@prpl11butterfly Right there with you. The amount of anger I feel lately about everything happening is intense. Hugs.
Ditto.
I told my H last night I am very worried for what is going to happen as our children grow up and that i‘m glad we live in the state we do. I used to hang out on a politics board elsewhere, but I just can’t anymore.
And I don’t have half the worries of some people I know, which makes me feel even worse because they don’t have the ability to turn away from these things because they live it every day
@prpl11butterfly, @greenbean-2 and @cmbt2 its so strange that I had a nightmare night before last, before this most recent ruling was passed, that I was stuck in a not quite apocalyptic new world, but more like in Handmaid's Tale, where a severe and puritanical government had taken over and all was ruled by fear mongering and murder of dissenters. That's of course an overly extreme scenario, but each time we take a step closer to that type of reality I shudder for our kids.
Me: 41 / Fiance: 35 + One DS, one dog & two kitties...
First BFP: 1/17/16 = EDD 9/21/16 (MMC)
Second BFP: 6/24/16 (CP)
Third BFP: 2/7/17 = EDD 10/20/17 🌈 *** BORN 10/23 *** 🌈
Right there with you, ladies. I have never, ever been the kind to be in a "bubble" but lately I've found myself creating one. Avoiding the news, staying off of most SM platforms, etc. We live in a small town and it's fairly easy to just hide from the realities elsewhere right now. It's not the right thing to do and I know I can't do it forever, but right now it's just about the only thing keeping me from breaking down.
@melanier26@jal88144 Sorry to have gotten your hopes up, when I went to watch Call the Midwife for "season 8", it was literally two episodes, just part 1 & 2 for the 2018 Christmas special
I was so upset, I called Netflix and they were like, "no that's all the episodes we have right now", they are still trying to acquire licenses for the rest of the true season 8. THEN DON'T EMAIL ME AND GET MY HOPES UP THAT YOU HAVE ALL THE DARN EPISODES.
TTC #1: September 2013, BFP 01/01/14, DS 09/14 TTC #2: October 2018, BFP 02/02/19, EDD 10/14/19
As a PGAL member, it makes me sick to think about what women will go through in those states if they suffer loss. To think I could have been pulled in and interrogate is such a heartbreaking and emotional time of my life. It may have broken me because after 3 I was pretty much headed there..... And would I have been found guilty because I forgot to take my prenatals or had an extra cup of coffee? Would the first have been considered a fluke? What about the 2 that followed? Every intelligent being on the planet KNOWS those things are not the reason, that there was no reason. But I don't feel like we are dealing with intelligent beings...
I am so scared for our future. For our daughters. And it angers me to no end that there are women out there supporting this absurdity.
@cmbt2 seriously! How is HER life not valuable enough? How would it be okay to leave her "outside" children motherless? And for what? Because the likely hood of the babies survival would be slim. I'm glad to see that some states are making exceptions for situation that are out of her control but there is sooooo much more that goes into it. It's not black and white. The shades of gray are unreal.
I of course would never wish anything bad on anyone just because my views differ. But for real, walk a mile in her shoes. Experience what these women do and THEN tell me your opinion of what she should do. Watch your daughter/wife/sister have to chose what to do about her baby, wanted and loved already, when she finds out there is no hope of surviving after birth. Watch her try to cope with the aftermath of assault all the while carrying a child who is, let's be real, most likely wreaking havoc on her body.
But it's a lost cause because these people have no compassion. None. They have political angends and religious zealots on their side.
@cmbt2 seriously! How is HER life not valuable enough? How would it be okay to leave her "outside" children motherless? And for what? Because the likely hood of the babies survival would be slim. I'm glad to see that some states are making exceptions for situation that are out of her control but there is sooooo much more that goes into it. It's not black and white. The shades of gray are unreal.
Exactly, I couldn't have said it better myself. It's definitely not a black and white issue and people are making it out to be that way, and you can't, it's not fair.
*le sigh* I guess it's the end of second breakfasts for me. I have to admit I did get a little out of control recently with hunger and eating. Up until this last month I had only gained 5lbs. Somehow I'm now at (almost) 15lbs gained. Just left the doctor's office and he chided me a bit in that "if I want to be able to do VBAC I should watch out for how much baby is gaining". While he's not wrong, I'm a little surprised (and bummed) he said anything. Last pregnancy I gained 50 lbs, I was out of control, but baby was only 7lbs 10oz. Hopefully I won't hit that same weight gain, but I guess it's good to watch my intake a little closer. And up the exercise a bit from none.
On a happier note, I got to hear little nugget's heart beat for the first time in almost 8 weeks. At my 14 week appt he couldn't find it. It's been a little stressful waiting for this appt, but luckily I've been feeling tiny muffled little kicks for about that same amount of time, which did help console me.
Me: 41 / Fiance: 35 + One DS, one dog & two kitties...
First BFP: 1/17/16 = EDD 9/21/16 (MMC)
Second BFP: 6/24/16 (CP)
Third BFP: 2/7/17 = EDD 10/20/17 🌈 *** BORN 10/23 *** 🌈
@cooaladolly I’m sorry. Is part of it possibly water weight? I put on 7 lbs the past 4 weeks, but one look at my legs and hands had my MW blaming a chunk on it on water retention rather than diet
@galentine we have that shirt set!! I got it for DH last Father's day!
@nachellebeck13 congrats and good luck with your degree!! And I'm so glad baby girl is healthy and safe 💚
@steminist@galentine I'm obsessed with pizza lunchables and buy one every shopping trip now 😅
@obsessedwithoranges I hope the ultrasound comes back clear, sending positive thoughts your way!
@melanier26 I love sleepless in Seattle! I need to watch it soon, it's been forever!
@stephanie123456 we just got Netflix and I'm so excited to start call the midwife!! (we lived in the woods with barely any internet before haha)
@jcbh2018 that is so scary! I'm glad everything turned out to be okay. I hope your follow up goes well 💚
@cooaladolly that seems ridiculous to think you can really control how much baby gains... I'm sorry you're having to listen to that crap 🙄
Things have been crazy around here, but seem to be finally settling down which is really nice. I've been organizing the new house and got to the nursery this week! I can actually walk in there now and the crib is all set up 😍
What's going on @prpl11butterfly, we're here to talk to. I hope you're not stuck in one of those states passing the awful laws if that's what you mean 😔
@cmbt2 it could be some but not fully. List pregnancy my hands and feet were soooo swollen. It did start around this time, so I may be getting it again, but my eating habits really are largely to blame.
@nnaelilak I accidentally made him sound unfeeling with my description. He's actually one of the best doctors I've ever had and he definitely said it with my best interests at heart and I'm definitely overdoing it.
Me: 41 / Fiance: 35 + One DS, one dog & two kitties...
First BFP: 1/17/16 = EDD 9/21/16 (MMC)
Second BFP: 6/24/16 (CP)
Third BFP: 2/7/17 = EDD 10/20/17 🌈 *** BORN 10/23 *** 🌈
Wanted to have two families from DC over for BBQ tonight but the rain is not looking good. Google says it should stop by 2pm, so I'm hoping for that. DNW 5 DC kids tearing through our house without an outlet into the yard.
@andromedacorrine2 no, thankfully I live in MA, a very dem state, not that that's always a good thing imo. But at least I know my freedoms are safe for now. My biggest stressor is Niece. She been a real peach..... She started her meds and while things seemed to be going well yesterday turned into a s#&/ show. And then again this morning. I talked to DH on his drive to work and he feels like she sabotages the days leading up to her mothers weekends. I think heay be on to something.....
@cooaladolly I gained 50 lbs last time too. I really don't want to do that this time. I haven't had an appetite until maybe last week and hadn't gained any until about a month ago. Now I've gained 9 lbs in a month. I'm like, crap!! I kept track of my weight last time so I'm comparing the weight gain to hopefully keep myself a little more accountable this time. I'm about 3-4 lbs less than I was this far along last time so fingers crossed I can NOT gain 50 lbs this time. I'd like to stay under 35 lbs but we'll see. It's so hard because I don't feel like I'm going crazy with the food most days. But some days I'm just starving!
Hair-tie for my pants today. I only have a week left of work, so I don't want to go buy maternity pants, but I've been having terrible belly cramps at the end of the day. I'm pretty sure it's from squeezing myself into my regular pants. They all basically still button, but I definitely need to stretch them a bit and have a mark on my belly at the end of the day.
There is a popular music type reality show on TV that may or may not be having their finals this coming week. One of the finalists may or not be from where I live.
There’s signs everywhere wishing the potential finalist luck and telling people to vote. Every time I see them, I randomly start crying.
I don't really care for Pink Floyd (I greatly respect the talent, but I don't enjoy the product), but I woke up this morning with Comfortably Numb playing in my head. I then got out of bed and realized that my arm was asleep and incredibly uncomfortable. I blame the fact that it was on the radio two days ago and my explaining to my husband that I didn't care for it.
I kind of checked out in the second half of this week. Work got busy and I couldn't keep up here. But wanted to chime in @prpl11butterfly (and others who agreed) about YES, the state of our political decisions are just so disappointing right now. SO MANY THOUGHTS ON THIS. Too many to lay out here. If anyone is looking for a simplified break down of what happened in Alabama this week, Cup of Jo (blog) outlines it pretty clearly.
I think today was the last day that my "fat girl pants" are gonna fit, thanks (mostly) to my expanding hips. It's sad, but my husband was happy to go to Target with me and get some leggings, capri leggings, jean shorts, and jean crop pants. My only complaints are that the shorts have a 4" inseam and I prefer a 5" and that we've been spending so much money just to keep me comfortable.
I wanted to hate each piece of clothing I tried on, but thankfully I loved all but one thing! I'm more than a little excited to wear the crop jeans tomorrow. 😁
Does anyone ever read the “Real Answers” thread? I’m kind of addicted. I completely understand being a FTM and having so many questions and concerns. Don’t get me wrong, I still have concerns, with this being my second pregnancy. Anyways, I can’t help but SMH about certain questions these people ask.
Ok mom's what gets urine out of apolstry? I hit the spot with my apolstry cleaner but it looks like it's gonna stain and I am freaking out.
Anything that works for your stuff and labeled “pet.” We use resolve. Depending on the color of your furniture, it may stain solely because you made it wet. My creamish chairs did
Does anyone know why- when I wake up MOTN or on the rare chance I can wait until morning, my entire pelvic region is essentially locked up, and it takes a few minutes before I can stop walking like I’m the tin man and in pain?
@cmbt2 Sounds like symphysis pubis diastasis. The joint between the two sides of your pelvis, the pubic symphysis, needs to loosen to accommodate pregnancy and childbirth, but it often goes too far, which causes pain and difficulty walking. I didn't have it, but several moms in my S16 board did/do with new pregnancies. I'd call your OB to ask about things to help, or go see a chiropractor who knows how to work with pregnant women. I'm sorry you're dealing with this! Pregnancy is so glorious and a blessing upon women all times 🙏🙄
@steminist I see a chiro! It definitely helps with the lower back. I had this at the tail end with DS2, but it’s way earlier this time. Sigh. 😪 pregnancy is so glamorous 🙄
Anything that works for your stuff and labeled “pet.” We use resolve. Depending on the color of your furniture, it may stain solely because you made it wet. My creamish chairs did
Thankfully the spot remover worked. Its a dark colored couch too so I guess that helps. Our last couch was cream color and once you dropped anything even water it would stain. Drove me nuts...
Also, I hope you feel better, I've never experienced that but is sounds painful.
UO thread reminded me I need a new vacuum. We've gone through so many and haven't found one that can truly handle the pet hair. Finding and fixing all the clogs takes more time than actually vacuuming. Do any of you have one you swear by?
UO thread reminded me I need a new vacuum. We've gone through so many and haven't found one that can truly handle the pet hair. Finding and fixing all the clogs takes more time than actually vacuuming. Do any of you have one you swear by?
I’ve never had an issue with our shark rotator. 🤷🏼♀️ We don’t have a pet, but I shed A LOT.
UO thread reminded me I need a new vacuum. We've gone through so many and haven't found one that can truly handle the pet hair. Finding and fixing all the clogs takes more time than actually vacuuming. Do any of you have one you swear by?
I love my Shark! We have 3 dogs plus me and my husband have lots of hair. We’ve had ours for 3 years and it still works great. It goes from hard surfaces to carpet with a click.
We have roomba that I like for getting under things, but I still find I need to vacuum up the big things like crumbs 😪 we use “robot” twice a week to clean under the beds, and now that we raised our couch, we’ll do it twice there, too.
@cmbt2 The brush and wheels get jammed with hair or the reservoir would fill up before the job was done. Partly because the downstairs is open concept, so it's a fairly large area. But also the dog just sheds a ton. She's got thick longish hair that just comes out in tufts.
Re: Weekly Randoms 5/13
I told my H last night I am very worried for what is going to happen as our children grow up and that i‘m glad we live in the state we do. I used to hang out on a politics board elsewhere, but I just can’t anymore.
And I don’t have half the worries of some people I know, which makes me feel even worse because they don’t have the ability to turn away from these things because they live it every day
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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I was so upset, I called Netflix and they were like, "no that's all the episodes we have right now", they are still trying to acquire licenses for the rest of the true season 8. THEN DON'T EMAIL ME AND GET MY HOPES UP THAT YOU HAVE ALL THE DARN EPISODES.
TTC #2: October 2018, BFP 02/02/19, EDD 10/14/19
As a PGAL member, it makes me sick to think about what women will go through in those states if they suffer loss. To think I could have been pulled in and interrogate is such a heartbreaking and emotional time of my life. It may have broken me because after 3 I was pretty much headed there..... And would I have been found guilty because I forgot to take my prenatals or had an extra cup of coffee? Would the first have been considered a fluke? What about the 2 that followed? Every intelligent being on the planet KNOWS those things are not the reason, that there was no reason. But I don't feel like we are dealing with intelligent beings...
I am so scared for our future. For our daughters. And it angers me to no end that there are women out there supporting this absurdity.
*TW* and PDQ
*poof*
end TW warning.
i just can’t with these assholes anymore.
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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I of course would never wish anything bad on anyone just because my views differ. But for real, walk a mile in her shoes. Experience what these women do and THEN tell me your opinion of what she should do. Watch your daughter/wife/sister have to chose what to do about her baby, wanted and loved already, when she finds out there is no hope of surviving after birth. Watch her try to cope with the aftermath of assault all the while carrying a child who is, let's be real, most likely wreaking havoc on her body.
But it's a lost cause because these people have no compassion. None. They have political angends and religious zealots on their side.
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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ETA picture of the office shirts!
There’s signs everywhere wishing the potential finalist luck and telling people to vote. Every time I see them, I randomly start crying.
The hormones are real, man
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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(Edit for poor spelling)
I wanted to hate each piece of clothing I tried on, but thankfully I loved all but one thing! I'm more than a little excited to wear the crop jeans tomorrow. 😁
I’m kind of addicted.
I completely understand being a FTM and having so many questions and concerns. Don’t get me wrong, I still have concerns, with this being my second pregnancy. Anyways, I can’t help but SMH about certain questions these people ask.
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
Tickers
Also, I hope you feel better, I've never experienced that but is sounds painful.
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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I have a few Shark items so if I were in the market I'd probably look into their vaccuums.
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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I totally registered for the shark version 😂
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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