@WishesSheCouldCook so sorry you’re not feeling well! Obviously do whatever your doctor recommends and what feels right to you, but I wanted to share that I had the flu a few weeks ago and was on Tamiflu. The first 24 hours were terrible - I couldn’t keep anything down! After that, though, it really did help with reducing my symptoms. I read a lot of people have that reaction with the first dose. It’s definitely no fun... hope you feel better soon!
@WishesSheCouldCook I'm so sorry! What a mess. I hope you feel better soon and that no one else catches it! Side note: I had to chuckle, though, because I'm getting caught up with all the posts I missed today, and at the tail end there, it was bouncing back and forth between protein suggestions for @RedBaramid and your updates about being sick then throwing up. Lol. I'm thinking of you, girl!
I took my son for a walk today! It was so nice to be outside and get some exercise. I pushed him in his little riding truck and it was such a nice little after dinner stroll. I'm so looking forward to consistent warmer weather!
@gomillis@emiliadkay VA voter here My mom always took me to the polls with her growing up and it was really fun to think of this as his first trip to the polls. I always get a little voting high... we're so lucky to live in a place where our voice gets heard this way.
I just realized why I thought the Sept board looked so crazy! TB site is showing a flag for just one unread message for every thread, even though I had never opened them, and they all have multiple posts!??? I'm telling you these bump glitches keep getting weirder and weirder...
It is 4:12AM. I've been up on and off with DD, specifically since about 3AM where she has decided she's not sleeping anymore tonight. I literally have not slept through the night in almost four years, and am about to start this alllll over again with a newborn. Yikes. 😥 I GIVE UP.
Working on my registry/thinking about my shower and had some questions for the group:
Is there a threshold for what's a normal amount of items to register for and what's Too Much, lol. I'm worried I may fall into the latter category. The registry is heavy on low-priced items (under $20) and then I have a few bigger ticket items ($200-ish), and then the really big items (stroller, crib, etc) are on a private registry that I've set up just for myself and immediate family (our parents) so that one wouldn't be shared with guests. It's been helpful for me to put everything I want into one place so that I can go back and buy what I don't get, but also don't want it to come off as tacky.
Shower invite question! I have a few people I'd invite but I know for whatever reason that they likely wouldn't be able to come (due around the same time as my shower, not being able to travel, etc). I can't decide if it's better to invite them so they know they are included (they would be the only one in a particular group of friends/family to not get an invite), or to not invite them so that it doesn't seem like I'm just looking for a gift when I know they won't be able to attend. Any thoughts on this? I'm probably overthinking it!
And a little tip! I set up a private registry for some of the big ticket items that I'd like to purchase soon and just set the due date a few months earlier than my actual due date so I can get the completion discount without having to wait until the last minute to buy.
I know there is a poll up about registering, but if the group is interested in a more general thread about registries and showers I'm happy to start one... just don't want to clutter the board!
@rivercitynik I wouldn't worry too much about going overboard. A lot of those moderately-priced items are going to go fast, so it's nice to give people lots of reasonable choices. Having some bigger ticket items is great, too, in case some people want to go in on something together or just have a bigger budget in general. Both I and my SIL (a more recent shower recipient) were asked to bulk up our registries a bit. We were both on the minimalist side of things, but I know at least for mine, people were complaining to the hostess that there weren't a lot of options once the basics were covered.
As for sending out invitations, this is a tough one, because I know the concern about seeming gift-grabby is REAL. My shower was hosted away from my hometown by a totally new group of people than who I usually spent time with. I decided not to send any invites to anyone from home, knowing that they weren’t going to make the 12 hour trek from Ohio to my place in Georgia to attend. But I think in your situation, since there’s only one person (a few people?) that would be left out, I would go ahead and include them so as not to ruffle feathers. I think that one person in the group would be more offended by not receiving one than vice versa.
ETA: I'm not really in the market for shower advice, since that ship has sailed for me, but I do think a more general thread for shower conversation might be helpful for a lot of people. Personally, I thought the poll was unnecessary, and a questions thread/place to share shower advice and experiences makes more sense. Or that particular poll thread could just morph into the all-things-shower thread to save space?
@wildrainbow Thanks, girl. She's been getting better about soothing herself back to sleep lately, but it's still not uncommon for me to wake up multiple times a night with her. After the third time of going in last night, I let her fuss longer than I usually do, thinking that she'd drift back off at some point (ya know - because it was 4AM by this point!). I still ended up having to go back in and calm her down. The past few nights have been worthless for getting any rest.
Unrelated to DD, DH has been participating in a fitness/mental stamina competition this week, so he's been up at the most random hours. Last night, he set his alarm for 2:30AM to get up and ready for a 12-mile ruck march this morning (bless his heart), so between his crazy schedule, the kids, and the animals, there's someone awake at all hours of the night. Ahhh! So sick of the broken sleep.
@rivercitynik I say go for the big registry. Some people will go off-registry if they don’t like the options, so hopefully the variety will keep them buying what you need/want. Worst case scenario you have a lot left over and you use the completion discount to finish it off. I also think it’s ok to invite friends and family you know won’t make it. Happy registry building! Since this is our second we only need lame things like new pacifiers, bottle brushes, etc. But I remember having so much fun last time!
@gomillis What an adorable announcement! YS is such a cutie... a little blondie like you
@rivercitynik I really wouldn't worry about adding too many items to your registry. It's nice to have a variety of price points and items for people to choose. Just know full well that it's likely everything isn't purchased and you get some off registry items/gift cards, etc. Plus, you never know who will send you items from your registry... Maybe some of your coworkers or parents' friends, etc. who weren't invited to the shower but still would like to send something. I have sent a gift to one of MH's friends... I'm not close with the wife but we still wanted to celebrate their new baby. Regarding invitations, I'd say send an invitation to whoever you would normally invite if you didn't know their situations. Better to include them than leave them out. And I agree with @lachnessmomster that I didn't particularly find the poll thread helpful, but would totally be down for a conversation thread about showers.
@lachnessmomster I'm sorry for the rough night and lack of sleep. Wow, props to YH for getting up at 2:30am!! Sending you coffee (it's actually a latte and now I want one lol)
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
@BusinessWife I also noticed that with the "1 New" even if you have never opened the thread. I find it extremely annoying. Also, TB is adding the 1 New after I post on a thread... so I need to reopen the thread to make it go away. TB responded to my complaint yesterday and I let them know everythingggggggg. We will see if anything changes. Ugh.
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
@rivercitynik I agree with everyone else that more is better! My thought process was mostly just because whatever doesn't get purchased, I can decide at the end to buy it with the completion discount. And it gives people more options... people already have a set amount they want to spend before they open your registry, so having a lot of options just gives people more ways to reach that threshold. I was planning to put the big items like a crib etc on the registry, fully expecting that no one would buy it (except maybe my parents or grandparents?)… but your tip of making a fake registry with an early due date to get an early completion discount is smart! My shower probably won't be until a bit later due to school and family travel, so we may want to get some big nursery items set up sooner.
As for inviting out of town guests, we are basically going to invite people who would have a reasonable shot of attending... my husband's family and friends in Puerto Rico and Florida aren't going to make the trip up to PA for a shower, so we don't want to send them invites. We have some other people who are out of town but much more reasonably able to attend (like 3-4 hours away), so we will invite them
Let’s do a separate registry thread! I’m sure a lot of people have questions outside the weekly products posts.
I would register for all the things you actually want. Just don’t register for crap you don’t really want because you will get it and have to return it. I received a bunch of stuff hand me down and people were annoyed I didn’t have those things on the registry for them to buy. I already had that! Pick something else I actually need, people. Ok that sounds a little spoiled but I learned that a lot of people have a go-to shower gift and won’t know what to do if it’s not there. The breastfeeding pillow is a common one and I got a lot of lectures from people without kids about how I needed one. Spoiler: I didn’t, a regular pillow worked best for me.
For shower: I would invite regardless. If they are going to send a gift anyway that directs them to your registry. And if they can’t come and don’t want to send a gift it’s no big deal.
I just want to share excellent news I got last night. Some of you might remember I held back telling people I was pregnant because my cousin is currently fostering a 6 month old that she's had since the baby was 4 days old. They have been hoping and praying to be able to keep this child as they have fallen completely in love with her. The baby's biological mother ended up getting herself caught up in a drug house raid (which is sad) and through the process of going through charges and what not she waived ALL her parental rights to the child my cousin is fostering and now on June 10th they go to court to start the adoption process. We are over the moon excited and happy, this may speed things up and it really un-complicates the situation by a lot. While there is still room to be nervous because obviously this isn't a done deal yet, it is a VERY good sign.
@RedBaramid I’m so glad your cousin can provide some stability for that baby. I hope things work out for her.
@lachnessmomster uhh no thanks to that fitness challenge I’m maybe feeling a bit better today? I’ve stayed on top of the Tylenol which has certainly helped. My appetite is a bit higher. I’ve cracked a window in my bedroom to get some fresh air and moved over to the love seat for a bit.
I have been having the same problems that you ladies have been having with this app/website. I have not responded to them yet, but I did get a response from the bumps customer experience team and they told me I should try logging into the app with my wifi and without and see what works best. Why would I not want to use free wifi to use an app. I'm kind of dumb founded by the bump's team. If I have wifi, the app should work just like my other apps with wifi. I shouldn't have to use my data to use an app.
In other news I have my doctors note and will be working physically in the office for two days out of the week. I'm so looking forward to this.
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
@RedBaramid that is such good news! Fingers crossed everything goes smoothly for them @blackgirlmagic that answer is so dumb lol. also for me it wasn't even working on my laptop and I don't exactly have the option of trying to use it on my laptop without wifi
@blackgirlmagic They said that to me too so I just let them know that I tried at home on my wifi and when I wasn't home using data and the site didn't load either time. I feel like they are really reaching here
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
@RedBaramid What wonderfully lovely news! That would be gut-wrenching for them to give up that sweet babe. I'm so happy for your cousin/family!
@blackgirlmagic Lol. That is literally what they tell everyone. It's so frustrating. Maybe actually fix your app instead of telling us all to switch things off, then back on again, Bump Team!?
I finally got my tax stuff sent over to my tax guy. It feels good to have that taken care of. Now I am exhausted and ready for bed...I definitely have more energy during the day but I am in bed every night before 9.
I just broke down and used my doppler for the first time this pregnancy. The temptation was too much! Took about 20 seconds to find a heartbeat in the 150s. Being a good girl and tucking it back into the closet now. 🙈
I finally got my tax stuff sent over to my tax guy. It feels good to have that taken care of. Now I am exhausted and ready for bed...I definitely have more energy during the day but I am in bed every night before 9.
We're doing that tomorrow! We've never used an accountant before, just Turbotax, so I'm hoping we did it right. Hopefully, they don't come back with "we need x, y and z," and we have to go back through everything again.
ETA If anything @coldlife that's the thing I ❤️ about the accountant, is if they need anything, they just tell you. Much prefer that to doing it myself, clicking send on the computer, and hoping for the best. 🤷
For the first time in months I fell asleep around 8ish and I did not wake up until 5:30, my alarm was set to go off at 5:55. I put my daughter to bed and just laid in bed for, what I thought, would be a few minutes. I woke up to my husband coming home and turning off the lights. Typically, when I fall asleep early I'm up around 10/11. But I did not wake up again until 2ish to go to the bathroom and take my prenatal. I feel like new women. And it's my telework day and I get to telework tomorrow as well. Life feels pretty good right about now!
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
@coldlife and @BusinessWife I would try TurboTax or something similar if it wasn't for my husband's taxes. Mine are simple but he has his own business so his tax forms that he gets from his business accountant are too much for me. We have a reasonably priced guy that handles it and it does feel nice to send it all in and just wait for an email update.
@coldlife For as long as DH and I have been married, we have had a tax professional do our taxes for us, and we STILL have RITA calling/sending letters saying that we didn't do something right. DH even recently had to go to a lawyer affiliated with the army to deal with them, and they're still hassling us. It's like, this is exactly why we have someone else do them - so we know for certain that everything is squared away. Thank goodness I keep excellent track of all of our tax records. Save everything, guys!
Not to be a doomsday-er... but I'm beginning to slightly panic with COVID-19. There's one confirmed case in NJ and I know that means there are more. Everyone is so packed in here and travels all over the state/NYC that it's absolutely spread. I'm just nervous because being pg my immune system is already suppressed which would make me more susceptible and it more difficult to fight if I were to become sick... and there's not a whole lot of information on how/if it affects a baby in utero - most of it came from China and I don't trust their data since they just push their own narrative. My boss said this morning that if anyone in the office feels off they should stay home (thank god bc my coworker who sits next to me has come in full blown sick in the past), and we can log in from home if we need to. We are also avoiding scheduling in-person client meetings when possible. I'm ordering groceries to be delivered Saturday to try and stock up on some frozen items. Is anyone else freaking out and/or preparing?
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
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Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
@WishesSheCouldCook That is no fun! Hope you feel better soon.
@RedBaramid Hope your husband can enjoy his birthday!
SOS. Send coffee.
- Is there a threshold for what's a normal amount of items to register for and what's Too Much, lol. I'm worried I may fall into the latter category. The registry is heavy on low-priced items (under $20) and then I have a few bigger ticket items ($200-ish), and then the really big items (stroller, crib, etc) are on a private registry that I've set up just for myself and immediate family (our parents) so that one wouldn't be shared with guests. It's been helpful for me to put everything I want into one place so that I can go back and buy what I don't get, but also don't want it to come off as tacky.
- Shower invite question! I have a few people I'd invite but I know for whatever reason that they likely wouldn't be able to come (due around the same time as my shower, not being able to travel, etc). I can't decide if it's better to invite them so they know they are included (they would be the only one in a particular group of friends/family to not get an invite), or to not invite them so that it doesn't seem like I'm just looking for a gift when I know they won't be able to attend. Any thoughts on this? I'm probably overthinking it!
- And a little tip! I set up a private registry for some of the big ticket items that I'd like to purchase soon and just set the due date a few months earlier than my actual due date so I can get the completion discount without having to wait until the last minute to buy.
I know there is a poll up about registering, but if the group is interested in a more general thread about registries and showers I'm happy to start one... just don't want to clutter the board!ETA: I'm not really in the market for shower advice, since that ship has sailed for me, but I do think a more general thread for shower conversation might be helpful for a lot of people. Personally, I thought the poll was unnecessary, and a questions thread/place to share shower advice and experiences makes more sense. Or that particular poll thread could just morph into the all-things-shower thread to save space?
Unrelated to DD, DH has been participating in a fitness/mental stamina competition this week, so he's been up at the most random hours. Last night, he set his alarm for 2:30AM to get up and ready for a 12-mile ruck march this morning (bless his heart), so between his crazy schedule, the kids, and the animals, there's someone awake at all hours of the night. Ahhh! So sick of the broken sleep.
@rivercitynik I really wouldn't worry about adding too many items to your registry. It's nice to have a variety of price points and items for people to choose. Just know full well that it's likely everything isn't purchased and you get some off registry items/gift cards, etc. Plus, you never know who will send you items from your registry... Maybe some of your coworkers or parents' friends, etc. who weren't invited to the shower but still would like to send something. I have sent a gift to one of MH's friends... I'm not close with the wife but we still wanted to celebrate their new baby. Regarding invitations, I'd say send an invitation to whoever you would normally invite if you didn't know their situations. Better to include them than leave them out. And I agree with @lachnessmomster that I didn't particularly find the poll thread helpful, but would totally be down for a conversation thread about showers.
@lachnessmomster I'm sorry for the rough night and lack of sleep. Wow, props to YH for getting up at 2:30am!! Sending you coffee (it's actually a latte and now I want one lol)
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
As for inviting out of town guests, we are basically going to invite people who would have a reasonable shot of attending... my husband's family and friends in Puerto Rico and Florida aren't going to make the trip up to PA for a shower, so we don't want to send them invites. We have some other people who are out of town but much more reasonably able to attend (like 3-4 hours away), so we will invite them
I would register for all the things you actually want. Just don’t register for crap you don’t really want because you will get it and have to return it. I received a bunch of stuff hand me down and people were annoyed I didn’t have those things on the registry for them to buy. I already had that! Pick something else I actually need, people. Ok that sounds a little spoiled but I learned that a lot of people have a go-to shower gift and won’t know what to do if it’s not there. The breastfeeding pillow is a common one and I got a lot of lectures from people without kids about how I needed one. Spoiler: I didn’t, a regular pillow worked best for me.
For shower: I would invite regardless. If they are going to send a gift anyway that directs them to your registry. And if they can’t come and don’t want to send a gift it’s no big deal.
I’m maybe feeling a bit better today? I’ve stayed on top of the Tylenol which has certainly helped. My appetite is a bit higher. I’ve cracked a window in my bedroom to get some fresh air and moved over to the love seat for a bit.
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In other news I have my doctors note and will be working physically in the office for two days out of the week. I'm so looking forward to this.
@blackgirlmagic Enjoy that time working from home!
@blackgirlmagic that answer is so dumb lol. also for me it wasn't even working on my laptop and I don't exactly have the option of trying to use it on my laptop without wifi
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
I got crickets. 🤷
I've been using the mobile browser for several months now.
@blackgirlmagic Lol. That is literally what they tell everyone. It's so frustrating. Maybe actually fix your app instead of telling us all to switch things off, then back on again, Bump Team!?
ETA If anything @coldlife that's the thing I ❤️ about the accountant, is if they need anything, they just tell you. Much prefer that to doing it myself, clicking send on the computer, and hoping for the best. 🤷
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl