Not sure what we should do

FreyaWin2382 · December 2011

brookelynpaisley:
aprilh17:

You are entitled to your opinion, and I, mine.

You think "god's plan" is a perfectly fine statement in response to various hardships and I think it is asinine and insulting.

....I'm glad we can agree to disagree. But I think it's insulting for you to say 'Fuuck you' to me which had mean intent behind it. I did not mean anything negative by what I posted. With that being said, these boards are for everyone to give their opinions and that's what makes it exciting so it doesn't really bother me.

As far as being a Newb, I'm loving it =] I've learned lots of valuable things thanks!

I hope you never find that "God's plan" is for you to not have children of your own. Then maybe you'll feel an ounce of the pain felt by MBN and others for whom conception isn't going to happen for various reasons. I can assure you, you'll be questioning how your God would purposely want you to suffer in that way. It's not a test, it's a life-changing mind-fuuck. You tell me how it feels when you have to go through the emotional distress of not being able to produce with your husband. Adoption isn't a cure for infertility, honey, and women who adopt are still infertile. If God had a plan, he fuuucked it right up when he let the crack heads abuse their babies.

You know what? Keep your plan. I don't want any part of a God that would let a child be born addicted to heroine but would keep my amazing husband from reproducing and being an incredible father.

I'm with Mandy and BP on this one. Trust me, God has abso-frickin-lutely nothing to do with who has children and who doesn't. The "it's all part of God's plan" and the "God works in mysterious ways!" comments are two of the most insulting things you can say to someone who is struggling to have a child. You may not have "meant anything negative" in what you were saying April, but what you were saying came across as incredibly ignorant and hurtful.

KNemo · December 2011

shoremommy:
jessuhmarie:
shoremommy:
It seems that everyone is on here just to argue and start up drama. I am in a very happy relationship, it is unfortunate that some of you can't say the same. Maybe you should focus some on the energy onto something useful. Women like many of you on here like to blame other women for loosing your men when it's you that is the problem. The other women did things that you didn't and thats why men leave. My two prior relationships have nothing to do with this. My bf sought something that his wife wasn't giving him and I was able to provide that. His choice was clear when he chose me. I have no worry that he will be leaving me. You all should be sure that you can say the same, while you're acting all high and mighty.

Your siggy proves you're MUD. I allllllmost believed you were real. Your story is too crazy and keeps getting crazier. You throw in those trashy names for your kids and it's a classic example of MUD. Funny how all of a sudden you add that.
Look Bitchh! You've crossed the line now. I wouldn't have said much if you were insulting me but insulting my children is taking this to a whole different level! Back the fucck off seriously!

You're a dumbasss. She didn't insult your children, she insulted you for the craptastical names you picked out for your children. And do answer the question as to how one would go about making their man so happy that he will never seek out another woman! I think us boring married women have a great deal of knowledge to be gleaned from the elite capabilities of your vag, hands, and mouth!

salt78 · December 2011

natkay02:
shoremommy:
It seems that everyone is on here just to argue and start up drama. I am in a very happy relationship, it is unfortunate that some of you can't say the same. Maybe you should focus some on the energy onto something useful. Women like many of you on here like to blame other women for loosing your men when it's you that is the problem. The other women did things that you didn't and thats why men leave. My two prior relationships have nothing to do with this. My bf sought something that his wife wasn't giving him and I was able to provide that. His choice was clear when he chose me. I have no worry that he will be leaving me. You all should be sure that you can say the same, while you're acting all high and mighty.

Oh thank you for clearing this up! Do you have any tips that you could share with me on keepin' my man happy?

My husband isn't into anal, so I must be a keeper!

sunflowers4AC · December 2011

brookelynpaisley:
aprilh17:

You are entitled to your opinion, and I, mine.

You think "god's plan" is a perfectly fine statement in response to various hardships and I think it is asinine and insulting.

....I'm glad we can agree to disagree. But I think it's insulting for you to say 'Fuuck you' to me which had mean intent behind it. I did not mean anything negative by what I posted. With that being said, these boards are for everyone to give their opinions and that's what makes it exciting so it doesn't really bother me.

As far as being a Newb, I'm loving it =] I've learned lots of valuable things thanks!

I hope you never find that "God's plan" is for you to not have children of your own. Then maybe you'll feel an ounce of the pain felt by MBN and others for whom conception isn't going to happen for various reasons. I can assure you, you'll be questioning how your God would purposely want you to suffer in that way. It's not a test, it's a life-changing mind-fuuck. You tell me how it feels when you have to go through the emotional distress of not being able to produce with your husband. Adoption isn't a cure for infertility, honey, and women who adopt are still infertile. If God had a plan, he fuuucked it right up when he let the crack heads abuse their babies.

You know what? Keep your plan. I don't want any part of a God that would let a child be born addicted to heroine but would keep my amazing husband from reproducing and being an incredible father.

Well said BP. Yes

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SkyBee · December 2011

aprilh17:
I will never learn when to 'shut the helll up' people don't tell me when I can and can not speak. This whole thing is being blown way out of proportion and for that I'm sorry. I never meant for my words to seem as though I was being insensitive to those who are infertile. I was simply commenting on someone's thoughts about God's Plan being confusing and trying to make it a positive thing and say, "Hey, I agree it is confusing but here's some good things that can come out of bad....." I wish everyone could have wonderful things and be fertile etc.. but that's not reality and I try to find ways to be optimistic about it and God has been a huge part of my life so that's where I go to find refuge, so why not share my ideas on how I try to look at things and cope with them. I never would have imagined that something I said with good intent would have been twisted so terribly.

And that couldn't have been said without using the phrase "God's plan"? Huh........It is obvious that you do believe that it is His plan when bad things happen.......

heather_09_15_07 · December 2011

aprilh17:
I will never learn when to 'shut the helll up' people don't tell me when I can and can not speak. This whole thing is being blown way out of proportion and for that I'm sorry. I never meant for my words to seem as though I was being insensitive to those who are infertile. I was simply commenting on someone's thoughts about God's Plan being confusing and trying to make it a positive thing and say, "Hey, I agree it is confusing but here's some good things that can come out of bad....." I wish everyone could have wonderful things and be fertile etc.. but that's not reality and I try to find ways to be optimistic about it and God has been a huge part of my life so that's where I go to find refuge, so why not share my ideas on how I try to look at things and cope with them. I never would have imagined that something I said with good intent would have been twisted so terribly.

You should really go over to one of the infertility or loss boards and tell them all "sorry for your loss, but you know it's in God's plan." See how well that goes over.

No, really. Do it.

eta: In case you can't detect my sarcasm, I wouldn't actually recommend that.

mcongdon18 · December 2011

ewiedman:
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Do you have the cheddar kind?

::grabs a glass of wine to go with::

OP- I think its a little obvious that you are NOT that good in bed and say you gave him something that his wife couldn't when lets not forget you have 3 failed relationship baby-daddies? Don't be so high and mighty when Im sure those 3 men left you. Just judging by the standards you have and how your brain functions.

tayray1 · December 2011

brookelynpaisley:
aprilh17:

You are entitled to your opinion, and I, mine.

You think "god's plan" is a perfectly fine statement in response to various hardships and I think it is asinine and insulting.

....I'm glad we can agree to disagree. But I think it's insulting for you to say 'Fuuck you' to me which had mean intent behind it. I did not mean anything negative by what I posted. With that being said, these boards are for everyone to give their opinions and that's what makes it exciting so it doesn't really bother me.

As far as being a Newb, I'm loving it =] I've learned lots of valuable things thanks!

I hope you never find that "God's plan" is for you to not have children of your own. Then maybe you'll feel an ounce of the pain felt by MBN and others for whom conception isn't going to happen for various reasons. I can assure you, you'll be questioning how your God would purposely want you to suffer in that way. It's not a test, it's a life-changing mind-fuuck. You tell me how it feels when you have to go through the emotional distress of not being able to produce with your husband. Adoption isn't a cure for infertility, honey, and women who adopt are still infertile. If God had a plan, he fuuucked it right up when he let the crack heads abuse their babies.

You know what? Keep your plan. I don't want any part of a God that would let a child be born addicted to heroine but would keep my amazing husband from reproducing and being an incredible father.

I teared up reading this BP, very well said, and I agree with 110% of it!

punkrockabye · December 2011

yusi196:
punkrockabye:
yusi196:
shoremommy:

I only have four children. My bf and I have one child together and I have 3 from previous relationships. My bf's son also lives with us. My ex thinks the apartment is crowded and he can do more for the kids because of where he lives and works. My bf and I have been together for almost two years. Someone suggested that I should wait until we get married to ttc. We do want to get married and plan to but we can't for now. I don't feel I'm unfit but I know on paper my ex and his wife may seem like better parents than me since they have more money.

Your ex seems genuinely worried about his kids so I'm surprised he hasn't taken you to court yet since he seems to be the one with a brain....

And I do NOT agree with the poster who is a social worker. I did not read her whole post because I stopped when she said needing Welfare....if you are poor and can't provide a child with what he/she needs, then why keep having children? Welfare and other services may help but not 100%....and living off these services primarily is not a quality way of living....

Not sure what to do? Don't have any more kids. Just concentrate on providing for the ones you already have.

I was referring to it from a legal standpoint. Legally, just because someone is on welfare/etc, it does not mean that the person is an unfit parent. If they are making sure the child's needs are met in a legal way, then being poor is not abuse. It may not be pretty or fancy or desirable, but it's the truth. Lost your job and can't feed your kids, so you go on food stamps? Not neglect. Have no money and don't go on food stamps and the kids are found to be eating notebook paper at school? Most likely neglect. Even homelessness is not immediate grounds to have someone's children taken away; if a parent is homeless but seeking the necessary help, they are providing for the child in the best way that is readily available to them at that moment.

Families are not required to have a $40k a year income, nice 4 bedroom house, and $1000 to spend on Christmas presents every year. Sure, it's nice, but the lack of any or all of those luxuries is not going to require me to place a call to DCFS for suspected child abuse or neglect.

Should someone have children if they have no income, no education, and barely a place to sleep at night? Of course not. But if they do, and as long as they seek the required services and otherwise do not abuse/neglect their children, it isn't illegal.

Clearly though this isn't on topic with OP's supposed situation anymore. It's no longer what I thought it was: a mom without a ton of money. who has a few kids. It's much more crazy than that, apparently.

Buying Christmas presents its not all there is to be a parent and I didnt say that a parent is unfit for being on welfare. What I said is, if you are aware that you can't provide for your child right now then take the steps necessary to make sure you dont bring yet another child into the same situation. I know life happens, people lose their jobs and overnight can lose everything and there is nothing wrong with getting the help.....like I said, I did not read your post completely and now that I read your post I dont agree completely with what you said. How can you have 3 kids in a bedroom? I've never seen an apartment that has a lot of square footage.....I just assumed that your whole post was about telling her to go on welfare..

Definitely not just telling her (or anyone) to go on welfare! The bedroom thing is that kids aren't entitled to their own bedrooms, even in wealthy families. My half brother, who has always been on the "more than financially okay" side of things, has four daughters. When they were in elementary school, there were three of them in one bedroom. They loved it, they had a set of bunk beds and one twin bed. The parents had one bedroom, and the baby had the other. It's really not a requirement for families to have one bedroom for every person, a ton of living space, huge yard... those are all "American Dream" ideals that are fizzling out in many places.

A lot of families are really downsizing and separating wants from needs--again, this gets even further away from OP's case, since her lack of space isn't the product of some educated reflection upon a stable but potentially excessive/unnecessary lifestyle. lol.

ewiedman · December 2011

mcongdon18:
ewiedman:
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Do you have the cheddar kind?
::grabs a glass of wine to go with::
OP- I think its a little obvious that you are NOT that good in bed and say you gave him something that his wife couldn't when lets not forget you have 3 failed relationship baby-daddies? Don't be so high and mighty when Im sure those 3 men left you. Just judging by the standards you have and how your brain functions.

Mmmmm....opening my pinot right now Smile

I need to figure out this picture thing, every time I add one I fvk it up!!! lol

planeprincess · December 2011

Ok...questions..how old are all of these children? Do they require daycare?

Do you and BF work?. Are you on public assistance?.. does BF pay child support for his 2 children? In my mind, if a man is paying child support for 2 children and daycare for 4 others and living in a 4 bedroom apt or house, he is either very wealthy or on public assistance. Now, public assistance is a wonderful thing for many people, but if you are on it already than i would think that you might want to stop having children, and your ex is probably right, he can take better care of your 2 daughters than you can.

Angel5218 · December 2011

Holy sh!tstorm what a freaking dumb@ss you are OP. First off you are delusional if you think your BF won't go sneaking behind your back; once a cheater, always a cheater.
Second, only home-wreckers blame the spouse for their significant other cheating on them...if I found out my BF was married I would flip my sh!t. Convince yourself all you want that your able to 'satisfy him' in ways his wife couldn't but it doesn't change the fact your a home-wrecker. Oh and the ladies here have no issues hanging onto their men, becuse we all married men who have morals.
Third, for the love of God stop having kids with all these different men. Don't you want to raise your child in a stable household? What in the heck are your kids going to think when their siblings all have different daddies and they are having to call a new man daddy every other month.
I wish this was MUD, but I think this is too fuucked up to be made up. You really need to stop reproducing now, I really feel sorry for your kids.

mcongdon18 · December 2011

ewiedman:
mcongdon18:
ewiedman:
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Do you have the cheddar kind?
::grabs a glass of wine to go with::
OP- I think its a little obvious that you are NOT that good in bed and say you gave him something that his wife couldn't when lets not forget you have 3 failed relationship baby-daddies? Don't be so high and mighty when Im sure those 3 men left you. Just judging by the standards you have and how your brain functions.

Mmmmm....opening my pinot right now
I need to figure out this picture thing, every time I add one I fvk it up!!! lol

Is it early for wine? Im thinking no. I want to grab some of my sparkling wine, perfect to add to this rainy lazy day!

ewiedman · December 2011

mcongdon18:
ewiedman:
mcongdon18:
ewiedman:
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Do you have the cheddar kind?
::grabs a glass of wine to go with::
OP- I think its a little obvious that you are NOT that good in bed and say you gave him something that his wife couldn't when lets not forget you have 3 failed relationship baby-daddies? Don't be so high and mighty when Im sure those 3 men left you. Just judging by the standards you have and how your brain functions.

Mmmmm....opening my pinot right now
I need to figure out this picture thing, every time I add one I fvk it up!!! lol
Is it early for wine? Im thinking no. I want to grab some of my sparkling wine, perfect to add to this rainy lazy day!

My vote is no...(as I take a sip of mine)

mcongdon18 · December 2011

ewiedman:
mcongdon18:
ewiedman:
mcongdon18:
ewiedman:
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Do you have the cheddar kind?
::grabs a glass of wine to go with::
OP- I think its a little obvious that you are NOT that good in bed and say you gave him something that his wife couldn't when lets not forget you have 3 failed relationship baby-daddies? Don't be so high and mighty when Im sure those 3 men left you. Just judging by the standards you have and how your brain functions.

Mmmmm....opening my pinot right now
I need to figure out this picture thing, every time I add one I fvk it up!!! lol
Is it early for wine? Im thinking no. I want to grab some of my sparkling wine, perfect to add to this rainy lazy day!
My vote is no...(as I take a sip of mine)

::cheers to EWCM, BDing and baby-daddies::

MiniSteph · December 2011

shoremommy:
angelsnight:
shoremommy:
mcongdon18:
shoremommy:
cookie280:
sunflowers4AC:

Maybe the head count in that apartment is a little higher than we think. BF has 3 babies and she has 4, one which is his.

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/60924372.aspx?MsdVisit=1

Why the F do you want to have baby #8 when you can't even afford to get married??? Something seems off here... either she's full of sh*t and her story is all BS or her brain is missing a few cells!! I'm sorry, I just can't comprehend the fact that you already have this many kids (God knows how many different fathers or mothers) and you still want to have more.

a child is not an ACCESSORY!!! Please think about what you're doing for these children before you bring another one to your world.

I didn't want to be judged by asking for advice here. I do not have 8 children. If I get pregnant this will be my 5th child. I had the first two as a teen. I am now a lot more mature and this pregnancy will actually be planned. We can afford to get married but we can't until my bf is officially divorced.

As a married woman and Im sure I can speak for a few woman here that feel the same. Thats very DIRTY and SCUM like that you were with a married man for 2 years. Curious....did your mom teach or morals?

You can unpearch from your high horse! I did nothing wrong he was married I am not. I don't understand why the woman gets judged when he was the one that was involved NOT ME! Yes I have morals and nothing I have done goes against them.

Oh I see....so if your sweetie ever cheats on you, are you going to become BFF's with the other woman? Afterall, she will have done nothing wrong.
Of course not but I will and do keep my man happy, so doubting that will happen. If anything his wife should blame herself if she was keeping him satisfied he would've stayed home with her. I'm about done defending myself here, this is becoming a bunch of drama that I have no time for.

Oh you did not just go there OP! Unless the wife was cheating herself or abusing him, do not blame her! I speak from personal experience. I loved my first husband, well until he said he was in love with another woman. It was awful to have to go through that hell. I side with the exes on this. You sound like a real peach.

ewiedman · December 2011

mcongdon18:
ewiedman:
mcongdon18:
ewiedman:
mcongdon18:
ewiedman:
" mce_src="">PIC didnt work
Do you have the cheddar kind?
::grabs a glass of wine to go with::
OP- I think its a little obvious that you are NOT that good in bed and say you gave him something that his wife couldn't when lets not forget you have 3 failed relationship baby-daddies? Don't be so high and mighty when Im sure those 3 men left you. Just judging by the standards you have and how your brain functions.

Mmmmm....opening my pinot right now
I need to figure out this picture thing, every time I add one I fvk it up!!! lol
Is it early for wine? Im thinking no. I want to grab some of my sparkling wine, perfect to add to this rainy lazy day!
My vote is no...(as I take a sip of mine)
::cheers to EWCM, BDing and baby-daddies::

LMFAO - This reminded my that DH and I quite frequently toast to random things, I'm going to steal this for our toast during the next FW - minus the baby daddy part - and hopefully this is my cycle and I won't need it...I'll keep it just in case

larhun3 · December 2011

GhostMonkey:
shoremommy:
cookie280:
sunflowers4AC:

Maybe the head count in that apartment is a little higher than we think. BF has 3 babies and she has 4, one which is his.

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/60924372.aspx?MsdVisit=1

Why the F do you want to have baby #8 when you can't even afford to get married??? Something seems off here... either she's full of sh*t and her story is all BS or her brain is missing a few cells!! I'm sorry, I just can't comprehend the fact that you already have this many kids (God knows how many different fathers or mothers) and you still want to have more.

a child is not an ACCESSORY!!! Please think about what you're doing for these children before you bring another one to your world.
I didn't want to be judged by asking for advice here. I do not have 8 children. If I get pregnant this will be my 5th child. I had the first two as a teen. I am now a lot more mature and this pregnancy will actually be planned. We can afford to get married but we can't until my bf is officially divorced.
You have been judged and found guilty of stupidity. I also judge your exes for waiting to take your ass to court. Their children are the ones sufering. Mommy clearly only cares about herself and the current d!ck in her vag.

Yes That was seriously the best line of this whole thread!

NotGabber · December 2011

Shoremommy, honey, you do not need to be listening to all of these bitter, bitter b!tches.

First thing's first, and you need to find yourself a bigger place so you don't lose custody. I suggest a two-pronged approach. The first prong: Government aid. You might need to get creative with the information you provide on forms and applications, but it's not like providing false information under penalty of perjury on a government form is a crime, right? I'm pretty sure that's right. Whatever aid you get, you can sell. Like if you get a benefits card for food, sell it. If it's a check, even better. Also, you'll get even more when you have the fifth baby, so you should keep that in mind. The second prong: sue the sh!t out of someone. A slip and fall in a big-chain store can bring in beaucoup bucks. When you're laying on the ground, lick your palms, moaning and wailing. As soon as they try to talk to you, demand security tapes, and lawyer up. Lawyer up fast. You can find a really good lawyer by checking out bus benches. The good ones advertise there.

But on to the matter at hand: get knocked up. Starting on day 14 of your cycle (because contrary to what these bitter, bitter b!tches say, every lady with ladyparts is always fertile on day 14 of her cycle), start putting crushed up Viagra into Baby Daddy #3's food and beverages. Then, mount him. Make sure he's drinking lots of water (or beer, beer also works), so the jizz has some good projectile. If you start to get raw, use lube. If you don't have the bucks for lube, shortening (like Crisco, but you can buy the store brand) will work the same. I think you're a good mom, because you make really good life choices, and people like you should out-Duggar the Duggars. Go for broke, babe! Maybe you'll even get a TV show!

Hugs babe! Lots of baby dust!

larhun3 · December 2011

NotGabber:
Shoremommy, honey, you do not need to be listening to all of these bitter, bitter b!tches.
First thing's first, and you need to find yourself a bigger place so you don't lose custody. I suggest a two-pronged approach. The first prong: Government aid. You might need to get creative with the information you provide on forms and applications, but it's not like providing false information under penalty of perjury on a government form is a crime, right? I'm pretty sure that's right. Whatever aid you get, you can sell. Like if you get a benefits card for food, sell it. If it's a check, even better. Also, you'll get even more when you have the fifth baby, so you should keep that in mind. The second prong: sue the sh!t out of someone. A slip and fall in a big-chain store can bring in beaucoup bucks. When you're laying on the ground, lick your palms, moaning and wailing. As soon as they try to talk to you, demand security tapes, and lawyer up. Lawyer up fast. You can find a really good lawyer by checking out bus benches. The good ones advertise there.
But on to the matter at hand: get knocked up. Starting on day 14 of your cycle (because contrary to what these bitter, bitter b!tches say, every lady with ladyparts is always fertile on day 14 of her cycle), start putting crushed up Viagra into Baby Daddy #3's food and beverages. Then, mount him. Make sure he's drinking lots of water (or beer, beer also works), so the jizz has some good projectile. If you start to get raw, use lube. If you don't have the bucks for lube, shortening (like Crisco, but you can buy the store brand) will work the same. I think you're a good mom, because you make really good life choices, and people like you should out-Duggar the Duggars. Go for broke, babe! Maybe you'll even get a TV show!
Hugs babe! Lots of baby dust!

Indifferent

NotGabber · December 2011

jefa621:
larhun3:

::whispers:: it's called sarcasm. Oh and JEFA WAS HEEEREEE!!!!

How dare you! I resemble that remark!

LovestruckAJ · December 2011

BrazilianPeach:
KNemo:
shoremommy:
jessuhmarie:
shoremommy:
It seems that everyone is on here just to argue and start up drama. I am in a very happy relationship, it is unfortunate that some of you can't say the same. Maybe you should focus some on the energy onto something useful. Women like many of you on here like to blame other women for loosing your men when it's you that is the problem. The other women did things that you didn't and thats why men leave. My two prior relationships have nothing to do with this. My bf sought something that his wife wasn't giving him and I was able to provide that. His choice was clear when he chose me. I have no worry that he will be leaving me. You all should be sure that you can say the same, while you're acting all high and mighty.

Your siggy proves you're MUD. I allllllmost believed you were real. Your story is too crazy and keeps getting crazier. You throw in those trashy names for your kids and it's a classic example of MUD. Funny how all of a sudden you add that.
Look Bitchh! You've crossed the line now. I wouldn't have said much if you were insulting me but insulting my children is taking this to a whole different level! Back the fucck off seriously!
You're a dumbasss. She didn't insult your children, she insulted you for the craptastical names you picked out for your children. And do answer the question as to how one would go about making their man so happy that he will never seek out another woman! I think us boring married women have a great deal of knowledge to be gleaned from the elite capabilities of your vag, hands, and mouth!
You forgot to mention the back door... and possibly some DP LMAO

"whoremommy" strikes me as an ass -to-mouth kinda gal.

TammyDoubleB · December 2011

shoremommy:
It seems that everyone is on here just to argue and start up drama. I am in a very happy relationship, it is unfortunate that some of you can't say the same. Maybe you should focus some on the energy onto something useful. Women like many of you on here like to blame other women for loosing your men when it's you that is the problem. The other women did things that you didn't and thats why men leave. My two prior relationships have nothing to do with this. My bf sought something that his wife wasn't giving him and I was able to provide that. His choice was clear when he chose me. I have no worry that he will be leaving me. You all should be sure that you can say the same, while you're acting all high and mighty.

Ah...bless her heart. She hasn't learned yet that this is totally NOT true about cheaters and why they cheat.

Mrs.Umm · December 2011

aprilh17:
MandyBrownNoser,
You must have taken my comment the wrong way and I'm sorry you did.
No, she didn't. And, this is the worst apology ever. Generally, you apologize for what YOU did, and not what the other person thought.

For example; Someone can not have kids for whatever reason and luckily there are plenty of children who are just waiting for someone to love them and they are forever blessed to have each other.

Gee, how lucky that those kids had such crappy parents that us infertiles can just swoop in and "save" them. Gee Mandy, just run down to the corner store and pick up a kid. I think they keep them next to the milk.

I'm trying to be optimistic.

Whenever I hear someone tell me (trying to be optimistic) that my fertility, or lack thereof, is part of "God's Plan" it just makes me think they're both a$$holes. How about learning some tact or compassion and keeping your douche ideas to yourself.

TammyDoubleB · December 2011

NotGabber:

Shoremommy, honey, you do not need to be listening to all of these bitter, bitter b!tches.

First thing's first, and you need to find yourself a bigger place so you don't lose custody. I suggest a two-pronged approach. The first prong: Government aid. You might need to get creative with the information you provide on forms and applications, but it's not like providing false information under penalty of perjury on a government form is a crime, right? I'm pretty sure that's right. Whatever aid you get, you can sell. Like if you get a benefits card for food, sell it. If it's a check, even better. Also, you'll get even more when you have the fifth baby, so you should keep that in mind. The second prong: sue the sh!t out of someone. A slip and fall in a big-chain store can bring in beaucoup bucks. When you're laying on the ground, lick your palms, moaning and wailing. As soon as they try to talk to you, demand security tapes, and lawyer up. Lawyer up fast. You can find a really good lawyer by checking out bus benches. The good ones advertise there.

But on to the matter at hand: get knocked up. Starting on day 14 of your cycle (because contrary to what these bitter, bitter b!tches say, every lady with ladyparts is always fertile on day 14 of her cycle), start putting crushed up Viagra into Baby Daddy #3's food and beverages. Then, mount him. Make sure he's drinking lots of water (or beer, beer also works), so the jizz has some good projectile. If you start to get raw, use lube. If you don't have the bucks for lube, shortening (like Crisco, but you can buy the store brand) will work the same. I think you're a good mom, because you make really good life choices, and people like you should out-Duggar the Duggars. Go for broke, babe! Maybe you'll even get a TV show!

Hugs babe! Lots of baby dust!

Absolute best response ever!

srgw · December 2011

OMG. Best.laugh.in.ages. Big Smile PPs are hilarious!

aloebird · December 2011

shoremommy:

You can unpearch from your high horse! I did nothing wrong he was married I am not. I don't understand why the woman gets judged when he was the one that was involved NOT ME! Yes I have morals and nothing I have done goes against them.

While you made no vows to this woman, you did knowingly get involved with a married man. I wouldn't really go around bragging about your morals here. You don't exactly have the ethical high ground.

Furthermore, the state laws in Hawaii, Illinois, Mississippi, New Mexico, North Carolina, South Dakota, and Utah would disagree with you. If you live in one of those states your BF's wife can sue you for alienation of affection. I remember there being a big story in the news earlier this year where a NC judge ordered a $30 million settlement to be paid.

nursemama2be · December 2011

MandyBrownNoser:

So you have children with two other men who have at some point threatened to try and get custody of your children because you are an unfit parent?

Have you considered perhaps, I don't know, stop having kids with different guys?

How long have you and your boyfriend been together? Is he going to be just another ex threatening with "unfit parent"?

Yes

OnTheLanai · December 2011

Wow. Just wow.

malibu5880 · December 2011

shoremommy:
It seems that everyone is on here just to argue and start up drama. I am in a very happy relationship, it is unfortunate that some of you can't say the same. Maybe you should focus some on the energy onto something useful. Women like many of you on here like to blame other women for loosing your men when it's you that is the problem. The other women did things that you didn't and thats why men leave. My two prior relationships have nothing to do with this. My bf sought something that his wife wasn't giving him and I was able to provide that. His choice was clear when he chose me. I have no worry that he will be leaving me. You all should be sure that you can say the same, while you're acting all high and mighty.

You.Are.Trash. Utter, pathetic trash. Quit popping out babies. And maybe you should focus your energy on something useful, like not popping out babies with married men.

The only thing you seem to know a lot about is being a homewrecker.

Trash.

MrDobalina · December 2011

aprilh17:
Re: Not sure what we should do
I don't understand how some people just keep popping out kids....and the ones that really want a child and are actually fit to be parents have a hard time! Just a thought.
God works in mysterious ways!!!
.....................You are right, but God does have a plan. I would bet that a lot, not all but a good amount, of people who adopt do so because they can not have their own kids for some reason or another. If we didn't hae any 'fit' parents to adopt all the poor children out there that don't have anybody to love them where would they go? God definitely has a plan and I have faith in him and try to remember that.
As for Shoremommy, I don't know what to say other than I hope she finds peace and realizes what wonderful things she has and maybe she should wait to think about TTC until things settle down. Bringing a newborn into a hostile/unstable environment is never a good idea.

?Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able?

Then he is not omnipotent.
Is he able, but not willing?
Then he is malevolent.
Is he both able and willing?
Then whence cometh evil?
Is he neither able nor willing?
Then why call him God??

melissa721 · December 2011

Sweet baby JESUS...SHOREmommy?! Please tell me it isn't the Jersey shore. Why must NJ claim all the crazies? Haven't we suffered enough? Sammi Sweetheart? Mike the Situation?

DruidPrincess · December 2011

shoremommy:
You can unpearch from your high horse! I did nothing wrong he was married I am not. I don't understand why the woman gets judged when he was the one that was involved NOT ME! Yes I have morals and nothing I have done goes against them.

WRONG-O!

DruidPrincess · December 2011

shoremommy:
Of course not but I will and do keep my man happy, so doubting that will happen. If anything his wife should blame herself if she was keeping him satisfied he would've stayed home with her. I'm about done defending myself here, this is becoming a bunch of drama that I have no time for.

Cool. Please conduct yourself posthaste to the Trouble in Paradise board, as you will undoubtedly be needing their advice when DBag BF cheats on your sorry arse because you'll be so busy nurturing your brood of offspring, ye shall have not time for relations.

Them's the breaks. /gavel

[Deleted User] · December 2011

VikingQueen:
cookie280:
sunflowers4AC:

Maybe the head count in that apartment is a little higher than we think. BF has 3 babies and she has 4, one which is his.

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/60924372.aspx?MsdVisit=1

Why the F do you want to have baby #8 when you can't even afford to get married??? Something seems off here... either she's full of sh*t and her story is all BS or her brain is missing a few cells!! I'm sorry, I just can't comprehend the fact that you already have this many kids (God knows how many different fathers or mothers) and you still want to have more.

a child is not an ACCESSORY!!! Please think about what you're doing for these children before you bring another one to your world.

All of this

LOL this is why I lurk here...pure comedy. This thread reads like an episode of Jerry!

[Deleted User] · December 2011

You aren't sure what you should do? Let me give you a hint.

If you aren't MUD (which I'm not totally convinced either way), my advice is simple: STOP POPPING KIDS OUT OF YOUR VAG LIKE A G*DDAMN PEZ DISPENSER!

FFS....

larhun3 · December 2011

jefa621:
larhun3:
NotGabber:

Shoremommy, honey, you do not need to be listening to all of these bitter, bitter b!tches.

First thing's first, and you need to find yourself a bigger place so you don't lose custody. I suggest a two-pronged approach. The first prong: Government aid. You might need to get creative with the information you provide on forms and applications, but it's not like providing false information under penalty of perjury on a government form is a crime, right? I'm pretty sure that's right. Whatever aid you get, you can sell. Like if you get a benefits card for food, sell it. If it's a check, even better. Also, you'll get even more when you have the fifth baby, so you should keep that in mind. The second prong: sue the sh!t out of someone. A slip and fall in a big-chain store can bring in beaucoup bucks. When you're laying on the ground, lick your palms, moaning and wailing. As soon as they try to talk to you, demand security tapes, and lawyer up. Lawyer up fast. You can find a really good lawyer by checking out bus benches. The good ones advertise there.

But on to the matter at hand: get knocked up. Starting on day 14 of your cycle (because contrary to what these bitter, bitter b!tches say, every lady with ladyparts is always fertile on day 14 of her cycle), start putting crushed up Viagra into Baby Daddy #3's food and beverages. Then, mount him. Make sure he's drinking lots of water (or beer, beer also works), so the jizz has some good projectile. If you start to get raw, use lube. If you don't have the bucks for lube, shortening (like Crisco, but you can buy the store brand) will work the same. I think you're a good mom, because you make really good life choices, and people like you should out-Duggar the Duggars. Go for broke, babe! Maybe you'll even get a TV show!

Hugs babe! Lots of baby dust!

::whispers:: it's called sarcasm. Oh and JEFA WAS HEEEREEE!!!!

for the record I knew it was sarcastic. It's the only face I thought appropriate since that pretty much sums up our world. Next time I'll pick the thumbs up and no face.

BooBooKittyFuk · December 2011

The only advice I can give is this: GET YOUR TUBES TIED!

Abbney · December 2011

Hey ladies just popping in from July 11 because we heard there was some fun reads...Can I just say how disappointed and shocked I am in this thread??? 7pages and not a single octomom reference?????? Come on!!!! I for realz LOL'd on some of the responses so I know you have it in you...next time game faces girls!!!!

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