and formal living room. Is he blind???
  
  Oh, and then he said he doesn't think KJ is ready to change to a convertible car seat. He said he thinks she'll be ready when she walks up to it and asks to get in.
  
  

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• ColieAnn31 member

  June 2014

  At what point do you wake your LO up from a nap? Grayson has been asleep for 2 hours now. Do I wake him or just let him keep sleeping?

   

  
  

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• tiffletons518 member

  June 2014

  @ColieAnn31‌ Do not, I repeat Do Not wake the baby

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• ColieAnn31 member

  June 2014

  tiffletons518 said:

  @ColieAnn31‌ Do not, I repeat Do Not wake the baby

  Ok. That's what I figured! I'm just not used to him napping this long by himself! I am enjoying the quiet and reading on my kindle

   

  
  

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