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April 2014 Moms
Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )
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Re: Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )
I'm a totally Type A myself, so it took me awhile to let go of control over how/when my baby was going to come into the world. But you're in good hands. My nurse put it this way: if something DID go wrong, you are in the right place at the right time. These doctors and nurses are there to take care of you and your baby--you don't need to do it alone
PoppySeedWindsor I am so sorry you are so stressed out and your mind is getting the best of you! You will be able to get through this and need to focus on the positive!! No one knows how their birth will go, whether they do it naturally from the beginning OR get induced. Almost 1/3 of births are c-sections (IF it even comes to that)....which means doctors are REALLY good at them. They are so standard and normal. It will be ok, no matter what your birth story is
and you get to see baby poppy soooo soon!
Remember irrational fears...are just that. Irrational
and somehow they only seem to come on late at night...when you are sleep deprived and exhausted.
I can definitely relate to being in an environment that doesn't support the hippie in you! We moved from a liberal town outside DC to a small town in NC. My natural ways and liberal beliefs are definitely not the norm here and I'm struggling to find people I can connect with.
Thankfully there is a birth center 20 minutes away but if that wasn't there I'd have almost no choice on how and where I birthed this baby. I'm glad you have a supportive OB and hopefully you'll be able to feel free to continue with what works best for you!
@kseccomb17 So much love to you, hon. Agree with getting people around you. People made all the difference when DH's mom was dying and we were in the hospital every day. Not the same thing, I know, but I know how draining it is so split your life between hospital and the "real world." It can be so overwhelming and the pain can be so huge that you don't even know how to verbalize what you need. If that's where you are, tell people that are close to you that you need them to either offer specific help (hearing "let me know if there's anything I can do," is nice, but not very helpful when it puts the burden on you to come up with something for them to do) or just show up and take care of things, like your kids, your house, etc.
With your background you have to also prioritize yourself. It's tempting to try and take care of everyone else first, but make time for your appointments and make sure you're doing what you need to do to keep yourself balanced. This isn't the time to try and power through, this is about doing what it takes to get yourself through the day and leave you sane and coping at the end of it. Get meds, get help, get therapy, whatever you need; make it a priority. Put your own gas mask on first.
Also, my friend is a social worker at Stanford hospital, and her whole job is to help families/people in your type of traumatic situation. All hospitals have them, but few people know to utilize them. Contact your hospital's social worker - they are amazing resources for help, support, financial guidance, anything you need to help you navigate this tough time.
Going though what my husband and I went through these last two months, I called it a crucible - these are the times that can either break a marriage or that you'll look back on, years down the road, and say, "well, it was hell, but it made us who we are today and I wouldn't trade it." You'll all come through this, I'm sure. I'm still praying for you, hon. Hang in there.
@PoppySeedWindsor Everyone else said what I was going to say, so I'll just say this: it's going to be okay, my dear.
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
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Can it also perform membrane sweeps? I'd much prefer being medically finger banged by a laser robot than my midwife. Oy.
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
I also had a dream that I was cloth diapering my own body and was trying to find my swim diaper so I could go into the pool.
Somebody. Get. This. Baby. OUT OF ME!!!!!
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
Dear lord, I love my DH.
Using new, organic, fancy face wipes (I had a coupon!) then finding you're allergic to them. I don't even know what caused the reaction- none of my known allergens are in it!
My face is on fire.
Jussssssst what I needed.
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
Edit because iPhone doesn't think boppy is a word