This may not be everywhere but in my area size 1 diapers in particular are basically non existent. I was able to snag one box at target. You might want to stock up at least on a small pack of newborn, and some size 1’s!
@chaos-and-coffee I agree with that! We had a hard time finding ones but managed to snag a small box of newborns and size 1. I’m hoping by June it’ll be easier!
otherwise, might be ordering some prefolds. We cloth diaper DD exclusively now that she’s bigger but her legs were too scrawny for a long time to do that in our pocket diapers😂
Married: 12/19/15
BFP: 9/4/17 EDD: 5/16/18 DD born 5/10/18 Postpartum Complications
I was just laid off Monday after work due to Covid - they are saying lack of work. 8 other people were also temporarily laid off. So looks like my last day is today. About 6 weeks earlier than I was planning on leaving. I guess I’ll have plenty of time to prep for baby now!
This may not be everywhere but in my area size 1 diapers in particular are basically non existent. I was able to snag one box at target. You might want to stock up at least on a small pack of newborn, and some size 1’s!
NB and size 1's are impossible to find here too. We have two boxes of size 5's that we never opened bc my daughter potty trained early, so I was hoping to exchange them for size, but I can't even do that. Aldi has diapers in stock, but they gave my daughter diaper rashes so I'm iffy to try them. This is so frustrating!
@alli392@runwmusic thanks! I’m going to have to go on employment Insurance or CERB (I’m in Canada) for about 6 weeks and then switch over to maternity leave. So basically I might be off work 14-20 months. Because in Canada you can take up to 18 months off. The company is supposed to take me back after if they are in a better position. Pretty crazy, but I know so many people are going through this now. So weird it was my last day. Doesn’t feel like it. One of my managers yesterday asked for my registry and already ordered 3 things off it. My direct boss took my personal contact info and said she would like to send a gift for baby. I thought that was really nice of her!
You can always order diapers from a service like Honest. I ordered a case of wipes and a pack of diapers just to have on hand, but ultimately I plan on CD. They came in about a week.
We’ve been in lockdown here for almost 3 weeks, which has been super challenging in a small flat with no outside area! We’re allowed one walk a day. Also work has been kicking my butt. AND DH has been furloughed- which is super stressful as we have no idea how long it will go on or if he’ll get his job back etc.
AND my appointment schedule has been altered to minimalize contact. Plus my last scan has been cancelled for being “non essential.” Uch can this end already
@hayhay2501 I hope the stricter containment helps you guys get through it faster than us! We're 4 weeks in but in all honesty I'm in a hot spot and we're likely looking at 2+ months here. Slightly less strict movement for us - we aren't limited in numbers of walks. But, also people aren't staying enough contained and keep congregating, so we'll likely struggle longer.
It all does suck though. Especially as I'm expecting baby arrival in 3-6 weeks.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@pourmeanothermocktail I just wish I could look in a crystal ball and see when life will go back to semi normal! They took a loose approach to social isolating at first here and quickly realised our national health service was on the path to collapsing so now we’re all locked in! The police are flying drones through national parks and telling people to go home ha.
Last time all I wanted for my first post birth meal was jimmy johns. My mom brought it, but after 19 hours of labor and a c section and throwing up, I didn’t want it/wasn’t allowed to eat and ended up throwing it away. This time, all I want is a massive deli sub from our favorite local place that has been a staple in our town for decades. They just shut down until further notice.
Also, my mom gifted me a pregnancy pedicure that I’m not going to get.
I realize these are incredibly petty and selfish and I am very glad that me, baby, and my family are healthy thus far but I threw myself a pity party today for these reasons.
@chaos-and-coffee I sympathize with your pity party. I got two hour-long prenatal massages for Christmas and was saving them for third trimester when I knew I’d be uncomfortable. Guess they’ll be postpartum massages now 😭😭.
I feel you guys on the sadness of losing special things you've looked forward to. Last pregnancy, I wanted to get a prenatal massage and it never happened because GD and my work were both such PITAs to schedule around. DH promised me we would make it happen this time around. 🤣🤣🤣 Yeah, that's not going to happen.
I just heard that my favorite poke place is reopening and I'm sorely tempted to get a delivery order from them. FFFC (flame free Friday confession): I ate raw fish up every couple of weeks until lockdown this pregnancy because it's one of the only treats I could make work for GD, and because I've had lots of long chats with the owner and know the fisheries he sources from. Last time poke was my first meal wish... And it turned out to be our first take out, two weeks later. 🤷♀️
I think all I really want post delivery is a meal that I don't have to stress over measuring, logging, eating, walking, and testing. And preferably one I don't have to cook! My standards have fallen SO FAR.
FFFC-I don't give up raw fish either. I'm super picky about my sources.
Also, my son was delivered via c-section at 11:38 pm and I was put under general anesthesia shortly thereafter.
I drank water by 3 am, Gatorade 4, started on crackers at 5, maybe 5:30. I convinced them to allow me a normal breakfast at 7:30 am.
I had no nausea from anything that labor and was really starving. I was so glad they brought me food. It sucked, but it was food. By 11 am I had Chinese delivered.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
On the pity party subject- my mom died in my last pregnancy and I was really looking forward to having a normal non eventful happy pregnancy. My mental health has been pretty low at time’s thinking that’s been taken away from me again. I want pregnancy massages, meals from my favourite places and pedicures! And to be able to leave my house more than once a day ha. But then sometimes all i can do is laugh. Like if I have a third will world war 3 break out? What luck!
I do feel worse for my sister though who’s pregnant with twins (her first pregnancy) and had to cancel both her showers. And she’s high risk with weekly appointments and her husband can’t attend any of them anymore. She’s having a hard time accepting what will probably be her only pregnancy is ending like this.
I have some of the same "I just wanted a normal pregnancy." My first we had massive job issues and had to move across the country twice (1500 miles) lost our home and had to move in with my BIL & SIK who don't like babies or kids and that stress all led to a preemie when my husband had been in his new job only 2.5 weeks...
Second pregnancy was better ish but half our house flooded at 32 weeks and with a home birth planned I needed to have my home functioning. Plus had no couch for 5 weeks in midst of third trimester...we had to rebuild the walls and flooring ourselves with a toddler...
And now this. My pregnancies are bad enough with beating my pelvis up so bad, but could the rest of life have no major upheavals??
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I think we’re all mourning the little things. And I don’t think that has to be selfish! We’re growing humans-just because women have always done it doesn’t make it not a hard thing that deserves a little pampering!
@hayhay2501 that sounds really hard. I hope we don’t have a WW3! I feel bad for your sister too-twins is a lot to handle especially her first time around!
@pourmeanothermocktail I hope I get normal food this time around too 😊 I honestly don’t remember eating post labor last time because the first 24 hours are so hazy due to my complications. This time I want sushi and a big ole deli club. I’ve been indulging on sushi occasionally but don’t feel comfortable doing cold things for delivery with the outbreak in or area right now. P
Married: 12/19/15
BFP: 9/4/17 EDD: 5/16/18 DD born 5/10/18 Postpartum Complications
Definite ditto on mourning the little things. I'm so uncomfortable and was really looking forward to a prenatal massage. Plus, I just tried to do my own pedicure just now and literally could not bend enough to reach my toes well. I guess gross feet until the baby comes it is!
I think it's ok to both mourn the little things AND be super thankful that everyone I know is still healthy and employed.
Feeling disappointed also. And I don’t think it is wrong or selfish for any of us to feel like that. I was supposed to get a pedicure this weekend to prepare for our trip to Florida and the pedicure is obviously not happening and neither is our trip. I am super sad. I have accepted that it is not worth the risk and am grateful that we are all healthy. We will just spend the time together at home.
@alli392 don’t worry- no plans to have a third! My way of saving humanity ha
I didn't either
+1 to surprise baby 3
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
You ladies are making me very happy that I already signed the papers for my tubal. 🤣😂 First pregnancy, my startup tanked. Second pregnancy, global pandemic. Even if we had wanted a third (and we didn't), we are done at two now!
@kyrwyn you bring up an interesting subject...my husband and I don’t intend on having any more after this one (our second), but for some reason I’m resistant to having my tubes tied right away. Side note: I had a vaginal delivery the first time around and hope to again, so it’s not one of those “while they’re already there” situations. We have talked about my husband getting a vasectomy in 6 months or so. I don’t know why, but I feel the need for us to settle in with baby girl before we do anything permanent, which sounds silly (even to me). Anyone else having these conversations with their husbands, and what method (vasectomy, tubal, birth control, etc) and timeline do you plan on using?
@kjack86 were the same. DH and I have talked a bit about him getting a vasectomy but don’t want to commit to it until the baby is a bit older. Not sure why!
@kjack86 dh would have more kids if I would so he won't get a vasectomy. I'm 99.999999999999% sure I don't want more. I don't like being pregnant, financially three in daycare would be too hard, we're too old to wait awhile for another. So many reasons to be done yet that 0.00000000001% chance has me too nervous for anything permanent. I'm going to try an iud.
@Kjack85 I would have a third but my H says an adamant no. In an ideal world, I would wait until both boys are in school and then try for a third, but my H is older than I am and he feels like he’s already too old, so he’s a hard no. Three in daycare would be really hard, we would need a bigger car, etc. but I can’t do anything permanent yet. I went on the pill after DS for like 2 months and stopped because I hated it, and was pregnant again by the time he was 9 months (planned!). If I have a repeat C my H is bugging me to get my tubes tied but I refuse. Idk what we’ll do!
I am old. DH is even older. And it took awhile to get baby #2. Plus, I really just wanted 2, so we are done. But being pregnant during a pandemic would make me think twice if we were going for 3.
@Kjack86 my significant other is already planning his vasectomy for after this little girl is born. He has a 17 year old son so to have another baby took some convincing, and he was firm with only one and done. I was sad about it at first, but honestly, as excited as I am to be a mom, I don’t have any desire to be pregnant again. Maybe if I were younger my opinion would’ve been different. Maybe if this pandemic hadn’t put a damper on this pregnancy I would’ve thought differently.
I can't do any form of hormonal birth control anymore. It stops me from nursing, I pack on weight, and my sex drive falls apart. Like bad - once went two years without orgasm or anything sexual. So my only real options are condoms, diaphragm, tracking, copper IUD, or something permanent. And this unplanned baby is a condom baby. I already have super super heavy long periods so I'm terrified of the copper IUD, tracking doesn't work well when I'm nursing as I don't get the normal ovulation signs...(seriously this was a condom and tracking and pull out baby...wtf body?). We plan on a vasectomy for my husband once I'm able to walk again and the virus concerns are lower/gone. I couldn't have him on light duty with a newborn, under 2, and 4 year old at home when I'm not able to reliably carry kids through the house! I may get a diaphragm and spermicide to use with condoms until snip is done. We also do have in my notes though that if I have a surgical delivery I want my tubes removed.
I won't go in for surgery again unless it's necessary as I had a terrible recovery last time, but if I'm already having surgery then I'm all good for just getting it handled!
I was fine with two kids. We had said when our second was 2.5 we would evaluate finances to see if we wanted a third. Well, at 12 months old surprise! We decided to embrace the situation after a few weeks of long talks. Mostly because our kids will have zero first cousins so having 3 to support each other as adults and stuff made some sense. But then with how had my pelvis got this time (using a walker in your early 30s after just having run a half Marathon in September is REALLY emotionally difficult) we have no doubt. Even if something truly awful happened I can't go through another pregnancy. It's not fair to any of us.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I would love a third but as someone else mentioned above, being pregnant during a pandemic is changing my mind. We've both said that we are going to wait and see. After he is here if we feel like our family is complete DH will have a vasectomy. But I'm in the camp of at least waiting a year or so to decide.
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@kjack86 We've always wanted two. In the depths of IF sadness, we wanted as many as we could possibly have (hahaha, crazy kids we were), but in saner times we've always wanted two. After we sat with the reality of never having a daughter (by birth) of our own, and rationally looked at our home, finances, career paths, cost of living, available energy, etc, two is still the right number for us. Also both of my pregnancies have been high risk (GD, insulin dependent) and draining. I already feel like I have so much less to give our son than I did before I got pregnant, and my career is taking an unplanned extra 10 months on hold (small potatoes in the long run, but important to us nonetheless since I used to be our primary breadwinner... and should theoretically outearn DH by 50% or more when I go back). Since I hate being pregnant and GD management, and we don't really have room in our lives/house/budget for more than two, and I'm having a C-section anyway ... it just makes sense. And I'm pretty at peace with it. I'm also turning 40 within weeks of my surgery date, and I've always wanting to be done with building babies by then.
DH on the other hand also wants to get a vasectomy just to be EXTRA SURE. It's his body, I will support him in whatever.
If our circumstances and hearts change on the topic later, we're both interested in the option of adopting.
I can definitely see how this would be a different calculus to people who have had different expectations of family size, or pregnancies, or maybe more wiggle in their overall life plan.
It looks us 2.5 years of trying both times (and IUI this time) to get pregnant and when I first got pregnant this time I was like we will totally do this again, especially after we found out at 9wks this was another boy, then the further we got in the pregnancy the more rational my brain became and I realized I dont want 3 kids. I think after going through all the pros and cons the only thing that was making me think about a 3rd baby was that I could possibly have a girl...then rational brain kicked in and said or I could have a 3rd boy. After getting to that point I also felt like it made me feel like I was saying this baby wasn't good enough because he was a boy and that just wasn't true. So I will be #boymomforlife. Also my body does not tolerate hormonal birth control well and I just spot ALL THE TIME even on ones that aren't supposed to make you do that and with a bicornuate uterus I cant get the copper IUD which I would love. Soooo if i have a repeat c/section i will have my tubes removed and if I have a VBAC we will do a tubal 4-6 weeks later.
@ReneeJ2011 there is a small part of me that wants a third because this baby is our second boy and a third could be a girl. Rationally I know it could just as likely be another boy. But still....
Maybe I’m alone in this boat but This is #2 and I really want a 3rd! I’m one of four and being pregnant in a pandemic taught me how much I really loved having my siblings to play with as a kid when we were cooped up inside for other things. I feel bad that DD is alone with her parents only all day. It probably helps that as siblings we’re all close now.
But also, DDs birth was pretty scary and some of the complications (from my lupus-dont want to scare the FTMs) made us unsure if we’d even be able to have a second. So this baby is such a blessing already that I want to take as many as given.
So no BC for us post baby. So long as everything goes smooth we’ll use the family planning method that’s always worked for us but won’t be too concerned if it happens soon or not until I’m done nursing (didn’t get a period for 13 months with DD due to exclusively nursing-it was awesome)
Married: 12/19/15
BFP: 9/4/17 EDD: 5/16/18 DD born 5/10/18 Postpartum Complications
Also, I'm jealous. EBF the first, but got period at 5 months. I'm still nursing my oldest, nursed him through two pregnancies now, so with newborn and toddler nursing constantly after second....I got period at 7 weeks postpartum.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@alli392 I really want a 3rd. It took 4 years and 2 losses And IVF to get pregnant with #2 but I have always wanted 3. I think I could be content with 2 but I think part of me will really want to go for a third when this one is about a year or so old. I’d love to have 2 and 3 close in age since The age gap is so much bigger for 1 and 2.
I'm from a family with 2 kids, so 2 is "normal" to me. DH is from a family of 4, so he wanted 4, but the economy tanked when we had our first so we put off #2 for 4 years and decided to stick with 2. And now here we are with our little surprise.
I can't do hormonal BC, anything permanent isn't something we would consider and we've successfully used FAM + condoms for years.
Re: COVID-19 Talk
otherwise, might be ordering some prefolds. We cloth diaper DD exclusively now that she’s bigger but her legs were too scrawny for a long time to do that in our pocket diapers😂
Married: 12/19/15
BFP: 9/4/17
EDD: 5/16/18
DD born 5/10/18
Postpartum Complications
BFP: 10/1/19
EDD: 6/12/20
Married: 12/19/15
BFP: 9/4/17
EDD: 5/16/18
DD born 5/10/18
Postpartum Complications
BFP: 10/1/19
EDD: 6/12/20
It all does suck though. Especially as I'm expecting baby arrival in 3-6 weeks.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I just heard that my favorite poke place is reopening and I'm sorely tempted to get a delivery order from them. FFFC (flame free Friday confession): I ate raw fish up every couple of weeks until lockdown this pregnancy because it's one of the only treats I could make work for GD, and because I've had lots of long chats with the owner and know the fisheries he sources from. Last time poke was my first meal wish... And it turned out to be our first take out, two weeks later. 🤷♀️
I think all I really want post delivery is a meal that I don't have to stress over measuring, logging, eating, walking, and testing. And preferably one I don't have to cook! My standards have fallen SO FAR.
Also, my son was delivered via c-section at 11:38 pm and I was put under general anesthesia shortly thereafter.
I drank water by 3 am, Gatorade 4, started on crackers at 5, maybe 5:30. I convinced them to allow me a normal breakfast at 7:30 am.
I had no nausea from anything that labor and was really starving. I was so glad they brought me food. It sucked, but it was food. By 11 am I had Chinese delivered.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I do feel worse for my sister though who’s pregnant with twins (her first pregnancy) and had to cancel both her showers. And she’s high risk with weekly appointments and her husband can’t attend any of them anymore. She’s having a hard time accepting what will probably be her only pregnancy is ending like this.
I have some of the same "I just wanted a normal pregnancy." My first we had massive job issues and had to move across the country twice (1500 miles) lost our home and had to move in with my BIL & SIK who don't like babies or kids and that stress all led to a preemie when my husband had been in his new job only 2.5 weeks...
Second pregnancy was better ish but half our house flooded at 32 weeks and with a home birth planned I needed to have my home functioning. Plus had no couch for 5 weeks in midst of third trimester...we had to rebuild the walls and flooring ourselves with a toddler...
And now this. My pregnancies are bad enough with beating my pelvis up so bad, but could the rest of life have no major upheavals??
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@pourmeanothermocktail I hope I get normal food this time around too 😊 I honestly don’t remember eating post labor last time because the first 24 hours are so hazy due to my complications. This time I want sushi and a big ole deli club. I’ve been indulging on sushi occasionally but don’t feel comfortable doing cold things for delivery with the outbreak in or area right now. P
Married: 12/19/15
BFP: 9/4/17
EDD: 5/16/18
DD born 5/10/18
Postpartum Complications
BFP: 10/1/19
EDD: 6/12/20
I think it's ok to both mourn the little things AND be super thankful that everyone I know is still healthy and employed.
I didn't either
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@kjack86 were the same. DH and I have talked a bit about him getting a vasectomy but don’t want to commit to it until the baby is a bit older. Not sure why!
I won't go in for surgery again unless it's necessary as I had a terrible recovery last time, but if I'm already having surgery then I'm all good for just getting it handled!
I was fine with two kids. We had said when our second was 2.5 we would evaluate finances to see if we wanted a third. Well, at 12 months old surprise! We decided to embrace the situation after a few weeks of long talks. Mostly because our kids will have zero first cousins so having 3 to support each other as adults and stuff made some sense. But then with how had my pelvis got this time (using a walker in your early 30s after just having run a half Marathon in September is REALLY emotionally difficult) we have no doubt. Even if something truly awful happened I can't go through another pregnancy. It's not fair to any of us.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
DH on the other hand also wants to get a vasectomy just to be EXTRA SURE. It's his body, I will support him in whatever.
If our circumstances and hearts change on the topic later, we're both interested in the option of adopting.
I can definitely see how this would be a different calculus to people who have had different expectations of family size, or pregnancies, or maybe more wiggle in their overall life plan.
Married: 12/19/15
BFP: 9/4/17
EDD: 5/16/18
DD born 5/10/18
Postpartum Complications
BFP: 10/1/19
EDD: 6/12/20
Also, I'm jealous. EBF the first, but got period at 5 months. I'm still nursing my oldest, nursed him through two pregnancies now, so with newborn and toddler nursing constantly after second....I got period at 7 weeks postpartum.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
TTC#1 - March 2013
BFP 8/9/13 - EDD 4/14/14 - DS born 4/23/14
TTC#2 November 2015
Dx: Secondary IF June 2016
Medicated IUI cycle#1- Clomid+IUI -1/15/17 -BFN
Break Mid 2017 - Resumed TTC December 2018
"She believed she could so she did..."
Medicated IUI cycle#2- Femara 5mg+IUI 12/22/18 - BFP 1/4/19 - MMC 2/1/19
Saline Sono 3/15/19 - All Clear!
Medicated IUI cycle#3- Femara 7.5mg+IUI 3/28/19-BFN
Medicated IUI cycle#4- Femara 5mg+Gonal F 50iu+IUI 4/27/19- BFP 5/11/19 - MMC 6/12/19 - D&C 6/14/19-
Incomplete M/C Repeat D&C - 7/3/19 -Testing concluded baby was genetically normal
Dx: Unexplained RPL July 2019 - Tested + as carrier for Usher Syndrome & Familial Mediterranean Fever
Saline Sono 8/7/19 - Mostly Clear! All systems go for IVF#1
But will need a repeat Saline Sono between ER and FET
IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol - 8/17/19
ER#1 8/27/19 - 12R, 6F, 4 biopsied+frozen! (3d5blasts + 1d6blast)- 2 PGS normal embabies!
Saline Sono 9/13/19 - All Clear! Onto FET Prep#1
FET#1 - 4AA -10/4/19 - BFP 10/14/19 - EDD - 6/21/20 -Beta#1-10dp5dt- 379 Beta#2-12dp5dt- 1007 Beta#3-14dp5dt- 2844
DD born 6/15/20