Should we point the drive-by in the direction of this conversation about baby movement that's literally happening while she's simultaneously asking if anyone has felt movement yet, ooooooor........? 😉
Y’all today my childless coworker told me that if she ever has a baby she wants to work out as much as possible so she gains the least amount of weight possible. She was incredulous when I told her that’s what most people think they’ll do but it can get difficult to work out while pregnant.
It took every ounce of my self control to stay calm.
@gomillis as someone who used to work out 5-6 days a week for multiple hours a day and did various competitive sports... that was 100% me before I got pregnant. Now that I actually am pregnant, I’m lucky if I get 3 30-60min workouts a week in... 🤣
@fitandnerdy I thought a lot of things about what a super fit pregnant person I’d be too, but I had the good sense not to say any of those things to an actual pregnant person’s face 😂
@gomillis Hello, as a woman who’s BTDT with pregnancy and exercise lemme tell your coworker that your body is gonna do what it wants to do regardless of your exercise regimen.
I ran a half marathon at 35 weeks, lady. Still gained the same amount as my first pregnancy where I didn’t get to run and workout as much. My body did what it wanted and NEEDED to do.
@gomillis People are so delusional until it's them. In every single pregnancy, including my very first one when I was still blissfully naive, there has always been a point where I'm like, my body is disintegrating. Lol. I try to stay mildly active, but sorry, I'm not going to kill myself working out for the sake of staying skinny. Are we so far down the rabbit hole of diet culture that now it's not even acceptable to gain weight while growing a human life? *takes deep breath*
At 2 of my 3 anatomy scans (don't remember with my first, but probably), they did look at my cervix and measured it. But it was just one part of that scan, not a stand alone check.
So here we go again, just when I was feeling semi grateful for DHs help this evening (He made the salad while DD finished eating and I went up and got changed, I managed to twist his arm into changing a poopy diaper while I was still eating, but he had already finished, he played with her on the floor while I went down to pull a few things out of the wash to hang up for the night etc.) And I am telling him I'm so exhausted from being out shopping, I was just <i>Done</i>, I finally get DD upstairs to bed.
All he had to do was let the dogs out, set the coffee, shut the lights and come up...
I wake up at 1am to pee and all the lights are on! I went down to wake him up, but dude! No coffee made, just passed out on the couch! I know how he is, he will be complaining he slept on the couch all night, like it's my fault. 🙄 I did my part to go wake him up, but no way am I staying up to hold his hand till he finally crawls upstairs. I'm tired too, darn it! <img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/m9/xkpgu8nzoui6.gif" alt="">
@businesswife, ugh, my H does that with sleeping on the couch! Except I WILL wake him up. I'll shake him enough to where he's mumbling and even acknowledging. And I'll even do it twice. "I'm getting ready for bed, honey." And then 10 minutes later, "going to bed." And then he stumbles In a couple hours later, "why didn't you wake me up?" Dude. I did. Twice. And if I shake you harder than that, you get super annoyed with me!
@coldlife I know! That's what happened last time, where I ended up staying downstairs with him for probably an hour and a half or more in the MOTN, because no matter how many times I woke him up, and he was answering me, knew he needed to get off the couch and come up, he just didn't do it. Why should I stay up for hours while he sleeps on the couch because every 10-15 minutes I bug him and he still doesn't move!???? Ughhh That's why I can't keep doing all that. I'll be up all night while he sleeps. 😑. What do I care really if I get the bed to myself? :/
Re: Gaining the least amount of weight possible while pregnant (a reflection on my journey and society over morning coffee I guess.)
I'm in a weird freaking place this go around. With my first child I was obese when I got pregnant, obese when I delivered, and didn't really care beyond the fat shaming one of the midwives in the practice did at every appointment I had with her. After waking up last year and realizing all the weight I was carrying was from trauma I lost 70 pounds in the healthiest possible way. I lost enough that when I got pregnant this time that I had climbed down from obese to just hitting the threshold to be considered overweight (I'm on the boarder of obese and overweight).
While with my first I cleaned up my diet some, this go around I am even more mindful. I'm not calorie counting but being thoughtful about what I'm eating. I'm working very hard to stick to nearly the same exercise routine I had before I got pregnant... and while some of it is a little bit of fear of losing all the hard work I've put in, a lot of it is fear of losing my health (and that's super real right now for me) a lot of my push to maintain here and gain only what is necessary is a challenge to myself. I can do this better. I can take care of myself better. I can be a good example for my daughter about taking care of yourself and your body.
All of that introspection being said, I do think the pressure on women to gain minimally and "bounce back" is absolute GARBAGE. Each woman's body is going to do what it's going to do. Each woman is going to do what she feels is best for herself. If I become pre-eclampitic again, no amount of monitoring healthy eating will stop me from swelling up, retaining water and gaining all that water weight. The best laid plans are often failures, especially during this window in our lives. Our bodies and these babies are going to do what they want, no matter how much we attempt to convince them otherwise. I really wish we could stop this awful shift of society where we have bullied women into bullying women. I'm trying so hard to teach my daughter better than that.
@coldlife I have been adjusting bedtime 10 minutes each night according to what I read, but the kids have been revolting lol. I started nap 30 minutes early yesterday but then it took them 2 hours to go to sleep which then made bedtime problematic. I think I'll try again today and then just take what God gives me and struggle with longer bedtimes until we're back on track. Maybe it's a mix of my goal bedtime and where we live on the far west side of EST that causes the struggle (bc it is light outside at bedtime after DST). We were successful on one occasion when we prepared for over a week for it lol! I also heard there is a full moon on Monday. Good luck to all daycare workers, teachers, hospital, and nursing home employees!
@RedBaramid Well said. I think there’s a difference between eating in moderation and exercising to try to have the healthiest possible pregnancy and dieting or exercising to maintain some unrealistic beauty standard. I really hate the narrative that pregnancy “ruins” women’s bodies. Yes, pregnancy changes bodies, but it only “ruins” them from the perspective that a woman’s body needs to meet a very narrow definition of physical beauty that most women’s bodies don’t meet anyway!
My husband had Lasik eye surgery yesterday and he is already driving and basically back to his normal self! Crazy! He mistakenly scheduled the procedure for a night that we had plans with friends and he was soinstructed to come home and sleep, so I took our toddler and went solo which was challenging. Makes me nervous to have 2 little ones to wrangle. Fingers crossed it doesn't turn me into a hermit.
We got home late and within an hour my son was up coughing terribly and all congested. I laid with him in the recliner to help him breathe better and we slept there for a few hours before we both returned to our own beds. It was a restless night and I'm looking forward to taking a nap.
And I’m fairly certain I have a UTI ugh I so so do not want to go back to the dr! I’m debating calling the on call line for the OB to check in with them.
@gomillis i hate people like that. My opinion is you will gain as much as your body is supposed to.
With my first kid when i was 16. I was severly underweight when i got pregnant. I gained 60 pounds. After I gave birth to her I only kept 15 pounds on. I didnt exercise, no GD, and i didnt eat healthy.
With my son i worked full-time and exercised. I had GD and ate healthy. Was 150 when i got pregnant night before i was induced i weighed 199 pounds. After he was born i went down to 175.
Both my kids where healthy both where 2 weeks early and there was only a 2 oz. Weight difference between them and both pregnancies I treated differently and it didnt really matter.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@riatortillaxo oh boy, sounds like an adventure! my husband has been thinking about getting Lasik too, for some time but we just haven't pulled the trigger yet. [Talk to text is weird.] Glad to hear your husband is healing well!
AFM, somehow we all managed to get up and out for first Saturdays, which is a special devotion we've been meaning to try. I'm so glad DH brought it up, because there is no way I could drag him out or force him to come. But anyway it's for the first Saturday, for five Saturdays in a row which means if we can stick with it, we may be able to get them all in before this baby comes, which would be amazing! So we basically had Sunday funday family day today, and then we'll have to be at Church early tomorrow so I can sing with the choir for the first time, which should be nice, and then our niece's birthday party later in the day.
DH went to go see FIL, so I want to try and go over music, get our clothes ready, presents wrapped etc, but I'm just so exhausted. Chasing around after a toddler all day while 4 mos pregnant is no joke! Lol
@WishesSheCouldCook oh man, I hope you don't have a UTI! I would definitely call them though. Depending on the doctor, I'm not sure maybe they could just call you in a prescription?
@WishesSheCouldCook ugh so sorry about the UTI.. That is the worst. I went through a stretch of having a lot of UTIs and so I know it can be miserable. I hope you get it all taken care of.
@BusinessWife You always have such fun and eventful weekends! Glad you all made it to First Saturdays. Sounds nice!
re: Daylight savings - You're the worst. I am on the struggle bus this morning and need a nap ASAP.
@riatortillaxo I wonder how I'll balance two LOs for things like dinner (or grocery shopping, or ANYTHING) on my own. But I'm sure we over think it and criticize ourselves more than others who see us out. We probably won't become hermits but will definitely have to be more planful.
Struggling to stay awake this morning... combination of daylight savings and completely bizarre dreams waking me up causing a terrible night's sleep. Ugh... Wasn't able to log in all weekend bc of stupid app issues...
@gomillis Your coworker sounds like such a peach. People really do not think about what they say before it comes out of their mouth. When I told my male coworker (who has two daughters) that I was pregnant he said (after congratulations) "it's not a bad as everyone makes it seem"... I chuckled and sarcastically said "oh really now?" and I think he realized what he said... smh.
@WishesSheCouldCook I hope it's not a UTI and it clears up quickly! Cranberry juice and probiotics. I've heard that a few insurance companies have a teledoc where you can virtually "see" a doctor and they can send in a prescription for you...
@riatortillaxo That's amazing that YH is already driving! Recovery has gotten so quick with Lasik!!
@BusinessWife I'd leave YH on the couch in the future... no reason for you both to have a poor night's sleep because he can't come to bed after you nudging him. MH actually gets annoyed with me if I wake him up from the couch lol.
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All he had to do was let the dogs out, set the coffee, shut the lights and come up...
I wake up at 1am to pee and all the lights are on! I went down to wake him up, but dude! No coffee made, just passed out on the couch! I know how he is, he will be complaining he slept on the couch all night, like it's my fault. 🙄 I did my part to go wake him up, but no way am I staying up to hold his hand till he finally crawls upstairs. I'm tired too, darn it!
<img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/m9/xkpgu8nzoui6.gif" alt="">
I'm in a weird freaking place this go around. With my first child I was obese when I got pregnant, obese when I delivered, and didn't really care beyond the fat shaming one of the midwives in the practice did at every appointment I had with her. After waking up last year and realizing all the weight I was carrying was from trauma I lost 70 pounds in the healthiest possible way. I lost enough that when I got pregnant this time that I had climbed down from obese to just hitting the threshold to be considered overweight (I'm on the boarder of obese and overweight).
While with my first I cleaned up my diet some, this go around I am even more mindful. I'm not calorie counting but being thoughtful about what I'm eating. I'm working very hard to stick to nearly the same exercise routine I had before I got pregnant... and while some of it is a little bit of fear of losing all the hard work I've put in, a lot of it is fear of losing my health (and that's super real right now for me) a lot of my push to maintain here and gain only what is necessary is a challenge to myself. I can do this better. I can take care of myself better. I can be a good example for my daughter about taking care of yourself and your body.
All of that introspection being said, I do think the pressure on women to gain minimally and "bounce back" is absolute GARBAGE. Each woman's body is going to do what it's going to do. Each woman is going to do what she feels is best for herself. If I become pre-eclampitic again, no amount of monitoring healthy eating will stop me from swelling up, retaining water and gaining all that water weight. The best laid plans are often failures, especially during this window in our lives. Our bodies and these babies are going to do what they want, no matter how much we attempt to convince them otherwise. I really wish we could stop this awful shift of society where we have bullied women into bullying women. I'm trying so hard to teach my daughter better than that.
We got home late and within an hour my son was up coughing terribly and all congested. I laid with him in the recliner to help him breathe better and we slept there for a few hours before we both returned to our own beds. It was a restless night and I'm looking forward to taking a nap.
I hope everyone has a nice weekend!
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With my first kid when i was 16. I was severly underweight when i got pregnant. I gained 60 pounds. After I gave birth to her I only kept 15 pounds on. I didnt exercise, no GD, and i didnt eat healthy.
With my son i worked full-time and exercised. I had GD and ate healthy. Was 150 when i got pregnant night before i was induced i weighed 199 pounds. After he was born i went down to 175.
Both my kids where healthy both where 2 weeks early and there was only a 2 oz. Weight difference between them and both pregnancies I treated differently and it didnt really matter.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
AFM, somehow we all managed to get up and out for first Saturdays, which is a special devotion we've been meaning to try. I'm so glad DH brought it up, because there is no way I could drag him out or force him to come. But anyway it's for the first Saturday, for five Saturdays in a row which means if we can stick with it, we may be able to get them all in before this baby comes, which would be amazing! So we basically had Sunday funday family day today, and then we'll have to be at Church early tomorrow so I can sing with the choir for the first time, which should be nice, and then our niece's birthday party later in the day.
DH went to go see FIL, so I want to try and go over music, get our clothes ready, presents wrapped etc, but I'm just so exhausted. Chasing around after a toddler all day while 4 mos pregnant is no joke! Lol
@BusinessWife You always have such fun and eventful weekends! Glad you all made it to First Saturdays. Sounds nice!
@riatortillaxo I wonder how I'll balance two LOs for things like dinner (or grocery shopping, or ANYTHING) on my own. But I'm sure we over think it and criticize ourselves more than others who see us out. We probably won't become hermits but will definitely have to be more planful.
@gomillis Your coworker sounds like such a peach. People really do not think about what they say before it comes out of their mouth. When I told my male coworker (who has two daughters) that I was pregnant he said (after congratulations) "it's not a bad as everyone makes it seem"... I chuckled and sarcastically said "oh really now?" and I think he realized what he said... smh.
@WishesSheCouldCook I hope it's not a UTI and it clears up quickly! Cranberry juice and probiotics. I've heard that a few insurance companies have a teledoc where you can virtually "see" a doctor and they can send in a prescription for you...
@riatortillaxo That's amazing that YH is already driving! Recovery has gotten so quick with Lasik!!
@BusinessWife I'd leave YH on the couch in the future... no reason for you both to have a poor night's sleep because he can't come to bed after you nudging him. MH actually gets annoyed with me if I wake him up from the couch lol.
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