Just not fair

JeniLovesNeil · December 2011

No babies for bi-racial couples. Indifferent

Adam&Eve07 · December 2011

Cobra11:
My kid is so screwed. He is 3 (count it ladies!) THREE different races.

I am 5 different races (not black)....I'm fvcked. Does the fact that I speak 4 languages help balance things out?

OP, is it just black that causes all those things you mentioned or is it mixed races in general?

momofone and onecooking · December 2011

Raven,

I truly feel your pain. Not to long ago i was in your situation, watching unmarried, unemployed, etc persons get pregnant while my husband and I tried unsucessfully for 18 months to get pregnant. The best thing that I could advise is to start throwing everyone that you know a baby shower and truly be happy for them! you can still be sad for you but happy for them! I know it is very hard to do but at least it is a little way of being involved and part of the process in the meaning.

Also, you might want to try this. It worked with my 1st and I thought it was a fluke and I just repeated with my 2nd and with out trying I am 13 weeks pregnant for my 2nd. Big mind blow since it took so long for my daughter. Put in a tampon after sex. Whether it be in the morning or at night do it. I have conceived 2 kids doing this and have never heard of anyone using them to get pregnant but it seemed to work for me. Let me know if it works for you!

P.S. Do you have more of a problem with the fact that your friends baby daddy is black or that they have only been dating a minute? if it is the ladder of the two, i dont see the point in putting the fact that he is black in your post. It doesn't have anything to do with the point you were trying to make other then point out that you dont believe in interracial relationships.

Good Luck and keep your head up!

Adam&Eve07 · December 2011

momofone and onecooking:
Raven,

I truly feel your pain. Not to long ago i was in your situation, watching unmarried, unemployed, etc persons get pregnant while my husband and I tried unsucessfully for 18 months to get pregnant. The best thing that I could advise is to start throwing everyone that you know a baby shower and truly be happy for them! you can still be sad for you but happy for them! I know it is very hard to do but at least it is a little way of being involved and part of the process in the meaning.

Also, you might want to try this. It worked with my 1st and I thought it was a fluke and I just repeated with my 2nd and with out trying I am 13 weeks pregnant for my 2nd. Big mind blow since it took so long for my daughter. Put in a tampon after sex. Whether it be in the morning or at night do it. I have conceived 2 kids doing this and have never heard of anyone using them to get pregnant but it seemed to work for me. Let me know if it works for you!

P.S. Do you have more of a problem with the fact that your friends baby daddy is black or that they have only been dating a minute? if it is the ladder of the two, i dont see the point in putting the fact that he is black in your post. It doesn't have anything to do with the point you were trying to make other then point out that you dont believe in interracial relationships.

Good Luck and keep your head up!

Supportive AE fail. Nice try though.

joanithegreat · December 2011

momofone and onecooking:

Raven,

P.S. Do you have more of a problem with the fact that your friends baby daddy is black or that they have only been dating a minute? if it is the ladder of the two, i dont see the point in putting the fact that he is black in your post. It doesn't have anything to do with the point you were trying to make other then point out that you dont believe in interracial relationships.

Good Luck and keep your head up!

LMFAO!

Edited to shorten quote

karma&co · December 2011

joanithegreat:
momofone and onecooking:

Raven,

I truly feel your pain. Not to long ago i was in your situation, watching unmarried, unemployed, etc persons get pregnant while my husband and I tried unsucessfully for 18 months to get pregnant. The best thing that I could advise is to start throwing everyone that you know a baby shower and truly be happy for them! you can still be sad for you but happy for them! I know it is very hard to do but at least it is a little way of being involved and part of the process in the meaning.

Also, you might want to try this. It worked with my 1st and I thought it was a fluke and I just repeated with my 2nd and with out trying I am 13 weeks pregnant for my 2nd. Big mind blow since it took so long for my daughter. Put in a tampon after sex. Whether it be in the morning or at night do it. I have conceived 2 kids doing this and have never heard of anyone using them to get pregnant but it seemed to work for me. Let me know if it works for you!

P.S. Do you have more of a problem with the fact that your friends baby daddy is black or that they have only been dating a minute? if it is the ladder of the two, i dont see the point in putting the fact that he is black in your post. It doesn't have anything to do with the point you were trying to make other then point out that you dont believe in interracial relationships.

Good Luck and keep your head up!

LMFAO!

I'll be the ladder, you be the foamer.

momofone and onecooking · December 2011

Honey you really need to stop. all of the things you listed could happen with any man of any race! You dont get to judge and decide who and when people get to get pregnant and have baby

BTW my husband is black, with past debts bad credit and a criminal record we have been together for 10 years and he is a WONDERFUL father! who knows what is in your husbands closet! just cause he is white does mean he is clean!

KdgTeacher · December 2011

Adam&Eve07:
momofone and onecooking:

Raven,

I truly feel your pain. Not to long ago i was in your situation, watching unmarried, unemployed, etc persons get pregnant while my husband and I tried unsucessfully for 18 months to get pregnant. The best thing that I could advise is to start throwing everyone that you know a baby shower and truly be happy for them! you can still be sad for you but happy for them! I know it is very hard to do but at least it is a little way of being involved and part of the process in the meaning.

Also, you might want to try this. It worked with my 1st and I thought it was a fluke and I just repeated with my 2nd and with out trying I am 13 weeks pregnant for my 2nd. Big mind blow since it took so long for my daughter. Put in a tampon after sex. Whether it be in the morning or at night do it. I have conceived 2 kids doing this and have never heard of anyone using them to get pregnant but it seemed to work for me. Let me know if it works for you!

P.S. Do you have more of a problem with the fact that your friends baby daddy is black or that they have only been dating a minute? if it is the ladder of the two, i dont see the point in putting the fact that he is black in your post. It doesn't have anything to do with the point you were trying to make other then point out that you dont believe in interracial relationships.

Good Luck and keep your head up!

Supportive AE fail. Nice try though.

The thought crossed my mind that it was the OP coming to defend "herself"

karma&co · December 2011

momofone and onecooking:

BTW my husband is black, with past debts bad credit and a criminal record we have been together for 10 years and he is a WONDERFUL father! who knows what is in your husbands closet! just cause he is white does mean he is clean!

Well shiit. I didn't know we were going to start bragging about our husbands now!

KdgTeacher · December 2011

karma&co:
momofone and onecooking:

BTW my husband is black, with past debts bad credit and a criminal record we have been together for 10 years and he is a WONDERFUL father! who knows what is in your husbands closet! just cause he is white does mean he is clean!

Well shiit. I didn't know we were going to start bragging about our husbands now!

BWAHAHAHAHA

hollyg1920 · December 2011

raven3513:
greeneyed_bride:

raven3513:

No, if she had been dating a white guy I would still feel that it wasn't okay. I personally don't agree with children outside of marriage. I just feel with her dating this particular guy it opens her up to lots of other issues. The chance of him having other children, past debts, a criminal record, bad credit. Also if this relationship doesn't work out it may be more difficult for her to start another relationship where someone would be willing to accept this child.

Ok, I'm just lurking here, but... In your opinion, the fact that some future boyfriends might be willing to accept a white child but not a biracial child is a bad thing?? Frankly, I see that as a positive... it would give her an opportunity to weed out the racist douchebags before entering into a relationship with them. If the only reason a man wouldn't accept a child from a previous relationship is that the child was biracial, he's an a**hole, and your friend would be lucky to know that ahead of time.

Of course, you seem to be racist, too, so I can see why you wouldn't see it that way...
I'm not at all racist. I just am realistic. By having a child with this man she is placing herself and the child at a disadvantage. I just don't agree that she is knowingly doing this. I am very open minded and have friends of all races so I definitely amthe last person that would be a racist.

Just what a racist would say...

I bet you have had your friends of all races over to your house once too

joanithegreat · December 2011

karma&co:
joanithegreat:
momofone and onecooking:

I truly feel your pain. Not to long ago i was in your situation, watching unmarried, unemployed, etc persons get pregnant while my husband and I tried unsucessfully for 18 months to get pregnant. The best thing that I could advise is to start throwing is black or that they have only been dating a minute? if it is the ladder of the two, i dont see the point in putting the fact that he is black in your post. It doesn't have anything to do with the point you were trying to make other then point out that you dont believe in interracial relationships.

Good Luck and keep your head up!

LMFAO!

I'll be the ladder, you be the foamer.

Yes

megs2011 · December 2011

::walks in::

Indifferent

::walks out::

JumpAroundBucky · December 2011

Really OP? your friend getting a BFP does not take a baby from your womb (although, the one she's getting is bi-racial, so you wouldn't want it anyway, right?).

FFS, this is such a train wreck. OP, grow up and go away.

reinstone · December 2011

Cry me a f@cking river.

momofone and onecooking · December 2011

LOL

hatroopes · December 2011

raven3513:
greeneyed_bride:

raven3513:

No, if she had been dating a white guy I would still feel that it wasn't okay. I personally don't agree with children outside of marriage. I just feel with her dating this particular guy it opens her up to lots of other issues. The chance of him having other children, past debts, a criminal record, bad credit. Also if this relationship doesn't work out it may be more difficult for her to start another relationship where someone would be willing to accept this child.

Ok, I'm just lurking here, but... In your opinion, the fact that some future boyfriends might be willing to accept a white child but not a biracial child is a bad thing?? Frankly, I see that as a positive... it would give her an opportunity to weed out the racist douchebags before entering into a relationship with them. If the only reason a man wouldn't accept a child from a previous relationship is that the child was biracial, he's an a**hole, and your friend would be lucky to know that ahead of time.

Of course, you seem to be racist, too, so I can see why you wouldn't see it that way...
I'm not at all racist. I just am realistic. By having a child with this man she is placing herself and the child at a disadvantage. I just don't agree that she is knowingly doing this. I am very open minded and have friends of all races so I definitely amthe last person that would be a racist.

Are we in 2011 (almost 2012???) For someone who appears educated, it's a pity you are so damn ignorant!

pinkpepsi · December 2011

JBM1204:
raven3513:

My husband and I have been ttc for almost 6 months with no luck. Each month we get our hopes up only to be let down again. This cycle I was trying not to take the BFN to hard and had actually made myself feel a bit better by thinking of how we have more time to prepare for when it does happen. Then last night I received a call from a friend and the not so wonderful announcement that she is pregnant. First it pisses me off that I haven't heard from her in weeks and then when she calls its almost like she is throwing this is my face. We were really close at one point but seem to have drifted apart over time. I would be happy for her if she was actually doing things the right way. I just feel sometimes things aren't fair. My husband and I have been together 7 years, married for 3, we own a home and are established in our careers, yet no baby for us. Then my friend on the other hand is not married, dating a black guy that she's only known for few months, lives with roommates and is still in school but she gets to have a baby. NOT FAIR!

Grrrr I know our time will come but it just makes me mad seems like everyone is pregnant except for us. Sorry for the mini-rant, I know its a bit whiney and thanks for listening.

What does that (bolded part) have to do with your string of complaints about your friend? If she was dating a white guy that she only knew for a few months would that have made the situation ok in your mind?

Also, as many women point out here, her getting pregnant has nothing to do with your future. There are not a certain number of babies for the taking.

One other thought, maybe she was avoiding you for weeks because 1) she didn't want to say anything until she was far enough along or 2) she was worried you might judge her.

And obviously you did judge her...

twiztedangel · December 2011

hatroopes:
raven3513:
greeneyed_bride:

raven3513:

No, if she had been dating a white guy I would still feel that it wasn't okay. I personally don't agree with children outside of marriage. I just feel with her dating this particular guy it opens her up to lots of other issues. The chance of him having other children, past debts, a criminal record, bad credit. Also if this relationship doesn't work out it may be more difficult for her to start another relationship where someone would be willing to accept this child.

Ok, I'm just lurking here, but... In your opinion, the fact that some future boyfriends might be willing to accept a white child but not a biracial child is a bad thing?? Frankly, I see that as a positive... it would give her an opportunity to weed out the racist douchebags before entering into a relationship with them. If the only reason a man wouldn't accept a child from a previous relationship is that the child was biracial, he's an a**hole, and your friend would be lucky to know that ahead of time.

Of course, you seem to be racist, too, so I can see why you wouldn't see it that way...

I'm not at all racist. I just am realistic. By having a child with this man she is placing herself and the child at a disadvantage. I just don't agree that she is knowingly doing this. I am very open minded and have friends of all races so I definitely amthe last person that would be a racist.

Are we in 2011 (almost 2012???) Maybe there is a reason God has seen fit not to bless you with a baby yet...that poor baby doesn't stand a chance if this is how you really feel. For someone who appears educated, it's a pity you are so damn ignorant!

After reading your comment, I've come to the conclusion that you're just as ignorant as the OP is.

ETA: And clearly you caught yourself and must've realized how much of a douche you are with this comment because you edited my bolded part out. So sad for you that I caught it before you could edit....

Nineoceans · December 2011

Wow. What you just said was completely racist. Please re-read and reconsider what you posted

Adam&Eve07 · December 2011

momofone and onecooking:
LOL

Who the are you LOLing at?

armywifey0609 · December 2011

Thanks for the laugh OP. I haven't read any good MUD in awhile.

Cobra11 · December 2011

Adam&Eve07:
Cobra11:
My kid is so screwed. He is 3 (count it ladies!) THREE different races.
I am 5 different races (not black)....I'm fvcked. Does the fact that I speak 4 languages help balance things out?
OP, is it just black that causes all those things you mentioned or is it mixed races in general?

Not if one is Spanish because those people have criminal records too, you know.

mrsjollybrown · December 2011

2010Bride2be:
OP...you're an a$$...that's all I can even get out right now..

This.

mrsjollybrown · December 2011

2010Bride2be:
OP...you're an a$$...that's all I can even get out right now..

This.

Heather R · December 2011

Racist asshoIes get to TTC like normal people. NO FAIR!

Adam&Eve07 · December 2011

Cobra11:
Adam&Eve07:
Cobra11:
My kid is so screwed. He is 3 (count it ladies!) THREE different races.
I am 5 different races (not black)....I'm fvcked. Does the fact that I speak 4 languages help balance things out?
OP, is it just black that causes all those things you mentioned or is it mixed races in general?
Not if one is Spanish because those people have criminal records too, you know.

Awwww fuvck.

on_a_whim · December 2011

I'm soooo late to this party...but...

Holy.fak.

mrsjollybrown · December 2011

GhostMonkey:
momofone and onecooking:

Honey you really need to stop. all of the things you listed could happen with any man of any race! You dont get to judge and decide who and when people get to get pregnant and have baby

BTW my husband is black, with past debts bad credit and a criminal record we have been together for 10 years and he is a WONDERFUL father! who knows what is in your husbands closet! just cause he is white does mean he is clean!

Oh, but I do.

I know what is in my husband's closet. Guns.

There needs to be a like button for quotes like these.

wordslikeswords · December 2011

I'm super late, but WTF? Boo hoo. 6 whole months. Call me 6 years from now when you're still not pregnant. It happens to a lot of people who are way more deserving than you (yep, that's cuase you're a racist jerk).

Bottom line.. you just suck.

abeaverhausen2 · December 2011

Not only is this a bad AE, did anyone else catch this AE fail.

momofone and onecooking:
Raven,

I truly feel your pain. Not to long ago i was in your situation, watching unmarried, unemployed, etc persons get pregnant while my husband and I tried unsucessfully for 18 months to get pregnant. The best thing that I could advise is to start throwing everyone that you know a baby shower and truly be happy for them! you can still be sad for you but happy for them! I know it is very hard to do but at least it is a little way of being involved and part of the process in the meaning.

Also, you might want to try this. It worked with my 1st and I thought it was a fluke and I just repeated with my 2nd and with out trying I am 13 weeks pregnant for my 2nd. Big mind blow since it took so long for my daughter. Put in a tampon after sex. Whether it be in the morning or at night do it. I have conceived 2 kids doing this and have never heard of anyone using them to get pregnant but it seemed to work for me. Let me know if it works for you!

P.S. Do you have more of a problem with the fact that your friends baby daddy is black or that they have only been dating a minute? if it is the ladder of the two, i dont see the point in putting the fact that he is black in your post. It doesn't have anything to do with the point you were trying to make other then point out that you dont believe in interracial relationships.

Good Luck and keep your head up!

momofone and onecooking:
Honey you really need to stop. all of the things you listed could happen with any man of any race! You dont get to judge and decide who and when people get to get pregnant and have baby
BTW my husband is black, with past debts bad credit and a criminal record we have been together for 10 years and he is a WONDERFUL father! who knows what is in your husbands closet! just cause he is white does mean he is clean!

Futuremader · December 2011

I read several pages of comments but not last two since I assume it is much of the same. I have to say I disagree with everyone.

OP explained that white or black it wouldn't have mattered, the thing that bothers her is that her friend isn't married to the father of her baby. I'm sure that's perfectly fine for some people and for her, it's not. by the way - it's not just that she's unmarried - the fact that she's in school and living with roommates indicates that she's probably not quite financially ready to support a baby.

Pointing out that blacks are more likely to have criminal records etc does not make her racist - unfortunately it's statistically true. Obviously MANY black people are very successful, are not involved in drugs, have no criminal record, but it doesn't change the statistics throughout the country.

I'm not sure if the OP meant that this child being biracial or this child being born at all will make it difficult for the friend to find a future relationship if this one doesn't work out. Truthfully, the friend WILL have a harder time finding a partner who is not only compatible with her but compatible with her child.

Why assume the worst of her?

nicsigni · December 2011

Futuremader:
I read several pages of comments but not last two since I assume it is much of the same. I have to say I disagree with everyone.
OP explained that white or black it wouldn't have mattered, the thing that bothers her is that her friend isn't married to the father of her baby. I'm sure that's perfectly fine for some people and for her, it's not. by the way - it's not just that she's unmarried - the fact that she's in school and living with roommates indicates that she's probably not quite financially ready to support a baby.
Pointing out that blacks are more likely to have criminal records etc does not make her racist - unfortunately it's statistically true. Obviously MANY black people are very successful, are not involved in drugs, have no criminal record, but it doesn't change the statistics throughout the country.
I'm not sure if the OP meant that this child being biracial or this child being born at all will make it difficult for the friend to find a future relationship if this one doesn't work out. Truthfully, the friend WILL have a harder time finding a partner who is not only compatible with her but compatible with her child.
Why assume the worst of her?

This thread just keeps on giving.

KNemo · December 2011

nicsigni:
Futuremader:
I read several pages of comments but not last two since I assume it is much of the same. I have to say I disagree with everyone.
OP explained that white or black it wouldn't have mattered, the thing that bothers her is that her friend isn't married to the father of her baby. I'm sure that's perfectly fine for some people and for her, it's not. by the way - it's not just that she's unmarried - the fact that she's in school and living with roommates indicates that she's probably not quite financially ready to support a baby.
Pointing out that blacks are more likely to have criminal records etc does not make her racist - unfortunately it's statistically true. Obviously MANY black people are very successful, are not involved in drugs, have no criminal record, but it doesn't change the statistics throughout the country.
I'm not sure if the OP meant that this child being biracial or this child being born at all will make it difficult for the friend to find a future relationship if this one doesn't work out. Truthfully, the friend WILL have a harder time finding a partner who is not only compatible with her but compatible with her child.
Why assume the worst of her?
This thread just keeps on giving.

Seriously!

BarbourWales04 · December 2011

Super late to the party here (and not a regular on the board) but there is SO MUCH FAIL in this post that I can't really sit quietly about it.

Two things, OP. First, a little list for you: Barack Obama, Alicia Keys, Jimi Hendrix, Etta James, Frida Kahlo, Frederick Douglass, John James Audubon, Lou Diamond Phillips, Shemar Moore, Jessica Alba, Christy Turlington, August Wilson, Madeline Stowe... I could go on here, but I won't. It's a shame those people haven't done anything or contributed to our society and were instead bogged down by thier inevitable poverty and the shame of having two parents of different races!! How terrible!! As someone who has dated men of all different races, creeds and origins, a**hole don't come in just one color. Hate to tell you, but some of the biggest jerkwads I've dated have been white- you know, bad credit and all. One of the best boyfriends I ever had was black. He treated me with unfailing respect and kindness. It didn't work out because we simply weren't compatible at a personality level, but that doesn't mean he was any less of a great guy. And as far as the "pregnant before marriage" thing-- it's a good thing you don't know FI and I in person, I suppose!

Also- as PP have said, just because she got pregnant before you did doesn't mean she stole your Mom dust.

Note to Futuremader: It may be statistically true that blacks are more likely to have criminal records- but it's also true that Hispanics are classified as "white" in a lot of cases, and percentage wise the difference between black and white crime isnt that great, especially in recent years with the recession. Poverty breeds crime in some cases. In others, it doesn't. A lot of those statistics are skewed. No matter her original intent, phrasing it that way wasn't going to go over well on the boards, and it shouldn't have. We assume the worst because based on what we're reading, she hasn't given us a reason to assume otherwise. She comes on here, pitches a shiitfit, then expects a lot of hand-patting and "oh honeys" when she says something overtly racist?

No. Just no.

AmKaSaw · December 2011

momofone and onecooking:

Also, you might want to try this. It worked with my 1st and I thought it was a fluke and I just repeated with my 2nd and with out trying I am 13 weeks pregnant for my 2nd. Big mind blow since it took so long for my daughter. Put in a tampon after sex. Whether it be in the morning or at night do it. I have conceived 2 kids doing this and have never heard of anyone using them to get pregnant but it seemed to work for me. Let me know if it works for you!

Oh....my....God.....I'VE BEEN DOING IT WRONG THIS WHOLE TIME! 3 years and counting without a baby, and all I needed to do was plug the sucker up??!!!

To think...I was just letting all that baby gravy go to waste...

Seriously though, this thread made my night. I was having a crappy day and this just made me giggle so much. Big Smile

And OP...if you're being serious...aside from all the rasict, ignorant sh!t you're saying..You're really complaining about 6 months of trying? Really?! There are a lot of us who are a lot more invested into TTC than you are, and you don't see us running around going "Whhaaaaahhh, Whhaaaahhh, black people get to have babies and I doonnnn'''tttttt!!"

fvcks sake.

OfficiallyHollyC · January 2012

momofone and onecooking:
Also, you might want to try this. It worked with my 1st and I thought it was a fluke and I just repeated with my 2nd and with out trying I am 13 weeks pregnant for my 2nd. Big mind blow since it took so long for my daughter. Put in a tampon after sex. Whether it be in the morning or at night do it. I have conceived 2 kids doing this and have never heard of anyone using them to get pregnant but it seemed to work for me. Let me know if it works for you!

Good Luck and keep your head up!

Oh yes the often forgotten about sperm plug method. I hear that if you leave it in long enough you can make twins or even triplets. I wish more people who were having TTTC knew about the sperm plug method, then everyone could have bebees! Confused

hatroopes · January 2012

Good catch detective....I see you will have a very bright knot/bump career...douche! lol

twiztedangel:
hatroopes:
raven3513:
greeneyed_bride:

raven3513:

No, if she had been dating a white guy I would still feel that it wasn't okay. I personally don't agree with children outside of marriage. I just feel with her dating this particular guy it opens her up to lots of other issues. The chance of him having other children, past debts, a criminal record, bad credit. Also if this relationship doesn't work out it may be more difficult for her to start another relationship where someone would be willing to accept this child.

Ok, I'm just lurking here, but... In your opinion, the fact that some future boyfriends might be willing to accept a white child but not a biracial child is a bad thing?? Frankly, I see that as a positive... it would give her an opportunity to weed out the racist douchebags before entering into a relationship with them. If the only reason a man wouldn't accept a child from a previous relationship is that the child was biracial, he's an a**hole, and your friend would be lucky to know that ahead of time.

Of course, you seem to be racist, too, so I can see why you wouldn't see it that way...

I'm not at all racist. I just am realistic. By having a child with this man she is placing herself and the child at a disadvantage. I just don't agree that she is knowingly doing this. I am very open minded and have friends of all races so I definitely amthe last person that would be a racist.

Are we in 2011 (almost 2012???) Maybe there is a reason God has seen fit not to bless you with a baby yet...that poor baby doesn't stand a chance if this is how you really feel. For someone who appears educated, it's a pity you are so damn ignorant!

After reading your comment, I've come to the conclusion that you're just as ignorant as the OP is.

ETA: And clearly you caught yourself and must've realized how much of a douche you are with this comment because you edited my bolded part out. So sad for you that I caught it before you could edit....

twokidsmom · February 2012

raven3513:
greeneyed_bride:

raven3513:

No, if she had been dating a white guy I would still feel that it wasn't okay. I personally don't agree with children outside of marriage. I just feel with her dating this particular guy it opens her up to lots of other issues. The chance of him having other children, past debts, a criminal record, bad credit. Also if this relationship doesn't work out it may be more difficult for her to start another relationship where someone would be willing to accept this child.

Ok, I'm just lurking here, but... In your opinion, the fact that some future boyfriends might be willing to accept a white child but not a biracial child is a bad thing?? Frankly, I see that as a positive... it would give her an opportunity to weed out the racist douchebags before entering into a relationship with them. If the only reason a man wouldn't accept a child from a previous relationship is that the child was biracial, he's an a**hole, and your friend would be lucky to know that ahead of time.

Of course, you seem to be racist, too, so I can see why you wouldn't see it that way...

I'm not at all racist. I just am realistic. By having a child with this man she is placing herself and the child at a disadvantage. I just don't agree that she is knowingly doing this. I am very open minded and have friends of all races so I definitely amthe last person that would be a racist.

Okay, this statement is something my grandparents could have said 30 years ago. Having a biracial child is not a disadvantage anymore. This thinking is SO old fashioned!

twokidsmom · February 2012

Okay, so to get off the race card and back to the real issue which is her having a baby. Your still being childish. Sorry you are TTC and struggling. I cant imagine how tough that is. I am 34 with two kids that just found out that I am PG and I DONT WANT TO BE. Are you going to tell me to suck it up, be happy and grateful that I can even get PG?

Sure you may be very jelous of your friend, that is understandable, but you are being childish! Be happy for her and get over yourself!!!

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