FFFC!

msualum96

anitalynn:

KellersPrag:

VineyardMel:

anitalynn:

It might sound stupid. It might sound selfish, and it might like I am sounding like I am taking this pregnancy, this baby, for granted and that I really only want one thing - a baby girl. But I think that if people took a step back - honestly, I don't think anyone could say that I won't love and appreciate that baby with all of my soul - regardless if it's a boy or a girl.

People need to stop getting so fcuking butthurt over everything.

 

Being a little let down if you're having a boy isn't the same thing as not being excited about the baby if it's a boy. I assume the "fcuking butthurt" comment was directed to me...whatevs. People who freak out about havin the "wrong" sex annoy me, but I can assure you they don't hurt me.

If someone freaks out - crying, saying they're disappointed - they usually get over it. Sometimes it takes a little while, but I don't think anyone ever (or at least, not a normal woman...) gives birth to their healthy boy/girl and says, "Man, I wish this was a *insert opposite sex here*. " In that case, I would totally understand where you're coming from.

Someone crying and being upset while they get used to the idea? They had their heart set on one sex. Disappointment is natural.

There is a very good chance I will cry ugly, fat, irrationally sad tears at our a/s if we see a penis. But I will just take a moment to let it sink in, and I know I will be thrilled for who our baby is. I just can't say with 100% truth that I won't be sad at first. I don't want to feel this way, but I do. 

 As the OP in this "discussion", I wanted to come back to thank all the ladies for the support.  I definitely don't feel the need to justify my very real EMOTIONS to anyone, but the fact is, I'm human.  And there is nothing in my OP that I feel would lead you to believe that I am #1 taking my pregnancy for granted, or #2 "freaking out".  Maybe you're just generalizing about "people", that you know IRL or whatever, but if you re-read my OP, you should plainly see that I'm simply expressing my feelings and working through them.  Did I not begin by stating that I am ashamed and guilt-ridden?  Jeezus.  We found out YESTERDAY.  It's not like I've spent 2 weeks spiraling into a deep depression over having a girl.  It's a process.  It's NORMAL.  Congratulations to you for being so "open-minded" and not having the slightest inkling of a preference, but how dare you judge me (or anyone else) FOR having one.

ETA:  Mmmmmm....cupcakes....

VineyardMel

KellersPrag:

anitalynn:

KellersPrag:

VineyardMel:

anitalynn:

It might sound stupid. It might sound selfish, and it might like I am sounding like I am taking this pregnancy, this baby, for granted and that I really only want one thing - a baby girl. But I think that if people took a step back - honestly, I don't think anyone could say that I won't love and appreciate that baby with all of my soul - regardless if it's a boy or a girl.

People need to stop getting so fcuking butthurt over everything.

 

Being a little let down if you're having a boy isn't the same thing as not being excited about the baby if it's a boy. I assume the "fcuking butthurt" comment was directed to me...whatevs. People who freak out about havin the "wrong" sex annoy me, but I can assure you they don't hurt me.

If someone freaks out - crying, saying they're disappointed - they usually get over it. Sometimes it takes a little while, but I don't think anyone ever (or at least, not a normal woman...) gives birth to their healthy boy/girl and says, "Man, I wish this was a *insert opposite sex here*. " In that case, I would totally understand where you're coming from.

Someone crying and being upset while they get used to the idea? They had their heart set on one sex. Disappointment is natural.

There is a very good chance I will cry ugly, fat, irrationally sad tears at our a/s if we see a penis. But I will just take a moment to let it sink in, and I know I will be thrilled for who our baby is. I just can't say with 100% truth that I won't be sad at first. I don't want to feel this way, but I do. 

But that's my point. PP said that it's wrong to be even that upset. Why? Disappointment is completely natural. Sadness, whatever you want to call it. I personally will probably need some time to let it sink in if my baby turns out to be a girl. (I'm convinced it's a boy.) Does that mean I'm taking my (hopefully) healthy baby and pregnancy for granted? Absolutely not. In my opinion... scream, cry, sob, whatever helps you feel better after feeling disappointed. Then take some time and love the baby that you are having.

There's nothing wrong with that.

Let's just agree to disagree...I still can't wrap my brain around crying and sobbing because you don't get the sex you want. Having a preference and being disappointed for a few mintues? OK. Crying because your healthy baby isn't the right sex? That will always be ridiculous to me. If the baby is HEALTHY, I just don't see how you can be that upset about its sex--and if you think you'll be that freaked out it might be best to start preparing yourself now. It's a moment you never get back and I'd hate to think I wasted it being upset.

Now I'm going to go eat a cupcake.

ArtificialRed

anitalynn:

scarlette+noir:

One word as far as the crying after finding out the sex of the baby: Hormones.

Boom. Headshot.

Now stop with the b!tching and go eat cupcakes.

Or watermelons.

Chocolate milk is good too...

Hormones suck. And now I need a cupcake. 

I would also like a root beer to go with my cupcake. This thread is dangerous.  

KellersPrag

I'm just going to join in this cupcake boat, too.

DFWIndian

Wow 6 pages. I'm not going to respond to anything besides the tornado thing. At my parents house we had a storm shelter in the middle of the house. Granted the house is in Arlington and we are very use to tornadoes. I remember one time the tornado was half a mile from our house and we were still sitting by candle light trying to finish our homework. Our teachers the next day said if you house was standing turn in your work. I personally have just become use to it.

 If you are concerened about a plan then like PP said a bathtub is the best place. If the bathroom as a window sometimes they say it's fine because you should have a blanket (for glass breakage on you). I haven't heard of the mattress thing. Or a centrally placed closet would work as well. Those spiders get everywhere and I definitely haven't been able to get use to them.

MrsAB1316

msualum96:

 As the OP in this "discussion", I wanted to come back to thank all the ladies for the support.  I definitely don't feel the need to justify my very real EMOTIONS to anyone, but the fact is, I'm human.  And there is nothing in my OP that I feel would lead you to believe that I am #1 taking my pregnancy for granted, or #2 "freaking out".  Maybe you're just generalizing about "people", that you know IRL or whatever, but if you re-read my OP, you should plainly see that I'm simply expressing my feelings and working through them.  Did I not begin by stating that I am ashamed and guilt-ridden?  Jeezus.  We found out YESTERDAY.  It's not like I've spent 2 weeks spiraling into a deep depression over having a girl.  It's a process.  It's NORMAL.  Congratulations to you for being so "open-minded" and not having the slightest inkling of a preference, but how dare you judge me (or anyone else) FOR having one.

ETA:  Mmmmmm....cupcakes....

It's funny... I used to say that women who "didn't have a preference" were full of sh!t.  Then, I got pregnant and found myself saying that I didn't care.  I wanted one of both and didn't care which came first and that as long as it was healthy, I'd be happy.  THEN, our doctor made a guess that it's a boy and my heart sank.  Guess I did have a preference after all.   I'm not getting upset because it's not a definite that's a boy...our a/s is next week...I've had time to adjust to that being the case, though.  But, I'm not going to lie and say that I wasn't for a minute disappointed...not because LO looked to be a boy, but b/c LO didn't look to be a girl.   I didn't realize until that moment how much I wanted a daughter.   

It's perfectly normal and I'm sure you've got enough guilt already for feeling that way.  Don't worry...this feeling does fade and you'll start to be more excited as you get further away from that initial reaction.    Even though I was disappointed...now I'm thrilled and just waiting for the confirmation that it IS a boy so we can start picking out a name and doing the nursery, etc.  lol...

JessicaxLynn87

anitalynn:

JessicaxLynn87:

On Sunday & Monday night, I ate hot dogs for dinner.  On Wednesday, we went for ice cream at Cold Stone and I got cookie dough.  I drank two Cokes at Red Robin yesterday.  I continue to drink a cup of caffeinated coffee every morning as I wish to avoid the caffeine withdrawal migraines.

I wouldn't flame you for anything food related anyway (see my FFFCs!) - but just an FYI - the cookie dough in "raw" products that are intended to be consumed that way, such as cookie dough ice cream - has pasteurized eggs in it. So there would be no reason to worry about that anyway! So eat it as often as you want - no risk of getting sick due to raw eggs!

Thank you! I was actually flamed for it by a FTM.  I guess she has become an "expert" as she lectured me about why you should not consume cookie dough, even in ice cream.

mchupie

snuggles27:

There are certain "mommy bloggers" that just really piss me off... I just don't get why you need to pimp out your kids for some stupid sponsors to pay you $$$. I've stopped reading one blog in particular bc of the ridiculousness - sorry, your reviews of the swagger wagon will never convince me to buy one. 

For me, it was either try to get some blog sponsors in order to make a little bit of money, or accept government assistance. I'm proud that we're able to get by without it right now because of my blog, even though I really didn't want to go that route.

Thanks for making me feel even worse about myself than I already was. Glad to know that people out there think I'm pimping out my kid.