DH is NOT the father!

edoliesmom · October 2013

@gin9874 Ah... You're probably right. That's probably what urged him to make the decision then instead of sooner or later.

LeeeroyJenkins · October 2013

I thought the kid lived out of state with his mother...how was a home DNA test administered? She never said why she had no problem with her hubby supporting grown children but has an issue with him supporting a CHILD. It's clear the OP is full of shit and this is clearly MUD (or the OP really is a cunt) but I was very entertained.

twister22 · October 2013

ClaireFraser said:

Marchmellow2 said:

I get that some of you have opinions on this and it's obviously controversial. Some agree with me that the mother doesn't deserve another dime after what she did and some of you, from other boards and a couple here think he should continue paying. Either way, we don't know what we're gonna do yet because we haven't spoke to a lawyer yet. This is all very new FYI. Sorry but some of you are just so confused. It's almost like you made drama up to keep drama going. I'm just going to let some of you continue thinking what you think because there is no way out of your confusion at this point. I can't help you there. No DH did not cheat on his wife. As I stated before, after his wife left him he met SS's mom a year later. She dragged her feet getting a divorce because she is JW. And the reason I know how much SS's mom makes is because it is stated in the order along with her expenses and her social security number. I have no idea why Texas would let us have that info but that's what they did. Also, I have not lied at all in this thread, there are points where I might have numbers, dates and stuff off because like I said I was very upset about this last night and there were so many questions because some people were digging for drama. Most the time my responses are very broad and lack clarification, mostly because I'm on mobile and I was upset. With that said, I still have clarified everything in this thread repeatedly that my stance on this is currently that I don't think the mom deserves a dime more and I hope SS and H continue to have a relationship. And I really hope this can be resolved in a way that SS doesn't get hurt. These are my hopes, if they're unrealistic, then ok, I'm obviously in for an awakening. It's very very sad that SS might have to go through this and the best we can do is tell him we aren't going anywhere and try to continue a relationship. The rest is unknown and I will need to consult an attorney about this to see what can happen. There is no more to say about this right now because it's unknown. As for the women in this board who find the need to start drama over something like this, I feel sorry for you and I hope you try to focus on other things for you and your families sake. As for the women who agree with me, thank you for your advice, it's well taken. I will take it slow and not let my upset emotions get involved.
The only other thing I'm going to say is in relation to the bolded.The child support is for the CHILD. He's not just giving out money to the BM. The point is for her to use it for living expenses of the child. She is the custodial parent and most of his living expenses fall to her. Therefore the child support helps to pay for those expenses. I don't understand how you fail to see this.

Because she's BSC. I think I've given up on her. She is quite happy to listen to the 3 people who said they wouldn't want to give BM money either, and wants to ignore the other 15 pages of people telling her than she is wrong.

KFED103 · October 2013

lisa1129 said:

ColeRose said:

NYMama1 said:

This whole thing is really sad. I feel sorry for the stepson. And I am side eyeing a few people in this thread including OP. Sweeping generalizations about religion and using the r word as an insult. Ugh.

Edited to add: I am also side eyeing xp'ing this thread to other boards just to stir up drama and flaming. SMH.

Agreed, agreed, agreed!!! This was a shit storm already, I don't know why it had to be XP'd from member(s) of Dec13 to other boards. Obviously it was done just to stir the pot and create more drama which is no bueno. Now it won't end...and this thread needs to be over. Nothing productive is happening in here.

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Can we just change it to a thread about food and/or hot men? We're almost half way to 1,000 posts and then it would close, right?

ETA: Quoting from mobile doesn't work correctly sometimes.

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Just ask people's due dates again, that should get it to 1000 posts

:::sigh::: off to charge my battery after reading this. Pfft.

CandiP523 · October 2013

We should have just superheroed this all with food pics! Seriously this is the biggest thread since everyone's due dates when all the lurkers came out!

Ansleyturner · October 2013

ColeRose said:

NYMama1 said:

This whole thing is really sad. I feel sorry for the stepson. And I am side eyeing a few people in this thread including OP. Sweeping generalizations about religion and using the r word as an insult. Ugh.

Edited to add: I am also side eyeing xp'ing this thread to other boards just to stir up drama and flaming. SMH.

Agreed, agreed, agreed!!! This was a shit storm already, I don't know why it had to be XP'd from member(s) of Dec13 to other boards. Obviously it was done just to stir the pot and create more drama which is no bueno. Now it won't end...and this thread needs to be over. Nothing productive is happening in here.

Tisk tisk ladies! I thought we were better than that.

Lawren · October 2013

Lawren was here.

+just+j+ · October 2013

ColeRose said:

NYMama1 said:

This whole thing is really sad. I feel sorry for the stepson. And I am side eyeing a few people in this thread including OP. Sweeping generalizations about religion and using the r word as an insult. Ugh. Edited to add: I am also side eyeing xp'ing this thread to other boards just to stir up drama and flaming. SMH.

Agreed, agreed, agreed!!! This was a shit storm already, I don't know why it had to be XP'd from member(s) of Dec13 to other boards. Obviously it was done just to stir the pot and create more drama which is no bueno. Now it won't end...and this thread needs to be over. Nothing productive is happening in here.

Well considering OP has C&P'd someone else's post herself....I'd say Karma's a bitch. I'm not one for C&P's either, but she seriously needs to be called to the table on this.

But you're right. Nothing good is coming out of it because she refuses to see the outrage over her and her husbands own actions and that her "friends" who supported her in the beginning are now nowhere to be found.

twister22 · October 2013

It made sense to be XP'd to the Blended Families Board, as this is BF related. Oh, and this is the internet, people. Here on TB anyone can read anything and post anywhere.

Ansleyturner · October 2013

Seriously though, chocolate treats to anyone who read all 16 pages of this nonsense.

Ktrue85 · October 2013

I made it through all 16 pages and it only took two bathroom breaks and half a bag of popcorn.

My big question that HAS NOT been addressed yet... How the hell does a man with four children, one on the way, three mothers to his kids, and one divorce NOT ALREADY HAVE A LAWYER ON DECK?! Makes no sense.

The other big question that HAS been asked but not answered is how the shit did you guys do a paternity test at your home, 15 minutes before your OP (as your OP stated,) when the step son lives out of state???...

We need an Unsolved Mysteries gif in here, stat.

I love D13.

Ktrue85 · October 2013

ColeRose said:
Seriously why is this thread still happening?

Some of us just got here! I'm glad I didn't miss out.

lp0 · October 2013

W. T. F! I go and do some actual work today and come back to 16 pages! I feel like I should get a prize for reading through all of that craziness!

OP I can understand being mad at the bm and not wanting to give her any more money but you can't do that and still be a part of your ss's life. Also it's ridiculous to think you can give a 12 yr old $800 per month (or $400 since it's the extra $400 per month that set this in motion). Like Cash said, a college fund would be a better choice. Maybe if you offer to continue paying for insurance, school supplies, etc she will allow you to stay in his life with paying her cash each month. Either way this whole situation is a cluster fuck and the one who will end up hurt is your ss.

Rrrrrachel · October 2013

Y'all be sure to wipe your feet before you come over to April 14, okay? We don't want you to track in any MUD.

twister22 · October 2013

ColeRose said:

twister22 said:

It made sense to be XP'd to the Blended Families Board, as this is BF related. Oh, and this is the internet, people. Here on TB anyone can read anything and post anywhere.

When the main reason is for a call out...no I don't see the point. Sorry not sorry.

More like give a BF perspective. Which several of my people did, and then my post was just completely fed up because this chick is BSC and it's people like her that give SMs a bad rap.

Oh, and it's still the internet. Where anyone can post anywhere.

greenbeanqueen · October 2013

ColeRose said:

twister22 said:

ColeRose said:

twister22 said:

It made sense to be XP'd to the Blended Families Board, as this is BF related. Oh, and this is the internet, people. Here on TB anyone can read anything and post anywhere.

When the main reason is for a call out...no I don't see the point. Sorry not sorry.

More like give a BF perspective. Which several of my people did, and then my post was just completely fed up because this chick is BSC and it's people like her that give SMs a bad rap.

Oh, and it's still the internet. Where anyone can post anywhere.

Chill dude I realize that...but XPing from one board to another for the sole purpose of a call out is frowned upon. I wasn't necessarily talking about the BF board but some of the others.

Lots of people xp posts over here from other boards for the sole purpose of drama and entertainment all the time and I rarely see complaints. We have weekend and midweek recaps that often includ xps so I guess I don't see the big deal. Yeah it spreads the drama but seriously OP did it to herself so I have no pity here.

Pamelacake · October 2013

So I took a nap, made brownies, waited for my K's and SK's to get home from school, did homework. I then read this entire post. I just have to say to OP, You got some great advice that you consider drama.

I feel sorry for this innocent 12yo, your future child and your lack of integrity.

greenbeanqueen · October 2013

@colerose I'm not trying to argue lol I just think that OP dug her grave and now she's lying in it. That is all. I agree this post is getting over the top. Notice OP has vanished except to come back and flag a few people who disagree with her.

2010weddinggal · October 2013

me too

lolinshag · October 2013

OP: I really would like for you to sit down and do the math of BMs money. $2400 is not a lot of money. Add in the $800 and you get $3200. Still not rich. How well do you think you would live on that amount of money a month, by yourself, once your LO is here? I believe the average median income for the usa in 2012 was about $51000. BM is only "raking in" what? $38400? Please wise up that the money BM gets from YH is not all pedicures and bon bons for BM. Does it suck that she lied (or maybe didn't know herself)? Yes. But unless you want to ruin "the kid"'s life you and YH just have to put your big girl panties on and get over it.

But really. Do the math of how much it takes to just live, let alone provide a nice life for SS too. $800 is not a lot and again, I challenge you to try to live off what BM makes, because pretty soon that will be you when DH trades in for a younger model again.

kw42775 · October 2013

Lurking from January 14...this post makes my head hurt.

shortnstumpy · October 2013

Ok I just sat and read 17 pages. What I'm stuck on is DH is 43. He got married at 16 for 18 years makes DH 34. OP meets DH when SS is 3 years old which would make him atleast 37 if he didn't cheat like OP said. And OP states she has been with DH for 9 years. This would put DH at 46yrs old. This just doesn't add up. Someone is fucking around somewhere along the lines. Oh and the OP is obviously MUD bullshit.

P.S I don't think I've read a longer thread before. And I read the entire UO on M14

Medic99 · October 2013

Wow you guys! This totally beat the drama filled A14!! There hasn't been this kind of drama in like 2 days! You win!! I wish I could gif right now. @CinemaGoddess, you are my new hero. You are on fire girl!! OP whatever the situation is (because I don't think the facts add up jmho) I hope you guys can work something out. I think it is a bit shady the way you are going about it though. Again just my opinion.

Winnieella · October 2013

I just read all 17 pages if this. I'm on mobile or I would gif. Basically OP all I want to say has been said so...grow up and put on your big girl underwear. Take care of your step son and get a lawyer if thus isn't MUD.

chinablack55 · October 2013

Now here's my thing if he's paying 1600$ a month for the other kids....which means they are all getting at least 530 somewhat dollars a piece and he is awarded to pay the ss 800$ a month could this be a reason why there's such a uproar??? Because one child is getting more than the other children???

notkateanymore · October 2013

How is this still going?

2010weddinggal · October 2013

Please for the love of everything chocolate let this thread die, it belongs dead, bottom of the ocean, locked in a vault dead!

2010weddinggal · October 2013

ok where is the silver bullets and wooden stakes?

2010weddinggal · October 2013

BTW, on un related news all of a sudden I'm in love with Buffy the vampire slayer. I hated that show when it was out when I was little lol. Thank goodness for amazon prime, I already went through he first season and now I'm working on the second.

2010weddinggal · October 2013

I miss all the old shows, now all the teen age shows are about getting pregnant, married, drugs stupid stuff. I want to go back to the 90's. I'm kinda scared to raise a kid in this day and age...

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