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  • @runwmusic my daughter had torticollis and plagiocephaly as well, though we were able to avoid the helmet - but she was in physical therapy 2x a week for a year (she also had a gross motor delay). I'm glad to have that PT knowledge for the second one in my back pocket now!
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  • Oh, how could I forget...

    Two words:

    Daniel Tiger.
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    kyrwynMssyMmmy
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  • Oh, how could I forget...

    Two words:

    Daniel Tiger.
    And when you cannot stand the songs and the  voices anymore, Shaun the Sheep has zero dialog. You. Are. Welcome. 
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  • I love Daniel Tiger!  Baby bum is what is super annoying to me.  Pig...SUPER PIG!
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  • I love Daniel Tiger!  Baby bum is what is super annoying to me.  Pig...SUPER PIG!
    Ah see and I love LBB! My DD is speech delayed and I think baby bum has actually helped her to learn a ton of new words!

    DS is into Blippi.... Now THAT is pure torture! 


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  • +1 on PT for torticollis. It was actually an LC who noticed DS’s when she saw him in his car seat and asked what we were doing for it. It wasn’t yet super noticeable when he was out of his seat. Next ped appointment we got a referral to a pediatric PT who is incredible with kids & parents. It’s really all about the tummy time. It’s huge for foundational mind-body connections.

    DS hated tummy time with a fiery passion and it’s so easy to just not get to it today, or tomorrow, or the next day. Don’t want to do it too soon after a meal bc then he spits up. Don’t want to kick the poor thing when he’s down and is already upset. If he’s happy, I don’t want to make him unhappy. And their stuff about “get down on the floor with them” is a) no duh and b) not magic. I spent a lot of time face to face with him on the ground with toys singing songs while he screamed bloody murder. But we learned a lot about ways to work into tummy time that made it much more enjoyable for him and us. When we get closer to outside babies, we can start a thread with some of the baby activity stuff. :)
        
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  • Daniel Tiger is my parenting method.
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  • @kiki75 tummy time is so hard when they legit HATE it.  We did a lot of tummy time with me reclined on the couch and DD laying on her belly on my chest looking at me....for the FTM’s, that TOTALLY counts.  Don’t underestimate the impact that even 5-10 minutes like that can have!
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    kiki75
  • Tummy time developed my DS's lung capacity along with his gross motor control. 😅 We found it was a great thing to get Grandma and Grandpa in on whenever they visited. 
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  • @saladflambe If you have to go potty, stop and go right away! Flush and wash and be on your way!
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  • @lwhrmomma Ugh blippi....I was so very glad when DS stopped asking for that on repeat. I can still hum that theme song. 

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  • @diagonalley when you feel so mad that you gotta roar take a deep breath *deep breath* and count to 44. 1,2,3,4.  Daniel Tiger has helped my parenting so much!!

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    Started TTC: 9/17/2012
    Dx: PCOS
    BFP: 1/17/2015
    DS: 8/28/2015 at 35 weeks 6 days
    JessiBride
  • Actual convo with my 3-year-old last night...
    (Luna is a cat)

    Luna: *scratches sofa*
    Me: (slightly raised voice) Luna no!
    Emma from the bathroom: what’s wrong mama?
    Me: Luna was scratching the sofa
    Emma: it’s ok mama
    Me: it’s ok?
    Emma: (comes into room singing- from Daniel tiger) stop, stop, stop! it’s ok to be angry, it’s not ok to hurt someone. Remember mama? It’s ok to be angry at Luna, but Luna is my kitty too! *pets Luna*

    ....well ok then
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    JessiBridestassischroeder
  • @kiki75 ; ds HATED tummy time on the floor or on my chest. He would scream bloody murder instantly. Really hoping this time around isn't that bad. Our pt was amazing though. If I have issues with this baby I will end up going in sooner than later for help even though I know the stretches now.
    kiki75
  • @runwmusic My oldest did tummy time as baby carrier time where his head wasn't fully supported by carrier. Because even on my chest we got nowhere, and as a reflux baby, he would puke everywhere. So him learning to lift and hold head while he was vertical was a good start until he was 4 months old.
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  • @pourmeanothermocktail ds had great neck control early on and was crawling by 5 months. He really took off but the first three months were awful. He wanted nothing to do with anything but laying on his back or being in his jumper. Pt didn't like the jumper so he was on his back more often. Looking back I would have let him jump more often. Ftm worries I guess.

    This pregnancy is so different than the last. Makes me wonder if they will be opposites! 
  • @diagonalley OMG that song is always stuck in my head. Lol
  • Boooooo blippi! Have you looked up that guys history? Apparently he used to be famous for making weird pooping on people videos. I do not like that guy... 
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  • @runwmusic Both my kids loathed being my their backs. Oldest hated belly too. Both hated swing, and bouncy seat. First didn't have enough muscle for saucer or doorway jumper until 6 ish months, but younger one did, got great use with saucer at only 3 months. They were different, but also the same. Super social, great at learning to feed themselves, but slow to walk amd talk, even though you can see they have skills. My younger one has been pushing a zebra cart since she was 8.5-9 months old. She's 14 months and flies around in it, but won't stand unassisted very often, and will never take even a single step. But...her balance is amazing, you can see it. It's...silly. She can stand and rock on our toddler rocking chair, with no hands...
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    DH: 30
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  • MssyMmmy said:
    Boooooo blippi! Have you looked up that guys history? Apparently he used to be famous for making weird pooping on people videos. I do not like that guy... 
    😳 

    but then

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  • While babysitting the other weekend we watched Balto 3. My husband was disturbed by the aggressively randy goose
  • The NBR thread reminded me of a baby item you can use for mom.  Immediately postpartum if you’re doing a boppy, skip the donut pillow and sit on the boppy.  I just put a waterproof pad over it.
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  • lo_clo_c
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    Thank you to everyone for all these tips! So helpful and gracious of you to share. FTM and doing alllll the googling. I don't know what half of you are talking about and that freaks me out lol! 

    Would love to know more about essentials to have for months 0-4. There is a lot of paraphernalia out there .... What is absolutely necessary?? 

    Would also love to know about what to bring in the hospital bag/at home for immediately post partom .... Cooling foam? Tucks pads? What are these and what are they for? 🤷🏽‍♀️😂
    kittysaurus
  • @lo_c We’ll have registry & hospital bag threads when we get closer. 

    As for the cooling foam and tucks, if you have a vaginal birth, they’re helpful for soothing. 

    One critical thing to know: Blue Dermoplast = cool like ice. Red Dermoplast = fire. They are not the same. 
        
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    BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
    BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
  • @lo_c I ended up with an emergency c section but I had padsicles ready to go. Aloe Vera and witch hazel covered maxis frozen in the freezer.

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    kiki75
  • The hospital gave me a big thing of tucks pads to take home so I didn’t make any. Take everything and anything the hospital gives you! All the things! 
    kiki75
  • saladflambesaladflambe
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    edited November 16
    Very little is absolutely necessary. 
    There were a couple of things I was glad to have:
    • Nose frida
    • saline spray to squirt up the nose before using the nose frida
    • simethicone drops
    • White noise machine
    • Heating pad to pre-heat surfaces before laying baby down (remove pad before laying them down)
    • Zippadee zips were our preferred swaddle transition
    • Sleep sacks for during swaddle time
    • Get some of those little like...disposable doggie waste bag rolls? Clip to your diaper bag to put dirty diapers or clothing in when on the go.
    • Infant tylenol
    • A rectal thermometer & vaseline or coconut oil
    • I was a big fan of gowns vs. anything with zippers or buttons - made diaper changes so much easier.
    • I was also a fan of the Carter's rompers that totally unbutton on the bottom.
    • A manual breast pump, not just an electric one. Never know when you won't have electricity.
    Oh, and my recovery wasn't awful, but definitely the blue can of dermoplast
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