@aukeev I am so sorry for your loss, prayers for you and your family as you grieve, take care of yourself!
@chindimples04 prayers everything is ok! I had a decent amount of blood including red later week 7 into week 8 and I was terrified but all turned out to be fine so far, had great ultrasounds every week with my specialist, and I’m now 10+2 and the bleeding resolved over a week ago 🤷🏻♀️
I started my symptom update in the April Symptoms. I had some pretty significant and consistent bleeding today. OB advised me to wait it out until my 12 week appt tomorrow but we decided to go to the ER. Baby looked good on the US but the bleeding is unexplained. The Dr. said I’m having what’s called a Threatened Miscarriage. The dr was not very reassuring and said it’s likely I may miscarry in the next few days or week. I’ve never heard of this and never experienced anything like it so I feel very emotional and very confused. One minute I feel relief that the baby is okay and the next I feel like I’m waiting to lose the baby. I feel worse after going in to ER. They said the likeliness of the bleeding from the possible UTI would not cause the bleeding I’m having. Has anyone been through this before?
@bcliffee1 I am so so sorry you are going through this- limbo is so hard! ERs can be terrible with early pregnancy and it’s a shame that all hospitals don’t have a pregnancy unit for those that haven’t hit the labor and delivery floor point yet bc I feel like the care would be so much better.
I am not sure how much you are bleeding, but I did bleed with this pregnancy on and off for about a week and it was unexplained and my RE wasn’t even worried about it since baby was perfectly fine on all my ultrasounds (weeks 5, 6, 7, 8 and 9). Mine did go away completely then. I was never soaking pads though. I’d say the most I would have would be the size of two quarters on my panty liner. a few times. But I had all shades of blood during that week when I would wipe. It’s scary. I’m a little confused why if the baby measured perfectly fine, the heartbeat was fine and there was no blood in your uterus they would tell you you’re going to miscarry. But I’m not a doctor obviously. Again I’m just so sorry you’re going through this. Ask your OB lots of questions tmw and maybe even see if they would do an ultrasound themselves?
@bcliffee1, I'm so sorry you are going through this stress. I hope your appointment tomorrow goes well and you get reassurance that everything is fine ❤
@momofmiracles31889 I agree they need like a triage pregnancy unit in the ER. I was bleeding for about 6hrs pretty consistently with some light clotting. I had called the OB originally and they just said to lay low which I did but the bleeding was getting heavier and wasn’t stopping so we figured it didn’t hurt to go to the ER to get some answers.
I was also very confused and thrown off to have gone in with UTI symptoms and excessive bleeding and they weren’t even pushing for a urine culture. I actually asked for it during my ultrasound because she was asking me to empty my bladder and I said I think they should take a sample to test for the UTI. It was very strange to have an ultrasound look perfect then come back to the ER and after they did a pelvic exam have them tell me I’m having a threatened miscarriage. There was zero reassurance.
@ch@chindimples04 what’s an SCH again? I luckily have an appt with my OB tomorrow so I’ll get more clarity
@bcliffee1 I am so sorry you are going through this. I was really hoping you would get some answers. The doctor(s) you saw do not sound competent in OB related issues. I’ll be praying for you. Thankfully you have your OB appointment tomorrow and can get definite answers. You are in my thoughts and I will be thinking of you tomorrow. I bled heavily for 5 days around 4 weeks and the ER not my OB could ever figure out why. I was told in the ER too I was going to miscarry and my own doctor was shocked when my beta’s showed I wasn’t. I also had cramping, severe back pain and the bleeding was too heavy to wear just a liner.
@bcliffee1 I am so sorry to hear... Hugs to you. I will be thinking of you tomorrow and hope you get some much needed answers at the OB tomorrow. I am sorry the ER left you with not so great news and I can’t believe they didn’t take a urine sample! Ugh! Looking forward to your update tomorrow.
@bcliffee1 sorry, late to seeing this. An SCH is a subchorionic hematoma. It is basically a collection of blood, like a bruise, between the placenta and uterine wall. Things can irritate that bruise, causing it to burst and cause bleeding or spotting. Most are small and cause no issues. The presence of one does slightly increase the risk of miscarriage, depending on the size.
TTC History
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
@bcliffee1 I'm so sorry you're going through this. I dont have personal experience, but my best friend had on and off bleeding from. About 6 to 16 weeks with her child. It was never explained, but her baby was perfectly healthy. I hope your regular doc is able to give you better answers.
Side note for all, its good to ask if your labor and delivery take walk-in cases for pregnancy emergencies. At our hospital, we aren't even supposed to go to the ER, they send you right to L&D triage if anything is pregnancy related.
Thanks everyone for the kind heartfelt wishes. My OB dr was really beside himself that the ER dr suggested a miscarriage considering I had a perfectly healthy US at the ER. During my OB appt today he said everything looked perfect and that he didn’t have any concerns for me or the baby. What a freaking rollercoaster that whole ordeal was. We did our NT scan today and baby was measuring perfectly. She even said the baby is measuring about a week ahead. I am just so relieved. I am also very frustrated that the ER dr said what they said without any facts to support her suggestion.
@bcliffee1 so glad to hear everything is okay now. I had a similar ER experience years ago and came out feeling worse. Like you said, they absolutely do not provide any reassurance. Glad you and baby are doing well!
@bcliffee1 I think that is just the standard thing they say when they have no idea, but I'm sorry you had to go through that! Are you still bleeding much? Did they find a UTI?
@demimondaine still some light bleeding but nothing like yesterday thankfully. I’m still waiting on the UTI results to come back but they are having me start on some antibiotics just in case
@bcliffee1 so glad to hear your good update! Ugh so sorry you had to go through that false alarm though with the ER doctors they really need to be more educated on these things.
Thank you all for the support. I really needed it. I did file a grievance/complaint with the hospital as well. Hopefully they think twice before doing this to someone else
I’ve followed my birth month clubs for my three previous pregnancies but only as a lurker and never posted before. I’m pregnant with baby #4 with three crazy girls at home (6, 4, 2). This pregnancy wasn’t unplanned but definitely unexpected. The whole time, my husband has been joking that it better not be twins! I had my first appointment virtually so my 12-week ultrasound today was my first one. The baby looked good but the appointment felt weird. At the end, the doctor came in to tell me that I actually had a vanishing twin pregnancy and that one twin had stopped growing at about 8 weeks. I’m so overwhelmed by emotions. We were terrified at the idea of twins so I’m maybe relieved but feeling loss of a baby I never knew existed. Just looking to see if anyone experienced anything similar and how you coped.
@rainbowsanddinosaurs I’m so sorry 😞 a loss is a loss and it’s never a good feeling. Sorry you received that news. I was told something similar several years ago with my first pregnancy. I had gone into the ER with some light bleeding, they obtained my hcg levels and basically called it a threatened miscarriage. However days went by and I had several follow ups over the next week or so but given the trend in my levels they said it could have been a twin loss. Unfortunately this pregnancy did end in a miscarriage pretty early on but yes I have heard of that happening in other cases as well with twins and only one survives. The good news is your 12 weeks and it sounds like everything looked okay during your appointment but I’m still sorry you’re experiencing those feelings. Hugs.
@rainbowsanddinosaurs I believe we have another momma in here that experienced a loss of a twin. I am terrible with usernames but I’m sure she’ll pop in. ❤️ Just know your feelings are 100% valid; relief of it being just one and sadness knowing there was supposed to be two. ❤️ Sending you many hugs.
TTC History
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
@rainbowsanddinosaurs I am going through the exact same thing and I am so very sorry for your loss. You are right, it’s such a crazy wave of emotions and you don’t really know how to feel about it. For me, at 8.5 weeks I believe it was, I went to the bathroom, wiped and had bright red blood on the toilet paper but nothing else and just that once. Prior to that I had been extremely sick from the very beginning, my boobs were so large, my stomach felt crazy weird, I was starving!!!! all the time and I had my HCG drawn twice and it was extremely high both times. Plus I was showing very early on. Two days before I had seen the blood I started feeling a bit relief from the symptoms. This happened on a Friday evening so I demanded an US that Monday and got in on Wednesday, where I found out I had twins and one had just passed. I just knew that it was twins from the beginning, I just felt it and would say it all the time.
It’s hard because if you had the choice, no, I wouldn’t have chosen twins, and it would have made life very difficult for a bit, but I would rather have twins in all of its difficulty, then to know I have twins and one pass this way. I am 15 weeks now and it’s just now getting easier to talk about. I was pretty emotional for awhile. The doctor kind of questioned why I was so upset at my first apt and kind of made me feel like I shouldn’t be and was worried. She told me most are relieved in that situation. Idk, it was just tough hearing all of that and I don’t think she was right. It’s still tough going through my US apts and seeing the twin there getting smaller. It’s just a reminder that keeps getting thrown in your face. We made the decision to not keep it a secret and to let people know cause we won’t keep it from this baby.
How is your husband feeling? I think grieving the loss is healthy and it will take some time to be ok with what happened. To me, it felt just like my miscarriage but worse because I was able to see the baby on an US, looking all formed. When I did the NT scan they still have to look at the twin and take measurements, which is hard. And knowing that it’s still in your body is hard to deal with. Try to take it day by day and feel your emotions. If you ever want to talk, I’m here. Again, I am so, so sorry!
@rainbowsanddinosaurs I’m so sorry for your loss! Take it easy on yourself and like others have said let yourself grieve as you need to. Loss is loss no matter the circumstances and it’s super hard. I’ve never lost a twin but I lost 3 babies before my son and this pregnancy and it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever gone though. Prayers for you!
Thanks for the note @steph-ann and all the other notes of support! I think the hardest part to process was that I knew throughout the entire ultrasound that something wasn’t right, but the tech never said anything (she might not have been able to “diagnose”). As I replayed the exam in my head after, I just wish I could have used that time to process what I was seeing instead of just having a discussion with the ultrasound doctor afterwards.
I had my regularly scheduled appointment with my OB today and she did another quick ultrasound to walk me through more what she was seeing. It actually really helped. I could see my perfectly growing baby and the sac that showed the little one who was sadly never meant to be. I’m sure I’ll still be processing it over time, but I already feel better than I did yesterday. I feel so fortunate that despite this, I still have a healthy pregnancy to be excited for.
Thanks for the kind words and lots of virtual hugs.
Re: *TW* Spotting/Bleeding/Threatened Loss Support
@chindimples04 praying it’s nothing to worry about and it resolves itself.
@chindimples04 prayers everything is ok! I had a decent amount of blood including red later week 7 into week 8 and I was terrified but all turned out to be fine so far, had great ultrasounds every week with my specialist, and I’m now 10+2 and the bleeding resolved over a week ago 🤷🏻♀️
I am not sure how much you are bleeding, but I did bleed with this pregnancy on and off for about a week and it was unexplained and my RE wasn’t even worried about it since baby was perfectly fine on all my ultrasounds (weeks 5, 6, 7, 8 and 9). Mine did go away completely then. I was never soaking pads though. I’d say the most I would have would be the size of two quarters on my panty liner. a few times. But I had all shades of blood during that week when I would wipe. It’s scary. I’m a little confused why if the baby measured perfectly fine, the heartbeat was fine and there was no blood in your uterus they would tell you you’re going to miscarry. But I’m not a doctor obviously. Again I’m just so sorry you’re going through this. Ask your OB lots of questions tmw and maybe even see if they would do an ultrasound themselves?
I was also very confused and thrown off to have gone in with UTI symptoms and excessive bleeding and they weren’t even pushing for a urine culture. I actually asked for it during my ultrasound because she was asking me to empty my bladder and I said I think they should take a sample to test for the UTI. It was very strange to have an ultrasound look perfect then come back to the ER and after they did a pelvic exam have them tell me I’m having a threatened miscarriage. There was zero reassurance.
this. I was really hoping you would get some answers. The doctor(s) you saw do not sound competent in OB related issues. I’ll be praying for you. Thankfully you have your OB appointment tomorrow and can get definite answers. You are in my thoughts and I will be thinking of you tomorrow.
I bled heavily for 5 days around 4 weeks and the ER not my OB could ever figure out why. I was told in the ER too I was going to miscarry and my own doctor was shocked when my beta’s showed I wasn’t. I also had cramping, severe back pain and the bleeding was too heavy to wear just a liner.
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
Side note for all, its good to ask if your labor and delivery take walk-in cases for pregnancy emergencies. At our hospital, we aren't even supposed to go to the ER, they send you right to L&D triage if anything is pregnancy related.
kidwife sent me into a spiraling panic when she said my HCG was concerningly high. But I’m glad baby looked perfect!
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021