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Wall of Support for Tim'sWifey
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Please post your support for TW and your messages for her and her family here. Feel free to include whatever you feel is appropriate and make your post as long or as short as you wish.
I'm viewing this sort of as a memorial or vigil, so while you can feel free to post, please try not to reply to what others post, if that makes sense. I just want people's post to stand for themselves. Imagine it like laying your flowers down, saying your piece and the making room for the next person to do the same.
:lights candle:
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Re: Wall of Support for Tim'sWifey
::lights candle::
I have been thinking all day of what I want to say. When I have experienced losses in the past there is always one song that I think of right away. Allow me to share that song with you, TW. You are an amazing and strong woman. We all love you very much.
(I have highlighted the lyrics that mean the most to me)
"There You'll Be" by Faith Hill
When I think back
On these times
And the dreams
We left behind
I'll be glad 'cause
I was blessed to get
To have you in my life
When I look back
On these days
I'll look and see your face
You were right there for me
[Chorus:]
In my dreams
I'll always see you soar
Above the sky
In my heart
There will always be a place
For you for all my life
I'll keep a part
Of you with me
And everywhere I am
There you'll be
And everywhere I am
There you'll be
Well you showed me
How it feels
To feel the sky
Within my reach
And I always
Will remember all
The strength you
Gave to me
Your love made me
Make it through
Oh, I owe so much to you
You were right there for me
[Repeat chorus]
'Cause I always saw in you
My light, my strength
And I want to thank you
Now for all the ways
You were right there for me
You were right there for me
For always
[Chorus:]
In my dreams
I'll always see you soar
Above the sky
In my heart
There will always be a place
For you for all my life
I'll keep a part
Of you with me
And everywhere I am
There you'll be
And everywhere I am
There you'll be
There you'll be
FET: Success! Beta at 14dp5dt: 2427 TWINS!!
I was trying to find a song with lyrics with the right sentiment. This one always hits me hard so I hope it works.
"Songbird"
For you, there'll be no more crying,
For you, the sun will be shining,
And I feel that when I'm with you,
It's alright, I know it's right
To you, I'll give the world
to you, I'll never be cold
'Cause I feel that when I'm with you,
It's alright, I know it's right.
And the songbirds are singing,
Like they know the score,
And I love you, I love you, I love you,
Like never before.
And I wish you all the love in the world,
But most of all, I wish it from myself.
And the songbirds keep singing,
Like they know the score,
And I love you, I love you, I love you,
Like never before, like never before.
For your beautiful family of four. I love you all.
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep
I am a 1,000 winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow
I am the sun on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled light
I am the soft star that shines at night
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there; I did not die.
(((((hugs))))))) You are so incredibly strong and I admire you. Hang in there.
Tim'sWifey, Tim, Katie, and Matthew:
There are no right words to comfort you when a family member is lost.
There are only thoughts and prayers and the knowledge that many people love you.
If I could take away your pain for one hour, one minute, or one second I would.
Please take comfort in the fact that there are many people all over this world who love you.
I am admittedly awful with this sort of thing. When I am in a mourning type situation, I would rather be left alone, so I find it difficult to say the right thing.
I cannot imagine the emotions you and Tim are going through right now. My heart is breaking for your family. None of this is fair. You should not be going through this.
I wish there was some way, any way, that I could help. Seriously, if you can think of ANYTHING, just let me know.
::lights candle::
"Unable are the loved to die. For love is immortality."
~Emily Dickinson
"This ribbon has been reported." - lovesnina
Dear TW,
Words cannot express how sorry I am for your loss. I wish there was something I could do to take your pain away. You are a strong and wonderful woman, who I am proud to know.
HUGS.
Love,
SB
TW and family,
As a lurker/sometime poster I have been around BOTB for a couple years. Although, I don't post much, I want you to know that you and both your babies have touched me greatly. I will be praying for you and your family and sending you love via the interwebz. You are an amazing and strong woman, I truly admire you.
((manyHUGS))
eco aka Dr.BeepersWife
TW, although we have never meet in real life, I consider you one of my e-friends and I wept for you when I heard the horrible news.
You are such a strong, kind, and wonderful woman. I will continue to keep you and your husband in my prayers. I pray that you will find comfort during this difficult time, I pray that you will find strength in the words of the people who love you, and I pray that you will find peace.
With love and prayers,
Joani
My Awesome Craft Blog
My other blog
"Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy"
every time i close my eyes i see your family. i have been praying and i will continue to pray for your beautiful children and that you and your husband will find peace. i have never had a reation this strong to anything ive seen on these boards. i was crying all of last night and i cry today for your loss. there will never be anything we can say to take away the pain just know that you, your husband and your two beautiful angels are loved. they will never be forgotten. they will always be loved
Dear TW and beautiful Family,
I am so very sorry you have endured such painful experiences the past years. I can say I feel your pain and understand how you feel but a m/c just over 5 weeks is not the same as what you have been through. I wish there were words that would help you feel comfort, but I know soon enough you will become numb to the simple words "I'm sorry". So for now I will just give you e-hugs and kisses and hope that you get comfort from the many of us who cannot physically hug you but would love to jump on next flight to.
Your little angels will never ever be forgotten. I hope you will be able to sleep and get rest and not worry about them as they are together now and will be playing on the clouds of heaven together. They will be holding hands, taking care of one another while looking after you and your husband! If there is ever anything we can do for you, please be sure to let us know.
Asherwest and Family
TW,
I thought about posting the lyrics to a song I like, but it's just going to make both of us cry, so I decided to skip it.
When Katie died, I watched you go through your pain with grace and strength that I could hardly imagine ever having. Then when Jillian died, you were my biggest supporter. I really do not know where I would be without you. Pretty much the only benefit to losing Jilly was that it brought us closer together, and I'll treasure your friendship for the rest of my life.
Now that you have lost your sweet, beautiful Matthew, I'm at a loss for words. I don't know what to do or what to say. I keep saying how much I love you and I'm thinking of you and I'm amazed by your strength, and while I mean every single word of it, it feels so trite. I keep reminding myself, though, that those same words are what got me through my own loss.
I wish I could fix everything for you. I know that I can't, but it doesn't make it any less frustrating. I can't imagine the pain you are feeling, but I would take it from you if I could. I know you'll get through it because you're the strongest person I know, but I hate that you have to and I wish I could make it easier for you.
Up until your cervix joke a little bit ago, the only thing that had made me smile since yesterday was thinking of Jillian and Katie together, sitting in a bright, sunny field, filled with butterflies and flowers, welcoming Matthew into their world, and teaching him how to say "fvck" right off the bat.
I love you more than I can ever say.
I am just getting caught up on all of this.
Tim'sWifey, I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious angel, Matthew. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. May your heart find peace and comfort.
"For some moments in life there are no words." ~David Seltzer
"sometimes miracles arriveso tiny that we cannot feel
the weight of them ?
and yet we are still changed,
and we are blessed none the less?"
TW, I am so proud to know you and call you a friend. I know there is little anyone can do to ease your pain, and though I know you know how much you are loved, I wish there was more to be done. It breaks my heart for you that Katie and Matthew are not with you and Tim, in your arms. I know they are together and can't wait to tell you how much they love you.
Here is the refrain from W.B. Yeats' "The Stolen Child."
"Come away, O human child!
To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
For the world's more full of weeping than you can understand."
I think the poem is beautiful...about children that the faeries of legend so desire that they whisk them away from the world to live with them.
You can read the full version Here. For an exceptionally beautiful version set to music you can go Here.
I want to wrap you in a huge hug. All my love to you and your beautiful family.
Dear TW,
I am sick in my heart for what you are going through. I wish that I could turn back the clocks and make everything alright. When I pray, I beg God to let you and Tim have an easier path in life and that you get all the happiness that you so completely deserve. We don't know each other IRL, but I ache for your losses like they are my own. I know that there is nothing to be said or done that will help you to heal, but I hope this helps... There is a group of wonderful women scattered all over this world pulling and praying for you. Somehow, I pray this gives you a small bit of comfort.
All my love and endless support
Chatham
"I love glitterfarts and pregnant unicorns." ~ Tim'sWifey
"Pregnancy is a beautiful thing, a natural thing, and how dare you degrade it with your yuppie wanna be rapper and his rhymes." ~ Melaneigh
"Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, and half shut afterwards." Benjamin Franklin
These are some lyrics from Natalie Grant's song "Held" that have been in my head all day:
Two months is too little
They let him go
They had no sudden healing
To think that providence
Would take a child from his mother
While she prays, is appalling
Who told us we'd be rescued
What has changed and
Why should we be saved from nightmares
Were asking why this happens to us
Who have died to live, it's unfair
This is what it means to be held
How it feels, when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive
This is what it is to be loved and to know
That the promise was that when everything fell
We'd be held
It's so hard to understand why something like this would happen. The truth is, it should never happen. But it does and for it to happen to someone as wonderful as TW twice is just unfathomable. When I pray, I don't ask God to tell me why this happened. I ask instead that he humbly make me an instrument of His peace to you TW so that we can hold you and get you through this.
The other thought I had last night was about Katie and Matthew. As you were letting Matthew go, Katie was welcoming her little brother home. I imagine that they embraced and then had a long conversation about Mommy and Daddy and what a warm, safe, place you made for them and the wonderful sound of your voice and smell of your skin. I would think that that is what Heaven is like for them 24/7.
I know that you'll miss them but I also know how strong you are and that you WILL get through this. Words cannot express the admiration and respect I have for you.
Lots of love to you and to Tim and know that we're always here for you.
The Magic of a Mother's Touch
There's magic in a Mother's touch,
and sunshine in her smile.
There's love in everything she does
to make our lives worthwhile.
We can find both hope and courage
Just by looking in her eyes.
Her laughter is a source of joy,
her works are warm and wise.
There is a kindness and compassion
to be found in her embrace,
and we see the light of heaven
shining from a Mother's face
TW, your precious little angels are so blessed to have you as their mother. I am so amazed at your strength. I will continue to keep you and your beautiful family in my thoughts and prayers.
Love and hugs to you and your family TW.
gone, but never forgotten
"For some moments in life, there are no words".
That's from Willy Wonka. Which is kind of random. But I keep seeing over and over again, people saying that they wish there was more they could say. I've said it myself.
But I don't think that the lack of words is a bad thing. It provides some space for things that are bigger than any word in this world.
Space for peace. For unity. For honor. For faith.
Space for love.
I love you. And there really are no words. And that's okay.
"All men have stars, but they are not the same things for different people. For some, who are travelers, the stars are guides. For others they are no more than little lights in the sky. For others, who are scholars, they are problems... But all these stars are silent. You-You alone will have stars as no one else has them... In one of the stars I shall be living. In one of them I shall be laughing. And so it will be as if all the stars will be laughing when you look at the sky at night..You, only you, will have stars that can laugh! And when your sorrow is comforted (time soothes all sorrows) you will be content that you have known me... You will always be my friend. You will want to laugh with me. And you will sometimes open your window, so, for that pleasure... It will be as if, in place of the stars, I had given you a great number of little bells that knew how to laugh"
? The Little Prince Antoine de Saint-Exup?ry
I hope one day you will be able to look at the stars and laugh, while your beautiful angels laugh and twinkle with you.
TW, i'm so very, very sorry. your family is in my thoughts & prayers.
Matthew 5:4
look at the birds | bless this food
As I have said before I wish there was somethign I could do for you and your family. I wish nothing but the best for you all. I cant inagine your pain right now. If I could I would be the shoulder for you to cry on and I would hug you and never let go. I would listen to everything you have to say and not say anything but just be there for you.
You are such an amazing person and the strangth you have is so inspiring to me. Stay strong.
Matthew, Your sister Katie will show you around and help you with everything. You are one lcky little boy to have a sister like her and the mom and dad you have. Your mom and day will need you by there side to help then get through some times ahead. I know you will be there for them as well as Katie.
You both will be forever love mover forgotten and always missed.
TW & Tim I love you.
sit with me for awhile.
How I long to hold your hand,
And see your tender smile.
Tiny Angel, look at me,
I want this image clear....
That I will forget your precious face
Is my biggest fear.
Tiny Angel can you tell me,
Why you have gone away?
You weren't here for very long....
Why is it, you couldn't stay?
Tiny Angel shook his head,
"These things I do not know....
But I do know that you love me,
And that I love you so".
Author Unknown
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I don?t know that I?ve ever really believed in God, or a Higher Being. Perhaps it is only that I lack vision and trust in the face of life?s cruelty. That others remain faithful is a tribute to the strength of their convictions, and for them I hold tremendous respect.
Concerning one thing, I have no doubt: there IS a Heaven. Heaven is in each of us, in our heart, inside our minds. All of our loved ones are there, together, happy. It is through our love, and their love for us, that Heaven exists.
We would prefer to have our children, our parents, our spouses in our arms, in our lives, forever able to reach out and embrace them. This is not always to be. Our voyage in this life will have us visit heartache, grief, loss, time and time again. It will also have us visit joy, contentment, and peace.
When we hurt, we can find serenity and know security, that our Loved Ones are always with us. They are safe from the hurts of this world. They are protected by the strength of our Love, and in return we are protected by them.
sjl
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DH, DD and I are sending you, Tim, and your beautiful children Katie and Matthew, all our love.
Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound,
That saved a wretch like me....
I once was lost but now am found,
Was blind, but now, I see.
T'was Grace that taught...
my heart to fear.
And Grace, my fears relieved.
How precious did that Grace appear...
the hour I first believed.
Through many dangers, toils and snares...
we have already come.
T'was Grace that brought us safe thus far...
and Grace will lead us home.
The Lord has promised good to me...
His word my hope secures.
He will my shield and portion be...
as long as life endures.
Yea, when this flesh and heart shall fail,
and mortal life shall cease,
I shall possess within the veil,
a life of joy and peace.
When we've been here ten thousand years...
bright shining as the sun.
We've no less days to sing God's praise...
then when we've first begun.
Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound,
That saved a wretch like me....
I once was lost but now am found,
Was blind, but now, I see.
My most darling Susan,
You are, undoubtedly, one of the truest friends I have ever know. I would be lost in this state without you. You alone are what makes CA a home to me. You make me feel at ease and at peace in a chaotic world. I don't know who I'd be or WHERE I'd be without you as a constant support in my daily life.
I have quickly moved to the anger phase of grief, and am trying very hard to ignore the rage building within me. I want nothing more on this earth than to give you every bit of happiness that you so richly deserve. You mean so much to so many, and we are so lucky to have you.
You have heard these words a million times from me. In many forms, in cards, emails, FB messages, in person. I will never stop saying how important you are, how special you are, and how much you mean to me. I will never stop fighting for your happiness, and I will always be around to drive to you in the middle of the night if that's what it takes. Katie Jane and Matthew Finley are two people that I am lucky to have in my life. I am so thankful, in fact, to share even in a miniscule amount of their unending love. I know that they are together, holding hands, looking down on you. I am hoping that Coach Ed will show Matthew how to shoot a basketball, and that they are united evne if for a moment by the love I share for all of them. He will show Matthew how to shoot, but he will guide Katie to be a leader. I know she knows little guidance, but I take comfort in knowing this.
I leave you with my favorite quote. You know that it is my favorite. I want so desperately to believe in its truth today.
Frodo: I can't do this, Sam.
Sam: I know. It's all wrong. By rights we shouldn't even be here. But we are. It's like in the great stories, Mr. Frodo. The ones that really mattered. Full of darkness and danger, they were. And sometimes you didn't want to know the end. Because how could the end be happy? How could the world go back to the way it was when so much bad had happened? But in the end, it's only a passing thing, this shadow. Even darkness must pass. A new day will come. And when the sun shines it will shine out the clearer. Those were the stories that stayed with you. That meant something, even if you were too small to understand why. But I think, Mr. Frodo, I do understand. I know now. Folk in those stories had lots of chances of turning back, only they didn't. They kept going. Because they were holding on to something.
Frodo: What are we holding onto, Sam?
Sam: That there's some good in this world, Mr. Frodo... and it's worth fighting for.
Katie and Matthew define that good. They will keep me strong, because their love is worth fighting for.
I love you more than those words could ever meagerly express.
:lights candle:
Words cannot express how deeply sorry I am for your loss. I hope that you find comfort and peace in the coming months. You are an amazing, beautiful, caring and kind woman. You are and will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
We go through life so often
Not stopping to enjoy the day,
And we take each one for granted
As we travel on our way.
We never stop to measure
Anything we just might miss,
But if the wind should blow by softly
You'll feel an angel's kiss.
A kiss that is sent from Heaven
A kiss from up above,
A kiss that is very special
From someone that you love.
For in your pain and sorrow
An angel's kiss will help you through,
This kiss is very private
For it is meant for only you.
So when your hearts are heavy
And filled with tears and pain,
And no one can console you
Remember once again.....
About the ones you grieve for
Because you sadly miss
And the gentle breeze you took for granted
Was just......... "an angel's kiss."
~Unknown author (found online)
My BFP Chart~
I am one who never has the right words to say. However, what I can do, is tell you how sorry I am, and give you a hug. Sometimes life just isn't fair.
You are so strong. You have two beautiful babies that look down on their mommy and daddy every day, smiling.
"You may be gone, but you're never over." -Eminem
Steady As We Go by Dave Matthews Band
I walk half way around the world,
Just to sit down by your side.
And I would do most anything girl,
To be the apple of your eye.
Troubles they may come and go,
But good times they are the gold.
And if this road gets rocky girl,
Just steady as we go.
Any place you wanna go,
Know I'll be next to you.
If it's treasure baby you're looking for,
I'll search the whole world through.
Know troubles they may come and go,
But good times they're the gold.
So if the road gets rocky girl,
Just steady as we go.
When the storm comes,
You shelter me.
And I don't say a word,
And you know exactly what I mean.
In the darkest times,
You shine on me.
You set me free.
And keep me steady as we go.
So if your heart rings dry my love,
I will fill your cup.
And if your load gets heavy girl,
I will lift you up.
Troubles they may come and go,
But good times be the gold.
So if this road gets rocky girl,
Just steady as we go.
*I am not your rolling wheels
I am the highway
I am not your carpet ride
I am the sky
I am not your blowing wind
I am the sky here
I am not your automn moon
I am the night
*
TW, no words will remove the pain you are feeling, so all I can really say is I am so deeply, deeply sorry for your loss. I pray that you can find peace. I pray for Baby Matthew. I know all the BOTB babies are holding him in their arms and taking care of him.
TW,
You are by far one of the strongest women I have come to "know."
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
You amaze me TW.
My deepest sympathies for Katie and Matthew.
Sometimes love lasts a moment
Sometimes love lasts a lifetime
Sometimes a moment is a lifetime.
-author unknown.