Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Missmommyxoxo
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These are all the things that I personally think, and I just wanted to see who agreed and who disagreed for what reasons.
I'm not on crack nor am I butting into your decisions. I didn't ask you to comment on this post. I voiced my opinion and I gave people the option to speak their mind on the subject.
Have a nice day.
Married : ** 09/09/2011 ** BFP : 07-18-13 ** Baby #1 is a GIRL , Born 03/12/14 **
** BFP 2 : 01- 05-15 ** EDD 09-11-15 **
The kid rolling around in my belly cost approximately $15,000 - $20,000 to conceive and I'm not a trust fund baby. We busted our ass to even afford her conception and we will continue to pay for her conception for several years. Some parents don't have the ability to do the deed and get pregnant without divine intervention. I guess my desire to be a mother was a terribly selfish decision because I have to continue working to afford the fact that she was even placed in my uterus. Without my amazing job, I wouldn't even have a chance to be a mom. You sound like a self entitled, ignorant child.
Andplusalso, I LOVE my job and I busted my ass to get where I am. I don't want my baby girl growing up believing that her sole purpose in life is to be barefoot, pregnant, and in the kitchen. Welcome to 2014.
Me: 28 DH: 27
Whoa. I'm trying to decide if this post is serious or not.
ETA:
You know, you're damned if you do, damned if you don't.
SAHM are selfish and lazy.
Working moms are selfish and uncaring.
Career women who work and choose to not have children are selfish and cold.
These are all strong opinions that people voice loudly, but frankly, there are no right answers.
Adopted our furbaby Kona ~ January 17, 2010
Trying to grow our family ~ June 2010
1st BFP 7.6.10 ~ EDD 3.15.11 ~ mmc 8.6.10 ~ d&c 8.11.10
2nd BFP 11.4.10 ~ EDD 7.15.11 ~ HB 6w3d ~ No HB 7w ~ mmc 12.8.10 ~ d&c 12.9.10
3rd BFP 7.12.11 ~ EDD 3.22.12 ~ HB 6w5d 124 bpm ~ Team Green ~ SHE STUCK!
*~*~*~*EXPECT MIRACLES*~*~*~*
Praying for peace in God's ultimate plan ~ "Be still and know that I am God." -Psalm 46:10
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~Kari~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
FUCK YOU.
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
Now, clearly I can see most of you disagree with me, which is fine, I knew a lot of people would. But this post was not meant to be trolling or stirring up trouble, and I feel bad for all of you lashing out at me. You are obviously so set in your ways and your own beliefs, that god forbid if anyone disagrees with how you do things, let's comment on their post and call them names and get mad. Give me a break. I asked for people's opinions on the matter, I didn't ask for the rude remarks, we aren't in high school, ladies. Or maybe some of you are. But that's beside the point.
And let me make one more thing very clear. Not that it's any of YOUR business, but I found a job I loved, I worked very hard to get it, then I got married. After I got married I wait years, before having kids. Why? Because I wanted to work that job, and love that job, and save up as much money as I could. So I did. Then my husband finally landed the job he had always wanted and was financially stable enough to support us without me having an income. THAT, is when I decided to have kids.
My whole point to this, is that if you can't afford a kid on one income, don't have one. And if you love your job too much to quit it, don't have a kid.
It's selfish to have a child and then pawn it off on someone else that works at a daycare center, or even a family member. Yes, having a family member watch your child would be better, but really, I'm sure if they wanted to take care of a kid all day they would have had their own.
Now, this makes a lot of you mad, because you don't agree with that logic, AND THATS FINE, but don't attack me for feeling the way I feel.
Speak your opinion and be nice about it, or get the hell off my post.
Have a LOVELY day.
Sad little world you live in, dearest.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
I have no other comments. I'm just hoping your post is fake and your here only to stir up some drama
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I don't know why you think this should only apply to people who are married to the father of their child. I will return to work to provide a great life for my child. I worked hard for my career and will set an example for my son by continuing to work hard.
PS- My brother and sister in law both stayed home with all 3 kids under the age of 5. Neither have been employed since they had their first child and they have been taking advantage of both their parents since baby # 1 arrived on the scene 5 years ago. But I'm glad to know that they are more acceptable in your eyes because they stayed home with their children, rather than me and my husband, who choose to work and can take of ourselves.