Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

pineconey

Still no booze for me- I have to keep choosing between alcohol and oxycodone. At the risk of sounding like an addict, oxy, I just can't quit you.
I have like 5 pills left and I've been weaning myself off of them. Down to 1-2 a day, after I've been really active and am extra sore.

smushi

The strawberritas in the can are so tasty!  I begged DH to get me the cranberritas they came out with at Christmas so I could try them now, but he refused lol.  My friend gave us an amazing Millerita recipe a few years ago, but I can't have that anymore .  It's seriously lethal (and yummy!  Coming from someone who does not drink beer)

1 can concentrate frozen limeade

Fill that empty can with gold tequila and add to concentrate

Pour in 3 cold Miller beers

Stir, hide your car keys, and enjoy!

deidremaria

LoriMc12 said:

I love watching DS's hands when he is nursing.  It's so cute when his fingers open and close on my skin or when he grabs my shirt or covers his eyes with his hand.  Definitely one of my favorite parts of nursing.  

All of this. This little boy does the cutest things while nursing. He even hugs my boob. And don't get me started on the sound effects

deidremaria

@colleenswerb I'll happily finish it for you

deidremaria

I shod be studying for my final tomorrow. Instead, I'm snuggling my son.

MadBloom

Thank the Lord for my k'tan. I could not have got through my first solo day with Penny without it!

chichi589

Just sent SO for beergaritas after reading this thread today! Can't wait thanks for the idea ladies!

KatieGummow

MrsStanton87 said:

ColleenSwerb said:

Becoming a father looks SO GOOD on some men. DH is another one that I fall more in love with as I see him with our kids. I wish it was something that every new mom got to experience. It's almost magical.

I totally agree. Seeing DH with our son makes my heart swell  8->

Love these comments. I think this is the most we've ever said I love you and kiss goodnight before bed. So sexy to be married to a great dad.

KatieGummow

BiggerinRealLife said:

NoLaLinz said:

I feel so bad for LO when I know he's legit crying b/c of gas. I feel helpless and just try to console him until he let's out those man-sized farts. I feel such a relief once he settles down after he gets the gas out!! Poor babies.

@NoLaLinz Have you tried pumping his legs? The nurse in L&D showed us how to froggy Josie's legs and press them back on her stomach when she didn't pass her first BM until after 24 hours. Poor baby was so uncomfortable, but couldn't pass the big mucus plug she had on her own. She was much happier after the fact, and we still use that trick to help her pass big BMs and gas.

DH does this before every diaper change!

KatieGummow

Beergaritas sound like something I am going to do!

cgoldian

24! F* yeah!

Teresa1896

Made a pitcher of beeritas to go with our carnitas tacos! They were delicious. Glad everyone else is enjoying cinco drinkos too.

Teresa1896

DH just got DS to take a pacifier while I was in the shower! I could (and did) kiss that man! Anything to help the little dude self-soothe is cool in my book.

RocksInTheWater

Teresa1896 said:

DH just got DS to take a pacifier while I was in the shower! I could (and did) kiss that man! Anything to help the little dude self-soothe is cool in my book.

The soothies weren't working for my little guy so I tried the mam pacifiers. DS loves them and keeps them in his mouth for quite awhile. So happy for this discovery!

Good luck in your surgery @Jessieann1020‌. I hope everything goes smoothly for you.

Emily041285

It's days/nights like today that make me want to jump off a bridge. DD has been awake almost all day and here it is 11:30 and she is still wide awake. Not fussy, just stare at you awake. I am so exhausted. And irrationally pissed at DH because he's just going about his night like it's no big deal. If I can't get more than an hr of sleep here soon I may have to abandon breastfeeding for my own sanity.

pineconey

DH wore LO in a wrap while playing video games this evening. I was able to clean the kitchen, which is irrationally exciting to me.

pineconey

Emily041285 said:

It's days/nights like today that make me want to jump off a bridge. DD has been awake almost all day and here it is 11:30 and she is still wide awake. Not fussy, just stare at you awake. I am so exhausted. And irrationally pissed at DH because he's just going about his night like it's no big deal. If I can't get more than an hr of sleep here soon I may have to abandon breastfeeding for my own sanity.

Can you pump so YH can do some of the night feedings? That's what we do.

MadBloom

Penny is finally falling asleep after being awake for over 8 hours....

And dammit I spoke too soon, eyes wiiiide open again.

snmetz7

@Emily041285‌ if you out her down does she cry/fuss? If not just set her down and see if she will self soothe to sleep.

sarlimes34

i can't stop eating. went to get ice cream. now eating popcorn sprinkled with white cheddar & chocolate milk. can i blame this on my period?

kseccomb17

It's times like this that I hate i don't contribute money to our home. I need a job, but that will only pay for daycare. I feel like complete shit. DH will be out of work for atleast three months.

BiggerinRealLife

KatieGummow said:

MrsStanton87 said:

ColleenSwerb said:

Becoming a father looks SO GOOD on some men. DH is another one that I fall more in love with as I see him with our kids. I wish it was something that every new mom got to experience. It's almost magical.

I totally agree. Seeing DH with our son makes my heart swell  8->

Love these comments. I think this is the most we've ever said I love you and kiss goodnight before bed. So sexy to be married to a great dad.

@KatieGummow‌ True freaking story. Right before Josie was born DH spent the weekend helping me put together all the things in the nursery and hang all the stuff. I told him that never before has decorating been so sexy, I lived him helping me make a space for our daughter. Now, watching him love her as well as - if not better than - he loves me makes me swoon. He's in for some good loving in five weeks!

BiggerinRealLife

^^ on the above comment: we were making out spontaneously in the laundry the other day and he breaks our kiss to say "I can't wait until you heal so I can do you." We both heard it and busted out laughing. He was like, "I didn't mean that the way it sounded! Least sexy come on ever!!" I love that man.

BiggerinRealLife

kseccomb17 said:

It's times like this that I hate i don't contribute money to our home. I need a job, but that will only pay for daycare. I feel like complete shit. DH will be out of work for atleast three months.

I'm so sorry hon. That really is the biggest, crappiest catch 22 of parenting. Daycare costs really don't make it easy on moms trying to make a living. Is there anything you can do from home? A few years ago I came across a site called hire my mom .com or something. It was a site hooking up employers with SAHMs who did freelance writing, editing, web design, virtual assisting, etc. Maybe something like that?

nicole mackenzie

@Jessieann1020‌ good luck in Wednsday!!

Emily041285

Thanks ladies. I did finally hand her to him and go to bed. She actually went there hours without eating!

I pumped this weekend so he could give her a bottle and it was a disaster. Instead of letting me sleep he changed her in our room and she screamed the whole time! So I was up anyway. My mil is here so I may try again and have her do it. She at least knows the point isn't to keep the screaming baby in the room where mom is trying to sleep.

@snmetz7‌ usually I can set her down but she was just not having that tonight.

MadBloom

Over 8 hours of awake time = almost 6 hours of sleep time and waking up with rock hard boobs....

Apparently when I was an infant I would be awake for 12 hours during the day but slept from 8pm to 8am without waking from like 6 weeks of age on. I'm wondering if that kind of sleep pattern is appearing in Penny because yesterday was insane with how alert and active she was!

PoppySeedWindsor

I hope everyone is doing well. Must admit, I didn't read the last 25+ pages of threads that I missed while on hiatus.

I miss you all. 

Mother is driving me crazy. She's been here for a week and all we've done is fight. She's only made life more stressful for me, giving me unsolicited "advice," a/k/a judgment over EVERYTHING I do with my daughter. She bitches about the parenting decisions my SIL and sister make on their kids and it makes me wonder, "What the hell does she say about me?" I know I'm not immune to her gossip and it's tough to trust her and feel like I can just be me around her.

The crazy thing is, she leaves tomorrow and I'm really upset about it. I'm in Kentucky and she lives in WA state. I hadn't seen her since December and I won't see her until December again. I just had this idea that her visit would be NICE and FUN and nourishing but it's been the exact opposite of that. I'm really down that she is just so immature, judgmental and can't be a mother for me. 

I'm having such a hard time with my hormones. Hubster is really worried about it so he's stressing out about me AND work. I just want to focus on taking care of Merriwether but I'm in the throws of so much emotional turmoil with my mom that I can't give Merri the attention she needs. 

I just feel done. And I need a break. And I'm never, ever, ever going to get one.

Sorry to just jump back in here with complaints. I hope you're all doing well and I'm looking forward to reading how everyone is and interacting with the RTTers again. 

cgoldian

@PoppySeedWindsor‌ first of all, welcome back! We missed you.

I am sorry things aren't going so well with your mom and that you are struggling.  Have you talked to your doctor about your hormones? If your husband is worried, than it might be worth it to discuss it with your OB.

Is there any way you can get some alone time to do something nice for yourself? It sounds like you really need it, even if it is just an hour for a pedicure or a quiet cup of coffee.  Please take care of yourself! Merriwether needs a happy mama! ((Hugs))

Themaritimemama

Jessieann1020 said:

Poor E has been backed up since Friday and finally went. I am glad for his sake but he went allll in his car seat. Because you know ... needed more to do before my surgery Wednesday. BTW I am having my gallbladder out Wednesday.

Is your gallbladder pain a new, post pregnancy thing? I've been having sever upper abdominal pain (right side under my ribs) anyway I have a requisition for blood work, and ultrasound but I'm irrationally worried about having to get my gallbladder out and whether or not it affects bfing (I had gall bladder issues after dd1, so it's a good chance it is my gallbladder again)

Anyways, hugs to all that need them! Here's a pic of our miss Hanna at a month old

PoppySeedWindsor

Thanks @cgoldian. We're taking Merri to the doctor today (my OBGYN is her doc and my regular doc too) so I will talk to him today about the hormones. I know I just need to stay calm and relaxed and live within the present moment so I don't get overwhelmed with everything. I put Merri in the swing and she's fast asleep (which of course worries me that she's got her days and nights mixed up and will forever and always be on the wrong schedule), giving me some chill time...catching up on Grey's Anatomy and drinking a cup of coffee to try to get rid of this headache and and anxiety I've got. 

Too bad it's only 8:45 am. Not quite acceptable wine-drinking time.

KatieGummow

What is a month old? Is it 4 weeks or the day the babe was born but the next month? Like the boys were born April 9th, so is May 9th a month or this Wednesday when they are 4 weeks?

Themaritimemama

@KatieGummow‌ I counted it as may 4th because her birthday is April 4th

deidremaria

@PoppySeedWindsor‌ I missed you!!! I'm sorry your mother is driving you nuts. She wouldn't be the mother of a new mom if she weren't. Think of it this way, when you see her again in December she'll see what a great job you're doing and start respecting the choices you've made. I'm so glad that your husband realizes that you may need help and that you are gonna talk to the doctor. Please stick around and keep us updated on what the doc says

edoliesmom

KatieGummow said:

What is a month old? Is it 4 weeks or the day the babe was born but the next month? Like the boys were born April 9th, so is May 9th a month or this Wednesday when they are 4 weeks?

I was wondering the same thing! I think saying they're a month and saying they're 4 weeks are two different things. Edolie will be 4 weeks on the 18th but won't be a month until the 21st. Once the last day of the fourth week is over, they've technically lived for 4 complete weeks, right? Just like with pregnancy.

Tferr02

Toddler puked everywhere as I was making breakfast. And G screamed the entire time I cleaned it up, but I couldn't stop and comfort him because then the toddler or dog would have gotten into it. And how had is a dirty disposable diaper on a dog's digestive track? Because my dog definitely ate one this morning.
I'm ready for a break.

eireyes

Aiden's latch sucks, but only on the right side, and trying to fix it is damned near impossible because I have to fight his hands out of the way just to get him on the boob in the first place!

PoppySeedWindsor

Thanks @deidremaria. I hope you and Dylan are doing well. I lurked and saw some adorable photos. 

I am very fortunate that hubster is on top of my emotional well being. I'll let you know how the appointment goes today for Merriwether and myself. 

You're totally right about moms being moms. My mom is just so immature. I know she has confident issues and is terrified of upsetting me all the time, mainly because my sister is a firecracker and it's impossible to tell what will set her off. But I am NOT my sister. Yet despite how many times I reassure my mother of this, she still walks on egg shells around me while offering, what she thinks, is good advice. The thing about her advice is that it's always prefaced with, "I know I don't need to tell you this but..." or "If I were you I would..." or "Don't you think it'd be better for Merri if..." or "I don't mean to be judgmental but..."

Bleh. It makes me want to punch her in the face which is frustrating because all I really want is a supportive mom who cares for me and Merri. I guess that's too much to ask of her.

Tferr02

mamrotu73 said:

I have a pic of DH at 4 weeks old on my birthday. But he was one month old two days later.

@deidremaria‌ may have the record for RTTer with the biggest age gap with SO. Am I the winner for closest in age? Anyone closer than a month?

DH is 11 days older than me

olenkapdx

@PoppySeedWindsor,  sorry to hear it.  I can relate!  My mom *just* left after being here a week (she lives in SC, I live in OR) and her visit was...well, it wasn't all sunshine and rainbows. 

Let me say that I love, love, LOVE this woman to death, and normally her visits are great, but we had a pretty strained time this time around for similar reasons as yours.  I found myself getting really short with her, and being irritated with her almost constantly.  Finally she asked me what was wrong and I was like "Mom, we're in close quarters, I am recovering from major surgery, I am sleep deprived, I am feeling cooped up, and I am SUPER off the charts hormonal right now.  I'm sorry that I'm not at my best, OK?" 

She has been super generous to us and was so, so excited to spend time with her grandbaby, which was great to see, but it was still rough to be around her at times.  I have been sitting here this morning feeling like an assholish, ungrateful daughter for not being nicer but I think I did the best I could.   This is a huge life transition!!!  It's normal for there to be rough patches.

Anyway, hugs to you.  I feel ya!