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Wall of Support for Tim'sWifey
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Re: Wall of Support for Tim'sWifey
I know you don't know me, but I just wanted to tell you how deeply sorry I am for your loss! I can't even imagine how heartbroken you must be.
Sending you and your DH all my thoughts, prayers, and strength to help you through this difficult time!
Proud Mama of 3 beautiful daughters and 1 amazing son - ages 8, 5, 3, and 1
1st m/c - 1/12/07 at 5 weeks 50 mg Clomid - BFP 8/22/09, 2nd m/c - 8/24/09 at 5 weeks 50 mg Clomid - BFP!!!! 11/16/09 EDD: 7/29/10
TEAGAN ELIZABETH BORN JULY 14, 2010! 6 LBS 13 OZ AND 20 INCHES!
50 mg Clomid - BFP!! 8/3/12, EDD: 4/14/13 Beta #1 at 11 DPO - 24. Spotting like crazy, OB thinks m/c #3 is imminent. Beta #2 at 21 DPO - 1,899!! u/s at 5 weeks 2 days showed a gestational sac measuring right on track! WOOHOO! PLEASE STICK, MY LITTLE MIRACLE!
3/28/13 - HAPPY BIRTHDAY GRAYSON JOSEPH! born at 37 weeks 4 days, 7 lbs 13.8 oz and 20 inches!
Sweet dreams, little man
Oh my love will fly to you each night on angels wings
Godspeed
Sweet dreams"
"There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief? and unspeakable love." ~ Washington Irving
"How quietly he tiptoed into our world. Softly, only a moment he stayed, but what an imprint his footprints have left upon our hearts." ~ Unknown
Love you more than words can say. All our love and prayers to TW, her dh, Katie and Matthew. ~from The S family
I will see you in the light of a thousand suns
I will hear you in the sound of the waves
I will know you when I come, as we all will come
Through the doors beyond the grave
-Beth Nielson Chapman, Sand and Water
----
Selah, I Will Carry You
TW,
The sheer number of people who've written in this post and the number of lurkers who have come forward to show their support of you speaks volumes.
It doesn't take much to see how wonderful you are. You are always there to offer support, to lend an ear, to crack a joke. Your strength and grace are easily apparent. You are a rare and special person and the way you care about others radiates through your smile and your words.
I am not a religious person and I tend to belive that what lies outside and beyond this world is something that is too vast for mere mortals to comprehend. I know though, without a doubt that Katie and Matthew are somewhere, together. They are so lucky to have you for their mother, and all of us on BOTB are lucky to have you as a friend.
Tonight I will be lighting candles for you and your family. May you find peace in this time of overwhelming sadness.
Love,
Angie
Abraham Arthur 2/21/10 // Asher Kendall 11/11/11
TW,
I know you don't know me (I'm a lurker), but I still wanted to post something. I cannot even begin to imagine what you and your husband are going through.
The following lyrics are from a song that has comforted my soul and heart in the past. The entire song doesn't quite fit, but I will include some lines:
"When you get up in the morning and you see that crazy sun
Keep me in your heart for while...
Sometimes when you're doing simple things around the house
Maybe you'll think of me and smile...
You know I'm tied to you like the buttons on your blouse
Keep me in your heart for while
Hold me in your thoughts, take me to your dreams
Touch me as I fall into view
When the winter comes keep the fires lit
And I will be right next to you"
Keep Me In Your Heart by Warren Zevon
I have never met you, your husband, your amazing and incredible children....but I will forever carry you all in my heart. May you find peace and comfort.
My heart is broken for you. You will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers...
"Rest your head close to my heart
Never to part, baby of mine"
I honestly don't know what to say, and I seriously just want to scoop you up into a huge hug.
For now I'll just say that I'm so sorry, and I can't imagine the pain and heartache you and your family are feeling. I know that your special angels are watching over you always and if you ever need anything, please give me a call. I love you girl.
And I'll leave you with this:
Let's try this again...
I listen to KLOVE in the car, on my way to work one morning after I heard you were in the hospital, this song came on and all I could think of was you. I think it was placed on my heart for a reason. I have been praying for you a lot the past couple days, and will continue to. I hope this song helps.
It's Josh Wilson "Before the Morning"
Do you wonder why you have to
Feel the things that hurt you
If there's a God who loves you
Where is He now
Maybe there are things you can't see
And all those things are happening
To bring a better ending
Someday somehow you'll see you'll see
Would you dare would you dare to believe
That you still have a reason to sing
Cause the pain that you've been feeling
It can?t compare to the joy that?s coming
So hold on you gotta wait for the light
Press on and just fight the good fight
Cause the pain that you?ve been feeling
It?s just the dark before the morning
My friend you know how this all ends
And You know where you?re going
You just don?t know how you?ll get there
So say a prayer
And hold on cause there?s good for those who love God
But life is not a snapshot
It might take a little time but you?ll see the bigger picture
Would you dare would you dare to believe
That you still have a reason to sing
Cause the pain that you've been feeling
It can?t compare to the joy that?s coming
So hold on you gotta wait for the light
Press on and just fight the good fight
Cause the pain that you?ve been feeling
It?s just the dark before the morning
Once you feel the weight of glory
All your pain will fade to memory
Once you feel the weight of glory
All your pain will fade to memory, memory, memory
Would you dare would you dare to believe
That you still got a reason to sing
Cause the pain that you've been feeling
It can?t compare to the joy that?s coming
Would you dare would you dare to believe
That you still got a reason to sing
Cause the pain that you've been feeling
It can?t compare to the joy that?s coming
Come on you've gotta wait for the light
Press on and just fight the good fight
Cause the pain that you?ve been feeling
It?s just the hurt before the healing
Oh the pain that you?ve been feeling
It?s just the dark before the morning
Before the morning
TW, know that your sweet Matthew (and Katie) are truly living up there in Heaven. They will watch over you and love you as they would here on Earth.
I'm so sorry for your losses. You are a strong woman, and I truly admire you.
Beloved One by Ben Harper:
Your eyes shine through me
You are so divine to me
Your heart has a home in mine
We won't have to say a word
With a touch all shall be heard
When I search my hearth it's you I find
My beloved one
My beloved one
My beloved one
You were meant for me
I believe you were sent to me
From a dream straight into my arms
Hold your body and close to me
You mean most to me
We will keep each other safe from harm
My beloved one
My beloved one
My beloved one
My beloved one
TW,
I really don't want to say the wrong thing here. I don't know if you are religious in any way, but I just want to share a scripture that I have found comforting in my own loss.
The righteous perish, and no one ponders it in his heart; devout men are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil. Isaiah 57:1
I am not a regular on this board, but I do lurk and have posted a few times. I followed your story, and although I don't know you, I am truly heartbroken. You and your LO, Matthew, touched my soul. I shall never forget it. I can only hope and pray that you find peace. I have no other words, except, I'm sorry.
TW,
There are no words to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. You, your husband, and two angels have been in my prayers and will continue to be.
~Mrs W
TW and family:
When you need strength, we are strong for you.
When you need to weep, we have broad shoulders and tissues.
When you need to yell, we have ears.
When you need to be alone, we are waiting quietly in the background.
What you need, we will provide to the best of our ability.
We LOVE you. We would do anything to take this away from you.
"If I was given a dollar for every time you were in my thoughts, I'd only have one - because you never left them." - Anonymous
Smugmug
TW - every time I go to write words in this post, I can't seem to come up with any that I think would be fitting. The truth is, there are no words that I can put here that will take away your pain. I wish there were.
You are amazing. So much love to you.
A candle to honor both Katie & Matthew.
I know this is super late, and I hate that I'm just now getting to post this, but I know you know why...
I cannot add anything that others haven't already posted. I'm still in shock & angry, lost for words--still. I just cannot fathom this happening to you, TW, twice. You are a strong woman. The epitome. I have never met anyone like you (and even though we haven't "met," I still consider myself so lucky that you are my friend ). I just never thought you could have suffered like this. You have been such a support for me during my losses this year. I felt so stupid complaining about anything after my losses & secondary IF problems because it was so trivial compared to your experiences. After all, I was lucky once. A fluke, really. Through it all, you always reassured me that you would be there to listen, and you know that I am always here to support you, too.
I wish so many things were different, but most important, I wish I lived near you. I do this for a living. I see the good & bad. So many people say that I must have an awesome job, but I always have to say "most of the time," because I think of you, others on here, and so many patients I have had that have not been able to take home babies. It is a bipolar profession.
I read through the wall, and all the poems, quotes, and song lyrics. Most of them are things I would have chosen to share with you, too, so I won't repeat them.
Just know that you have been in my constant T&Ps since Katie's passing. I have been crying rivers since Matthew's passing. I love you more than you know. ((hugs))
Trevor Calvin 12.10.07 7:26pm 7lbs2.5oz 19.75in
Emerson Claire 07.07.11 11:34am 7lbs7oz 20.5 in
A growing leaf, green in color, has fallen prematurely. It has separated from the tree of life and landed in a pool of water, of many tears. It is a dark moment. A human tear lingers on the freshly fallen leaf... before it turns brown.
Fallen.
Drifting aimlessly
on a sea of grief and pain
the leaf cradles a teardrop.
Offers refuge.
Embodies hope.
Just as winter awakens to spring,
our deepest sorrow harbors the seed of hope renewed.
Hope renewed.
by Susan Ring.
I'm posting here really late because I don't know what to say.
But you and your family have been, and will continue to be, in my thoughts and prayers.
TW and Tim:
I am so, so sorry for your loss. There aren't words adequate enough to convey my sympathy. My heart is broken for you, though I know my pain pales in comparison to your own. Even so, if I could relieve you of your pain for even a moment, I would do it in a heartbeat.
Matthew and Katie are so lucky to have you as parents. Your love and strength are incredible to see.
They may be gone, but they will not be forgotten. Your babies are loved all the world over, and have touched so many lives. They remind us to never take anything for granted, to always love with all of our hearts, and to dance in the rain because life is too short to stay under the umbrella.
Fly fast and fly free, sweet angels.
Native American PrayerI give you this one thought to keep -I am with you still - I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the sweet uplifting rush,
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft starts that shine at night.
Do not think of me as gone - I am with you still in each new dawn.
I apologize in advance for this message being sent so late, but I was debating all day whether or not it would be appropriate for me to do so. Then, I eventually realized that offering support and condolences in a time of tragedy could never be inappropriate.
I'm a long time lurker, and was pulling for you this entire pregnancy. I cheered when you announced your BFP, I put my game face on when you were admitted to the hospital. And I sobbed when you lost Matthew.
I'm sorry seems so pitifully inadequate, but I am. I am terribly, deeply sorry. I wanted to share this image I found because it most accurately represents what I see when I think of your sweet Katie Jane and Matthew Finley - together. I picture them together.
"Your life was a blessing, your memory a treasure. You are loved beyond words, and missed beyond measure."