@internationalkate, ultimately you should do what feels right for you and baby. And just because you don't feel as "crunchy" doesn't mean you've lost all your crunch. You don't have to be perfect, your little one will always think you're perfect anyways. Until their teenage years of course.
Hope you can enjoy the experience and find peace in your decisions.
SS: For kind of the first time since the very beginning, in really excited about this baby. There's no major stressor and all my questions are mostly answered. She is, by all indications, fine and so am I. And I get to spend the summer smooching her with my husband.
I just realized today that I will totally need my full dosage of psych meds (for ADHD and depression/anxiety), which means I will most likely not even be able to try to breastfeed my son when he's born. :-( It makes me sad, frustrated, and a little bit of a failure, even though I'm slightly relieved at the same time. I hope that doesn't make me a hypocrite and/or a bad mom-to-be. I've just read all these good things about breastfeeding your child, and he's already gonna have a few of the odds stacked against him (ADHD and probably obesity), and I just wanted to help him as much as possible....
Total rant I don't know where to put it so here goes: I f'ing HATE Craigslist and want to smack the shit out of whoever thought it would be funny to post a personal ad there using my son's cell number. Yesterday someone posted an ad saying he was a single female looking for some hot c*ck. He started getting all of these phone calls and worse yet pics of various dicks from inquiring males sent to his phone. What The Fuck kind of world is this where kids would think this is a funny or okay prank? Not only do I find this a potentially horrifyingly dangerous position my son has been placed in, I am so naively shocked at the number of people who instantly responded to such an ad. The ad was reported and removed, the calls have stopped but I am still going to have his number changed. It's shit like this that makes parenting so much harder. You can't protect them from everything. But you can teach them what it means to have a moral center and there are so many kids out there who seem to be lacking in this area. What you do isn't just about you and the here and now. Silly stupid things can have damaging, lasting & damming effects on a web of people. I'm already a bit sketchy about Craigslist and now it's even more vile to me.
@emilyh107 I love that your husband does your daughter's braids. That's so sweet @Silvermystique13 You've gotta do what's best for you. If being on your meds makes you the best mother you can be, then that will be the best for LO - breastfed or not.
Anyone else ever see pictures of people's kids in their siggys (no one from this board), and the kid is so funny looking you're not sure if it's their kid or a meme? Anybody? Just me then?
Total rant I don't know where to put it so here goes: I f'ing HATE Craigslist and want to smack the shit out of whoever thought it would be funny to post a personal ad there using my son's cell number. Yesterday someone posted an ad saying he was a single female looking for some hot c*ck. He started getting all of these phone calls and worse yet pics of various dicks from inquiring males sent to his phone. What The Fuck kind of world is this where kids would think this is a funny or okay prank? Not only do I find this a potentially horrifyingly dangerous position my son has been placed in, I am so naively shocked at the number of people who instantly responded to such an ad. The ad was reported and removed, the calls have stopped but I am still going to have his number changed. It's shit like this that makes parenting so much harder. You can't protect them from everything. But you can teach them what it means to have a moral center and there are so many kids out there who seem to be lacking in this area. What you do isn't just about you and the here and now. Silly stupid things can have damaging, lasting & damming effects on a web of people. I'm already a bit sketchy about Craigslist and now it's even more vile to me.
WTF is wrong with people!!! I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with that. I dread parenting during the teenage years.
Especially since most of us can't use our own upbringing for an example. Text messaging and Facebook DID NOT EXIST when I was a teenager, so I have no basis on how to handle it. Although, I'm sure by the time these babies are teenagers, it will be something else...but still, it's a whole new world with the shit teens can get into...
Total rant I don't know where to put it so here goes: I f'ing HATE Craigslist and want to smack the shit out of whoever thought it would be funny to post a personal ad there using my son's cell number. Yesterday someone posted an ad saying he was a single female looking for some hot c*ck. He started getting all of these phone calls and worse yet pics of various dicks from inquiring males sent to his phone. What The Fuck kind of world is this where kids would think this is a funny or okay prank? Not only do I find this a potentially horrifyingly dangerous position my son has been placed in, I am so naively shocked at the number of people who instantly responded to such an ad. The ad was reported and removed, the calls have stopped but I am still going to have his number changed. It's shit like this that makes parenting so much harder. You can't protect them from everything. But you can teach them what it means to have a moral center and there are so many kids out there who seem to be lacking in this area. What you do isn't just about you and the here and now. Silly stupid things can have damaging, lasting & damming effects on a web of people. I'm already a bit sketchy about Craigslist and now it's even more vile to me.
WTF is wrong with people!!! I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with that. I dread parenting during the teenage years.
Especially since most of us can't use our own upbringing for an example. Text messaging and Facebook DID NOT EXIST when I was a teenager, so I have no basis on how to handle it. Although, I'm sure by the time these babies are teenagers, it will be something else...but still, it's a whole new world with the shit teens can get into...
Oh I feel like I've dealt with a few doozies (sp?) between my 14 & 17 yr old. And it is just mind boggling. The days when my mom feels bad for the issues I've had to address with the kids, make me feel like I'm not so crazy after all, and also sad that as a parent sometimes there isn't much you can do but tell them people suck. (sighs)
Especially since most of us can't use our own upbringing for an example. Text messaging and Facebook DID NOT EXIST when I was a teenager, so I have no basis on how to handle it. Although, I'm sure by the time these babies are teenagers, it will be something else...but still, it's a whole new world with the shit teens can get into...
I take this a different way - I can't use my upbringing as an example because I did some pretty bad things that I never want this baby to do or know about! I don't know how my mom put up with me.
Especially since most of us can't use our own upbringing for an example. Text messaging and Facebook DID NOT EXIST when I was a teenager, so I have no basis on how to handle it. Although, I'm sure by the time these babies are teenagers, it will be something else...but still, it's a whole new world with the shit teens can get into...
I take this a different way - I can't use my upbringing as an example because I did some pretty bad things that I never want this baby to do or know about! I don't know how my mom put up with me. *************
agree flojo... between the things me and H did I don't know what I will do if any of my kids do anything like it.
Especially since most of us can't use our own upbringing for an example. Text messaging and Facebook DID NOT EXIST when I was a teenager, so I have no basis on how to handle it. Although, I'm sure by the time these babies are teenagers, it will be something else...but still, it's a whole new world with the shit teens can get into...
I take this a different way - I can't use my upbringing as an example because I did some pretty bad things that I never want this baby to do or know about! I don't know how my mom put up with me.
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agree flojo... between the things me and H did I don't know what I will do if any of my kids do anything like it.
In a way it's still an example though because you know the stuff YOU did and how you got away with it, so you know a little bit of how to recognize if they are doing the same thing. Also, you know how you were disciplined for it if you got caught.
But there's so much new stuff that's available to kids that wasn't available to us, so it's a lot harder to recognize when shit's going down. For example, DH's uncle was having issues with his teenagers because he had found out that one of them was sexting and the other was downloading porn through his playstation. That wasn't a thing that crossed anyone's minds when we were there age, so how do you figure out when it's going on?
Hopefully our generation has a bit more of an edge with keeping up & understanding the new technology because we grew up with the ever changing advancements and stuff, but it's scary to realize everything kids can get into now that just wasn't a thought...
This is what my brain feels like today. Also, kittens are cuuuuutttteeee...
@abastian00 - That is what I'm like everyday since I'm not on my ADD meds.
It definitely doesn't feel as cute as it looks And I am so impressed that you're a functioning human being - it's hard for me just a day here and there!!
@Pepper6 you are right I can smell bullshit a mile away even when H still tries to pull a fast one on me (I only had one beer I swear... right H) and I also was always the one who got caught so I was always in trouble lol. I like to think I'm pretty up to date on the technology thing but there are definitely things I don't know a lot about. I totally get your point.
@Rachel5130 he is 17 and does the typical teenage boy "things" (but that's a whole other can of beans I have with him) so that is a tiny silver lining that he wasn't mortified.
Is it bad that I feel like I'd flip a little more if this was my 14yr old daughter though? Maybe it's her age that would make me flip a little extra.
On the technology thing, I'm just glad we're not like people our grandparents age. I just spent the last 10 minutes explaining to my nearly 70 year-old-coworker that deleting emails on your phone deletes them in your Outlook and that's why she didn't have any emails from this past week (and reminding her again to NOT delete any valid emails in case you ever need to go back to them)... Also, that, no, your email isn't messed up and only getting old ones, you somehow scrolled down into last years emails and you just need to scroll up....
...stuff like this makes me yearn for maternity leave already. I'd love to have a day where I don't have to explain the most basic of computer commands.
I just saw a very pregnant lady walking down the street wth her with her shirt pulled up to her bra, belly out with a henna tattoo around her belly button. It's 50 degrees out, aren't you freezing?!
This is what my brain feels like today. Also, kittens are cuuuuutttteeee...
@abastian00 - That is what I'm like everyday since I'm not on my ADD meds.
It definitely doesn't feel as cute as it looks And I am so impressed that you're a functioning human being - it's hard for me just a day here and there!!
I just saw a very pregnant lady walking down the street wth her with her shirt pulled up to her bra, belly out with a henna tattoo around her belly button. It's 50 degrees out, aren't you freezing?!
I may be totally off my rocker because it's been one of those days, but don't we normally have a Throatpunch Thursday thread? Did I miss it? Am I going crazy? All of the above?
June 2014 - June Siggy Challenge - Favorite Hottie
I may be totally off my rocker because it's been one of those days, but don't we normally have a Throatpunch Thursday thread? Did I miss it? Am I going crazy? All of the above?
I think we're all starting to go crazy. I didn't see it today either and it didn't even occur to me we missed it
My beautiful, easy to put to bed daughter just took two hours to put down, including having to bring her in to my bed to get her to actually fall asleep. She started off yelling, wound up screaming crying, and it was totally not normal at all. We did motrin for teething and it didn't help at all. I'm now left wondering what else might be wrong and I feel awful that I don't know and can't help. She finally fell deeply enough that we could move her back to her crib, but oy! Poor little thing.
We just got back from our infant CPR and safety class and I am terrified. Apparently you aren't supposed to give children under 4 chunks of meat or cheese? Or apples?
We just got back from our infant CPR and safety class and I am terrified. Apparently you aren't supposed to give children under 4 chunks of meat or cheese? Or apples?
Umm no, that is a good way to give you child a really weird texture aversion. I have been giving DD chunks of these things for a quite a while now and she handles these things just fine, she also only have 8 teeth.
Ya, that's what I thought. they said to cut it up into pea sizes. It was basically the opposite of BLW.
@abastian00 Thank you for the ergo deal link! I sent it to my sister and she was able to get my carrier for $60 today rather than $120! She was super excited and I was thrilled!!!! I can't wait to use it!
June '14 September Siggy challenge- Favorite things about fall
Ds took his first steps today!!!! I am such a proud mama and so happy h and I got to witness it. I was worried that it was going to happen when I was working. He went from his dad to me. All by himself!
We just got back from our infant CPR and safety class and I am terrified. Apparently you aren't supposed to give children under 4 chunks of meat or cheese? Or apples?
Everything can harm my baby. @-)
Umm no, that is a good way to give you child a really weird texture aversion. I have been giving DD chunks of these things for a quite a while now and she handles these things just fine, she also only have 8 teeth.
Ya, that's what I thought. they said to cut it up into pea sizes. It was basically the opposite of BLW.
Your instructor would have had a hissy fit had she seen C's dinner, then. 22 months old, sausage cut into rounds, a babybel cheese, peas (that would work, I suppose), with a peeled, whole apple for dessert...
I can not WAIT for college basketball to be over! I am so sick of DH being obsessed with it. He was never one of those sports watching guys before. It's been really annoying.
I was cooking tonight and doing the little side to side rocking and belly rubbing and all of a sudden it hit me: "Holy fuck there's a kid in here!!!!!" And I had a little panic attack at what that meant.
June '14 September Siggy challenge- Favorite things about fall
Re: **3/25 AW/SS/Random Thread**
@internationalkate, ultimately you should do what feels right for you and baby. And just because you don't feel as "crunchy" doesn't mean you've lost all your crunch. You don't have to be perfect, your little one will always think you're perfect anyways. Until their teenage years of course.
Hope you can enjoy the experience and find peace in your decisions.
@Silvermystique13 You've gotta do what's best for you. If being on your meds makes you the best mother you can be, then that will be the best for LO - breastfed or not.
Oh I feel like I've dealt with a few doozies (sp?) between my 14 & 17 yr old. And it is just mind boggling. The days when my mom feels bad for the issues I've had to address with the kids, make me feel like I'm not so crazy after all, and also sad that as a parent sometimes there isn't much you can do but tell them people suck. (sighs)
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agree flojo... between the things me and H did I don't know what I will do if any of my kids do anything like it.
@Pepper6 you are right I can smell bullshit a mile away even when H still tries to pull a fast one on me (I only had one beer I swear... right H) and I also was always the one who got caught so I was always in trouble lol. I like to think I'm pretty up to date on the technology thing but there are definitely things I don't know a lot about. I totally get your point.
Is it bad that I feel like I'd flip a little more if this was my 14yr old daughter though? Maybe it's her age that would make me flip a little extra.
Fremont.
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
Everything can harm my baby. @-)
Ya, that's what I thought. they said to cut it up into pea sizes. It was basically the opposite of BLW.
I am such a proud mama and so happy h and I got to witness it. I was worried that it was going to happen when I was working. He went from his dad to me. All by himself!
Today we went to breakfast and I have started putting my napkin on the bump instead of my lap.
The bump is a food magnet and I haven't had a meal all week that didn't at least in part end up as an attractive bump stain.
Probably doesn't help that I am eating like this these days:
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
IF, 5 losses, 1 son, 1 on the way.
Eta wow. Though secretly, that's my dream. A birth so quick and easy it happens at home, and a healthy baby out of it. What I wouldn't give...
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14