June 2023 Moms

The great big question thread


Re: The great big question thread

  • @cassafrass123 aw it's so cute 🥺 can you imagine little twin boys named Thaddeus and Theodore? I'm dying. 
  • I named our first two.. I let my husband choose our 2nd daughter’s middle name. This time I’m giving him the power to choose (from an agreed list) the first name himself. I’m excited to hear his choice!
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  • @kalesix3 malachi is top of my list too!!! But he keeps shooting it down! I don't know why, I love it! I have a VERY small list of boy names, and he keeps pushing a name I really cannot get behind! We will get on board with a name eventually lol
  • @maddmama I love your strategy! Like a controlled list to choose from is genius, I have too much anxiety to go through with it and my SO is too contrary but in theory it would make everything easier! 

    @hitcj4687 right? Isn't it just so cute? Like I could see it on a baby and a grown man really easily, if only our last name was different lol. Will your DH explain what's wrong with it? Is it just too different maybe? Mine pushed heavily for a name I absolutely hated with our son and we did eventually find something else we both loved, so it will happen for you, I'm sure of it! 
  • @kalesix3 neither of us seem to be able to give good reasoning for why we don't like what we don't like lol. It just "doesn't feel right" but he doesn't "hate" it. So maybe I'll still win that name! But don't ask me about a middle name because I'm clueless!!
  • Anyone planning on a COVID booster during this pregnancy?
  • I had my booster and flu shot a few weeks ago- was likely a few days pregnant but didn't know it yet. If I hadn't already been boosted, I would be planning on it.
  • Not planning on the booster. :)
  • I need mine and it's a requirement for my employer, but I'm super hesitant while pregnant, so I'll see how long until my employer requests verification 🙈
  • I have both initial shots but have never gotten a booster.  I don't plan on it now. 
    TTC History:
    Started dating DH 2006 . Married 2015

    TTC July 2015-November 2015
    BFP November 2015
    Baby boy born August 2016

    Oops BFP February 2021
    MMC March 2021

    Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.

    TTC Since March 2022
    MMC June 2022

    BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!

  • I had both initial and a booster. But hadn’t gotten the most recent. My OB recommended it 2nd trimester 
  • @cassafrass123 I'm definitely way more scared of getting covid than the shots but I also had a really bad reaction to the vaccine so I'm definitely anxious about that too. I read that third trimester boosters help give the baby temporary immunity so if my midwife signs off on it I'll try to do that. 
  • @kalesix3 I totally get that! You’ve got to do what’s right for you
  • What does everyone do with ultrasound pictures (from past experience or if you have pictures this time) or what will you do with them in the future if you haven't had a scan yet? I've been temporarily sticking them on the side of our bookcase but I'm dying to do something nicer with them, I just don't know what .. 🤔
  • I have my bivalent booster scheduled for the end of this month. 
  • @kalesix3 I framed the nicest looking one of my first born but its in a box somewhere lol. 
  • @kalesix3 I have picture albums with all the kids’ photo shoots/school pictures/dance pictures/team pictures in them, and I put the ultrasound print-outs in there. I also scan them and add them to a google photos album that I have for each child
  • Aw I love these ideas! Thank you! 
  • Anyone dealt with having the flu in their first trimester? I had my flu shot, so luckily my symptoms are relatively mild so far,  it not being able to take sudafed for the congestion is rough! Also, doctor wanted me on tamiflu, but the first dose last night made me feel really bad with sharp abdominal pain so don’t want to continue it. 
  • @puffling2023 I don't know if it was specifically the flu, but I've gotten several pretty bad colds during previous pregnancies. No decongestants is so miserable for all the sinus pressure and everything! My med-free way of dealing with it was hot showers, or if I didn't have the energy to actually stand in the shower, turning on the hot water to steam up the room and just propping myself up with some pillows and blankets to hang out. Keeping plenty of tissues on hand to blow out all the mucus it breaks loose. Maybe some Tylenol if I was feeling achey or had a headache. I would be freaked out personally if I had sharp abdominal pain after the Tamiflu! 
  • I had it really early on with my first. I’m so sorry you’re going through this because it SUCKS! I found that the traditional sorts of remedies really did help (not as much as cold medicine but enough). I did a lot of saline spray for my nostrils, I gargled hot salt water, and I drank a lot of decaf tea with honey and lemon juice. I like the baby Frida shower steamers to help break up congestion too. Tylenol, of course, for fevers
  • The same here you guys. It’s rough
  • @thescarletmom @cassafrass123 thanks for the recommendations! Hot showers have been helpful and Vick’s vapor rub. The abdominal pain really freaked me out with tamiflu- definitely not worth the possible 1 day of shortened symptoms. 

    @viktraaa sorry you’re going through it as well. Hang in there!
  • I had covid a few weeks ago and I tried to rest ad much as possible and stay very hydrated. Lots of tea and just sticking it out. I did use a heating pad for brief intervals to help with body aches, but was cautious with that. 
  • Is it too early to talk about strollers? I only have a jogging stroller, with the first two kids I just carried them all the time for the first 6 months.

    I definitely want to be able to put this one in a stroller. Is there a benefit of having a regular stroller vs just getting an car seat adaptor for my jogging stroller?
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  • @pttomato no I don't think it's too early! We may do a product spotlight later on to talk about stroller recommendations too but having multiple discussions about something important like baby gear is a great idea and really helpful! 
    I'm not much help though because I'm also wondering what I'm going to do. 
    I have a Joolz with a Clek adapter so I can use my infant car seat with it but it doesn't convert to a double and my son loves the stroller and doesn't want to stop using it so I don't want to force him to walk and take the stroller away from him Soo... Idk. I know there will be times I want both kids in the stroller and times I can babywear and keep my toddler in the stroller. 
    Are there places you can't take a jogging stroller to or a lot of situations I'm your life you feel you'll need a different kind? If you love your jogger and want to save some $$ my vote would be to keep it and get an adapter. Hopefully others can weigh in too! 
  • @pttomato If you like it and it’s good quality and it’s fairly easy to fold up and take places I’d just keep the one you have and get an adapter. Because learning a new stroller is a pain in the butt. We’ve been given a couple different old strollers, one was a jogging one. I ended up hating both and got an umbrella stroller and LOVE IT. That and baby carriers are all I think I want this time around. It’s funny how very different gear works for different people. 
    What feels easiest? 
  • @pttomato I agree that if the one you have is convenient I’d keep it. If you’re not going to use it a lot consider just a frame stroller for the car seat to pop into and then transition to an umbrella stroller. If you’re planning to use your stroller a lot I’ve LOVED my baby jogger city mini (I have a single and a double and love them both). It’s not the most lightweight, but it folds pretty well, has shocks for a smooth ride, adjustable handle height, hand break, and it steers like a dream. I got both of mine on Facebook marketplace for way less than retail.
  • I also have loved the jogger city mini! I even got the platform attachment for my older daughter to stand on and it has worked great! 
  • Does anyone have experience with- what feels to me like- a late anatomy scan? My provider wants me to be past 21 weeks and I won’t be able to get it until I’m at 22 weeks due to scheduling. 
  • @mindfulmomma2022 the facility that's doing my ultrasound won't let me do it so much as a day before 20 weeks, but it's my understanding that 2 weeks on either side of 20 is still pretty normal. The only concern I'm aware of is that once you get to third tri and baby is bigger, the measurements get harder to take. But 20, 22, 24 weeks. No biggie. 
  • @thescarletmom
    You’re amazing at putting my mind at ease. Thank you! 😊
  • @mindfulmomma2022 being a FTM is one big mental gymnastics exercise. What's normal? What's weird but fine? What's so egregious you need to find a new provider? It's hard!! But I think one of the best parts of mom communities/BMBs is that everyone who's done the routine before is happy to share all their experience 🩶
  • @mindfulmomma2022 I know some OB offices will do anatomy scan at 18-21 weeks but my MFM won't do them before 20 weeks and last time I was 22 weeks which I hated. I just want to get it out of the way asap because it's so nerve wracking lol. 
  • edited December 2022
    it really is nice hearing other experiences as I’m going through it for the first time. I’ve been listening to a few different birth story podcasts to help me prepare for that too. I feel like everything I read about the anatomy scan is on the early end saying that I would get it between 18 and 20 and I totally got my hopes up to see this baby again sooner! Lol 

    We opted to not do any early genetic testing- DH finds it hard to choose to do the elective stuff that our insurance won’t cover and I can see his point but I just want to know the gender and know for sure that everything is okay. 

  • @mindfulmomma2022 it's so hard to wait! I felt so much more impatient for each milestone and thing with my first pregnancy (and my first baby). Literally felt like I was pregnant for 1 million years haha. Whereas by this point with no.3 it feels like my pregnancy is flying by every time I blink. But I've been where you are! And totally get just wanting to see them, and know that they're healthy and growing, and be able to start picturing your family with a son or daughter. Definitely wish you didn't have to wait until 22 weeks to get your scan. 
  • @mindfulmomma2022 no I completely understand what you're saying! Even all the ultrasounds I got this time barely diminish my anxiety to just have more confirmation baby is compatible with life or the constant worry that hangs over your head leading up to it! I hope time flies by and you can always call them and see if they will reschedule you any sooner due to a cancellation if they're booked in advance. 
  • Mamas with toddlers: how are y'all managing all of the bending, lifting, and carrying? The pregnancy relaxin is killing my lower back, and my 2yo still requires a lot of lifting!
  • @peyts228 oh man. I’m only 14 weeks and having to hold my back like I’m in the third tri some days! My sciatic has not been kind to me so far this pregnancy. And my GIANT 18 month old loves to be carried lol. 
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