Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Random Baby Posting
Thank you so much. They are my sweet little men.
That'll be great (and so important since y'all have a pool)....he'll love it!
J's swim lessons went really well. He will even hang on to the side of the pool and then monkey walk himself back to the steps.
G ate his first table food last night. I made chicken and figured he is only 9 days away from nine months what would it hurt to try. He loved it.
She is so freaking smart!!?
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Apparently, i had some red mary-jane type shoes when I was little that I loved and I would not wear any other shoes. My mom would have to take me in whatever outfit I was in and those shoes, or I would throw a fit. lol.
This almost made me pee my pants!
For Sale: One 2 year old Toddler. Very very cute but is prone to temper tantrums, throwing things and the occasional hit although usually only to mommy. Gives great cuddles and hugs. Smiles and says CHEESE and loves boats.
I have screwed my body clock. ?I have been taking naps during the day and therefore don't get tired until midnight. I get up with J between 2 and 3 for about an hour and then again at 6 for another hour. ?Avery is up by 8. ?Due to the lack of night sleep, I am still sleepy during the day and nap...thus keeping me up when the kids are sleeping. ?Damnation.
?I have to fix it before I go back to work in a week and a half. I have tried skipping my nap, but I am way too exhausted to do that.?
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and does a great impression of nathan lane in the birdcage
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LOL!
LMAO! Seriously - almost fell out of the chair.
Crazy Christmas Kids!
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that's the FIRST thing I thought of when I saw it... he's too funny!
That sucks big ones. ?I know I am not supposed to, but I always try to comfort Avery when it happens. ?Poor kiddos.?
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I feel bad posting this after a night terror post, but I am trying to figure out what good deed I did to warrant Tracey's almost 2 hour nap this afternoon. She will probably wake up now that I came downstairs and got on the computer, but in 10 minutes she will have been asleep two hours, in her crib, and she went down drowsy but awake.
I managed to finish the cardigan I am knitting for her (well, it's all seamed up, I just have to sew in the sleeves) and wash diapers and write some thank you notes. Who knew!?!?
haha
Ah, learning how to pass the buck!
HAHAHA, kids are so funny.
Ha! Reagan is very into announcing when she toots right now.
Crazy Christmas Kids!
Wow, that is SO impressive! Elena "reads" books, but it really is just repeating the memorized words. She cracks me up when we read a new book b/c she'll repeat each phrase a couple times before she lets me turn the page. But we are NOwhere close to real reading. Yay Sam!
6-yr-old Elena and 4-yr-old Julia.
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i have to swaddle mathis to nurse him or else his freaking nails scratch the hell out of me. i can't trim them b/c he sleeps swaddled and won't let me when he is awake. what a PITA.
Calla used to do the same thing. I think my boobs must have toughened up because I don't notice it anymore.
Funny Story:
Yesterday I was feeding Calla while Orion sat next to me on the couch. I switched sides with her and didn't bother reclasping my bra on the other side. Orion looked at me thoughtfully and said, "Baby Calla drink two milks?"
I clipped F's while she was nursing, worked out real well.
So Tasty, So Yummy
So Tasty, So Yummy
I posted this on the nest but here it goes again....
I've done nothing all day except dance to disco music with my kids! Dancing with a 21 pounder on one hip and a 25 pounder on the other...talk about a workout!!
I seriously have to keep taking breaks cause I am sweating so much.
Sounds like you are having a good morning.
As for me I don't understand why people think they can do a better job soothing my kids than I can. If my baby is crying and reaching for me give him to me.
Crazy Christmas Kids!
Ugh, I hated that stage. Hannah's not there yet--she's still in the "these crayons make tasty snacks" stage.