All those career questions are hot button topics for me. I was unhappy with my job for some time and the thought of having a child is expensive, like cannot afford to pay the medical bills with my current salary and lackluster insurance expensive. While TTC I thought, it's ok, I will be pregnant soon and then I can quit my job when I have a baby and start fresh somewhere new when I'm ready to return to work. Well that didn't work out as planned and I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility, so everything was taking a long time and I was stuck in this job I didn't want to be in for a long time, and the medical bills related to fertility testing and treatment were not covered at all by insurance so our savings was shrinking. So then I started seriously looking for a new job and got excited about the prospect of something new and had decided I cannot put this on hold any longer while trying to have a baby because who knows how long that will take. And now I am pregnant, so now I've stopped looking and like you other women, feel completely trapped in a job I don't want because it's not a good time to find a new job and changing insurance right now would be bad and I have PTO saved up etc. etc. So yeah, had to chime in and vent, I get the whole being trapped in a job thing and having to put a career on hold thing. How long are you ladies planning on staying home after the baby is born? I know at least in the US maternity leave policies are pretty bleak looking. Also daycare here is ridiculously expensive with a really long wait list. My co-worker got on a wait list BEFORE she was even pregnant and her daughter was accepted to daycare when she was almost ONE! What will you do with your baby once you return to work? Can you even continue to breast feed when you return to work? Is that even an option? It's all so complicated to think of juggling a career and a baby!
At least right now, I’m planning to return to work. Not sure if I will cut back my hours a bit or what. Probably will see how I feel once I get back and go from there. I don’t see myself as a SAHM but I fully acknowledge that back to full time may not be what I want either!
@elmann1 I’m not sure if it was related or not... but I had light spotting when I wiped in the evening after early morning intercourse. My doc said not to worry unless it’s bright red, and it’s common.