Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

Serenla · May 2014

celticlullaby said:
I'm going to punch DH before the night's out. I've had both boys all day, and with the exception of one good nap, the LO has been eating constantly, 1/2 - 1 hour long feedings with maybe 30 minute breaks, tops. I fed him, started to cook dinner with DS1, had to nurse the baby again before I could actually eat. Fed the baby for a half hour, changed him, and handed him to DH to hold while I tried to shove a few tacos down. DS2 started wailing with hunger again, and DH had a fit about just giving him formula again, then made me hold him while I finished eating because he couldn't carry the baby around and deal with DS1 - for 5 minutes. 5 freaking minutes!!

I tried to explain growth spurts again, and he argued that kid must have enough immunity by now.

Punch.

mrscrcalli · May 2014

First time pumping tonight... How much is enough? I stopped at 3oz is that bueno?

mrscrcalli · May 2014

Woohoo!

Now how long till my milk is back for LO ?

Sorry I'm the dummy

chichi589 · May 2014

@mrscrcalli‌ I can pump 3 oz and be good to nurse an hour later I don't find that pumping really affects my ability to nurse

Stace0616 · May 2014

Showing up late to the baby face party! We call this his Popeye face. James is now three weeks old, and we've been busy going on our first outings. Today was Barnes and Noble to start his book collection! He was sooo excited that he slept the entire 4hr outing. Oh well, just gave Mommy time to enjoy her Starbucks in peace. Now if only those 4hr naps happened at night, we'd be golden.

Mamamonzo · May 2014

mrscrcalli said:
First time pumping tonight... How much is enough? I stopped at 3oz is that bueno?

Did you nurse first then pump? Either way 3 is awesome!! If you nursed then pumped I'm super jealous!!!

Did you stop the pump at 3 or did you stop producing milk at 3? From what I've been told and my research you should let the breast empty out.

cgoldian · May 2014

"Milk, please"

Sisimama10 · May 2014

My heart.

kseccomb17 · May 2014

My bil brought me huckleberry wine and it is to die for!

smushi · May 2014

Whenever it's time for LO to eat, I always find myself asking him, in my best Winnie the Pooh voice, if he'd like a 'small smackerel' of something to eat

MadBloom · May 2014

Penny wanted a squishy face picture on the RTT too!

Emily041285 · May 2014

Epic poop and for once DH had to change it!! Made my night! :>

Bluebird2318 · May 2014

mrscrcalli said:

First time pumping tonight... How much is enough? I stopped at 3oz is that bueno?

Sounds good to me! I pump anywhere from 3 oz. to 5 oz. (total, not per breast) depending upon whether or not DS nursed beforehand. You are constantly producing milk so you should (in general) be able to nurse within an hour of pumping even if you empty your breasts.

KatieGummow · May 2014

Wow!! @Jessieann1020‌ that is magical!

KatieGummow · May 2014

Husband had a melt down yesterday and is working on 8 hours of sleep right now (it's 3am). I am really hoping he takes over the next feeding shift even though I told him he can sleep in. Paternity leave has not been that useful for me so far.

At least I get more snuggles, right?

MadBloom · May 2014

Just went from 10:30 - 3:30 with a sleeping baby! Fingers crossed I can get her to 8 now!

PoppySeedWindsor · May 2014

Nursed from 11 to 2:30 last night only to have Merri spit everything up, no warning. So much for that cluster feed.

Stace0616 · May 2014

Swaddling arms in is helping James stay asleep. Getting the arms in however, makes him scream for a good 5-10mins. Geez you'd think we were cutting his arms off or something!!

Tferr02 · May 2014

I miss my DH. Two nights in a row of horrible sleep, I just want to hand my kids off and sleep until noon.

eireyes · May 2014

Aiden slept two four hour stretches from 10-2 and 3-7. Dear lord it was wondrful except for the sore boobs!

nicole mackenzie · May 2014

I'm bored and lonely... I live an hour away from anything and don't have a car...

I suppose I should clean my house.

I try to spend time outside everyday throwing the ball for the dog or going for a walk.

I feel like I should be talking more to baby but I don't have much to say.

I'm also worried that technology s going to hinder lo's development. DHs cell phone use is constant and I already feel ignored. At the same time I'm feeling a little disconnected from DH and don't feel like I have anything to talk to him about so I feel stupid asking him to put his phone away.

hlm184 · May 2014

Only two diaper changes last night... but we went through eight diapers. I give up, it doesn't matter how long I wait or what I do, as soon as that clean diaper touches his butt, he's going to poop. At least he waits until the diaper is on, right?

Megczapla · May 2014

nicole mackenzie said:
I'm bored and lonely... I live an hour away from anything and don't have a car...

I suppose I should clean my house.

I try to spend time outside everyday throwing the ball for the dog or going for a walk.

I feel like I should be talking more to baby but I don't have much to say.

I'm also worried that technology s going to hinder lo's development. DHs cell phone use is constant and I already feel ignored. At the same time I'm feeling a little disconnected from DH and don't feel like I have anything to talk to him about so I feel stupid asking him to put his phone away.

I'm sorry you're feeling down!! If it makes you feel any better, having a car doesn't help with my loneliness or boredom!

I just narrate what I'm doing if DS is awake and I've got my hands in something. This kid is going to hate doing laundry. It's all I do!

I can completely relate on the technology piece!!! With my DH it's the iPad. And I've not been quiet about my concern. He gets annoyed but I'm not letting it go. There was a segment on NPR about technology and putting your phone down around your kids and one on YouTube. I wish I could remember the YouTube title. It was great. Had to do with what you'd miss out on if you never put down your
Phone. Our kids are growing up in a different time for sure, but we still need to teach them appropriate use. And to me, when your kid is awake, engage with them! Don't be on you're phone! Heck, I feel guilty when I'm nursing and on my phone. I feel like I should be talking to him then or giving him some love, which I do, but there are times when I am on my phone. Ugh!

Hang in there. You're not alone in your feelings. I hope things get better for you!!!!

Serenla · May 2014

kseccomb17 said:
My bil brought me huckleberry wine and it is to die for!

I am so jealous.

allyandmike24 · May 2014

I just tried to write a Mother's Day card to my Mom and ended up ugly crying for a good long time. It just kind of hit me that I have a daughter...who will one day write me schmoopy Mother's Day cards. It's all kind of overwhelming.

speechie517 · May 2014

I've been a human pacifier the past few mornings. I've wanted to pump but B. apparently doesn't like to share the boobs. Anyone think it might be useful to start a reflux thread? I know some mommas are dealing with it. B. 's doesn't seem terrible, but I figure some support and a single thread for questions/advice might be good for some of us.

fireflygirl12 · May 2014

When I suddenly get the urge to poop, I literally have about 30 seconds to make it to the bathroom. I have yet to see how this will play out in public.

olenkapdx · May 2014

allyandmike24 said:

I just tried to write a Mother's Day card to my Mom and ended up ugly crying for a good long time. It just kind of hit me that I have a daughter...who will one day write me schmoopy Mother's Day cards. It's all kind of overwhelming.

On a related note, I just received a "Happy First Mother's Day!" card from my sister. Awww... If I hadn't already had a total meltdown this morning, I would so be ugly crying right now!

nicole mackenzie · May 2014

@Megczapla‌ I suppose I'd still not have many people to visit since everyone is at work during the week.

I think I saw that video on Facebook about missing out in life because you never look up from your phone. I have spoken over and over again with DH about this... With maybe a small amount of progress

@Jessieann1020‌ we watch tv together and he's still on his phone...

fireflygirl12 · May 2014

dani+california said:

TP to DH today. I'm a FTM but I think I'm fairly intelligent. DH on the other hand, must think I'm an idiot. Everything I tell him about the baby or breastfeeding, he doubts. Today I tell him I think i have a plugged duct so I talked to LC about how to treat it. He says, what ever happened to talking to a doctor. Imma kill him.
This is me today. 'Which bottle did you feed him from?! That one's been out an hour and a half, you're not supposed to use it after an hour!' OH MY GOD CALL AN AMBULANCE! Surely he's on death's door. I swear my husband thinks we live like mole people in a sewer somewhere. If the paci falls on the couch, he won't let DS have it. All he keeps talking about is bacteria and how his immune system is so weak. Ahhh

DH is like this with our toddler. My 10 second rule applies just about anywhere, but DH immediately throws away food that falls on our clean floors even. He totally freaked out when DS1 started eating dirt outside.

@nolalinz - my DH constantly questions what I tell him as if I'm just making shit up. It annoys me since I spend a ton of time researching parenting stuff, but also I think he just wants to feel like he is well informed and part of the decision making too. But seriously, they don't have a clue.

fireflygirl12 · May 2014

nicole mackenzie said:

@Megczapla‌ I suppose I'd still not have many people to visit since everyone is at work during the week. I think I saw that video on Facebook about missing out in life because you never look up from your phone. I have spoken over and over again with DH about this... With maybe a small amount of progress @Jessieann1020‌ we watch tv together and he's still on his phone...

DH and I are both workaholics, so responding to work emails from home is more of an issue for us than "playing" on our phones. We started a rule when we had DS1 that for 1 hour each night, we would both be phone free. This allows us time to eat dinner as a family, catch up with each other and DH gets to spend time with DS1 before bed.

Instead of telling your husband that he is on his phone too much, would it be possible to ask him to give it up for a certain time frame each night so that you can have family time? Since it's measurable, he can't really argue that he is spending less time on his phone when he really isn't.

fireflygirl12 · May 2014

MrsStanton87 said:

TP to DH today. I'm a FTM but I think I'm fairly intelligent. DH on the other hand, must think I'm an idiot. Everything I tell him about the baby or breastfeeding, he doubts. Today I tell him I think i have a plugged duct so I talked to LC about how to treat it. He says, what ever happened to talking to a doctor. Imma kill him.
I only love titted because DH is constantly questioning me when it comes to BFing. It causes a spat daily. I'm not an idiot. I have read books, articles and researched on TB about BFing. I think I have a LITTLE more insight than you do, dear husband %-(

If I ever mention that I researched something on the Bump, it immediately gets thrown out the window. Clearly a bunch of moms going through the same thing at the same time (or STM+ who have gone through it before) are not legitimate resources.

fireflygirl12 · May 2014

ColleenSwerb said:

Holy shit. We went to get my staples out, then a haircut for DS, then lunch at Panera. DS lost his god damn mind 6 times, and I had to do a time out in the car. Even my MIL was like "so, that's the last time you'll be leaving the house until what? He's 16 or so?" And she raised 4 kids. I don't feel bad being so frazzled if even she was like "omg wtf is going on". And Eliza was a perfect angel and slept the ENTIRE time.

Ugh, I feel your pain. Hopefully it's just a fluke and tomorrow will be better. DS1 has definitely been testing all of the boundaries lately. I'm not sure if it's in response to bringing home a new baby, or just normal behavior for his age (what I'm leaning toward).

fourthnlast · May 2014

knotty-girl said:

Loving all the cute baby faces! Am I the only one (I hate that intro, but seriously) that has been totally MIA? Jack is 2 weeks, 3 days today... Maybe because I'm a FTM but I don't even have time to go to the bathroom. Major shock at how different my life is now that he's here. Good days and bad days. He really is an "easy" baby, but shit, babies are a lot of work. Sorry I missed out on all the caboosers births. I haven't even posted my own birth story yet. I feel like it's too late. Hope all of you and your babes are well.

If I didn't Bump from my phone, I wouldn't be on for days. Babies are a shit ton of work, it's been over 6 years for me, I forgot how all consuming they can be!!

fireflygirl12 · May 2014

What did people do when they breastfed before TV/internet? It's sooooooo boring.

fourthnlast · May 2014

fireflygirl12 said:

What did people do when they breastfed before TV/internet? It's sooooooo boring.

No shit! Also, i love my DVR SOOOO much now that I'm up at all hours of the night

nicole mackenzie · May 2014

fireflygirl12 said:

nicole mackenzie said:

@Megczapla‌ I suppose I'd still not have many people to visit since everyone is at work during the week.

I think I saw that video on Facebook about missing out in life because you never look up from your phone. I have spoken over and over again with DH about this... With maybe a small amount of progress

@Jessieann1020‌ we watch tv together and he's still on his phone...

DH and I are both workaholics, so responding to work emails from home is more of an issue for us than "playing" on our phones. We started a rule when we had DS1 that for 1 hour each night, we would both be phone free. This allows us time to eat dinner as a family, catch up with each other and DH gets to spend time with DS1 before bed.

Instead of telling your husband that he is on his phone too much, would it be possible to ask him to give it up for a certain time frame each night so that you can have family time? Since it's measurable, he can't really argue that he is spending less time on his phone when he really isn't.

Yeah he said he'd only spend a half hour at bedtime in his phone.

He leaves the house at 615-630 and doesn't get back until 7 pm...

So we hardly have any time together to begin with

He promised to leave his phone off while I was in labor... And I'll give him a break because labor was 28 hours... But the phone was out in the first 7 hours

he said my mom was texted him... But still

Serenla · May 2014

fireflygirl12 said:
What did people do when they breastfed before TV/internet? It's sooooooo boring.

I think they just stared at everything, so they invented the snarfblat.

On a somewhat related note I think I've been slacking on a birth story, now if only I could get to my laptop long enough to write one.

Emily041285 · May 2014

@dani+california‌ huge hugs girl! I'm still on the fence about how long we'll continue to bf. you have to do what's best for all of you. As long as your son is fed it doesn't matter how.

I'll miss you so hopefully your step back is short!

fourthnlast · May 2014

NoLaLinz said:

Well, that's that for me I guess. The last week has been a clusterfuck of trying to strike a balance between BFing and pumping so I could get a bit of a break from Quinn's marathon nursing sessions. The Avent bottles were a complete disaster, but he's doing much better on Dr. Brown's. Then he started eating all. the. time. I couldn't keep up with it. He was on me even more, and I know that was him telling my body to produce more but I guess I'm just not made for parenthood because I couldn't do it. I coulsnt handle him on me for 1-2 hours at a time 12 times a day. So we introduced formula, a bottle or two a day. A week later and my supply is fucked. I can't pump more than 2 oz, where I was getting 4+ easily before. He's at my boob forever and pops off still hungry, so we have to top him up. I know it's my fault...poor thing must be so confused. Breastmilk in a bottle, formula from a bottle, breastfeeding on and off...he threw a fit last night for god knows what reason and I ugly cried for an hour because I felt like I'd made him feel this way. I feel guilty and selfish for quitting, for wanting to FF. He hasn't pooped in 2 days and has been extra fussy and gassy, and I can't help but feel like me changing his diet and messing with everything has caused him to feel awful. I feel like a terrible mother. Anyway all this to say I've just been lurking for the most part and will probably take a step back for a while. I feel like the only stuff I have to contribute is negative! I need to regroup. You ladies are the best and I'm so happy to read other people's success stories with their babies so far. I'm still waiting for things to click, and for that overwhelming feeling of love for my son. I have moments but not what I thought it would be. Love you betches, :P Danielle
Now I'm gonna ugly cry I love reading your posts. Don't feel guilty for switching. You have to do what works best for you. You may find that taking good away the stress of breastfeeding will allow you to bond more with your baby. Hang in there

I was just going to say this. With my first, I was so stressed about breastfeeding, I hated it and started resenting him. Once I said forget it and went to straight formula, that overwhelming love DID happen. I stopped resenting him, stopped hating feeding time and started bonding with him. Just remember formula feeding does NOT make you a failure. Not feeding your kid at all...that makes you a failure.

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