Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Random thread- for all things random.
*writes that down*
(I tried to take a pic but it just isn't coming out well)
While we were waiting for our appointment this week, a little boy who was just starting to learn how to run was tearing around the office. He ran right into a cabinet and wiped out, but popped back up instantly, grinning as if he was saying "It's cool guys, I'm fine!" Then everyone started laughing at how cute he was, and in response he ran around the room giving every woman in the waiting room a hug around her leg. It was the cutest freaking thing ever and I almost started tearing up as well, thinking about all the fun moments like that I have in store over the next few years
Ok so this is more of a vent/rant and I really don't want to rain on the sweetness we've got going on but I am about to lose it on my new co-worker. I know where the stress/burnt out is coming from. I know I complain about her a lot and I am really sorry y'all, but I feel like I can only tell y'all and my DH about it.
I literally cannot stand her. She threw up ONCE (ONE EFFING TIME) yesterday and she's leaving early so she can "catch up on her rest and not ruin her memorial day trip". Ok fine. Whatever. She's a total wuss, but at least I don't have to spend my afternoon with her.
Then today at lunch, this:
New Coworker: My husband is in (really liberal large city) right now. He said he saw two women kissing yesterday in the airport! I was like "Ewww! Don't tell me that I don't even want to think about that! What's wrong with those women?" ::GIGGLES LIKE A CHILD and looks around the table incredulously::
Me: ::Giant sideye:: You're not homophobic are you? If you are, keep it to yourself. My favorite aunt is a lesbian and I don't want to hear it. ::GIANT GLARE::
That shut her up.
Now she's being kind of snotty and you know what? I don't care. I want to go scream in her face I LOVE THE GAY PEOPLE!*
What the hell is wrong with people?
/rant
*You need to read that in the voice of Tom Cruise from Jerry Maguire when he is yelling "I love the black people!" and Cuba Gooding Jr. says, "Congratulations. You're still my agent."
She's first generation American and she was talking about how she would be upset if her son married a white girl (which was the first thing that offended me), but she's sure since he's in CA and people are "too liberal" out there he won't find a nice (insert culture here) girl to marry. A nice white girl just won't do.
That led to the story about her hubby being in the big liberal city.
(PS Sorry if you didn't mean that question literally. I'm ragey which makes me literal!
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DD born 7.27.2014
BFP 09.2015 - m/c 10.21.2015
With the number of appointments you'll have in the first year it seems like it would be a pain to switch after 1 or 2 visits if you don't like then. At least with a meeting before hand you can get an idea of how their office runs, if they have any policies you may not be comfortable with, or if you just don't like the doctor's demeanor. Sure, they can put on a show prior and you still nay want to change, but you'll have 2 visits under your belt in the first month. Seems like a hassle to transfer if you can get an idea ahead of time if you even like them.
That's exactly what I did last time and loved it! I didn't need the full 5 yards because I'm short. I'd be careful with the jersey knit since that kind of fabric has so much give/stretch in it. You may not be able to get it comfortably tight enough with LO if it stretches out. I actually used seersucker.
**quotefail**
Check out the rumors for the iPhone 6 and 6s. They look really cool and they are getting bigger.
Tell me again how cats are so awesome....-_- mean little creatures.
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DD born 7.27.2014
BFP 09.2015 - m/c 10.21.2015
BFP#1: 08/30/12 EDD 04/30/12 m/c 09/04/12 6wks
BFP#2: 01/27/13 EDD 10/06/13 missed m/c 02/25/13 9wks
BFP#3: 10/30/13 EDD 07/05/14 Our little dude was born on 07/10/14 @ 2:19p
I need to follow the lead of some of you and kick him out of the bed.
https://www.myfoxatlanta.com/story/25577879/video-caged-beagles-are-set-free-touch-grass-feel-the-sun-for-the-first-time
“When the first baby laughed for the first time, its laugh broke into a thousand pieces, and they all went skipping about, and that was the beginning of fairies.”
- J.M. Barrie Peter Pan
married on the sweetest day 10.20.12
Chicken - 07.08.06 | Bubsy - 02.24.09 | Sunshine - 07.16.14
Do you put diaper cream on every time you change a diaper or only when they've got a little irritation going?
I got pregnant with a broken foot. There's plenty of fun things you can do this weekend
I got pregnant with a broken foot. There's plenty of fun things you can do this weekend
LOL @jnnfrrose6
ugh, I wish DH would give it up. He is sticking with that whole "6 weeks after birth" time frame though. 2 weeks to go....