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Ibliss

Then why have a father figure around at all. Sounds like you just need a sperm donor and a trust fund and you are set.

spacepotatoes

Missmommyxoxo said:

Haha! But sadly sweetie, it appears you do care. You took the time out of your day to go and find not one, but two gifs, and post them on my comment. Bye bye!

You know, if you use the quote button, we'd actually know who you were talking to.

Pepper6

I think there is more to parenting than being around your kids ALL THE TIME.  I think my daughter will get more value by seeing that women can have families AND a career if they choose than she would by my staying home with her every second teaching her it's okay to judge other people for their choices that don't affect us at all...

Missmommyxoxo

Yeah haha nice try.

Missmommyxoxo

Haha okay! I'm done with all you crazy hormonal bitches. I'm sitting back having myself a nice little snack while I watch all the entertainment. Keep commenting and keep getting mad.
If someone else's opinion is that horrible I guess so run to your mommy. Bye bye!

Speshul

Missmommyxoxo said:

No, I'm old fashion, I believe the man works and the woman stays home. I made the baby, I gave birth to the baby, I do all the mothering and raising. But as people have been saying, I'm still living in the 1950's. And I'm perfectly okay with that.

Then go crawl back under the rock you came from.

spacepotatoes

Missmommyxoxo said:

Haha okay! I'm done with all you crazy hormonal bitches. I'm sitting back having myself a nice little snack while I watch all the entertainment. Keep commenting and keep getting mad. If someone else's opinion is that horrible I guess so run to your mommy. Bye bye!

So, you ARE just trolling, then? What a shock.

Seriously, what the hell did you expect to happen when you posted this ignorant, judgemental BS of yours? Oodles of support? Please. If you're going to leave, just stay away.

ndpoole

Missmommyxoxo said:

I understand some people go to work because they love their job, but I figure if you love your job that much and you're that committed to it, then maybe having kids isn't a good idea. Having kids is a whole job of its own. You can't commit fully to both, one of is going to take more of your time. That's why I think if you choose a career path that's going to be a very demanding job, then you should have your husband stay home or have other arrangements. These are all the things that I personally think, and I just wanted to see who agreed and who disagreed for what reasons. I'm not on crack nor am I butting into your decisions. I didn't ask you to comment on this post. I voiced my opinion and I gave people the option to speak their mind on the subject. Have a nice day.

Lurking from March 2014 and I can't even get past the first page.

This comment, "having kids is a whole job of its own. You can't fully commit to both..." is as just as idiotic as the someone saying, because you entered into a committed marriage, you shouldn't have kids because you can't commit to being a full time wife and a full time mother.

railroadRN

I don't even know where to begin.

I am married, and we planned this child. I'm the breadwinner in our home, and I love my job. I fully intend on going back to work.

I was also raised to be self sufficient and not have to rely on a partner to support me. If, God forbid, something happened to DH...I'd have to stand on my own 2 feet. I want my daughter raised the way I was: seeing her mother have a full time job while also devoting her life to her family. It can be done.

After saying what little bit I've said, I feel like I am feeding a troll. I can only hope this is MUD. If not...OP, you need to get your head out of sand. It's 2014. Women are far more capable of just making babies. And shame of you.

Missmommyxoxo

spacepotatoes said:

Missmommyxoxo said:

Haha! But sadly sweetie, it appears you do care. You took the time out of your day to go and find not one, but two gifs, and post them on my comment.
Bye bye!

You know, if you use the quote button, we'd actually know who you were talking to.


Looks like you figured it out just fine sweetie. Congrats on not being a retard.

Speshul

Missmommyxoxo said:

Missmommyxoxo said:

Haha! But sadly sweetie, it appears you do care. You took the time out of your day to go and find not one, but two gifs, and post them on my comment. Bye bye!

You know, if you use the quote button, we'd actually know who you were talking to.

Looks like you figured it out just fine sweetie. Congrats on not being a retard.

QFP.

Luckyu317

For the record, OP, I'm not mad. I just think you're an idiot. And why, just because we don't agree with you, does that make us ''hormonal bitches''? None of us told you to STFU, we simply disagreed with your way of thinking. So perhaps you are the hormonal bitch? Or maybe just a bitch. I am curious to know, what does your husband do for a living? Oh, and I'm a SAHM, but I send my son to pre-school. So what does that make me?

Missmommyxoxo

If you pawn your newborn off to a daycare center, you need to get your priorities straight. Babies need to bond with their mothers, not be handled all day by strangers.
Be ashamed of yourselves.
Dumb bitches, I'm done with this.

BiggerinRealLife

Missmommyxoxo said:

spacepotatoes said:

Missmommyxoxo said:

Haha! But sadly sweetie, it appears you do care. You took the time out of your day to go and find not one, but two gifs, and post them on my comment.
Bye bye!

You know, if you use the quote button, we'd actually know who you were talking to.

Looks like you figured it out just fine sweetie. Congrats on not being a retard.



Seriously? Who uses "retard" as an insult anymore? This IS the 1950's!

spacepotatoes

Missmommyxoxo said:

Missmommyxoxo said:

Haha! But sadly sweetie, it appears you do care. You took the time out of your day to go and find not one, but two gifs, and post them on my comment. Bye bye!

You know, if you use the quote button, we'd actually know who you were talking to.

Looks like you figured it out just fine sweetie. Congrats on not being a retard.

1. This doesn't even make sense. I wasn't the one who couldn't use the quote button to begin with.

2. You were skating the line before, now you've crossed it. Have fun being banned.

railroadRN

Missmommyxoxo said:

If you pawn your newborn off to a daycare center, you need to get your priorities straight. Babies need to bond with their mothers, not be handled all day by strangers. Be ashamed of yourselves. Dumb bitches, I'm done with this.

Who said everyone who was going back to work was sending their baby to daycare? You're the dummy here, bitch.

BiggerinRealLife

Missmommyxoxo said:

No, I'm old fashion, I believe the man works and the woman stays home. I made the baby, I gave birth to the baby, I do all the mothering and raising.
But as people have been saying, I'm still living in the 1950's. And I'm perfectly okay with that.

Oh Lord. DH is going to be so happy when I tell him that because I hae ovaries and a uterus and gave birth to the baby that I plan to do all the raising myself. He doesn't need to be a father or worry his head about parenting, just focus on bringing home the bucks, honey, and I'll do all the mothering myself. Because marriage is about dividing responsibilities biased on your genitals. Not in being in a loving PARTNERSHIP where both parties have an EQUAL stake in what's going on. Oh, and question: since we're being traditional and he's making all the money, do I get a say and how we spend any of it? Or do get I get a weekly allowance to make sure the kids are provided for? I assume I'm also keeping house too, unless I magically can afford to have a housekeeper named Alice, so do I get compensated for all my work at home, or is cooking cleaning and mothering it's own reward?

NerdyLucy

Missmommyxoxo said:

If you pawn your newborn off to a daycare center, you need to get your priorities straight. Babies need to bond with their mothers, not be handled all day by strangers. Be ashamed of yourselves. Dumb bitches, I'm done with this.

Oh, you dear silly child. 

mileswithmyles

We have to have another r-word conversation? Really? @missmommyxoxo, please read the May 14 "I think we can all agree certain language is wrong" thread https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12232666/i-think-we-can-all-agree-that-using-certain-language-is-wrong#latest

Eta- link

NerdyLucy

Missmommyxoxo said:

 I made the baby 

With all due respect, please attend a biology class. You did not create that child on your own. 

RondackHiker

Missmommyxoxo said:

If you pawn your newborn off to a daycare center, you need to get your priorities straight. Babies need to bond with their mothers, not be handled all day by strangers.
Be ashamed of yourselves.
Dumb bitches, I'm done with this.

If you're handing your baby off to strangers at a center, you're doing daycare wrong. I consider the teachers at my son's center friends. I know their names and where they're from and how they like to spend their free time.

As for the bonding thing... I think you seriously, seriously underestimate a baby if you think that because it doesn't spend 24 hours a day with its mom that it doesn't know her or love her or feel bonded.

mrscrcalli

Let's hope your husband never leaves your twatty self.. You might actually have to take your trick ass to work.

crystaljoanna

mrscrcalli said:

Let's hope your husband never leaves your twatty self.. You might actually have to take your trick ass to work.

I was thinking the EXACT same thing!!! 

mommy2ane

On my phone. I must have pressed it on accident. I'll have to wait until after this incredibly irritating school board meeting to fix it.

I'd love to stay home and be with my baby instead of going back to work, but I can't. My job as a teacher provides the health insurance we need. Not everyone has the choice to stay home. I'm just lucky I'll only be back at work for a couple of weeks before I get to be home for the summer.

Cestreets

No! I didn't hit like! Pregnant fingers on small iPhone! I am also a working mom very proud of my ambition and career that I created for myself and I would like to think that I'm equally as good of a mother! I will see how to unlike so I am in no way associated to judgement like that!

BiggerinRealLife

@MrsMuq Speaking in defense of @AprilMay9 whom I've gotten to know pretty well over the last six months, I'm positive it was either an accident or in response to OP's DD. AprilMay is a super smart, super driven, professional woman and one tough chick in her own right. She always speaks her mind even if it isn't popular, and can see her wanting to verbally slap this OP. AprilMay can correct me if I'm wrong, but liking this post isn't in keeping with what I know of her.

RondackHiker

MrsMuq said:

And I'm totally calling people out - @melissav10, @cestreets, @aprilmay9, @ebeveroth, @hem18, and @vgempis - WTF would you like this troll's original post?

She basically said all working mothers have no business reproducing and that daycare was akin to child neglect. WTF would you "love" a post like that?! 66% of women go back to work in some capacity after having a baby.

I just don't understand the mentality that working moms are bad mothers (and I'm a SAHM, so don't even think about attacking me).

So that leaves @melissav10, @ebeveroth, and @hem18.

avidkeo

Buahaha thread is now broken, only the last page is being displayed...

I am jumping on the bandwagon to add my voices to the many woman who have studied my butt off, traveled and generally lived life, and have now settled down, and bought a house. I have an AMAZING job and am the breadwinner, DH is unemployed, and likely to stay that way because he is going to be SAHD. 

OP are you seriously suggesting that my DH will not raise our child as well, if not better, than me, because he is "gasp" a man??? because that's sexist.

irisheyez7

avidkeo said:

Buahaha thread is now broken, only the last page is being displayed...

I am jumping on the bandwagon to add my voices to the many woman who have studied my butt off, traveled and generally lived life, and have now settled down, and bought a house. I have an AMAZING job and am the breadwinner, DH is unemployed, and likely to stay that way because he is going to be SAHD. 

OP are you seriously suggesting that my DH will not raise our child as well, if not better, than me, because he is "gasp" a man??? because that's sexist.

It's not just sexist, it's stupendously ignorant and misinformed.

Meery82

Okay, so since I can't get back past page 5, it sounds like OP thinks everyone is a hormonal bitch because they don't agree that daycare and working moms are the devil and she likes to call people retards? Please let me know if I'm missing anything.

Well, so far, OP, you sound like a raging asshole. Congratulations.

awc1986

Oh wow OP! Offensive language AND a DD?! You are truly spoiling us! 8->

sschwege

Meery82 said:

Okay, so since I can't get back past page 5, it sounds like OP thinks everyone is a hormonal bitch because they don't agree that daycare and working moms are the devil and she likes to call people retards? Please let me know if I'm missing anything.

Well, so far, OP, you sound like a raging asshole. Congratulations.

Here's the first page if you care to read it:

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12250617/working-after-giving-birth/p1

Meery82

sschwege said:

Meery82 said:

Okay, so since I can't get back past page 5, it sounds like OP thinks everyone is a hormonal bitch because they don't agree that daycare and working moms are the devil and she likes to call people retards? Please let me know if I'm missing anything.

Well, so far, OP, you sound like a raging asshole. Congratulations.

Here's the first page if you care to read it:

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12250617/working-after-giving-birth/p1

Thanks. She is so gross.

reneewhite90

To whomever I just flagged-I am sorry! I am mobile and it's been acting up all day, causing my thumbs to click things they don't mean to. I tried to "love it" to make it go away but it bounced me to another page and I'm not sure if that was before or after I fixed it. Just let me know if it's still there so I can take it away. It all spazzed out before I could even look to see the name. Sorry!

Missmommyxoxo

I guess you guys are just going to have to deal with the fact i believe what i believe.

RondackHiker

I'd really love to know what this opinion is based on. If OP feels so very strongly, she must have concrete evidence that daycare and a working mom harms babies, right?

I'd love to see the evidence.

sschwege

Missmommyxoxo said:

I guess you guys are just going to have to deal with the fact i believe what i believe.

You believe so strongly and yet delete your post once things got heated.  Really strong convictions you have there!

Missmommyxoxo

Lol alright. Social experiment you guys. For those of you who called out the troll you get a cookie. 

I dont even have kids. But all you noobs fell for it didnt you. 

Have a great day!

megs1409

God I can't believe I missed this nonsense yesterday. Oh wait, I missed it because I was working at my job that I have worked my ass off to get, which of course means I am a terrible mother according to missmommyhugsandkisses (gag!).

Hey missperfectmommy (aka @missmommyxoxo)- the 1950's called and want their mentality back. For fucks sake.

Way to be super insensitive to those who are just returning to work recently and would love the ability to stay home, but to provide the life they want to provide for their kids they choose to work.

maelic

Missmommyxoxo said:

Lol alright. Social experiment you guys. For those of you who called out the troll you get a cookie. 

I dont even have kids. But all you noobs fell for it didnt you. 

Have a great day!

Wait, so you wasted your time posting an "opinion" on the internet for the lulz and the women on this board are the noobs? Sure.

"Social experiment!" went out of style about 5 years ago.