Has anyone had a root canal while pregnant? I am genetically predisposed to horrible teeth and have had one root canal before, but I was given nitrous oxide. As far as I know, I can’t have that while pregnant (and not in labor) but I’m in so much pain right now that it’s keeping me up at night. Is it going to be terrible to have it done without the gas?
@hitcj4687 I cannot tell you the number of times I've wanted to just not have to let Jasper go over there anymore... I could list a thousand reasons why his dad is flaky and inconsistent to the detriment of our child, and generally has poor decision making skills. The thing I'm worried about is that we set a boundary months back saying that we don't let J use YouTube at our house and don't want him having access to it at his house either, because he ends up watching minecraft YouTubers that teach him terrible things that have been incredibly difficult to back up from even an inch. His dad said, oh absolutely totally agree. No problem. But J has admitted to us (unprompted) multiple times since that he definitely watches YouTube at his dad's. And the last few weeks/months he's very suddenly alllll about dad and soo excited to visit him every weekend, when for the last 5 years of his life it was like pulling teeth to get him to go to his dad's for less than 48 hours. I was already pretty sure it was because his dad lacks appropriate boundaries, and after some comments J made Friday night and then discovering that he spent nearly 10 hours playing video games out of 36, I'm now certain. I know this is a huge pity party for me, but it's so frustrating and heartbreaking to have worked so hard for the last 6 years to give Jasper everything he has and his dad swoops in as the "fun" but irresponsible parent and I'd be the asshole (in J's eyes) if that changed. Gah!! Literally everything I've ever done in my life was for that boy 🥺
@kalesix3 that sounds like such a nightmare! 😵💫 and I'm sure there's no "well don't expect to stay WITH us in our home while visiting"? I can't imagine someone I DID like inviting themselves into a situation without asking or being asked. I'm sorry, I know this is the exact opposite of anything you wanted for your move.
@kalesix3 that's terrible news! I really hope you can have them stay somewhere else and not in your home. That's just uncalled for all around!
@thescarletmom I totally get it! Reeses bio dad doesn't call, doesn't text to ask about him, just sees him one hour a month and then shows up with a 50 dollar pack of pokemon cards and then reese goes on and on about "how nice he is and how cool he is" and it makes me uncontrollably angry because what about how cool and nice I am when I bought the same effing box of pokemon cards two weeks ago....??? I hate it. But I have to sit silently and know that as he grows up he will see I was consistent and stable and there whenever he needed me and showed up every time, and his father didn't and won't. It's so hard to sit by and watch. I'm so sorry and I really hope you can figure out a way to get his father on the same page as you.
@hitcj4687 omg it's the worst. So with Jasper's switch, we already had a "family" one before. So we had switch games already and all that stuff. We've been clear that the "family" games stay home, while the ones that were gifted specifically to him are welcome to go to his dad's the same as his other belongings. He has begged us for weeks to let one of the family games go to his dad's and we've said no (we've bought him THREE winter coats this season because his dad lost his *twice* while he was there for the weekend, so no, the $60 game that DH plays frequently is not going). Well now instead, he just asks us to buy him a second copy to be his so he can take it to his dad's. But he doesn't ask his dad to buy it for him?? And it makes me feel like we're the bad guys in this situation to him. I agree, I know when our boys grow up they'll both be able to look back and see the bigger picture. So for now I sit back, I bite my tongue, I give him the stable life and home he deserves where we don't move around every 6 months, he goes to a great school district, he gets to do activities and go to school book fairs, and I let him think the world of his dad (who loves him, but just isn't a dependable parent). But damn is it really hard sometimes. Especially when Christmas fell on his dad's day with him this past year 🥺
@bridgettetheboxer nitrous oxide is what a lot of birth centers/hospitals offer for labor management instead of an epidural so I know it's safe for labor at least but I've never heard of using it during pregnancy. My particular dentist won't do root canals on pregnant patients but it's not because of nitrous oxide, it's because of all the X-rays and stress they told me. I'm sorry I don't know more!
@thescarletmom and @hitcj4687 wow reading your situations I'm horrified for you both going through that, being the responsible parent and getting zero recognition for it from young children just sounds heartbreaking. I'm sorry. 😔
@kalesix3 T-minus 26 hours til my scan! I *finally* had a dream last night about the baby and it totally stressed me out. I dreamed I had gone to my anatomy scan and found out it was twin girls, one was healthy and growing but one of them had died weeks ago 🥺 it was so intense and stressful and I woke up panicked. This is my first dream about the sex of the baby... so I guess I think it's a girl? It makes me feel so much less confident that it took this long, but if this baby's a girl I'm 3 for 3.
@thescarletmom oh no, I'm so sorry, darn dreams showing up at the last minute and then being so incredibly stressful and awful. I'm sorry. I know for myself in the past even the most stressful dreams had the gender right, but this time I had that one boy dream early on where it wasn't so much that I saw the baby was a boy but that when my baby arrived everyone in the room sighed with disappointment and I felt like such a failure because it was "another boy". Which was completely unrealistic because it was about the midwife who delivered my son and she would never care what gender anyone has. It just threw me for a loop though because it was my only boy dream, and it was completely unrealistic and then since that one I've had exclusively girl dreams, I hope it's the same for you, it's just a one off weird anxiety situation. Virtual hugs! Tomorrow is the day!!
On another note I feel sorry for this little baby, my son didn't get startled in utero much because it was just my partner and I and we were just chilling in the pandemic but my son startles and freaks this baby out so freaking often now that they can hear sounds. 🤦🏻♀️ I feel so bad, they're such a gentle little soul and extremely chill and then my son barrels in like a wrecking ball and the baby jumps and kicks really hard and then gets hiccups afterwards. 😢
@kalesix3 oof, it's so tough trying to piece these things together. My dream was not super realistic? Like the portrayal of the ultrasound screen was absolutely bonkers and looked so goofy (now that I'm awake and know it's not real haha). The rest of the appointment was more or less realistic but that aspect was totally weird, and the fact the sonographer seemed completely unphased that one of the babies was dead. But it's the only one I've got! And with the boys I just never dreamed they were girls, realistic or otherwise, it was always that they were boys in my dreams while pregnant. So this feels definitive? I don't know. The subconscious is a strange place, and I guess it wouldn't be surprising if I wasn't right every time.
@thescarletmom ugh I feel you, that's so hard. I feel like this time with intuition and dreams is so different from what both of us have experienced in the past and that's okay too, there's so many more factors in the mix this time, family stress, feeling intuition swayed from anxiety etc. I still think boy for you but even I'm like but the dream! So I can imagine how conflicted you feel, especially with a lost twin dream 😥 I'm glad you only have a day to wait. @hitcj4687 I'm also really curious what you think?
@kalesix3 aw baby! I've noticed this baby gets startled recently too, whether it's loud noises from the boys or DS2 jumping on the couch next to me, etc. It's funny and sad at the same time. This baby is way more laid back than the boys were too, less active/rolls more than kicks!
There's still a decent part of me that feels conflicted and thinks boy even with my dream... I'm going to stick with girl for my "final guess" before finding out just for the sake of following my dream pattern, but I'm not super convinced. I think I will be surprised either way! I have an eye appointment I'm leaving for in a few minutes and am glad to have something to hold my attention today (new glasses) and not just thinking about my anatomy scan!
@thescarletmom after the last time I told you I felt like it was still a boy, I started doubting myself and getting stronger girl vibes. I feel like I'm super split for you right now. Lol I was really strongly feeling boy for you, and since last week started feeling more like "team girl" and now that I just read this I'm wondering if I feel more girl than boy. I'd say I'm 60/40 boy/girl. So I think I still lean boy, but when we find out tomorrow I'm gonna be like "yeah I figured as much" lmfao. It's such a 50/50 guess but I'm kind of torn now! @kalesix3 I'm pretty strong girl leaning for you!! Maybe I'll change my mind closer to the end but right now I lean girl.
@hitcj4687 seee I'm so conflicted! And nobody else around me feels confident in one or the other 😂 I can't wait to finally drop the bomb on y'all tomorrow as to what the baby is haha.
@thescarletmom I've flip flopped so much on what I think you're having but when we were first getting to know each other on the boards I thought we were both having boys and then I switched to feeling like my baby was a girl and yours was a boy and now I don't even know what to think. I'm half and half on whether to believe your intuition or the dream. I think my final guess is boy though, I will say though I strongly think my friend is having a boy but she said the anatomy scan said girl. She only gets one ultrasound a pregnancy though and she went at 18 weeks so I was like... Maybe the scan is wrong?!? lol. Idk my intuition is most likely broken with that in mind 😅 she's always been right for me though and she says girl same as @hitcj4687. I think the conversation about family members maybe adding some extra stress in has messed up my own thoughts so badly haha, I feel like I can't tell if it's sympathy guesses at this point, it's so weird for me! Yay for new glasses to keep your mind busy though, that's an amazing idea!
@kalesix3 I feel like I change my mind at least once a day on what I'm having or what you're having. I can tell that I leaned more strongly towards boy than I realized before today because waking up, I was in shock that I dreamed it was a girl. Last week I was leaning girl for you, this week I lean boy! I will change my mind 1000 times before you give birth 😂 I also know for a fact I will be at least a hair suspicious of them saying it's a girl at my scan tomorrow after my experience with DS1 lol. Scans can be wrong!! At this point finding out just feels like a science experiment, how many times can my dreams accurately predict the sex of the baby before it runs out of luck?
@thescarletmom right? Plus Chinese gender charts have to be wrong for me at some point lol. My intuition may change as I get closer but right now I'm %10000 that it's a girl and everyone who knows me says it is too. I called the baby "her" when I was talking to the midwife last week, I didn't mean to, it was completely involuntary but the same thing happened with my son too, all of a sudden one day he was just a he in a conversation and I took myself by surprise. 😅 I really do think it's a boy for you right now, we'll see if I change my mind before tomorrow lol.
@thescarletmom I’m so excited to hear! My anatomy scan still feels so far away.. literally Feb 9th. Since we are using a 3rd party ultrasound tech (he’s very licensed and very knowledgeable, no worries!) the scheduling gets a little hairy sometimes so we have to wait an extra week.
I’m slightly envious of y’all feeling your babies move and jump. I’m 19 weeks with my third and still hardly feeling anything! It’s weirding me out so much, I felt movement super early last time around. I keep checking in with the Doppler so I know we are okay there, so it’s just a little crazy to me that I’m still not feeling much.
@bridgettetheboxer I was totally going through the same thing! This is my third and at 19 weeks I was only feeling super sporadic movement and was definitely feeling movement earlier with my previous pregnancies - it was really stressing me out. But then at like 20+2 I started feeling movement like all throughout the day! It's so comforting. Just give it a little more time 💕
@thescarletmom Definitely sending positive vibes for your anatomy scan tomorrow! I'm also having mine tomorrow afternoon and am really nervous, feeling a bit better since I can feel so much more movement. But just really wanting the extra reassurance from a positive outcome
@bridgettetheboxer mine isn't until February 10th!! So I feel you! Although I do know the gender though. I feel like little man's movement is still very very subtle though I do feel him. I cannot feel him on the outside yet and I can't wait until I can!
@bridgettetheboxer if it makes you feel any better, I'm 20w with my third yesterday and I'm only just in the last two-ish weeks feeling the baby move more! Before that i would go multiple days in between feeling one or two barely-there movements. It was a very sudden uptick when the baby started moving way more often too! I'm sure you're just also in the camp @kalesix3 and I are where these third babies are just sooo chill in there.
Also same re: third party (well trained) ultrasound clinic! They wouldn't let me schedule for a single day before 20w but thankfully I scheduled back in early December so I was able to get a time close to that mark.
@sunny_native14 🤞 we both have a great scan today and baby looks healthy!
Yes definitely echoing @thescarletmom this baby's movement really started picking up in frequency and strength around 18 weeks and it has a lot more personality to it with jumping, hiccups etc a few weeks later but this babe is so extremely chill and just unbothered like my first baby was. I hope your babies start really grooving soon because it's such a relief. Also placenta position matters so much at this stage. @thescarletmom and @sunny_native14 good luck at your scans today! Sending you both so many good vibes.
@hitcj4687 I'm still in shock that my dreams have so accurately predicted the baby's sex! Literally feels so crazy 😂 but over the moon to see a healthy little babe and her little hands and feet. Feels funny to not be a boy mom anymore though.
@thescarletmom maaaaan 😂😂😂 I almost said girl, but then I was like no be consistent, it's 50/50 just go with boy and I should have listened to my other half intuition lol. Your dream was right!! As crazy and bizarre as it was! Now I'm going to be side eying that one boy dream I had and think about if I'm wrong haha. Congratulations though, baby Violet 😭
@kalesix3 I felt so certain this was gonna be the time my dream was finally wrong! They looked at the sex organs last so it wasn't until the end and I spent the whole time going back and forth in my head. But thinking about it, I think my dreams are the only time my true "intuition" without any pressure from outside thoughts or influences comes in. Baby Violet 🥲
@thescarletmom how are you feeling about it so far? Dreams are crazy accurate for us both and I think it's what you said, just an intuitive thing without outside influences! Also eta that low heartbeat should have been a dead ringer to me lol 😂
Re: January Randoms
@thescarletmom I totally get it! Reeses bio dad doesn't call, doesn't text to ask about him, just sees him one hour a month and then shows up with a 50 dollar pack of pokemon cards and then reese goes on and on about "how nice he is and how cool he is" and it makes me uncontrollably angry because what about how cool and nice I am when I bought the same effing box of pokemon cards two weeks ago....??? I hate it. But I have to sit silently and know that as he grows up he will see I was consistent and stable and there whenever he needed me and showed up every time, and his father didn't and won't. It's so hard to sit by and watch. I'm so sorry and I really hope you can figure out a way to get his father on the same page as you.
@thescarletmom and @hitcj4687 wow reading your situations I'm horrified for you both going through that, being the responsible parent and getting zero recognition for it from young children just sounds heartbreaking. I'm sorry. 😔
I feel like this time with intuition and dreams is so different from what both of us have experienced in the past and that's okay too, there's so many more factors in the mix this time, family stress, feeling intuition swayed from anxiety etc.
I still think boy for you but even I'm like but the dream! So I can imagine how conflicted you feel, especially with a lost twin dream 😥
I'm glad you only have a day to wait.
@hitcj4687 I'm also really curious what you think?
I think my final guess is boy though, I will say though I strongly think my friend is having a boy but she said the anatomy scan said girl. She only gets one ultrasound a pregnancy though and she went at 18 weeks so I was like... Maybe the scan is wrong?!? lol. Idk my intuition is most likely broken with that in mind 😅 she's always been right for me though and she says girl same as @hitcj4687. I think the conversation about family members maybe adding some extra stress in has messed up my own thoughts so badly haha, I feel like I can't tell if it's sympathy guesses at this point, it's so weird for me!
Yay for new glasses to keep your mind busy though, that's an amazing idea!
My intuition may change as I get closer but right now I'm %10000 that it's a girl and everyone who knows me says it is too. I called the baby "her" when I was talking to the midwife last week, I didn't mean to, it was completely involuntary but the same thing happened with my son too, all of a sudden one day he was just a he in a conversation and I took myself by surprise. 😅
I really do think it's a boy for you right now, we'll see if I change my mind before tomorrow lol.
@thescarletmom Definitely sending positive vibes for your anatomy scan tomorrow! I'm also having mine tomorrow afternoon and am really nervous, feeling a bit better since I can feel so much more movement. But just really wanting the extra reassurance from a positive outcome
@thescarletmom and @sunny_native14 good luck at your scans today! Sending you both so many good vibes.
TTC July 2015-November 2015
Baby boy born August 2016
Oops BFP February 2021
MMC March 2021
Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
TTC Since March 2022
MMC June 2022
BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!
TTC July 2015-November 2015
Baby boy born August 2016
Oops BFP February 2021
MMC March 2021
Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
TTC Since March 2022
MMC June 2022
BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!
Congratulations though, baby Violet 😭
Also eta that low heartbeat should have been a dead ringer to me lol 😂
TTC July 2015-November 2015
Baby boy born August 2016
Oops BFP February 2021
MMC March 2021
Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
TTC Since March 2022
MMC June 2022
BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!