May 2020 Moms

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  • @pirateduck see that is where I lose my shit, you know when trash day is, WHY DO YOU NEED ME TO DIRECT YOU!!!! As you can tell this makes me all kind of ragey lol.
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  • @mamaj1220 exactly.  I get it, at 6:30 in the morning on trash day, you might forget what day it is and forget to bring it to the curb, but when you pass the can at the end of the driveway numerous times and can see it from the window it should dawn on you that it has to come back in at some point!
  • ok ok we need to change the subject to something less irritating... 

    what are you most excited about teaching your son/daughter?  or what hobbies/activities are you most excited about sharing with them?
  • I'm late to the conversation but DH is exactly the same. In my most recent pregnancy breakdown, I confessed that I don't think he's going to support me once the baby comes because he doesn't help with anything around the house. He says that he knows that once baby comes he'll be responsible for the housework, but we'll see what happens ... I love the idea of a chore chart. I've told him that we need to sit down and discuss what our roles will be once baby comes. As of now I do everything. I'll give him some credit. He does put his towel away after he showers now (when we first started living together that did not happen). Yesterday, he even put his pocket change in the change jar before throwing it in the hamper. I was so excited :sweat_smile: He's trying, I just wish some days that he would try harder and more consistently
    Me: 28  DH: 29
    FTM
    BFP 08/25/19, EDD 05/04/20
  • heyybrittheyybritt member
    edited January 2020
    @pirateduck hmm, can't think of a hobby per se but I am SO excited to introduce him to my favorite books. I already know which children's books I want to make sure we have and will be so excited when I get to read Harry Potter with him the first time. I know that is several years down the road but I have already thought about how special that will be to me.
    Me: 31 ~ DH: 34 
    FTM
    BFP: 9/5/19 ~ EDD 5/15/20
  • @heyybritt yes to introducing our kids to Harry Potter! I can't wait.

    Our kids will definitely start piano lessons in elementary school. We already try to foster excitement about music with DD1 by playing various instruments with her (piano, guitar, and trumpet at home) and exposing her to my music program at school as much as possible. She loves coming to marching band rehearsals and "helping" conduct, and she likes to play all the percussion instruments in my classroom. We also do a ton of singing with her.

    Aside from that, I'm looking forward to camping with them when they are a little older (we've gone with DD1, but she has trouble staying asleep in the tent when it gets cold at night, so that's slightly less than enjoyable). I know H is really excited about introducing them to video games in the right manner, i.e. games that are collaborative (so he can play with them) and have simple story lines or goals when they first start out. My parents were pretty anti-video games, so I didn't grow up with them, but as a parent now I'm all for H and our kids playing together because it fosters interaction.
  • @soprano19 MH is excited to share video games too. He said the other day that he can't wait for when our kid can't beat a level and asks dad to help him so they can play together.
    Me: 31 ~ DH: 34 
    FTM
    BFP: 9/5/19 ~ EDD 5/15/20
  • @pirateduck I was gonna jump in late on the H that doesn't pull his weight discussion but I'll skip it now haha. 

    I'm excited to cook/bake with my LO years down the road. Also watching her with dogs is something I'm looking forward to because kids and dogs are just too freaking cute. I hope she's as obsessed with them as I am. Maybe she'll like crafts like I did growing up and we can make lots of fun stuff together :).
  • I'm also excited to cook and bake with my little. I'm really looking forward to taking them to the mountains to go hiking and camping. 
  • cmhme my husband and I often talk about the idea sports for a kid to play, from a parent spectator perspective. 
    DD #1: April 2017
    DD #2: May 2020
    Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022

  • @pirateduck you can probably relate to this - but we love sharing our love for the mountains with DS and can't wait to do it again with this baby! This is DS's second year snowboarding and he's LOVING it - BTW you definitely need to check out Loveland's Winter Wiggler program in a few years - I think its 2-4 years old, DS went last year and is going again this year starting next week. It's an all day program 9-2 and they do a bunch of winter activities for pre schoolers through the Forest and Wildlife Service and they also do snowboard or ski lessons for 3 hours out of the day. DS has soo much fun!! 

    Other than that - we enjoy teaching all the "soft skills" like empathy and general be a good human type stuff. It's so rewarding when you see your little kid help someone without prompting, or say something so caring/loving to someone else. 
  • On the chores/housework discussion - this is something MH and I struggle a lot with because we grew up so different culturally. I grew up with my dad doing a lot of housework - he cooked, cleaned, did yard work, dishes, whatever - and he worked 40-50 hours a week while my mom was a stay at home mom. My mom also did a lot of housework and yard work too. It was very much "equal" and everyone pitched in. period. 

    MH though comes from a very traditional Mexican family with traditional values in that the men are treated as kings. My FIL is a super hard worker and provides for his family and does all the outside work - but he will not lift a finger in the kitchen, do laundry, vacuum, or anything like that - and my MIL would be appalled if he even tried. MH definitely moved out not knowing how to work a washer/dryer, dishwasher, or really do any type of real "cleaning" and since he was the youngest of 5 boys he also never really had to do any labor type work either. We've been together for 10 years and it's caused many arguments, but I think we are finally at a place that is more equal and he definitely pulls his weight more. I do still have to ask him to do dishes and he's responsibly for planning/executing one weekday dinner every week. I don't care if he orders pizza, but he's completely in charge so I don't have to think about it. 
  • Looking forward to sharing Star Wars and Harry Potter love with kiddos. And musical instruments. Hopefully by the time current baby is 1 or 2 we will be able to more regularly at least play around with them.

    Our oldest has tent camped twice now, and hoping we'll go again either fall 2020 (somewhere very close for just 1 night, or maybe we'll just do backyard) or summer 2021 with our friends. We love to go with our adult friends who have no kids, so it's easier to spread out the cooking, cleaning, set up tasks amongst more bodies! Our oldest went at barely 1, and barely 2, when I was like 28 weeks pregnant with my second. We had 4 friend weddings last summer, so even though we felt ready to take a 3 year old and almost 1 year old, we didn't have enough weekend time between the weddings, bachelor(ette) parties. This coming summer unlikely to want tiny baby to go, but again, maybe for a full day outside, some local hiking and parks, all meals outside, and then daddy and big kids sleep in tent in backyard (we're on a half acre which backs up to thousands of acres of  corn fields), with newborn and mommy sleeping inside.
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    Me: 33
    DH: 32
    Married 7/18/15
    1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
    Team green turned BLUE!
    2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 
    Team green turned PINK!
    Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green

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  • For those that struggle with husbands and household stuff, start small, and I mean very small. MH was an only child and a boy, so his mom had him spoiled and very entitled. He hates dishes, messes up laundry and don’t get me started on toilets. However, he’s a pretty decent cook and he doesn’t mind vacuuming/mopping. Twice a month he’s responsible for mopping, he tries to vacuum once a week and when I meal plan I add something simple that he can handle. 
     
    Ground beef is stupid simple even for those that are cooking challenged, so he usually handles tacos or spaghetti. 
  • @pirateduck I share have zero musical talent but married into a super musical family. Both MIL and FIL are music teachers and DH plays three instruments. So hopefully my kiddos inherented some of that but even if they're terrible at least the lessons will be free  :D
  • Yes to the free lessons @emlettuce !  My husband can look at the chords of a song online and in less than five minutes play it recognizably on both the guitar and the piano and then add in a beat.  This is all far beyond my comprehension  :D
  • @pirateduck that's so obnoxious and I totally sympathize about incompetent HR departments. Mine have been making my life crazy too (for other reasons). Hopefully since the money has been coming out of your paycheck it's just a matter of getting the account sorted out and then you won't have to deal with any other issues.
  • @pirateduck That is odd.  I have a Cigna HSA and I do not recall having to do any of that.  They just sent my debit card around the same time as my insurance cards.  
    **TW**
    Me: 35 | H: 40
    Married Sept. 2013
    DS1: Nov 11, 2016 <3
    MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
    CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
    BFP!  8/24/19
    DS2: May 10, 2020 <3


  • @shamrocandroll the HSA is through a third party, Discovery Benefits, even though my primary insurance is with Cigna.

    Also though my HR department should have my DL and SSN info/proof on file as everything was updated with them when I got married and changed my name, but again, if they needed this from me, they should have asked.  It will all get sorted I'm sure, but it's annoying and I don't feel like it should be my problem.  
  • @pirateduck I have the same one and didn't have to do anything extra. I don't think HR had mine in file either because I used my passport for my i9. Very interesting
  • I'm happy there are so many music people and outdoors people here!
  • I think I'm mostly excited to see what they're interested in, and how they develop. That said, DH and I love boardgames, and we've already started talking about games that work for younger kids and how we can get them into gaming. I l would love to do crafty and creative things with them, too. 

    I grew up in scouting, and I really want them both to get involved with that, too. We shall see.
  • For anyone who is interested in board games for young kiddos beyond just Candy Land, I highly recommend Animal Upon Animal and Uno Moo. Fantastic options for the under 4 crowd. And the pieces likely won't get ruined by younger siblings.
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    Me: 33
    DH: 32
    Married 7/18/15
    1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
    Team green turned BLUE!
    2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 
    Team green turned PINK!
    Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green

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  • edited February 2020
    @rox7777 your outdoor oasis sounds fun! DS loves his splash table and kiddie pool so I'm sure your boys will as well!
  • @rox7777 We'll have a similar here. Two kiddie pools, water table, we'll have driveway space blocked by car to have 2 or 3 kid vehicles and a bike, plus a swing set with monkey bars (kids too little yet), rock wall, and slide.And sidewalk chalk! Two different sprinklers for really hot days (1 at a time, but still!) and I'm hoping to set myself up in shade in garage with baby. Also hoping to find a quick cheap playard to set baby in safely in case older kids need help (they'll be barely 4 and not-quite-2 when school starts). Crossing fingers that we can also get a kid roller coaster right around birth. 
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    Me: 33
    DH: 32
    Married 7/18/15
    1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
    Team green turned BLUE!
    2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 
    Team green turned PINK!
    Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green

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  • Those looking for board games for littles, our favorites right now are Sneaky, Snacky Squirrel and First Orchard for DD (age 3). 

    I hadn’t even really thought much about keeping DD occupied this summer. She’ll still be in daycare full time, but I probably at least need to replace our holey kiddie pool for days at home. We just moved in last summer so this year we’re hoping to get some kind of playset, though it may just be a climbing dome to start. 
  • DD and DS will both be home all summer for the first time. I signed them up for a handful of 2 hr camps and one week at an all day horse camp. We have the blow up pool in the backyard and the park nearby, but I feel like they're going to need more stimulation and I'm going to have my hands full with two babies. I'm also hoping to exhaust them so they sleep through all the night activity.
  • My older daughter who will be 3 will stay in daycare while I'm on maternity leave. Our summer go-to is our water table. We have an enclosed deck so that's pretty perfect since she can't get anywhere but back in the house. We'll probably take family walks when she and DH get home from work/daycare.
    DD #1: April 2017
    DD #2: May 2020
    Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022

  • @ruby696 not sure how old DD and DS are, but water play(sprinklers, slip n slide, wayer table, etc...), gymnastic open gyms, library storytimes/clubs, bike rides/walks, playdates with friends, and lots of park play are what I use during summers with my 2, 3, and 7 year old.
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