Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

fourthnlast · March 2014

dani+california said:

So today is the day I find out about the future of my job...this was supposed to happen a month ago and they kept postponing it. 5 more hours...ahhh I could honestly vomit.

Good luck!!! T&P's!

Bluebird2318 · March 2014

Sometimes logging on Facebook makes me want to smash all the things. I was reading a conversation in which this woman told some family member of hers that she doesn't understand why he always feels the need to express his disagreement with her opinions and that he needs to educate himself on the real problems that exist with our (United States) government.

She goes on to say that the best solution is for everyone to wrest themselves from the cold, steely grip of government control because they force us into a system of life that revolves around acquiring and paying off debts. According to her, what needs to happen is that we oppose the government and live off the grid, because until we are capable of that there is no solution. And then about three comments down she says "What we need is Ron Paul or someone like him. Now that's a real man." ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME RIGHT NOW?

fourthnlast · March 2014

Mamamonzo said:

I have to admit I was feeling really sad last night like I wasn't part of the club anymore. Almost like I didn't fit in with you guys. Then I see all your comments, you loves and I feel like I'm still in the club, just ahead of the curve! Totally irrational hormones setting in! I can't stop gushing about all your support and love! DH is amazed at all the love tits his pictures get! I will continue to AW my kid until someone tells me to stop. He's just so fucking cute!!! And tiny. He's down to 5lb 3 oz but doing great! Love you all pics later!! Also, I'm on y phone! I give permission to an RTT to link my birth story to the announcements thread! I just can't do it! Xoxoxo

Keep AW'ing those pictures!!!

fourthnlast · March 2014

Vinny424 said:

Good morning rtt I have a crude sense of humor

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fourthnlast · March 2014

joytomylifex said:

FX please-I have a phone interview for a small job that I would really like to get. They called last week and upon learning about my situation (we are currently living across the country and not moving until after the contract was supposed to start) they said they would be interviewing and if they didn't find anyone would keep me in mind. Last night I got the email to call them today to discuss, so I'm hoping I can convince them I'm just so awesome that they need me, even if it's later than they expected.

These are the times I wish I could magically predict when this baby is coming so we could plan this move...

FX! Good luck!!!

speechie517 · March 2014

JessieAlbin said:

So, after I put on my big girl panties and set a major boundary with my mom that, no, I don't want her to come down to visit from out of state and camp out waiting for the baby to come, and we would like it if she came when we were out of the hospital and gave us a few days etc... Yesterday she informs me that while she knows "we had a controversy" over the issue, she WILL be coming down because she wants to "have summertime" and we will have to just put up with her. Oh, and that she fully expects kiddo to come early (my doc says we have zero indication that he will come before 37w and as of right now she thinks I will likely still be pregnant on my EDD), so that she can take him for walks in the stroller by the river while I sleep. Um. No. You may not take my days old baby out of my house while I am sleeping, much less in the stroller by the river walk for your imaginary "summer/baby vacation." Stop it.

After my DH and I asked MIL to NOT come visit right away, she told my BIL and future SIL that she didn't care what my DH and my wishes were, she would be flying up here to see her "grandbaby" right after she is born. I don't know where she plans on staying, but it won't be with us.

katieharpiceland · March 2014

Bluebird2318 said:

Sometimes logging on Facebook makes me want to smash all the things. I was reading a conversation in which this woman told some family member of hers that she doesn't understand why he always feels the need to express his disagreement with her opinions and that he needs to educate himself on the real problems that exist with our (United States) government.

She goes on to say that the best solution is for everyone to wrest themselves from the cold, steely grip of government control because they force us into a system of life that revolves around acquiring and paying off debts. According to her, what needs to happen is that we need to be able to oppose the government and live off the grid, because until we are capable of that there is no solution. And then about three comments down she says "What we need is Ron Paul or someone like him. Now that's a real man." ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME RIGHT NOW?

These attitudes fascinate me! And piss me off. I've turned off seeing statuses from all people who post too much political stuff, on either side. Also, its totally dumb to post political stuff on Facebook. I'm never going to change my mind because of some dudes facebook status :-)

Lindsay808 · March 2014

Bluebird2318 said:
Sometimes logging on Facebook makes me want to smash all the things. I was reading a conversation in which this woman told some family member of hers that she doesn't understand why he always feels the need to express his disagreement with her opinions and that he needs to educate himself on the real problems that exist with our (United States) government.

She goes on to say that the best solution is for everyone to wrest themselves from the cold, steely grip of government control because they force us into a system of life that revolves around acquiring and paying off debts. According to her, what needs to happen is that we need to be able to oppose the government and live off the grid, because until we are capable of that there is no solution. And then about three comments down she says "What we need is Ron Paul or someone like him. Now that's a real man." ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME RIGHT NOW?

Gross...delete

JessieAlbin · March 2014

speechie517 said:

JessieAlbin said:

So, after I put on my big girl panties and set a major boundary with my mom that, no, I don't want her to come down to visit from out of state and camp out waiting for the baby to come, and we would like it if she came when we were out of the hospital and gave us a few days etc... Yesterday she informs me that while she knows "we had a controversy" over the issue, she WILL be coming down because she wants to "have summertime" and we will have to just put up with her. Oh, and that she fully expects kiddo to come early (my doc says we have zero indication that he will come before 37w and as of right now she thinks I will likely still be pregnant on my EDD), so that she can take him for walks in the stroller by the river while I sleep.

Um. No. You may not take my days old baby out of my house while I am sleeping, much less in the stroller by the river walk for your imaginary "summer/baby vacation." Stop it.

After my DH and I asked MIL to NOT come visit right away, she told my BIL and future SIL that she didn't care what my DH and my wishes were, she would be flying up here to see her "grandbaby" right after she is born. I don't know where she plans on staying, but it won't be with us.

I just want to shake some of these new grandparents who can't respect a boundary and act so entitled.

Bluebird2318 · March 2014

@Lindsay808 Yep, that's where I'm at right now! The conversation I described didn't actually include the person I have on my friends list for the most part (it was primarily two of his family members talking over one of his statuses), but admittedly he isn't any better. It's about that time.

Stace0616 · March 2014

DH had the nerve to tell me he assumes I'll take care of waking up with the baby at night. You know, because my body has been waking me up 3-4 times a night to pee anyway, so I'm trained for this. He said this after he slept for nearly 8 uninterrupted hours snuggling about 10 pillows--on his stomach and on his back.

Ok cool. Then YOU get to handle all the nighttime feeding/changing from 5pm Friday thru midnight on Sunday. And I'll just sleep in.

Lindsay808 · March 2014

Bluebird2318 said:
@Lindsay808 Yep, that's where I'm at right now! The conversation I described didn't actually include the person I have on my friends list for the most part (it was primarily two of his family members talking over one of his statuses), but admittedly he isn't any better. It's about that time.

Aw yeah! It'll feel so good

Serenla · March 2014

Stace0616 said:
DH had the nerve to tell me he assumes I'll take care of waking up with the baby at night. You know, because my body has been waking me up 3-4 times a night to pee anyway, so I'm trained for this. He said this after he slept for nearly 8 uninterrupted hours snuggling about 10 pillows--on his stomach and on his back.

Ok cool. Then YOU get to handle all the nighttime feeding/changing from 5pm Friday thru midnight on Sunday. And I'll just sleep in.

Oh hell no, I told DH once I had a good pumping supply that we will be taking shifts with Finn at night.

Bluebird2318 · March 2014

speechie517 said:

JessieAlbin said:

So, after I put on my big girl panties and set a major boundary with my mom that, no, I don't want her to come down to visit from out of state and camp out waiting for the baby to come, and we would like it if she came when we were out of the hospital and gave us a few days etc... Yesterday she informs me that while she knows "we had a controversy" over the issue, she WILL be coming down because she wants to "have summertime" and we will have to just put up with her. Oh, and that she fully expects kiddo to come early (my doc says we have zero indication that he will come before 37w and as of right now she thinks I will likely still be pregnant on my EDD), so that she can take him for walks in the stroller by the river while I sleep. Um. No. You may not take my days old baby out of my house while I am sleeping, much less in the stroller by the river walk for your imaginary "summer/baby vacation." Stop it.

After my DH and I asked MIL to NOT come visit right away, she told my BIL and future SIL that she didn't care what my DH and my wishes were, she would be flying up here to see her "grandbaby" right after she is born. I don't know where she plans on staying, but it won't be with us.

Ugh, I'm sorry. My mother behaves similarly sometimes. I don't know that she'd actually come without our approval, but if we said no she would act righteously upset and hurt that we were being so "selfish" or some such nonsense.

fourthnlast · March 2014

Stace0616 said:

DH had the nerve to tell me he assumes I'll take care of waking up with the baby at night. You know, because my body has been waking me up 3-4 times a night to pee anyway, so I'm trained for this. He said this after he slept for nearly 8 uninterrupted hours snuggling about 10 pillows--on his stomach and on his back. Ok cool. Then YOU get to handle all the nighttime feeding/changing from 5pm Friday thru midnight on Sunday. And I'll just sleep in.

My husband took care of any feeding/changing from 7pm-1am during the week and all on weekends...with the first two because they were formula fed. I hated pumping with a fiery passion, so with #3, it was all on me.

sking72 · March 2014

SO and I are doing this "transitioning to parenthood" study and one ofthe questions was "how much of the baby responsibility will you take care of vs your partner?" For feeding and changing I said 90/10 and then playing and calming 60/40. He was super offended being like "you think I won't help take care of my kid?" And I had to reassure him that I wasn't saying it to be mean, but I'm going to be at home with the kid while he works, I'm breast feeding so he doesn't have to do that, and honestly, if I have to get up to feed her, I might as well let him sleep and ill change her too. Plus when he's home he's going to be tired so I want him to do the playing and fun part while I take care of the rest. Opposite problem as you guys I guess, weird!

Stace0616 · March 2014

My biggest problem is that he just dicks around on his computer until 2-3am most nights. Why wouldn't you take that shift if you're up anyway? He is almost always awake when I wake up the first and usually second time to use the bathroom. If I could take 3am onward, but go to sleep around 8 or 9pm, I think I'd be a happy mama.

Bluebird2318 · March 2014

With me and DH, the child care was 95/5 because I SAH and he worked. That was fine with me, as I figured fair was fair. He did get up with DD a couple of times because he could tell that I was distressed, which was nice.

This time I have no idea what I'll do. With DD, I napped whenever she did which still sucked because she was up every hour anyway, but at least I got to rest on and off throughout the whole day. I managed, but barely. I have no idea what I'm going to do with a toddler and a newborn (DD is awake from 8 AM to 8 PM with one nap in between). I would ask DH for help but with his promotion his hours and work responsibility are even greater than they were before. At this point I'm just hoping he'll be able to give me 2-3 hours to sleep during the day on his days off.

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BiggerinRealLife · March 2014

@aronie82 Thinking of you hon! Good luck!!

olenkapdx · March 2014

.I officially have no shoes to wear to work as of today, due to my elephant foot (just the right foot). I lost my shit for a second this morning.

Now I am going out the door in sandals (which barely fit). Eff it.

Any and all bigfoot shoe recommendations welcomed (I am normally a 10 or 10.5 as it is).

sking72 · March 2014

Bluebird2318 said:

With me and DH, the child care was 95/5 because I SAH and he worked. That was fine with me, as I figured fair was fair. He did get up with DD a couple of times because he could tell that I was distressed, which was nice.

This time I have no idea what I'll do. With DD, I napped whenever she did which still sucked because she was up every hour anyway, but at least I got to rest on and off throughout the whole day. I managed, but barely. I have no idea what I'm going to do with a toddler and a newborn (DD is awake from 8 AM to 8 PM with one nap in between). I would ask DH for help but with his promotion his hours and work responsibility are even greater than they were before. At this point I'm just hoping he'll be able to give me 2-3 hours to sleep during the day on his days off. (

fourthnlast · March 2014

Stace0616 said:

My biggest problem is that he just dicks around on his computer until 2-3am most nights. Why wouldn't you take that shift if you're up anyway? He is almost always awake when I wake up the first and usually second time to use the bathroom. If I could take 3am onward, but go to sleep around 8 or 9pm, I think I'd be a happy mama.

Yes, it really did work out well, and if I had a desire to pump again, this would be the system that we would do again. It's something that needs to be talked about now, because when you are sleep deprived...let's just say it won't be your finest moment

fourthnlast · March 2014

Bluebird2318 said:

With me and DH, the child care was 95/5 because I SAH and he worked. That was fine with me, as I figured fair was fair. He did get up with DD a couple of times because he could tell that I was distressed, which was nice.

This time I have no idea what I'll do. With DD, I napped whenever she did which still sucked because she was up every hour anyway, but at least I got to rest on and off throughout the whole day. I managed, but barely. I have no idea what I'm going to do with a toddler and a newborn (DD is awake from 8 AM to 8 PM with one nap in between). I would ask DH for help but with his promotion his hours and work responsibility are even greater than they were before. At this point I'm just hoping he'll be able to give me 2-3 hours to sleep during the day on his days off. (

It's all about survival. When #3 was born, I had a 5 year old and 3 year old and there was no napping for me during the week, but on the weekends, I did manage to sneak in naps while the DH was home. I'm excited that in the beginning this time, all 3 of my oldest will be in school all day, so I can actually nap when the baby naps.

Serenla · March 2014

@olenkapdx said:
.I officially have no shoes to wear to work as of today, due to my elephant foot (just the right foot). I lost my shit for a second this morning.

Now I am going out the door in sandals (which barely fit). Eff it.

Any and all bigfoot shoe recommendations welcomed (I am normally a 10 or 10.5 as it is).

I will join you in the big foot brigade. Have you tried clogs or ballet flats? I find those easier to deal with.

olenkapdx · March 2014

Serenla said:

.I officially have no shoes to wear to work as of today, due to my elephant foot (just the right foot). I lost my shit for a second this morning.

Now I am going out the door in sandals (which barely fit). Eff it.

Any and all bigfoot shoe recommendations welcomed (I am normally a 10 or 10.5 as it is).
I will join you in the big foot brigade. Have you tried clogs or ballet flats? I find those easier to deal with.

Those were a couple options I was thinking about. I just hate to buy shoes under normal circumstances, but I guess I have to suck it up. Going barefoot at work is not an option, as lenient as they are there.

pineconey · March 2014

I need to suck it up and take a shower-I just don't wanttttttt toooooooooooo

snmetz7 · March 2014

kseccomb17 said:
It feels like im going to push this kid out every time I sneeze.

This. I told the to the u/s tech yesterday when she was commenting on how low LO was. She gets all serious and says "that would never happen" no shit lady I was being hyperbolic but she is VERY low and I can feel it when I sneeze!

BiggerinRealLife · March 2014

Somewhere in the last 6 comments we hit 27k. We'll be at 30k by tomorrow, I can feel it.

snmetz7 · March 2014

Ok caught up
Re mothers: my STEP mother told me the other day that she has her hospital bag packed. ... Seriously?!?! You will NOT be stayin with me at the hospital. Not even my own mother is allowed to do that. You can visit for an hr or so then go home!!!

Re middle of the night feedings: since I plan to pump as much as possible, I have to wake up every two hrs while sleeping anyway to keep supply up H said that he would get up with me at least half the time and actually feed her so we could have some solidarity and routine. Also we have a pack and play in the room where she will be sleeping at night and the crib in the next room over where she will take naps during the day. The nursery has a monitor so we can watch her and the pack n play seems very convent for night time use. He has had no complaints

Bluebird2318 · March 2014

I have had at least two dreams about reading the RTT. Literally, my dream is mentally scrolling through an online discussion on the RTT. I think I spend too much time here. 8-}

sking72 · March 2014

Luckily our hospital only allows baby daddy to stay overnight

kseccomb17 · March 2014

We have a funeral to attend today. I can't begin to prepare to see DH cry. His friend in the car accident was buried yesterday and he could only choose to go to one because of work. I know he's harboring guilt. Last night, one of the girls we grew up with was found unconscious. She's been battling cancer for 6 years. Her future looks grim, but she made it through the night, which was unexpected. I'm such a downer today, sorry guys. I just needed to get that out.

JessieAlbin · March 2014

@kseccomb17‌ I'm so sorry you're going through all that. I know that your DH appreciates having such a good woman by his side right now though!

michaelad3 · March 2014

My sister-in-law is driving me a little crazy. She is 19 and is due with her first baby on 3/31, so really she could have her any time now, but she keeps saying things like "I'll find out at my appt Friday" in response to whether her baby is coming soon or not. I've already had the conversation with her that dilation doesn't necessarily mean she's going into labor at any set time, but apparently her doctor has magical labor guessing powers or something. It's irrational to be annoyed with her. I know she just wants to be done being pregnant, but I'm annoyed all the same

thomas930 · March 2014

@kesccomb17 big ((hugs)) T&P's to help get you through today.

Serenla · March 2014

olenkapdx said:

Serenla said:

@olenkapdx said:
.I officially have no shoes to wear to work as of today, due to my elephant foot (just the right foot). I lost my shit for a second this morning.

Now I am going out the door in sandals (which barely fit). Eff it.

Any and all bigfoot shoe recommendations welcomed (I am normally a 10 or 10.5 as it is).
I will join you in the big foot brigade. Have you tried clogs or ballet flats? I find those easier to deal with.

Those were a couple options I was thinking about. I just hate to buy shoes under normal circumstances, but I guess I have to suck it up. Going barefoot at work is not an option, as lenient as they are there.

I actually wear sneakers in my office, they haven't said anything yet

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