Symptoms of the Week - 10/29

chrssyms

Figured this is a pretty popular thread so I’d kick off this weeks!

chrssyms

I’m entering week 9 now, which I’ve heard is when first trimester symptoms peak for the majority of ladies. I’m a FTM so I have absolutely no idea if that will be true for me or not. In truth, my symptoms have made me a little mopey. I feel gross because I’m nauseous and I’m kind of bloated feeling. My breasts feel unwieldy and it all
kind of makes me feel like I’m such a gross person. I know I should buck up and stay positive, but I just can’t wait for this to get better. I’m really hoping I don’t feel miserable my entire pregnancy. 

ShadeofGreen816

@chrssyms most people do start to feel better in second tri! Hang in there.

I'm a broken record, but I feel hungover all the time. Mild headache, stomach is unsettled, I'm exhausted, and burping constantly. I'm just kind of a gross human. I'm just barely 6 weeks on Saturday and if this pregnancy is like the last, it's going to get worse before it gets better. So, I have that to look forward to! 

runyogamom

I went to bed before 9 o'clock last night. But I can barely keep my eyes open  so there's that. 
Over this nausea. Over 1st tri. Three more weeks for me. 

@chrssyms the first trimester is rough. Hang in there. You should start feeling better closer to the second trimester. You'll hopefully get more energy back and your nausea will go away. If it helps with my first I started feeling better around 10 weeks. No idea if that will be the case this time or not but I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

luckystar28

Still riding the struggle bus. So sleepy. So nauseous. So achey.  

die_frau

It's still relatively early (6 weeks tomorrow), so I haven't been feeling too much... although that makes me paranoid, of course! On and off motion sickness, a little bit of cramping off and on as well (anyone else cramping?). With my first I had horrible motion sickness type morning sickness, but I have NO idea when that began. I haven't been able to see my doctor yet, which also means that i'm going to be super nervous/paranoid that something has gone wrong until I see him. I forgot how stressful/unfun the first trimester is!!!

liamsmommy09

@die frau  I had cramping with my first 2 pregnancies, it's your insides growing and moving around to make room for baby as he/she grows. Mine felt like mild period cramps. With this pregnancy I have had very little cramping.

Still super tired all of the time. I'm 8w1d. I had my first nauseous moment this morning while having my morning coffee. I dont know how I'm going to manage if I have to quit that morning coffee seeing as I'm up at 5am every morning! Praying it was a 1 time thing lol. I have had a bit of spotting aswell. Nothing crazy but enough to still make your heart skip a beat. 

jhems776

I'm at 8.5 weeks.  Nausea is much less than before, mostly just when hungry.  I am so f'ing tired all the time.  I had a long weekend and napped every day and now at work, I'm thinking of sleeping in my car during lunch. 

The other now stronger symptoms are being a bit ache-ie, which may come from laying down so much and gas.  So much gas, it's gross. I've been waking up to pee, then again an hour later with gas pains and then I have to get up to move around till I work out my gas.  None of this is helping my fatigue. 

chrssyms

@luckystar28 I think you are not alone on the struggle bus. I think there’s several others on there too and we’re all asking “are we there yet?” 

@runyogamom I am seconding. So over it. 

Thanks ladies! I’m holding on to hope that I’ll feel better once I get to 2nd trimester. I’ll be sure to let you all know when I feel the relief!

TJtheGoat

@jhems776  I’m at 8+6 and honestly same. I’m exhausted but can’t sleep and so gassy/bloated. I just want to be comfortable again. 

chachacharrrmin

+1 to the "are we there yet?" boat.

Nausea, which only seems to subside when I lay down. Took a sick day to relax today, however I only have 4 more sick days this year and I'm only 8W5D and I'm nervous I'm going to dealing with this for a while longer. I'm super emotional, I've randonly broke down and cried a few times this morning. Oh, and the acne... ugh!

I feel very "woe is me" with this post, but it's nice to get it all out sometimes.

ki1244

Die Frau I can't figure out how to tag you with the space in your screen name but YES, I keep getting some cramps too, and I think we're like a day apart (app says I'm 5w5d today, my EDD keeps moving based on LMP/Ovulation/US so I have no idea). 

The one that's getting me the worst, though, is the DEPRESSION. I'm a FTM and a little older, and until November really had no desire for kids, ever, and if we did have them, my heart was more to adopt. (My sister has a bio daughter and an adopted son, and lots of friends have adopted, so while I know there are lots of struggles with that, it's something I just had a heart for.) I'm a Christian, and had been praying that God would change my heart if we were to have kids, and I can pinpoint the moment that I felt like that happened (day before Thanksgiving, by myself in the Main Street Emporium in the Magic Kingdom at Disney World, walking through the baby section, I just KNEW we should start trying). With DH's work calendar, we held off on really TTGP until delivery would be out of basketball season, and it took us 6 months to actually get pregnant. And he's SO excited.

But from the point about an hour after I saw the plus sign, I just...haven't been. At all. (not sure if this is ***TW*** worthy?) And instead, I'm just trying to distract myself from the resentment, and guilt, and terror that my baby will someday know that I didn't want him/her. It got a little better in the hospital over the weekend -- when they said Baby is in the right spot and I exhaled, I didn't know that I had been holding my breath, and that was encouraging. But the guilt and resentment are right back where they were. I've had a full-on panic attack last week, lots and lots of crying, complete lack of appetite, and general lack of joy at just about anything. After I got my breathing under control last week, I reached out to a friend's mom, who is a counselor, and I'm seeing her tomorrow, and I have an appointment with my FP for Friday. The fatigue, the food aversion, the mild queasiness (knock on wood, that's as bad as it's been), the cramping, the random mucus in unmentionable places, the pelvic exam from a dude whose name I still don't know -- I can deal with all that. But the emotions, whether brought on by hormones or imbalances or just personal selfishness (and it's probably a pretty good cocktail of all three) is too much for me to handle. I know people say it'll get better, and I'm just praying that's the case, if for no other reason than this kind of stress/anxiety can't be good for Baby...but damn, I can't imagine this going on for nine more months.

eleven_

It makes me feel better that I'm not the only one feeling so unhappy right now. I am so over feeling so sick and exhausted that I just want to cry every day. And then I feel guilty for wanting to cry because I know how lucky I am. Basically I'm just a emotional mess right now. 

Also, I can't even open the craving thread. Thinking about food makes me feel so nauseous

chachacharrrmin

@eleven_ you are NOT alone. I know this doesn't make anything better about it, but I feel like I could have wrote your post. In fact, I started crying when I read it.

eleven_

@wearyfuzzball Now I'm crying We are a pitiful sight. 

KissMeImScottish

Oh goodness, the honesty in these posts is refreshing! The first trimester is HARD! Pregnancy in general is hard, but especially so in the beginning, when we feel so awful. 

chrssyms

@ki1244 don’t worry about your anxiety hurting your baby. It won’t! But I’m sure that it doesn’t help you to relax. Meditation really helps me personally. I just lay down and concentrate on releasing tension in each of my body parts. It’s not perfect but it really helps to release tension in my body and get through difficult moments. 

Also, if you can stomach it, drinking hot tea or hot chocolate also helps me to relax and actually helps a bit with my nausea. Again, not a 100% solution, but if it helps someone a little bit I’ll share it. 

spacepiraterunner

@chrssyms on the tea and meditation train with you (I've been enjoying the Mind the Bump short meditations for ladies who are expecting), but as to the chocolate...

Nope nope nope nope nope. I'm in the "please don't even mention food names near me" train with @eleven_ although this week it looks like the station where that train stops might be coming into view, which is super exciting. Pretty sure chovochoc will still be a hard pass, tho...it's the first aversion I got and by far the strongest.

luckystar28

The extra saliva thing I’ve got going on is doing nothing good for my nausea. 😬

KissMeImScottish

@spacepiraterunner and @eleven_, I’m vascillating between absolutely starving and wanting absolutely nothing, but lately, definitely more on the don’t mention food to me side of things. I literally ate a bowl of plain, white sticky rice today. That’s all I could get down. I want to eat real food again so badly...

ki1244

@chrssyms and @spacepiraterunner, thanks for the meditation suggestion! is that Mind the Bump an app or...? I've got an entire drawer of tea (DH isn't a coffee guy but drinks tea like it's his lifeline...must be the Boston in him) and just laying down and draining some Celestial Seasonings sounds like an amazing night.

harrierwife

This sums me up. 

ShadeofGreen816

@KissMeImScottish I have been thinking about white sticky rice non stop! Like I almost went to my favorite sushi restaurant and asked for some today. But alas, I was too exhausted. That and rainbow sherbet. That’s what I’m currently thinking about. 

mandiedq

We had sticky rice for dinner. Being married to someone who grew up in Japan has its perks. 

Gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas, gas. I pretend it is the baby moving. 

Feeling ick on and off. 

Hungry like I could eat most of the contents of the fridge. Then I sit down to dinner and eat like a bird. 

Need a nap all all the time. 

antera23

I am having sticky rice for dinner! That’s all that sounds good to me. How funny we all have only been able to stand the same type of food

I hate complaining because it feels ungrateful ***TW*** with my MC in July I feel like I can’t complain about the symptoms because at least I’m pregnant again. I would rather be pregnant and miserable than go through another loss ***end TW*** 

I’m so ready to be in the second trimester. Buuuuttt im only 6+1. I have a while to go.

spacepiraterunner

@ki1244 yep, a meditation app from Australia.

ShadeofGreen816

@antera23 I think in this environment especially it’s ok to be grateful AND miserable all at once. It’s kind off like just because someone is having a worse day doesn’t invalidate your bad day and the feelings associated with it. 

KissMeImScottish

^ This. @ShadeofGreen816 put it so nicely - it’s ok to be both. I’m sure that your past experiences have made you hyper aware of being grateful for your pregnancy (and you’re completely justified in feeling that way, which I’m sure you know). But being nauseous all day and not being able to keep your eyes open sucks. It just does.

emeraldcity603

I literally can't eat anything. Even when I fix something because it sounds good when I put it in my mouth it just tastes gross. I also feel like the exhaustion has hit me hard lately. It doesn't help that DD2 isnt sleeping well but I lay on the couch during nap time just so I can make it through the evening. 

antera23

Thank you so much @ShadeofGreen816 and @KissMeImScottish. I really appreciate it  

thefleuters

When I first found out I was just exhausted all the time. It was annoying, but now I have a new, much worse culprit - diarrhea. The nausea totally sucks, but what’s actually getting to me is the sudden cramping in the most inconvenient of places and I’m having total blowouts at the nearest coffee shop I can get to. It’s super embarrassing and very uncomfortable. I vaso-vagal during these episodes and sorry I’m about to pass out. Basically scared to eat anything now. 

thefleuters

Also only 6 and 4, so I’m a bit nervous about how much worse it’s going to get. 

emeraldcity603

thefleuters said:

Also only 6 and 4, so I’m a bit nervous about how much worse it’s going to get. 

I was having stomach issues early on and then it stopped. So hopefully that won't last too long for you. 

desoky01

The fatigue is incredible. 6 weeks today and my eyelids feel so heavy. If I don't have any caffeine (and I've been trying not to) I drag all day. 

kellydares

I just got measured at 6+3 today. I've been feeling pretty awful - nauseous all day and SO tired. I also wish I could turn my nose off because WOW the world has a lot of smells I never had to pay attention to before. It's hard because we've been trying for 3 years and did IVF so I feel like I can't complain and people look at me like I'm nuts when I do...but this is hard! I wish more people understood how hard it is to feel ill all day and still work full time and carry on with life. 

ellem29

@kellydares - I feel the same way -- like, we did IVF and went through a lot to get to this point, so I should be feeling super grateful (and I am!) but... it's hard. The fatigue and exhaustion make it so hard to get through a work day, but I feel so bad complaining: like, this is what I wanted, right?

spacepiraterunner

Ugh, back to just apples again. I was so excited this weekend, eating real food! But starting last night, the intense aversions came back and the nausea was way worse this morning. 

chrssyms

@spacepiraterunner sorry you are back to apples. I'm having an okay day today. I've actually been able to eat healthy things. Yesterday was pretty rough, so it's nice to have just a bit of a break. Still nauseous, but no puking. 

chachacharrrmin

Up to now I've just had nausea, today started with the dry heaving. I feel like the only reason I'm not actually puking is because I have nothing in my stomach. Absolutely NOTHING sounds appetizing, not even water, so I'm nervous about becoming dehydrated. I am oh so ready for this to be over.

chrssyms

@wearyfuzzball please please please sip on water. I totally understand that it's hard, I'm right there with you. But you want to make sure you get enough fluids. Just try to take a couple of small sips every few minutes. Maybe even try sucking on ice cubes if the cold is appealing. Just want to make sure you and baby stay healthy!

luckystar28

@wearyfuzzball Are you taking any medication for the nausea? It’s been a life saver for me. Try drinking Gatorade instead of water if that sounds more appealing.