Wall of Support for Tim'sWifey

Meg 'n' Eric

TW I am so heartbroken for you. No mother deserves what you have been through and I am just so sorry.

I sing DD this song everynight (changing man to girl) and as I sang it to her last night I thought of you and Matthew. The third verse is especially appropriate.

Godspeed by the Dixie Chicks

God bless Mommy and Matchbox cars

God bless Dad and thanks for the stars

God hears "amen" wherever we are

And I love you

Chorus:

Godspeed little man

Sweet dreams little man

Oh my love will fly to you each night on angel's wings

Godspeed, Sweet Dreams

 

A millions hugs and love,  M&E and family 

ladyalmalthea

Dear Tim's Wifey,

I live in the same area you do and while I have never really talked to you or SoCalAli have enjoyed some of your conversations lurking on the Bump.

I was at my great uncle's funeral a couple of weeks ago and as I drove past the children's section at Hillside I thought of you.

Sending you, your husband, and your two beautiful children love.

LucyAnnie

TW,

I couldn't sleep much last night.  Every time I closed my eyes I thought about you, mr TW, Katie and Matthew.  What a beautiful family.  I cried.

Then, just as quickly as as the tears started to flow, a wave ot peace flowed through my soul.  Looking out of the window into the starry night, I saw a star.  The star seemed bigger and brighter than all the others.  Almost as if it were new.  As a chid I beleived that stars were angels up in heaven looking down upon us as we sleep.  I still beleive.  There is one more angel looking down upon us now.  His light is strong and bright.  He will always be with us and he will be here to guide us and protect us.  Mr Matthew - let your light shine on. 

Matthew is a true gift from God.  A special litlte boy.  A little boy that will always be loved by many. 

TW, my heart aches for you.  I admire your strenghth, your passion, and your love.  You are admirable and a hero to many. 

asherwest

 Pink for K.J.

 Blue for M.F.

Poeia

My wish is that peace finds you and sustains you.  And that love surrounds you. 

AdamsWife08

When I read your post this morning, my heart broke for you and your husband.  I've followed your story from lurking mode on BOTB and I just want to reach through my computer and give you a HUGE hug.  Nobody deserves to go through what you've gone through.  I put a candle in my siggy in honor of Matthew and will keep you all in my prayers. 

I know you probably don't have any idea who I am, but I just want you to know my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.  {hugs}

ETA:  TW, you amaze me!  I was looking through some older posts and you have a positive attitude and a sense of humor at what has to be the most trying time for you.  You are a strong woman!  Hugs, again!

jensneb

It it always hard to find words at times like these, but I just want you to know that you are such a strong person and Katie Jane and Matthew are the luckiest babies having you as their mom.  My grandma had the same problems and this happened to her 3 times, I can only think today of my angel aunts and uncle playing with your angels in heaven.  I just want to reach out and hug you.  My thoughts and blessings are with you and Tim.

JoBieger05

Lullaby

What I wouldn't give
To have you in my arms again,
Breathe your scent
And snuggle close to you.
I want to watch you sleep,
See your chest rise and fall
In peaceful slumber.
Let me lay my hand
Over your heart,
So I can
Feel it beating
Beneath my touch.
I want to be
Lulled to sleep
By its rhythm.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I am so sorry TW. I can't begin to imagine what you are going through. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. 

::lights candle::

YoLinds28

Up to heaven,
With angels wings,
I can hear you sing,
The joy, love, and pain your precious life brings.
Forever remembered,
Forever loved,
I know you're watching from above.
In my mind,
In my heart,
I know we'll never be apart.
Up to heaven,
With angels wings,
I will forever hear you sing.

TW. You are amazing, strong, intelligent. Just so many things, just so amazing. I am so incredibly sorry for your losses. I can't even begin to fathom what you are going through.

This morning, I woke up and hugged my boys and told them they mean the world to me and that I love them dearly. I look at them and I know I am blessed to have them in my life. Katie and Matthew are blessed to have you as their mama. Even if they were here a very short amount of time, they are deeply loved.

You will continue to be in my thoughts. I know that you will find peace someday.

XOXO

Lindsey

staycee

Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.   Your beautiful angels will never be forgotten.   Lots of love to you.  ((hugs))

BrookeNicole09

((huge hugs)) I know nothing will help right now, and it is insanely unfair for you to have to go through this. I am so, so sorry.

Amorlinda

TW and T, 

I honestly don't know what to say other than I am so very sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine how it feels, and just like everyone else on here I wish there was something I can do or say to make it all better but we all know we can't.  Just know that we are all here for you with anything that you need. 

I like to share this poem with you. 

 

He was born to be an angel;
Secure in our Father's care;
And his dear little feet now patter along;
The beautiful streets up there.

Our darling has gone to the angels above;
Where there's nothing but
happiness, joy and love.
Gone from this world, so full of strife;
Back to the God who gave him life.
But rejoice that God chose
our sweet flower for His own;
And has taken him back to His Heavenly home.

 

Love, 

Amorlinda and Family

Ashleyyyyy

No person is ever truly alone.
Those who live no more,
Whom we loved,
Echo still within our thoughts,
Our words, our hearts.
And what they did
And who they were
Becomes a part of all that we are,
Forever.
By Richard Fife

TW, your strength amazes me. Words cannot express how sorry I am. You are an amazing woman and you, Katie, Matthew and Tim have consumed my thoughts and I'll continue sending good thoughts your way.

 

 

BamBam510

TW,

Words cannot express the sympathy I am feeling for you and your family.  I am terribly sorry for the loss you both have suffered.  Katie and Matthew are very lucky to have you and Tim as parents.  They are together now and watching over you both.  I am sending endless thoughts and prayers your way to help you through this grieving process. 

 

 

nikisnow

I am reminded of the following quote from the West Wing:

"This guy's walking down the street when he falls in a hole. The walls are so steep he can't get out. A doctor passes by and the guy shouts up, 'Hey you. Can you help me out?' The doctor writes a prescription, throws it down in the hole and moves on.Then a priest comes along and the guy shouts up, 'Father, I'm down in this hole can you help me out?' The priest writes out a prayer, throws it down in the hole and moves on "Then a friend walks by, 'Hey, Joe, it's me can you help me out?' And the friend jumps in the hole. Our guy says, 'Are you stupid? Now we're both down here.' The friend says, 'Yeah, but I've been down here before and I know the way out.' 

While I have never been through what you have, I would gladly jump in the hole with you and try to help you out of it, as would everyone on this board.  I hope you are able to find some comfort during this time.

Anasara

I don't post often, but I was shocked & saddened to read of your loss.  Words cannot express how terrible I feel that you have had to experience this kind of pain twice now.  I pray you will heal physically & emotionally with the love & support of this board as well as your family & friends.  Know that both of your babies are now angels who are well aware of how precious they are & how loved they will always be. 

((hugs))

asuchic

I know you don't know me, as I am usually just a lurker on this board, but I have been following your story and wanted to comment.  My heart truly sank this morning as I was catching up on the updates from the weekend and came across your post.  My biggest condolences go out to you and your family as you go through this difficult time.  I can't even begin to imagine the pain and suffering, and my heart, thoughts, and prayers go out to you.  You already know this, but you are surrounded by a very strong group of women here on this board and with their support and your own strength, I know you will get through this.  Your children are very lucky to have such a wonderful mother!

Mrs.Wanabe

I have been crying for hours so this may not make much sense.

I am grieving my losses while I think of yours. I know where you are and if you need me I am here. We are here.

We love you. 

danlexi04

You will rest your head, your strength once saving. And when you wake you will fly away, holding tight to the legs of all your angels. Goodbye my love, into your blue, blue eyes, your blue, blue world, you're my baby blue.
DMB

KaitySueWho

When it seems that our sorrow is too great to be borne, let us think of the great family of the heavy-hearted into which our grief has given us entrance. And inevitably, we will feel about us their arms, their sympathy and their understanding.

-Helen Keller

TW, I was deeply saddened to hear the news about your son. You and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers. I just wanted to let you know that your daughter and son are thought about daily and loved by many.

I choose this quote just to let you know that you have so many people here for you, to help support you, to be there anytime you need a shoulder to cry on, a good laugh, or just someone to listen. You have a huge family here for you.

You are such a strong beautiful woman and Katie and Matthew are lucky to have you as their mother.

Scout05

I've been going through all the quotes and poems and other things that I've collected ever since our first loss, trying to find the right thing to share with you. And honestly, nothing says enough.

I am so sorry. I wish there were better words, that expressed it more eloquently, but I can't find them.

I'm just so sorry that this happened to you guys.

sk62108

I wish words were enough to make the world right.

Please know that your beautiful children are loved by so many, friends and strangers alike. Matthew and Katie will never be forgotten.  

crownedbee

TW, you are part of the reason I am still fighting. Your strength, grace, and love inspires me and I will never be able to thank you enough for our friendship and the drive you give me to continue. I wish I could take away all your pain, but I know that's not possible. I hope you and Tim are able to find peace in the future and know that Katie Jane and Matthew Finley are playing together and watching over their mommy and daddy. I love you to the moon and back.

Looking back on the memory of
The dance we shared beneath the stars above
For a moment all the world was right
How could I have known you'd ever say goodbye
And now I'm glad I didn't know
The way it all would end the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance
Holding you I held everything
For a moment wasn't I the king
But if I'd only known how the king would fall
Hey who's to say you know I might have changed it all
And now I'm glad I didn't know
The way it all would end the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance
Yes my life is better left to chance
I could have missed the pain but I'd of had to miss the dance
~Garth Brooks

BostonGayGal

I hope you find peace and from it, strength.  I love you and through you, I love Matthew, as I love Katie.  

 

 

two-pink-shoes

Another sleepless night, lying in bedAnother lonely morning, will this everend? Another tear-filled day, another dreamfades awayYou stumble on, hope seems gone, butthere's someone who longs to bear your painCan you hear the Father say... Oh my childWhen you can't go on another mileI will carry youThrough the heartacheof your greatest trial I will carry youMy arms are strong andtenderMy faithfulness istrueI will carry youYou can trust me andI, I will carry you. You feel you have nostrengthTo rise above thestormYou feel you cannotsee beyond this valley of tearsBut with one gentletouch He says I love you somuchI am your hope, and you can copeBelieve and know I'll never give you up. 

TW, I love you and I pray that a peace that is so great we cannot understand it will keep your heart and mind. 

BetchySprout

i carry your heart with me
(i carry it in my heart)
i am never without it
(anywhere i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done by only me is your doing, my darling)
    I fear no fate
(for you are my fate, my sweet)
i want no world
(for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant 
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars aparti carry your heart (i carry it in my heart) 

Bubbalini

I am awful with finding the right words to express my feelings in a time like this, so I have written this post over and over again and nothing seems to be good enough. 

TW, you are loved greatly. 

 

caffinated_tulip

Everyone else has been more eloquent than I can hope to be, but I'm going to try. 

The world is a fvcked-up unfair horrible place sometimes.

But you have made it so much better. For so many people. Just by being here.The love and beauty of your two perfect angels will give light where there was darkness, hope and love for us all.

Thank you. 

We love you. 

- Tulip

 

SoCaliAli

TW,

You have become and amazing friend to me over this past year.  My heart breaks for you and Tim.  You are an amazing woman, and you have so much love to give.  I wish I had the words that could make this all go away.  I love you, and I know we are all grieving with you.  (((hugs))) 

JenniferJaneC

TW, you continue to amaze us all with your strength and grace through all of this.  Your comment in an earlier thread this morning actually made me laugh out loud, and it was probably the first I've laughed since I read that beautiful Matthew Finley had been called home to God yesterday.  How is it that you can make us laugh in this time?  What a testament to your strength of character.  You are truly a light unto this world, and your angel children have an amazing, amazing mother.

I wish you never had to show us all what a strong woman you are.  I love you.

 

 

mmkaye

Hope by Stephen Curtis Chapman 

This is not at all how
We thought it was supposed to be
We had so many plans for you
We had so many dreams
And now you've gone away
And left us with the memories of your smile
And nothing we can say
And nothing we can do
Can take away the pain
The pain of losing you, but ...

We can cry with hope
We can say goodbye with hope
'Cause we know our goodbye is not the end, oh no
And we can grieve with hope
'Cause we believe with hope
(There's a place by God's grace)
There's a place where we'll see your face again
We'll see your face again

And never have I known
Anything so hard to understand
And never have I questioned more
The wisdom of God's plan
But through the cloud of tears
I see the Father's smile and say well done
And I imagine you
Where you wanted most to be
Seeing all your dreams come true
'Cause now you're home
And now you're free, and ...

We have this hope as an anchor
'Cause we believe that everything
God promised us is true, so ...

So we can cry with hope
And say goodbye with hope

We wait with hope
And we ache with hope
We hold on with hope
We let go with hope

 

I will be keeping you, your dh, and sweet Katie Jane and baby Matthew in my thoughts and prayers.  I am so sorry.  There aren't even words to begin to describe how I feel.  I know you can get through this and be stronger for it.  

Katie and Matthew are looking down on you from heaven and will always be your little guardian angels.  

Love and Hugs,

mmkaye

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Though I've never met you, I feel for you and your husband.  I am so sad to hear the news and I will continuously keep you in my prayers.  You are loved by so many (even if you haven't met them before).

I am very proud to be a part of a board that shows so much compassion and love.

mjs_pmk

I know there are no words that I can say to help ease your pain. Please just know that you and your husband are amazing people. I hope it brings you some comfort to know that your beautiful children have touched many people from all over the internet. I will continue to pray for you, your husband and your beautiful babies. I will always remember Katie and Matthew and how much they have touched our lives.

KKM

I dont know what to say, but please know that you have so many holding you up during this awful time.  I hope you are able to somehow find some peace. 

Mrs.C042807

TW, I've never met you IRL.  But your compassion comes through with each post and email you and I have ever exchanged.  The love and support you've shown my friend has been invalueable to me, and her.

I can't believe this has happened to you again.  I just don't know what to say.  But know that my heart breaks for you and T.  Those two precious angels you have in heaven are so lucky to have you as their mommy. 

I hope someday I get to hug you IRL.  But until then, know that you're in my thoughts (and S's too... I told her today what has happened).

::hug::

xleslieraex

Much love, many thoughts and prayers to you, TW and your family. I cannot begin to understand what you are going through right now. I am at a loss of words with you and your family in my thoughts. 

RJBWife

We've never met, never talked. And yet I find you to be one of the most amazing, strong and inspiring people I have ever encountered.  My wish for you and your husband is that a warm blanket of love and support will always surround you.  It is my belief that your beautiful babies are together and safe in God's arms.

I also have to believe that a lifetime and beyond of happiness will be coming to you.  I will continue to pray for you and your family.

johannaknip

Words have failed me.

jenerally?

Oh, I can stand one thousand trials
The strong will never fall.

But watching stars without you
My soul cries.

~Des'ree

 

TW and family,

I am completely heartbroken for you. I wish I had some sort of magical words to take away your pain; I wish you peace and healing during this incredibly difficult time.

You are much loved, whether you realize it or not.

BecauseICan

TW I'm not sure there are words to express the deep sadness I feel for you and your husband.  Actually, I'm sure there aren't.  I have written this a few times, and nothing sounds quite right.  I'm just so sorry.  Your angels will never be forgotten, and in these moments, they are teaching so many of us about how to love, how to cherish, and how to spend every moment appreciating everything we have.  My prayers will be with you both.

 

"Goodnight, my angel
Time to close your eyes
And save these questions for another day
I think I know what you've been asking me
I think you know what I've been trying to say
I promised I would never leave you
And you should always know
Wherever you may go
No matter where you are
I never will be far away"