FFFC!

ibekatieg · April 2012

AndreaR1983:
ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.
Why?

Because at that time of night your baby/toddler should either be in bed or winding down to get ready for bed, not shopping (and likely cranky/crying because of being tired) at BRU or Home Goods. It makes me crazy. I see it all the time.

VineyardMel · April 2012

msualum96:
Add me to the list of ashamed, guilt-ridden moms-to-be...we're having a girl. And I'm not excited. At all. Disappointed would probably be the best way to describe my feelings at this point. I really, really envisioned my son having a little brother, and I've always wanted boys. I've just never envisioned myself with a daughter. I know it's a 50/50 shot, so it's not like I'm "shocked", just thrown for a loop I guess.
Am I overjoyed to be having another child? Yes! Am I relieved and happy that she so far appears healthy as can be? Of course! Am I grateful to be able to give my son a sibling? Totally! But the news kind of took the wind out of my sails, so to speak, and I HATE that I feel this way! I know that I will love her just as much as I do my son, SO will come around as well (he really wanted another boy too), and having one of each will be awesome! Just have to get over myself and embrace it!

I just can't wrap my brain around being disappointed/"not excited at all" because you're not getting the sex you want. So many people want and would be overjoyed to have healthy babies of either sex and then there are others who get upset about. It's not just you--my own SIL actually cried when she found out her second was a girl. It baffles me and, to borrow the expression used earlier, makes me want to punch kittens.

PenelopePond · April 2012

ibekatieg:
AndreaR1983:
ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.
Why?
Because at that time of night your baby/toddler should either be in bed or winding down to get ready for bed, not shopping (and likely cranky/crying because of being tired) at BRU or Home Goods. It makes me crazy. I see it all the time.

DS goes to bed at 10 every night. Trust me, I'd like him to have an earlier bed time, but it doesn't happen. There's no point in being confined to the house if things need to be done.

This has to be one of the dumbest things I've read on here.

ETA: I would never take DS out if he was cranky/crying. That's a set up for a disaster.

Shazzie116 · April 2012

DH's sister is coming for the weekend since their parents are going on a cruise, and I need to clean the house. I feel like it's completely pointless to do so because she's a bit of a slob and will have her stuff strewn everywhere within an hour of arriving.

I am using this cleaning as an excuse to get rid of some of DH's crap. He doesn't know yet. I honestly don't know if he'll even notice.

ibekatieg · April 2012

AndreaR1983:
ibekatieg:
AndreaR1983:
ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.
Why?
Because at that time of night your baby/toddler should either be in bed or winding down to get ready for bed, not shopping (and likely cranky/crying because of being tired) at BRU or Home Goods. It makes me crazy. I see it all the time.
DS goes to bed at 10 every night. Trust me, I'd like him to have an earlier bed time, but it doesn't happen. There's no point in being confined to the house if things need to be done.
This has to be one of the dumbest things I've read on here.

Are you really flaming me in the flame-free confession thread?

I take strong issue with it. Even if 10 is his bedtime, he should be home leading up to it. Perhaps this will help move his bedtime up, as it sounds like that's what you want.

Like I said, if I see you out, I judge. That's my FFFC. If you take it personally that's on you.

ArtificialRed · April 2012

I still can't tell if in feeling the baby or possibly my intestines being rearranged. I've felt this way for about a week and a half...

Im fairly certain I'm experiencing RLP, but I've never called my doctor to confirm. It's different from cramping, there hasn't been any spotting, so I figure calling will just waste everybody's time.

Im buying a pair of Chaco sandals even though I used to make fun of them. I picked what I consider the least ugly in hopes that they will help with my back pain. I'm so disappointed.

I will no longer read or discuss any negative labor experiences.

mlf625 · April 2012

ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.

Agreed. I also judge any parent who says their toddler "won't" go to bed until some ridic hour like 10pm. Who's in charge?!

ibekatieg · April 2012

mlf625:
ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.
Agreed. I also judge any parent who says their toddler "won't" go to bed until some ridic hour like 10pm. Who's in charge?!

double Yes

PenelopePond · April 2012

ibekatieg:
mlf625:
ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.
Agreed. I also judge any parent who says their toddler "won't" go to bed until some ridic hour like 10pm. Who's in charge?!
double

So should I put him in his room at 8 even though he's wide awake and just let him stay there/take out every toy?

ETA: We don't go to bed until 11 anyways, so what does it matter that he stays up? We have no where to be the next day and he's up by 7 everyday anyways. By the time he's in school he will have an earlier bedtime, but I don't see a point now.

ArtificialRed · April 2012

VineyardMel:
msualum96:
Add me to the list of ashamed, guilt-ridden moms-to-be...we're having a girl. And I'm not excited. At all. Disappointed would probably be the best way to describe my feelings at this point. I really, really envisioned my son having a little brother, and I've always wanted boys. I've just never envisioned myself with a daughter. I know it's a 50/50 shot, so it's not like I'm "shocked", just thrown for a loop I guess.
Am I overjoyed to be having another child? Yes! Am I relieved and happy that she so far appears healthy as can be? Of course! Am I grateful to be able to give my son a sibling? Totally! But the news kind of took the wind out of my sails, so to speak, and I HATE that I feel this way! I know that I will love her just as much as I do my son, SO will come around as well (he really wanted another boy too), and having one of each will be awesome! Just have to get over myself and embrace it!
I just can't wrap my brain around being disappointed/"not excited at all" because you're not getting the sex you want. So many people want and would be overjoyed to have healthy babies of either sex and then there are others who get upset about. It's not just you--my own SIL actually cried when she found out her second was a girl. It baffles me and, to borrow the expression used earlier, makes me want to punch kittens.

I am terrified to find out I'm having a girl. I do not want to have to raise someone who acts like I did in high school, yikes. I have only recently realized one blessed reason I would actually be excited to have a girl. I can't understand people who truly would be excited for either, but I am jealous of them.

mlf625 · April 2012

AndreaR1983:
ibekatieg:
mlf625:
ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.
Agreed. I also judge any parent who says their toddler "won't" go to bed until some ridic hour like 10pm. Who's in charge?!
double
So should I put him in his room at 8 even though he's wide awake and just let him stay there/take out every toy?

You're his mom, do what you want. I'd suggest picking up a sleep book and helping your kid learn healthy sleep habits, but again, your kid's ridiculous (and unhealthy) bedtime isn't my problem. Good luck with that!

PenelopePond · April 2012

mlf625:
AndreaR1983:
ibekatieg:
mlf625:
ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.
Agreed. I also judge any parent who says their toddler "won't" go to bed until some ridic hour like 10pm. Who's in charge?!
double
So should I put him in his room at 8 even though he's wide awake and just let him stay there/take out every toy?
You're his mom, do what you want. I'd suggest picking up a sleep book and helping your kid learn healthy sleep habits, but again, your kid's ridiculous (and unhealthy) bedtime isn't my problem. Good luck with that!

I'm not sure how it's ridiculous or unhealthy. And you're right, it isn't your problem. It's not even my problem because I don't care that he goes to bed at 10. Screw what I said earlier. If he went to bed at 8 he'd be up by 5 everyday and I'd rather that not happen.

brideandbreve · April 2012

mlf625:
ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.
Agreed. I also judge any parent who says their toddler "won't" go to bed until some ridic hour like 10pm. Who's in charge?!

VineyardMel · April 2012

ArtificialRed:
VineyardMel:
msualum96:
Add me to the list of ashamed, guilt-ridden moms-to-be...we're having a girl. And I'm not excited. At all. Disappointed would probably be the best way to describe my feelings at this point. I really, really envisioned my son having a little brother, and I've always wanted boys. I've just never envisioned myself with a daughter. I know it's a 50/50 shot, so it's not like I'm "shocked", just thrown for a loop I guess.
Am I overjoyed to be having another child? Yes! Am I relieved and happy that she so far appears healthy as can be? Of course! Am I grateful to be able to give my son a sibling? Totally! But the news kind of took the wind out of my sails, so to speak, and I HATE that I feel this way! I know that I will love her just as much as I do my son, SO will come around as well (he really wanted another boy too), and having one of each will be awesome! Just have to get over myself and embrace it!
I just can't wrap my brain around being disappointed/"not excited at all" because you're not getting the sex you want. So many people want and would be overjoyed to have healthy babies of either sex and then there are others who get upset about. It's not just you--my own SIL actually cried when she found out her second was a girl. It baffles me and, to borrow the expression used earlier, makes me want to punch kittens.
I am terrified to find out I'm having a girl. I do not want to have to raise someone who acts like I did in high school, yikes. I have only recently realized one blessed reason I would actually be excited to have a girl. I can't understand people who truly would be excited for either, but I am jealous of them.

Well...there's a 50/50 chance when you get pregnant. If you don't want to "have to raise" a girl, that's quite a risk you're taking. For me, each sex has things that I think would be so fun and things that scare the crap out of me. I don't judge having a preference, it's when someone gets upset when they find out it's not what they want that I get stabby.

ibekatieg · April 2012

auroraloo:
ibekatieg:
AndreaR1983:
ibekatieg:
AndreaR1983:
ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.
Why?
Because at that time of night your baby/toddler should either be in bed or winding down to get ready for bed, not shopping (and likely cranky/crying because of being tired) at BRU or Home Goods. It makes me crazy. I see it all the time.
DS goes to bed at 10 every night. Trust me, I'd like him to have an earlier bed time, but it doesn't happen. There's no point in being confined to the house if things need to be done.
This has to be one of the dumbest things I've read on here.
Are you really flaming me in the flame-free confession thread?

I take strong issue with it. Even if 10 is his bedtime, he should be home leading up to it. Perhaps this will help move his bedtime up, as it sounds like that's what you want.
Like I said, if I see you out, I judge. That's my FFFC. If you take it personally that's on you.
Are you new here?

Not new at all. But why does my question about flaming make you ask that?

KellersPrag · April 2012

auroraloo:
ibekatieg:
AndreaR1983:
ibekatieg:
AndreaR1983:
ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.
Why?
Because at that time of night your baby/toddler should either be in bed or winding down to get ready for bed, not shopping (and likely cranky/crying because of being tired) at BRU or Home Goods. It makes me crazy. I see it all the time.
DS goes to bed at 10 every night. Trust me, I'd like him to have an earlier bed time, but it doesn't happen. There's no point in being confined to the house if things need to be done.
This has to be one of the dumbest things I've read on here.
Are you really flaming me in the flame-free confession thread?

I take strong issue with it. Even if 10 is his bedtime, he should be home leading up to it. Perhaps this will help move his bedtime up, as it sounds like that's what you want.
Like I said, if I see you out, I judge. That's my FFFC. If you take it personally that's on you.
Are you new here?

Yes

brideandbreve · April 2012

On a similar note to all the bedtime talk, if you bring your newborn/infant to an R-rated movie past 8 PM, I give you some serious side-eye.

I understand that new parents need to get out of the house, but that's what babysitters are for. If you can't find a babysitter, you don't go.

ibekatieg · April 2012

KellersPrag:
auroraloo:
Are you new here?

What gives kids? What's this about? I have to be established to post on my month board?

VineyardMel · April 2012

ibekatieg:
KellersPrag:
auroraloo:
Are you new here?

What gives kids? What's this about? I have to be established to post on my month board?

She's asking if you're new because FFFC is never flame free.

hmp1 · April 2012

ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.

DS usually goes to bed at 8:30. We have gone out to eat and still at the restaurant at 8 (especially if they were on a wait). As long as he took a good nap and is in a good mood, I don't see a problem with it. When he was a baby, it never mattered since he slept in his baby carrier no problem.

CatBus · April 2012

anitalynn:
Food police:
- I had a cheeseburger - cooked to MEDIUM {gasp!} on Monday.
- I had two eggs yesterday and the yolks.were.runny. {how dare she!?} It totally hit the spot and it set me up for a really good food day - I ate like a normal person!
- I had half a glass of wine a week or so ago. It was amazing.

I guess my FFFC is that I don't think any of these are flammable in the first place. Wink I've ordered my burgers medium or medium rare (depending on what I know about the meat the restaurant uses) all through my pregnancy. The two steaks I've had were both medium rare. I like my eggs cooked over medium just because I've never liked super-runny yolks, but would otherwise be fine with over easy. I just choose places who source these ingredients from places I trust (e.g., my favorite breakfast place only uses organic free-range local eggs).

And I've split several beers with my H over the last several weeks.

ArtificialRed · April 2012

VineyardMel:
Well...there's a 50/50 chance when you get pregnant. If you don't want to "have to raise" a girl, that's quite a risk you're taking. For me, each sex has things that I think would be so fun and things that scare the crap out of me. I don't judge having a preference, it's when someone gets upset when they find out it's not what they want that I get stabby.

We actually discussed this, and it was one of the many, many reasons we were considering adoption. Unfortunately it would be years before we could adopt and we decided the risks would be worth it. Besides, just having a daughter does not guarantee she will be anything like me. But the point is that I would be lying if I said I wasn't disappointed about the idea of not getting to have a son.

stf3814 · April 2012

This post is no longer flame free

hmp1 · April 2012

brideandbreve:
On a similar note to all the bedtime talk, if you bring your newborn/infant to an R-rated movie past 8 PM, I give you some serious side-eye.
I understand that new parents need to get out of the house, but that's what babysitters are for. If you can't find a babysitter, you don't go.

Except for the mommy matinee, I have never heard of someone bringing an infant to a movie.

OSUWifey09 · April 2012

hmp&mrj:
brideandbreve:
On a similar note to all the bedtime talk, if you bring your newborn/infant to an R-rated movie past 8 PM, I give you some serious side-eye.
I understand that new parents need to get out of the house, but that's what babysitters are for. If you can't find a babysitter, you don't go.
Except for the mommy matinee, I have never heard of someone bringing an infant to a movie.

This happened when I saw the midnight showing of the last Harry Potter movie [maybe that's flame-worthy, that I'm 26 and love the HP movies]. The movie didn't even start until 1:30am because the film reel broke, and they stayed through the whole thing. The baby hardly slept, either, because they kept going in and out of the theater because he/she was crying. Why would you bring your baby to a movie that late?!

scarlette+noir · April 2012

I haven't taken a single prenatal vitamin this time around. I keep forgetting them. I also no longer have a script for my old one, which was Citranatal. They smelled like cupcakes! The kind I have in my drawer now are gross smelling over the counter ones, so I think I keep conveniently "forgetting" to take them.

ibekatieg · April 2012

auroraloo:
What Mel said. I recognize your SN, so I know you're not completely new here, but never anywhere on the bump have Friday confessions actually been flame free.

got it. I thought it was worth calling out though.

brideandbreve · April 2012

OSUWifey09:
hmp&mrj:
brideandbreve:
On a similar note to all the bedtime talk, if you bring your newborn/infant to an R-rated movie past 8 PM, I give you some serious side-eye.
I understand that new parents need to get out of the house, but that's what babysitters are for. If you can't find a babysitter, you don't go.
Except for the mommy matinee, I have never heard of someone bringing an infant to a movie.
This happened when I saw the midnight showing of the last Harry Potter movie [maybe that's flame-worthy, that I'm 26 and love the HP movies]. The movie didn't even start until 1:30am because the film reel broke, and they stayed through the whole thing. The baby hardly slept, either, because they kept going in and out of the theater because he/she was crying. Why would you bring your baby to a movie that late?!

DH and I go to late movies (8 PM or later), and we see it constantly. The worst was when a baby was brought into a 10 PM showing of "The Dark Knight" and cried through the first 20 minutes.

Recently at "The Hunger Games," a couple brought their 5 year old and their infant, and we were floored.

Who does that?

CatBus · April 2012

LLBean2012:
I have a good one this week! We moved yesterday (all.day.long.) and celebrated the first night in our new house by opening up a nice bottle of wine I brought back from Napa recently. A few sips wasn't going to cut it after the day I'd had, so I measured out 5 ozs and savored every minute of it. It's funny--because my doctor is fine with it, I eat lunchmeat occasionally, but she's anti any amount of wine, so I felt like a criminal sipping that Cabernet! But it was soooo worth it!

I don't understand the part I bolded. Your doctor is fine with it, but she's not?

CatBus · April 2012

mlf625:
AndreaR1983:
So should I put him in his room at 8 even though he's wide awake and just let him stay there/take out every toy?
You're his mom, do what you want. I'd suggest picking up a sleep book and helping your kid learn healthy sleep habits, but again, your kid's ridiculous (and unhealthy) bedtime isn't my problem. Good luck with that!

I love how you will not stand for any judgment regarding your choice to formula feed your kids (and you admit it was fully a choice just because you didn't want to breast feed), but it's totally ok to criticize someone putting their kid to bed at 10 PM.

You're ridiculous.

And all this reminded me of the confession I was going to post last week originally: I don't understand why parents put their kids to bed so early, then complain about them not falling asleep. I have a good friend who's struggled with her toddler's sleep schedule. They put him to bed at 7:30, but complain that he won't fall asleep until at least 9:00. I know I'm a FTM and thus haven't experienced sleep issues, but why not just put the kid to bed later if he doesn't get tired until then anyway? Also, they complain about him waking up too early, so again, why not a later bedtime?

scarlette+noir · April 2012

CatBus:
mlf625:
AndreaR1983:
So should I put him in his room at 8 even though he's wide awake and just let him stay there/take out every toy?
You're his mom, do what you want. I'd suggest picking up a sleep book and helping your kid learn healthy sleep habits, but again, your kid's ridiculous (and unhealthy) bedtime isn't my problem. Good luck with that!
I love how you will not stand for any judgment regarding your choice to formula feed your kids (and you admit it was fully a choice just because you didn't want to breast feed), but someone putting their toddler to bed at 10 PM is completely up for criticism.
You're ridiculous.

Yes

brideandbreve · April 2012

nola78:
brideandbreve:
OSUWifey09:
hmp&mrj:
brideandbreve:

On a similar note to all the bedtime talk, if you bring your newborn/infant to an R-rated movie past 8 PM, I give you some serious side-eye.

I understand that new parents need to get out of the house, but that's what babysitters are for. If you can't find a babysitter, you don't go.

Except for the mommy matinee, I have never heard of someone bringing an infant to a movie.

This happened when I saw the midnight showing of the last Harry Potter movie [maybe that's flame-worthy, that I'm 26 and love the HP movies]. The movie didn't even start until 1:30am because the film reel broke, and they stayed through the whole thing. The baby hardly slept, either, because they kept going in and out of the theater because he/she was crying. Why would you bring your baby to a movie that late?!

DH and I go to late movies (8 PM or later), and we see it constantly. The worst was when a baby was brought into a 10 PM showing of "The Dark Knight" and cried through the first 20 minutes.

Recently at "The Hunger Games," a couple brought their 5 year old and their infant, and we were floored.

Who does that?

Probably the same people who brought their toddlers to see "No Country for Old Men." Those poor children actually screamed at some of the more violent parts. WTF is wrong with some people?

Indifferent

Wow. I don't even know how to process that kind of blatant stupidity.

ATMmom324 · April 2012

jocymama:
ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.

Judge away Sometimes you just need to be out after bedtime. Trust me I would rather have the LO in bed but when both parents work, things still need done and sometimes cooking on a weeknight is out of the question.

And now that it is nice out we have been running/walking most nights so DD isn't going to bed until almost 9- Gasp- And that would also be my FFFC

Same here. My DD is a night owl and usually will not go to bed until after 9. My husband and I are both night owls so I think it is genetic.

roxyttandme · April 2012

I'm wearing a long maxi dress today. No.panties.

Whatev'...

scarlette+noir · April 2012

roxyttandme:
I'm wearing a long maxi dress today. No.panties.
Whatev'...

Careful of the vagina sweats!

VineyardMel · April 2012

roxyttandme:

I'm wearing a long maxi dress today. No.panties.

Whatev'...

Rox! How in the world do you go commando with all the pregnancy CM??

KellersPrag · April 2012

VineyardMel:
roxyttandme:

I'm wearing a long maxi dress today. No.panties.

Whatev'...

Rox! How in the world do you go commando with all the pregnancy CM??

Seriously my thought, too. I have to change my underwear throughout the day (sometimes), I can't even imagine what would happen without panties.

ibekatieg · April 2012

ATMmom324:
jocymama:
ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.

Judge away Sometimes you just need to be out after bedtime. Trust me I would rather have the LO in bed but when both parents work, things still need done and sometimes cooking on a weeknight is out of the question.

And now that it is nice out we have been running/walking most nights so DD isn't going to bed until almost 9- Gasp- And that would also be my FFFC

Same here. My DD is a night owl and usually will not go to bed until after 9. My husband and I are both night owls so I think it is genetic.

Or learning from your habit.

I get it. Everyone is going to have their special situation and justify it. Fine. But I'm saying that I'm out there. Watching. Judging.

scarlette+noir · April 2012

ibekatieg:
ATMmom324:
jocymama:
ibekatieg:
If you're out shopping, at dinner, etc. with your baby/toddler after 8PM, I judge you. Hard.

Judge away Sometimes you just need to be out after bedtime. Trust me I would rather have the LO in bed but when both parents work, things still need done and sometimes cooking on a weeknight is out of the question.

And now that it is nice out we have been running/walking most nights so DD isn't going to bed until almost 9- Gasp- And that would also be my FFFC

Same here. My DD is a night owl and usually will not go to bed until after 9. My husband and I are both night owls so I think it is genetic.

Or learning from your habit.
I get it. Everyone is going to have their special situation and justify it. Fine. But I'm saying that I'm out there. Watching. Judging.

You just made yourself sound like a stalker.

LauraJB313 · April 2012

We moved to Texas last summer and this is my first time living in a place where tornadoes are possible. I'm honestly not sure which freaks me out more: the tornadoes or the spiders in the crawl space under our rental house (I'm fairly ignorant on the whole tornado safety front, but I think that is the safest place available). So, yeah, I'm letting a fear of spiders stop me from being a rational, responsible adult and making reasonable preparations for a natural disaster. AND, I'm pretty sure when news stories come on about people being unprepared for disasters, I've been judgmental.

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