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If you got pregnant would you keep it or abort? And, how does being a WM
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Re: If you got pregnant would you keep it or abort? And, how does being a WM
At this stage in my life I would never abort a baby unless I completely was destitute and had absolutley no way to support it. If I had been 16 and pregnant and clueless with no future, maybe I would have then.
I am pro-choice because I don't think the world needs any more babies born to people who don't want them and I believe every woman should have the right to make her own choices about her own body.
Being a working mom would have very little bearing on my decision. If anything it would make me more confident that I could have a baby and support it even if something happened to my husband.
I would keep the baby without a question. That's assuming it was conceived through consensual sex. I am pro-choice but when I was younger I was more pro-life.
Being a working mom just makes it easier for me to know that I can support my kids alone if need be.
It was another abortion post on the PC&E Board. So I was curious if being a WM influenced one's decision.
For me, I would absolutely have an abortion if I got pregnant because I don't want any more children. Working plays a small role in that our family has a good schedule and routine and I like the balance. Adding a child would disrupt it.
Moneywise - I could be a gazillioniare and I wouldn't want another child.
We want to have more children, so I would keep it.
I do know some women who had abortions during medical school and residency because they didn't believe having children would work with their careers. I think it's probably less common for a woman to have an abortion because it interferes with her career now than it was 30 years ago. Despite our complaints, things have really changed in the workplace (or at least in medicine).
I absolutely do not want a third child, but I don't think I could abort (though I am pro-choice). DS was a surprise, so we've learned our lesson and are being very careful (haven't had sex) until DH gets his vasectomy.
wow! that is very careful.
Absolutely keep it. I'm more pro-life since having DD and am not sure where I stand legally. I guess I still feel it should be legal, but should be a last resort, rarely used, for people who are really in desperate circumstances. For me, an adult, married, with a home and resources, my personal feeling is that abortion would be wrong. And along with that, I also couldn't handle it emotionally. I know I would always think about that baby and wonder what he/she would have been like and may have brought into our lives.
Being a WM has nothing to do with my decision.
I'd keep it, because although we are done with having any more planned children we wouldn't be completely against a surprise. I'd be freaking out big time because my second isn't even 6 months old and I wouldn't want to have kids that close together, and heaven help me if it were to be twins!!!
Having another would mean a major lifestyle change. One of us would probably have to stop working full time because it would be cost prohibitive to have 3 kids in daycare 5 days/week for the next two years (DD doesn't start kindergarten until she is almost 6 due to her fall birthday). We'd have to move, because our house is too small to accommodate 3 kids, and that's assuming we could even sell our house that we bought at the peak of the housing bubble in this craptastic economy. We'd make it work but it certainly wouldn't be ideal.
Yep. IMHO, abortion should be used for drastic circumstances, not as a form of birth control. There are permanent measures one can take if they are that certain they don't want another child.
A Little Bird and a Monkey Butt
I would keep the baby unless we found out there were serious complications. A 3rd child would be hard as a working mom, but a 3rd child with serious health issues would be life-altering for the whole family.
That's a seriously tough question for 7:30 in the morning.
I'm pro-choice and I don't want anymore kids. However, I would keep it. I largely agree w/ 2-step. I feel women should have the choice.
But at this point in my life, we would make it work and I'd have the child.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I am pro-choice but I would not abort. Twenty years ago I would definitely have considered it. Now that I am in a stable relationship and financially able to care for another child I would just make it work. I could not abort a child because DH and I failed to take the necessary precautions. And even if we did and we still got PG, I wouldn't be comfortable aborting.
Being a working mom has zero impact on my decision.
My twins are 5! My baby is 3!
DS#2 - Allergic to Cashew, Pistachio, Kiwi
DS#3 - Allergic to Milk, Egg, Peanut, Tree Nuts and Sesame
I am pro-choice, but for me, personally, I could not have an abortion. Especially now that I am a mom, I would not be able to abort. Being a WM really doesn't factor into my decision though. That said, if I were to get pregnant right now, I would really really really be upset. I just can't handle a 2nd baby at this point in time, but I guess we would figure it out and make it work.
Also, if I were to find out I am pregnant right now, I would need to call the Vatican and report a second immaculate conception.
I completely understand Spenjamins point of view because I feel this way. On the other hand I am doing what trinny is doing now.
I am and always have been pro-choice. However as I dealt with infertility for so many years, I have to say I would still have the baby. We would find a way to make it work.
Absolutely keep, especially since we're going to start TTC in a few months anyway. I think the decision for me would always be keep, anyway. What someone else does is their choice, but that's what's right for me.
WM = not a factor for me
At this point in life (obviously not now because I'm already pregnant, but in the future), I would keep the baby because we are considering a 3rd. After #3 is born we would take steps to have permanent birth control (vasectomy/essure) so pregnancy would not happen again.
If I was one of those small percentage of women who got pregnant even after taking steps to permanently prevent pregnancy, I'm not sure what I would do. I think I would want to abort, but can't see myself ever being able to live with myself if I did.
Very probably abort.
Not only am I very done with 2, but I have a uterine birth defect that makes carrying a child to term almost impossible (and implantation, which is why my children are adopted). I have no desire for a very high risk preganacy or a micropreemie.
I would keep it. It would be a huge financial struggle at this point, we're thinking DS should be an only child because of costs, and I'd be terrified. I'm definitely pro-choice. But after 2 m/c's and our ages (I'm 31, DH 36) I would have to believe there would be a reason for it and do everything we can to make it work.
I am kinda floored by this post. I am 100% pro-choice from a legal perspective, but as a mother there is not a chance in he!! I could abort. As responsible adult, even if an opps happened, even if we were broke, there is no way, no how. Its like "well kid, you were the lucky one, but the other one, wrong time, wrong place." WTF.
Wow, just wow.
I am glad someone else said it.
I can understand, if carrying a pregnancy has health consequences for mother or child, there are hard choices to be made. If the quality of life of the child is in question, soul searching needs to take place - I get it.
But aborting a baby because it will cramp your lifestyle? I don't understand.
If you don't want to raise the child - there are many, many, many open arms out there waiting to adopt.
Part of being a grown up is accepting the consequences of your actions. I have a lot of respect for those ladies who are abstaining until permanent measures are taken. Way to be responsible.
A Little Bird and a Monkey Butt
I would abort for several reasons: convenience, birth defects, and obviously any sort of ooops. Yep, another child at this point in my life would be a pain in the a$$. And it would have been a bigger pain in the a$$ when I was in my 20s. So what? Luckily, I don't have to choose to rearrange my life to deal with an unwanted child.
Women have abortions for lots of reasons. Being pro-choice means THEY get to choose the reasons, not you.
Exactly.
I'd definitely have it, but we want another so...that's an obvious answer.
I'm pro-choice though, and if I had gotten pregnant when I was younger I'm sure I would have had an abortion.
This has nothing to do with being pro-choice or not. You asked what we would do, and I expressed just that. I said "I" and "we" and never "you." I am certainly not saying when it is ok or not ok. I have no authority on that. I may not understand or agree with someone's choice (on this or many other issues) but I believe we have the right to choose. We don't have to agree. I simply expressed MY sentiment, for which you asked. Perhaps I came off a little judgemental, I will admit, but as I stated I was shocked. Again, I don't understand...but who cares....freedom of choice baby.
sorry spenjamins, i gotta ask..you dont want any more kids , so why not get your tubes tied or your dh gets a vasectomy ? that seems more logical to me ?
its one thing to go through those measures and be the 1 in a thousand or whatever that ends up pregnant and then aborting..its a whole other thing what you are talking about in my opinion. i agree with many of your views on things but am very confused by your posts here & btw, i am pro-life for myself & pro-choice for the rest of the world but that doesnt mean i cant still have my opinions & i do tend to think people that treat abortion like it's birth control are pieces of shi* !
I'm sort of lost on why choosing an abortion isn't being responsible. A baby isn't a punishment--or it shouldn't be. To me, selecting to abort an unwanted pregnancy is much more responsible than giving birth to a child whose existance you begrudge.
Adoption plans aren't exactly easy--there is a lot of pressure to parent. Not to mention the confusion for the older children.
Expecting a married couple to obstain from sex isn't reasonable. And EVERY form of birth control--even "permanent" ones--has a failure rate.
Until there is a reversible, 100% effective form of birth control, on-demand abortion must remain legal. Whether you decide to get one is up to you.
You know - I was praying that this wouldn't take an ugly turn.
IMO, abortions should be easier to obtain and we need to remove the stigma from it.
And where are the people waiting in line to adopt all of the foster babies and children we have in the system? This kind of reasoning is completely flawed.