Everyone send me your good vibes- I am spending all day with my grandma today. She’s a very difficult woman and not a warm and fuzzy grandma. She has a really messed up relationship with food and insisted we eat at the Olive Garden last night and proceeded to eat a quarter bowl of soup and dry salad after commenting on the calories of everything. In two days she’s asked me three times how much I’ve gained already and commented on my boob size lol. I don’t know how my mom turned out relatively scathe free from her childhood with her...
@hayhay2501 happy, calming vibes coming your way! That’s difficult to deal with even without pregnancy hormones in play. Hopefully you make it out of there without too much stress.
I am so annoyed with myself for using the Chinese gender predictor. It says I am having a girl... I know it isnt accurate for every one but I felt as though I may be having a boy and this put so much doubt in my mind that I am having weird dreams about the baby's gender. I cant wait to find out for sure
Why isn’t there a September 2020 Moms board yet? Surely there are ladies due at the beginning of September that are finding out they’re pregnant now. Obviously it’s not a big deal, but I like seeing us get bumped further down the list!
@kjack86@bbluemoo I love you ladies. That made me feel better lol. I want a healthy baby but I really want a little boy. It was right with my daughter so that makes doubt my intuition
@bbluemoo , @lizanet , @mariabele thanks ladies!! We survived. Only had one weight run in when she tried to make me get an XL in maternity clothes instead of my usual medium. I wish we were close but she makes it so hard!
@lizanet have you tried the ring test over your hand where it supposedly tells you how many children you’ll have and in what gender order? It was right for me, and I’ve talked to so many people that it was right for. Obviously it’s just for fun, but after seeing it work multiple times on my friend who has 4 kids, I got a little freaked out!
@kjack86 ok this is so creepy! I just looked up what the ‘ring test’ was. I know I am having a girl first since I am currently pregnant with my first and it’s a girl and I know I would stop after a second. The test said girl, boy, done! Excuse me while I go try this 5 more times lol.
Anyone have names picked out yet? We are 18 weeks in with our baby girl and we have narrowed it down to two very similar names. What do you guys think...
Raena Reece (nickname -Rae)
Rian Reece (pronounces Ree-an)
Side note/vent- I told my family the sex of the baby on New Years since we were all together. Unfortunately, I did let it slip that my cousin already knew. She is an interior designer and I had shared my Pinterest board with her as she is helping me with my nursing/registry. She was also giving me a bunch of her old baby stuff and it was super obvious that I was saying no to all the ‘clearly for a boy’ things. Anyway, my mom got super upset and said she was ‘really hurt’. Between her and my stepdad this is grand baby #11 but it is my first and I am her only girl and her youngest child. I sent a long message apologizing, she still hasn’t responded and it’s stressing me out.
On the in law side, we have yet to tell them (just because we haven’t been all together yet) but my MIL has been A LOT so far. She thinks it’s a boy and has already assigned a name, she even addressed gifts to ‘him’ during Christmas. We told her we had names in mind already but she keeps doing it. I know she’s just trying to be cute but it’s starting to bug me. She also told me she wants to be in the room when I deliver... anyone else’s in laws wanting to THAT involved?
@ladybird5617 Right?!? Mine said boy, girl, done and I have a 15 month old son and we’ll be done after this baby girl arrives. It’s crazy!
I love the name Rae, so I’m a fan of the first option!
Sorry about the situation with your mom. Surely she’ll come around. You’ve apologized and that’s really all you can do (even though I’m not sure you did anything requiring an apology). My mom and I are very close and it was so stressful the few times she’s been upset with me.
Sounds like you’ve got your hands full with your mother-in-law...she sounds similar to mine. I hoped our relationship would improve with a baby, thinking I would just appreciate her for loving my child. But honestly, it’s just made me have less patience for her overbearing and always-knows-better personality. Good luck! My only recommendation is to set boundaries early on and remind her that you’re the mom and you’re in charge, regardless of her opinions and experience.
@kjack86 that’s what I worry about with MIL, and honestly I feel like the bad guy because she’s always so sweet about everything but I worry about how enabling she is going to be. My husband will even say he needed more structure, boundaries and limits growing up. She already does it with my dog and it drives me nuts. He has crazy food allergies so we can’t feed him random stuff off our plates but she will sneak him little bits and he always begs around her. That or she will say, “sorry doggy, your mom says I can’t give you any food” to which I reply, “you can feed him whatever you want if you want to pay the vet bill” 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ I already know it is going to be a million times worse with the baby and I’ll be the bad guy saying “no” and she’ll play the sweet old ‘just want to spoil my grandkids’ card.
@ladybird5617 we’ve known our girl name since before conceiving but not sure about boy name yet (we have a middle name though).
also, in-laws 🙄 I told everybody that my husband is the only one coming in the room. So my MIL and SIL were both like “okay well we’ll just wait in the waiting room so we can meet baby right away!”. I’m like, you live an hour away from the hospital and it’ll be June so the roads are fine. You can just stay at home until we tell you to come. I already told my husband that I want a few hours just the 3 of us, so I don’t want to feel rushed to let them come in because I know they’re sitting right outside.
We leave for our Disney cruise today!!! I’m SO EXCITED!!! I won’t be able to be on here until end of the week so I hope all you ladies have a great week xo
@ladybird5617 I knew my boy name for sure but now I know it's a girl I am clueless. Girls names are so hard for me.
@hayhay2501 Have fun! Let us know how it was when you come back. I've been researching them cause I'd like to take go on one with my kids sometime during 2021. Obviously this LO won't get much out of it as an infant but it's more for my son.
Okay so I did the ring test too. I had a loss prior to my 3 year old son.
I got girl, boy, boy, girl, done.
I always knew in my gut that our first was a girl. Like I just knew. Then we had Ds and now baby brother. I told Dh I want a 3rd. We will see if that happens. And of course I'm going to do the test again.
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So I did the ring test about 100 times prior to becoming pregnant this time and it said boy, girl, boy EVERY TIME! Well we have found out baby #2 is a boy and now it says boy, boy, girl. We will try for baby #3 but with fertility issues that is no.guarantee, so the number is potentially right but the sex was wrong prior to me finding out this was a boy
@hayhay2501 hope that you are enjoying your cruise! Should be super relaxing.
We are 90% sure that we are naming our son Branson. Still figuring out middle names, but we have time.
We started touring at daycares the other day, since finding common free time is challenging. Anyway, this process has made me feel super ill prepared and doubting my abilities to be a mom (not that it matters much now). DH keeps reassuring me, but my mind is out of control. Any advice or words of wisdom? I have therapy on Wednesday so I will certainly talk to her about it as well.
I finally got around to doing the ring test. Apprently my intuition is right. Now to patiently wait for the sono to confirm. I watched a few videos of women doing it and it is extremely creepy how accurate it has been.
Holy cow I've been MIA for awhile. Lots to catch up on. It's been a crazy holiday season and I'm relieved it's behind us. Looking forward to getting back into a routine tomorrow! Hope all you ladies are feeling well... Happy baby year!
I am not ready for school to start again tomorrow. Plus I have one morning meeting this week and 2 afternoon ones. Who does that our first week back?!?! Oh and I'm getting a new class which I'm worried about. But I'm sure it will all be fine.
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Pretty sure I just felt quickening/flutters for the first time! I’d heard women describe it as popcorn popping in your stomach and I couldn’t imagine that being a thing. But I’m laying on my back in bed and was falling asleep when I felt the popcorn 😂
@rabbitmama09 I think talking to your therapist is a great place to start with those feelings. Also, I think knowledge is power so it may be helpful for you to read a parenting/child development book while pregnant. It’s been awhile, but I started Dr. Sears Baby Book when pregnant with my first and read along as my DS1 got older (through his toddler years). There are many books out there though that may help you feel more confident! Mothering is the hardest work I’ve ever done but I am a firm believer that we are all chosen for each of our little ones. There will always be mistakes made but you are the exact right mom for your baby!
@runwmusic okay I haven’t tried the ring test because I’m confused haha. When do you know when it stops (like # of kids)? Does the ring stay still?
@rabbitmama09 Those feelings seem totally normal to me. My husband and I didn’t want to leave the hospital pp until we got kicked out. It was so strange to us that we would be alone with our baby without professionals guiding us. I just kept thinking about how so many people have done this and it’s been ok. Wanting to be a good parent seems like a good start, and then there’s always books and pediatric nurses and even the internet for answer, and if you’re lucky enough, other loved ones to help out too. Maybe reading up on what to expect could help you feel more prepared, but you’re already a mom. You’ve been taking care of this baby for months. 🙂
@begging4abump and @lynkat I havent bought a bought for pp yet, but that would probably help ease my anxiety. I know it will all work out and it is one of the most natural things, but still. I appreciate your words.
@ErikandAfton that does not sound like fun at all. Good luck, you've got this!
@rabbitmama09 I’m a planner, and read all the books/blogs/articles/did all the things, and the first night we brought DS home from the hospital he was awake all night and I called my mom at 6 am the next morning crying because I didn’t know what to do. (Turns out he was hungry because my milk hadn’t come in and his latch was off but I didn’t realize it). You can do this and you will do this, no matter how scary it seems. No amount of advance preparation will prepare you for the way your exact baby acts, but I’m team do whatever eases your anxiety leading up to birth. For me, it was research and classes and finding support people. You’re going to be a great mama!
To all the educators in this group - May the force be with you today as you are (likely) heading back to school! The service you do is appreciated and if your students are anything like mine were, they are ready to come back to safety, meals, friends, teachers, and routines! Have a blessed week and take care! ❤️
Some one explain to me how in the HECK someone would bring their child who was JUST diagnosed with the FLU to a dental appointment. We had a family of 5 scheduled. Dad's appt was at 11 with the middle child. Daughter was being seen at the same time as mom(10 am). Youngest was waiting for his turn(should of been 1030). Not once in an entire HOUR did she say he had the flu. Then dad strolls in at 1050 and they are STILL sitting here. He just stated he has been off the entire damn day. If I get the flu I dont know what the heck I will do. Once the mom told the dad that he has the flu he should of came early to get the child and cancelled his appt or something. People are so inconsiderate!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@rabbitmama09 No mother will EVER be prepared enough. Every child is different. As you get to know your child you will adjust. Read up on topics you fear the most.Also all hospitals offer classes I definitely recommend attending one. Once that angel is here you will figure it out together. Just relax and do not stress(I know easier said than done) Your mommy instincts will kick in and take over.
Kids and I have had a series of colds with so few days off between, since mid October. Ugh. They seem to finally be at end of coughing today, but of course my oldest went back to school yesterday, so I'm sure I won't have a chance to recover before toddlers get me again. I want my immune system back. First year in school is NO JOKE. Wouldn't have chosen to be pregnant for this school year, lol.
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I cant wait until the kicks are more consistent. I don't know why but i still worry. I had my OB appointment last Thursday and he had to chase the baby to find the heart beat, the doctor said okay that's a kick, he or she kicked the doppler(trying to put me at ease) I said okay but where's the heart beat. I felt so irrational afterwards.
Re: January Randoms
I love the name Rae, so I’m a fan of the first option!
Sorry about the situation with your mom. Surely she’ll come around. You’ve apologized and that’s really all you can do (even though I’m not sure you did anything requiring an apology). My mom and I are very close and it was so stressful the few times she’s been upset with me.
Sounds like you’ve got your hands full with your mother-in-law...she sounds similar to mine. I hoped our relationship would improve with a baby, thinking I would just appreciate her for loving my child. But honestly, it’s just made me have less patience for her overbearing and always-knows-better personality. Good luck! My only recommendation is to set boundaries early on and remind her that you’re the mom and you’re in charge, regardless of her opinions and experience.
ETA - the Chinese prediction calendar was right for me both times, too.
also, in-laws 🙄 I told everybody that my husband is the only one coming in the room. So my MIL and SIL were both like “okay well we’ll just wait in the waiting room so we can meet baby right away!”. I’m like, you live an hour away from the hospital and it’ll be June so the roads are fine. You can just stay at home until we tell you to come. I already told my husband that I want a few hours just the 3 of us, so I don’t want to feel rushed to let them come in because I know they’re sitting right outside.
@hayhay2501 Have fun! Let us know how it was when you come back. I've been researching them cause I'd like to take go on one with my kids sometime during 2021. Obviously this LO won't get much out of it as an infant but it's more for my son.
TTC#1 - March 2013
BFP 8/9/13 - EDD 4/14/14 - DS born 4/23/14
TTC#2 November 2015
Dx: Secondary IF June 2016
Medicated IUI cycle#1- Clomid+IUI -1/15/17 -BFN
Break Mid 2017 - Resumed TTC December 2018
"She believed she could so she did..."
Medicated IUI cycle#2- Femara 5mg+IUI 12/22/18 - BFP 1/4/19 - MMC 2/1/19
Saline Sono 3/15/19 - All Clear!
Medicated IUI cycle#3- Femara 7.5mg+IUI 3/28/19-BFN
Medicated IUI cycle#4- Femara 5mg+Gonal F 50iu+IUI 4/27/19- BFP 5/11/19 - MMC 6/12/19 - D&C 6/14/19-
Incomplete M/C Repeat D&C - 7/3/19 -Testing concluded baby was genetically normal
Dx: Unexplained RPL July 2019 - Tested + as carrier for Usher Syndrome & Familial Mediterranean Fever
Saline Sono 8/7/19 - Mostly Clear! All systems go for IVF#1
But will need a repeat Saline Sono between ER and FET
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ER#1 8/27/19 - 12R, 6F, 4 biopsied+frozen! (3d5blasts + 1d6blast)- 2 PGS normal embabies!
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Havent tried that yet but thats now on my to do list thank you!
I got girl, boy, boy, girl, done.
I always knew in my gut that our first was a girl. Like I just knew. Then we had Ds and now baby brother. I told Dh I want a 3rd. We will see if that happens. And of course I'm going to do the test again.
We are 90% sure that we are naming our son Branson. Still figuring out middle names, but we have time.
We started touring at daycares the other day, since finding common free time is challenging. Anyway, this process has made me feel super ill prepared and doubting my abilities to be a mom (not that it matters much now). DH keeps reassuring me, but my mind is out of control. Any advice or words of wisdom? I have therapy on Wednesday so I will certainly talk to her about it as well.
I watched a few videos of women doing it and it is extremely creepy how accurate it has been.
@runwmusic okay I haven’t tried the ring test because I’m confused haha. When do you know when it stops (like # of kids)? Does the ring stay still?
@begging4abump and @lynkat I havent bought a bought for pp yet, but that would probably help ease my anxiety. I know it will all work out and it is one of the most natural things, but still. I appreciate your words.
@ErikandAfton that does not sound like fun at all. Good luck, you've got this!
We had a family of 5 scheduled. Dad's appt was at 11 with the middle child. Daughter was being seen at the same time as mom(10 am). Youngest was waiting for his turn(should of been 1030). Not once in an entire HOUR did she say he had the flu. Then dad strolls in at 1050 and they are STILL sitting here. He just stated he has been off the entire damn day. If I get the flu I dont know what the heck I will do. Once the mom told the dad that he has the flu he should of came early to get the child and cancelled his appt or something. People are so inconsiderate!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green