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WasNotWas

@ColieAnn31 said:

I feel like our relationship is just crumbling to pieces.

Your relationship is not defined by Saturday nights. It's in Tuesday mornings and Friday text messages. If you aren't feeling well, go to bed and if you feel the same towards him in the morning talk to him after a night of sleep

ColieAnn31

WasNotWas said:

@ColieAnn31 said:

I feel like our relationship is just crumbling to pieces.

Your relationship is not defined by Saturday nights. It's in Tuesday mornings and Friday text messages. If you aren't feeling well, go to bed and if you feel the same towards him in the morning talk to him after a night of sleep

I think I'm going to have a glass of wine and then head to bed. Thank you for letting me vent a little.

ColieAnn31

CL8badB said:

@ColieAnn31‌ is there any way to tell him that you want to spend some time together?
Im sorry that hes being a douche. ((hugs))

I've told him many times. The last couple of nights we've watched some tv together after Grayson is in bed and he starts to fall asleep on me so I tell him I'm going to bed and then he wakes up and starts playing his stupid game instead of just listening to his body and going to bed.

riansmommie

I gave up in Jameson sleeping in his crib tonight. He woke up 7 different times in the span of an hour and a half. Only way he will sleep is if he is physically touching me with at least 90% of his body. Hoping I can at least get him off my chest and laying next to me so I can try to get some sleep myself.

itsStackie

@ColieAnn31‌ if it's movie night, remind him. My DH gets bored and plays video games, and I have to remind him that I am ready.

ColieAnn31

stargazer763 said:

@ColieAnn31‌ from all you've said about your SO, he needs a freaking come to Jesus talk. And he needs it yesterday. You deserve to be treated better.

I love him but sometimes I feel trapped. I don't have any money or a car. I only have money and a car because he provides them for me. When we're good we're great but every now and then he just becomes this ass who doesn't care about anyone but himself. I just don't know what to do anymore.

ColieAnn31

itsStackie said:

@ColieAnn31‌ if it's movie night, remind him. My DH gets bored and plays video games, and I have to remind him that I am ready.

I told him I'd be in after I got Grayson to sleep and he said he was going to play CoD. I'm not even in the mood to be in the same room with him now.

ColieAnn31

CL8badB said:

Did he mean that he was going to play while he waited for you?
Maybe go in and just say "what movie do you want to watch?" and see what he says.
If he says "im playing my game" then hes an a-hole.

I'll try that but right now Grayson is wide awake I want some wine!

itsStackie

@ColieAnn31‌ hope the night gets better.

ColieAnn31

Thanks ladies. I really appreciate all of you.

itsStackie

Forgot to add for @Lizzybizzy80‌
Happy Birthday LO!

ColieAnn31

@riansmommie‌ I hope you're able to get some sleep tonight. Sounds like Jameson just needs some momma snuggles tonight.

tiffletons518

Blue Moon number 4? Okay. H is on beer number 5. Apparently we're racing. I will most definitely lose.

WasNotWas

@tiffletons518 said:

Blue Moon number 4? Okay. H is on beer number 5. Apparently we're racing. I will most definitely lose.

You are both beating me. Damn central time zoners. I'm on glass of wine #3

tiffletons518

WasNotWas said:

Blue Moon number 4? Okay. H is on beer number 5. Apparently we're racing. I will most definitely lose.

You are both beating me. Damn central time zoners. I'm on glass of wine #3

I'm eastern woman. It's 10:25 here. Every now and then him and I will finish off a 12 pack for no reason while watching a movie on a Saturday night. We giggle like crazy and feel totally lame because we still usually end up in bed before 11. Ha.

riansmommie

Thanks @ColieAnn31‌ I hope the teething/separation anxiety/sleep regression goes away before we go on vaca because I'm in dire need of kid free time with my hubby.

ColieAnn31

mcbush said:

@colieann31 You put up with a lot more than I do. Definitely sounds like you need to set some rules for video game playing.

I've got a rule of no video games until I put Grayson in bed. He's been following that. I just don't know what other rules to put in place. Gaming is his "thing" and he isnt going to give it up.

@kames12‌ Grayson is still awake

itsStackie

@tiffletons518‌ sounds amazing! I wanna hang out with you two... Double date night!

ColieAnn31

kdc2007 said:

@tiffletons518‌ - I wish I was drinking blue moon with you!

I just wish I was drinking with her! Lol

WasNotWas

@tiffletons518 said:

WasNotWas said:

@tiffletons518 said:

Blue Moon number 4? Okay. H is on beer number 5. Apparently we're racing. I will most definitely lose.

You are both beating me. Damn central time zoners. I'm on glass of wine #3

I'm eastern woman. It's 10:25 here. Every now and then him and I will finish off a 12 pack for no reason while watching a movie on a Saturday night. We giggle like crazy and feel totally lame because we still usually end up in bed before 11. Ha.

Wait, what? I thought Detroit was central??

ColieAnn31

This will be me when I finally get Grayson to go to sleep.

needanustart

No beer here but waaaaay too much wine. I'm so excited for my train score that I want to wake the boys up and have them look out the window. You know you're drunk when your instincts say "wake up sleeping babies." Choo choo!

tiffletons518

@colieann31 I had those days with H. They were annoying. For the first 7 or 8 years of our relationship he worked nights 60+ hours a week. Which means the kids were on me. He was great, and I loved him like crazy, but getting him to GET that I needed him to be present when he was around. Pulling effing teeth man. Some men are just amazing, some are a little slow. Mine is a combo of the two. The biggest thing I can say is don't ever let him off the hook. I did that for a long time, made excuses, didn't feel like starting a fight. And, things went on being harder for me than they should've been for too long. Don't get me wrong, my H is a great guy and yes, he should've stepped up. But, I should've spoken up more too. Don't go through a bunch of nights being frustrated like I did. Speak up. Really speak up. He'll either step up or he won't. But, he's as good as you think... he will

musicalsilver

@LizzyBizzy80 - Happy Birthday B!

@ColieAnn31 - my DH doesn't sound like he's nearly as stuck in video games as yours, but I can relate.  I've really had to spell out for DH the things I need to do.  Just asking him to do something doesn't quite cut it the first time, but I've really had to explain that I need him to step up.

Things have gotten a lot better for us since LO has become slightly more willing to be out of my sight, but most times things like DH doing bathtime ends with him bringing me a crying LO (tonight it was because LO drank dirty bathwater and it made him cry - so nothing to do with DH, it's just what happened).

I really hope that you can find a way to communicate with your H your needs so that he can step up and make you feel better about things!

@tiffletons518 - last time I managed to even just keep up with DH's drinking, I wound up with a hangover and seriously regretted it.  It's so not fair when DH gets to STTN and I have to get up with LO's MOTN feedings *and* get up with LO early in the morning and not get to sleep in.  Despite that, your blue moon racing sounds like a lot of fun :-D

I'm having another evening of putting on a guilty pleasure show to watch after DH has already gone to bed.  With a boring old glass of Moscato that's not as good as I remembered it being ... which is probably a sign that I should just head to bed!

tiffletons518

Everyone come drink Blue Moon with Tiffles!! I'm about to open number 5! And, I have oranges. Yes, I'm fruiting my beer!

tiffletons518

@wasnotwas Nope! I'm eastern! I think even the western side of the state is eastern. Maybe the west coast might be central...hmm...

ColieAnn31

99% of Grayson's care is on me. Getting him to do things is like pulling teeth a lot of the time so I just do it all myself. He works long hours and his job is physically demanding so I know he's exhausted when he gets home so I don't ask. I know I'm not assertive enough. I never have been. I don't know how to be assertive and put my foot down. When Alex wants to be a great dad or boyfriend he's amazing. I'm just at a loss of what to do now that I've let it get so bad.

WasNotWas

Damnit I loved that before I saw the fruit...

tiffletons518

@musicalsilver Oh yah I plan on going for a run in the morning and I'm already preparing for it to suck. Lol. I may even pop open number 6. It's not going to be good when the kids wake up at the crack of dawn. Plus, I'm an idiot and I promised the girls blueberry pancakes. I mean, it will be delicious. But, work for me. I will leave a stench of Blue Moon sweat down the streets while I run tomorrow. Feel bad for my neighborhood...

itsStackie

Some people scraped off the icing from LO's cupcakes, so I am eating the icing as a late night snack. I think it is grossing DH out, because he told me to stop.

WasNotWas

@tiffletons518 said:

@wasnotwas Nope! I'm eastern! I think even the western side of the state is eastern. Maybe the west coast might be central...hmm...

I swear when I went to Southfield we were on central. But I got pretty drunk at a tigers game so my memory is fuzzy

WasNotWas

You are turning me on @itsStackie‌

itsStackie

^ YES! )

tiffletons518

@wasnotwas Well, I won't share my oranges with you then. Lol. And, I LURRRRVE going to Tiger's games. There isn't a bad seat at Comerica, plus the frozen fruity drinks are delicious, and the beer, and the fooooooood. I need to go. Asap. So, when are coming to Southfield again? You keep teasing me with this talk. Don't be mean to me.

ColieAnn31

Why won't he go to sleep?!?!

tiffletons518

So, now H and I are talking about all the food that we want because we're both basically drunk and hungry. Dangit.

ColieAnn31

tiffletons518 said:

So, now H and I are talking about all the food that we want because we're both basically drunk and hungry. Dangit.

Please eat something delicious for me. And drink another beer for me. Or two. Or three.

tiffletons518

kdc2007 said:

99% of Grayson's care is on me. Getting him to do things is like pulling teeth a lot of the time so I just do it all myself. He works long hours and his job is physically demanding so I know he's exhausted when he gets home so I don't ask. I know I'm not assertive enough. I never have been. I don't know how to be assertive and put my foot down. When Alex wants to be a great dad or boyfriend he's amazing. I'm just at a loss of what to do now that I've let it get so bad.

Stop making excuses and stop enabling him. So what if he works long hours, he's still a parent.

This. Not being a dick. Truly. I'm coming from a "been there" place. I made allllll the excuses for Matt. "He works a lot of hours, he's up all night, he needs his sleep, he's tired, Kaylee wants me, blah blah blah." Seriously Nicole. I say this because I like you and I've done this, for your sake, stop. You're only making your life harder, and the longer you let it go on, the harder it's going to be to get him to get it. Your relationship with him is like raising a child. You can't let G get away with doing his own thing for years, then one day be like, "Ummm, no." Same with Alex. Men are little kids. We know this. I am really good at having no filter with anyone in my life that pisses me off, except him. I don't know what it is about him. I never was good at holding my own with him. But, sweetie... you've got to. Or, what you're feeling now is gonna be it. All the time. Pardon my drunken novels. But, drunken novels are truth without filters right? Right. You can message me if you ever want to vent. Really.

tiffletons518

Someone tell me I should stop and not open number 6. But, I'm upping the post count right? :P

ColieAnn31

I just don't know what to say or do to get it across to him. "Shape up or get out"? I don't have anyone to talk to about this. My mom tries to take matters into her own hands and makes things worse so I stopped talking to her about stuff like this.