I'm starting to get frustrated that I can't pick up on a pattern of B's eating and sleeping. She is 3 weeks and I feel terrible that I can't anticipate what is going to happen each day. I love that she sleeps well in my arms and swing during the day but she is so noisy when on her back in the PNP all night. It seems like she never hits deep sleep, stresses me out and keeps me up, but she seems content
Don't get frustrated, the first 6 weeks are more of a mindfuck than pregnancy. It's so hit and miss, there really is no predictability, it can change from day to day.
I love my mother to death and she helped so much the first week I was home with LO but when I was having problems with breastfeeding and ugly crying she was pushing formula on me and that was NOT what I needed. I gave in for like 24 hours but then gave my head a shake and called for help. Had a lactation nurse come and got me back on track. She kept telling me that it was ok if I couldn't do it and there was no shame in FF (which I know is true) and how she FF my brother and it was no big deal. I appreciate that she was trying to help but it was just the wrong advice while I was in a vulnerable state. I'm so glad I have the personality I do and that I had these boards to give me that extra push to not give up. Baby girl is 18 days old and we haven't had to supplement since that one 24 hour period in the first week!
@deidremaria I know! I told her to educate herself but instead she started researching formula and getting other people to talk to me about it. Wtf? She even called me a "bad mom" and said my child was malnourished. Seriously? I could have beat her. I hate when people think before they speak and believe that their way is the only way of doing things. Ugh.
Sounds like it's time for your mom to come to a ped visit with you? Sometimes hearing things from medical professionals can make a big difference.
@deidremaria I know! I told her to educate herself but instead she started researching formula and getting other people to talk to me about it. Wtf? She even called me a "bad mom" and said my child was malnourished. Seriously? I could have beat her. I hate when people think before they speak and believe that their way is the only way of doing things. Ugh.
Sounds like it's time for your mom to come to a ped visit with you? Sometimes hearing things from medical professionals can make a big difference.
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My mom is legit the kind of person who would listen quietly to a Doctor tell them all the facts, then on the way back to the car say something like 'Psshhh. That's not what I did and you turned out just fine. People today are so sensitive!'
Smile. Nod. Ignore. Repeat.
That's been my coping mechanism with my inlaws. They have nothing to fight you over that way And just never leave the child with them lol The things my inlaws did... I'm surprised too that my husband survived to adulthood. They used to let him sleep in the open bed of their pick up truck on long car rides (on the interstate)............. When he was 5.
@deidremaria I know! I told her to educate herself but instead she started researching formula and getting other people to talk to me about it. Wtf? She even called me a "bad mom" and said my child was malnourished. Seriously? I could have beat her. I hate when people think before they speak and believe that their way is the only way of doing things. Ugh.
Sounds like it's time for your mom to come to a ped visit with you? Sometimes hearing things from medical professionals can make a big difference.
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My mom is legit the kind of person who would listen quietly to a Doctor tell them all the facts, then on the way back to the car say something like 'Psshhh. That's not what I did and you turned out just fine. People today are so sensitive!'
MY MOTHER!!!! I refuse to invite her to an appointment because she's one of those who would flat out (and has) said "screw what that doctor said. They don't know everything". Umm no thanks!!!
@deidremaria I know! I told her to educate herself but instead she started researching formula and getting other people to talk to me about it. Wtf? She even called me a "bad mom" and said my child was malnourished. Seriously? I could have beat her. I hate when people think before they speak and believe that their way is the only way of doing things. Ugh.
Sounds like it's time for your mom to come to a ped visit with you? Sometimes hearing things from medical professionals can make a big difference.
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My mom is legit the kind of person who would listen quietly to a Doctor tell them all the facts, then on the way back to the car say something like 'Psshhh. That's not what I did and you turned out just fine. People today are so sensitive!'
Smile. Nod. Ignore. Repeat.
That's been my coping mechanism with my inlaws. They have nothing to fight you over that way And just never leave the child with them lol The things my inlaws did... I'm surprised too that my husband survived to adulthood. They used to let him sleep in the open bed of their pick up truck on long car rides (on the interstate)............. When he was 5.
I pretty much do the same. I just listen to my mom and move on. My baby just won't be in her care alone until he's on solids. I'll be damned if she gives my kid cereal and he's not ready for it.
LO is wide awake this morning, and I feel bad, but I miss my sleepy baby. When she was sleeping? She let me put her down and do other things, like nap. I'm hoping she decides to sleep soon! I need to eat
DH has been so incredible during pregnancy (especially the end), my crazy labor, and our hospital stay. I'm so sad to not have him by my side today. It's not even that I don't think I can handle LO by myself, I just want to have DH here. I seriously love that man more now than ever before. And he's such a good dad too.
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
I brought the baby to meet my students (I'm a preschool teacher) this morning and it was the sweetest thing ever. They were OBSESSED and so wonderful and loving toward her. Even the usually kind of crazy ones were "petting" her little feet gently. One of the little girls was holding (very thoroughly washed!) hands with Willa during circle time. I'm feeling super conflicted whether or not to go back to work in September, especially after seeing all of my little love bugs!
We moved into this house in January. Apparently the ac never got hooked up and we didn't realize it till was almost 80 in here last night. Totally pulled the newborn baby card to get the tech out here today to get it set up. Not sure how we missed that one...
I took a shower!!!! This is the first time I've taken a shower alone in the house with baby. Usually someone is visiting when I do or I just wait for my bf to come home from work for a shower but I totally took a non rushed shower during his nap.
How long did your doctor tell you to wait to drive after a c section? My paperwork just says "until the doc says you can" and the doc who preformed my surgery is not my regular doc. I won't see him for a post op check up until a week from today, which is 2 1/2 weeks after my c section. Just curious. I would obviously call if I really wanted to know. What he recommends.
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
How long did your doctor tell you to wait to drive after a c section? My paperwork just says "until the doc says you can" and the doc who preformed my surgery is not my regular doc. I won't see him for a post op check up until a week from today, which is 2 1/2 weeks after my c section. Just curious. I would obviously call if I really wanted to know. What he recommends.
At least 24 hours after taking you last pain med and when you can properly stomp your foot (in case you need to slam on the breaks )
June Siggy Challenge My little Princess BFP#2 7/28/13 EDD 4/9/14 Birthday : 4/10/14 Adalyn Nanette
How long did your doctor tell you to wait to drive after a c section? My paperwork just says "until the doc says you can" and the doc who preformed my surgery is not my regular doc. I won't see him for a post op check up until a week from today, which is 2 1/2 weeks after my c section. Just curious. I would obviously call if I really wanted to know. What he recommends.
Once i got my stitches out (8 days PP), he gave me the all clear to drive since I was no longer taking the pain meds.
I forgot to eat today... I'm kinda hungry but my little hungry hippo won't leave my boobies alone....
I agree with everyone else how wonderful it is to see DH with LO. We are bedsharing at the moment and DH fell asleep with LO holding into his finger with both hands, so sweet!
The look on his face when he first held her just melted me.
Now I'm Going to cry because he went back to work too
Lanolin is awesome for chapped lips! I have tried so many diffrent products and non of them helped my forever chapped lips until lanolin came into my life.
Thanks for the tip! I feel like my lips have been chapped since the day I got pregnant.
FFMC: I was going to start doing one pumping session at 6 weeks since we gotta introduce the bottle at some point before I get back to work. But instead I am going to do 7 weeks since the in laws are visiting at the 6 week mark and I don't want MIL giving a bottle to LO. I am a true believer in paced bottle feeding in the beginning and she completely ignored me with DS and just let him guzzle it. And then told me my 6 week old needed more than 4oz and was starving. Plus it gives me an excuse to retreat to my room with LO.
Not quite the same, but I'm totally not planning on pumping anytime soon so that I'm the only one feeding her. Or I may pump and just not tell anybody so that DH can do it, but we'll see. I'm in zero hurry. Almost the first thing my mom said when she held Josie for the first time was "I can't wait to feed you!" I love my mom, I really do, but really not ready for anyone other than DH and I to be feeding Josie. And it gives me a great out to get away from all the new grandma smothering.
Fell in Love: January 2003
Married: May 2006
Baby Girl Born: April 2014 If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
I feel so bad for LO when I know he's legit crying b/c of gas. I feel helpless and just try to console him until he let's out those man-sized farts. I feel such a relief once he settles down after he gets the gas out!! Poor babies.
@NoLaLinz Have you tried pumping his legs? The nurse in L&D showed us how to froggy Josie's legs and press them back on her stomach when she didn't pass her first BM until after 24 hours. Poor baby was so uncomfortable, but couldn't pass the big mucus plug she had on her own. She was much happier after the fact, and we still use that trick to help her pass big BMs and gas.
Fell in Love: January 2003
Married: May 2006
Baby Girl Born: April 2014 If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
I love my little guy so much but I'm so bored. I'm sick of being at home but the thought of going back to work in 2 weeks is killing me.
It's not nice enough to go outside. It's been gray and rainy for more then a week. I haven't had any visitors for weeks. Though going to Kentucky for the weekend was hectic it was wonderful to be around people and the weather was great.
And I only got 4 hours sleep last night and that wasn't straight. I got a 5 min nap before little guy started crying. I haven't had a shower. And although I love that he's sleeping in my arms, I want to poop and shower and not have him crying when I get out. AND I NEED SOME DAMN SUNSHINE!!!! I just needed to complain because I'm bored and lonely and the weather is getting me down.
Yes! It's been so gloomy and chilly here too. Today is finally sunny but with all of the running around last weekend I decided today would be a chill at home day.
MC #1 January 2013 DS born 4/06/14 MC #2 August 2015 CP November 2015 MC#3 January 2016 BFP 5/11/16 EDD 1/19/17
All my inadequate mom feelings have disappeared today since I think I've finally figured Mr. Aiden out. A little over a week ago, he screamed bloody murder when we swaddled him, so we had to stop or he wouldn't sleep. Out of sheer desperation at 4am last night I swaddled him and put him in his bassinet hoping we'd all get some decent sleep. Worked like a charm, and I tried it again a little bit ago to get him to nap, and he's out like a light! He still loves or sleep on my chest unswaddled though, so I'll just save those times for our joint naps
I love watching DS's hands when he is nursing. It's so cute when his fingers open and close on my skin or when he grabs my shirt or covers his eyes with his hand. Definitely one of my favorite parts of nursing.
MC #1 January 2013 DS born 4/06/14 MC #2 August 2015 CP November 2015 MC#3 January 2016 BFP 5/11/16 EDD 1/19/17
Can you tell how thrilled Baby J is to be 3 weeks old today?
We did have a good smile session earlier while I tickled him, and then I opened his play mat up this afternoon so he could try it out. It's been a big day for us
ETA: Happy Cinco de Mayo! I'm getting my first post pregnancy margarita tonight, and I could cry happy tears!
Re: Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )
She kept telling me that it was ok if I couldn't do it and there was no shame in FF (which I know is true) and how she FF my brother and it was no big deal.
I appreciate that she was trying to help but it was just the wrong advice while I was in a vulnerable state. I'm so glad I have the personality I do and that I had these boards to give me that extra push to not give up. Baby girl is 18 days old and we haven't had to supplement since that one 24 hour period in the first week!
My mom is legit the kind of person who would listen quietly to a Doctor tell them all the facts, then on the way back to the car say something like 'Psshhh. That's not what I did and you turned out just fine. People today are so sensitive!'
MY MOTHER!!!! I refuse to invite her to an appointment because she's one of those who would flat out (and has) said "screw what that doctor said. They don't know everything". Umm no thanks!!!
I pretty much do the same. I just listen to my mom and move on. My baby just won't be in her care alone until he's on solids. I'll be damned if she gives my kid cereal and he's not ready for it.
DH has been so incredible during pregnancy (especially the end), my crazy labor, and our hospital stay. I'm so sad to not have him by my side today. It's not even that I don't think I can handle LO by myself, I just want to have DH here. I seriously love that man more now than ever before. And he's such a good dad too.
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
And just a thought.... Our kiddos are totally going to be doing exactly this in 20 some years. Complaining about how crazy we all are! Bahaha
Just curious. I would obviously call if I really wanted to know. What he recommends.
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
BFP#2 7/28/13 EDD 4/9/14 Birthday : 4/10/14 Adalyn Nanette
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
I agree with everyone else how wonderful it is to see DH with LO. We are bedsharing at the moment and DH fell asleep with LO holding into his finger with both hands, so sweet!
The look on his face when he first held her just melted me.
Now I'm Going to cry because he went back to work too
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
DS born 4/06/14
MC #2 August 2015
CP November 2015
MC#3 January 2016
BFP 5/11/16 EDD 1/19/17
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
DS born 4/06/14
MC #2 August 2015
CP November 2015
MC#3 January 2016
BFP 5/11/16 EDD 1/19/17
DS born 4/06/14
MC #2 August 2015
CP November 2015
MC#3 January 2016
BFP 5/11/16 EDD 1/19/17