Weekday Randoms W/O 10/15

prpl11butterfly

The A15 FB is private. There were a few snags in the beginning but we've got it down well. I for sure won't consider moving until after babes are born.

I do like the vetting process you used @meaballs37.

jhems776

I had a work emergency drop everything and work through lunch task today and then a meeting after. My brain is mushy, I think I'll leave early, I mean they still owe me lunch.   

luckystar28

I have successfully relearned how to gif. 

dntstpbelieveing

In my last bmb we did a private group on TB first. Granted that was due to a bunch of drama with the bump gods. Then just before births we switched to a FB group. That group has since split into 2 groups but I really enjoyed the private bump group to get to know one another better before FB. It cut down anxiety about lurkers and a majority of us still posted in the main board as well. I think as time goes on we will figure out who is going to stick around and who isnt.

amaren-2

On Jan17 we did a FB group in early December time frame before all the babies started being born. I felt much more comfortable posting pictures there and sharing the birth story rather than on TB.

We also did a voting process too. 5 people had to vouch for you that you are not a lurker (by giving loveits). We did two rounds of voting for the people that didn't make it in the first try because they weren't active.

ShadeofGreen816

Chiming in to say that we did the move to FB in like 8th month of pregnancy? So for May BMB I think we did it in April? Facebook was much easier to navigate for middle of the night nursing/feeding sessions, etc. I also was more comfortable posting pictures there vs somewhere more public. I don't have a strong preference either way except I am probably not interested in anything earlier than April/May for us. 

runyogamom

This is my first bmb participating in so I've never done the fb migration before but I do like the idea of waiting until after the babies are born.  I would be open to a private group on the bump before babies if that is something that would make people more comfortable if they want to post pictures. I can't imagine that I'll post pictures of DS's face or this new little ones face on an open forum like this.  There's just to many creepers in the world... 

nmbrcrnchr1

I only lurked on DD’s BMB so I never did a fb migration. I’d be fine with doing it anytime after May. I will also not feel comfortable posting pictures on here of LO but I also don’t mind waiting until after birth to move. 

meatballs37

We are still pretty sick in this household. DD is so stuffy and woke up with a swollen eye shut. Ugh. I’m supposed to work today, but that’s not happening. 

I predict a lot of tv and microwaved meals today. 

SunflowerMama428

@meatballs37 I hope everyone feels better soon! 

prpl11butterfly

@meatballs37 that's a bummer. I hope it doesn't get any worse. How are you feeling?

Dcwtada

Every BMB I was in did things a little different - I think as the group forms and we start to get to know each other it will feel right how or when we migrate. Though I do like the private group on the bump, it cuts down on the trolls/drive-bys and Admin drama. 

No school today so we are all having a lazy day inside for once (I am not ready for frost on the ground, this ain’t right) Although I am currently packing my kids lunchboxes because my daughter still has to eat out of her lunchbox on days without school and for all meals at home and if she is going to do it, my 3 year old hasn’t to do it too. 

ruby696

@meatballs37 I hope you're all feeling better soon. No shame in microwave meals, especially when you're sick.

runyogamom

@meatballs37 hope your household starts to feel better soon! Do what you have to to survive, including all the microwave meals or pb&js. It's rough having a sick kiddo.

meatballs37

@prpl11butterfly I’m for sure getting sick too. My throat hurts and I’ve been taking all the acetaminophen. 

Thanks for the well wishes guys. We are just chilling on the couch in our jammies with tv on. She was up more than a newborn last night. 

Erin1510

I like the idea of a May move to FB for the reasons of early babies and sharing birth stories and such. My son was a July14 baby and we moved in June I believe because we had a lot of early babies! I'm beginning of June (1-2), maybe even moving up to May honestly, so I like the idea of being able to share my good news in a move private space vs having to wait a month to share my newest squish. 

ShadeofGreen816

DD was up for half the night, and ended up in bed with me so we could both sleep. I'm exhausted. I'm done with my work for the day, and I"m considering a nap before daycare pickup. I need to run into my old work to drop off a baby gift, but I'm looking terrible and don't want to see everyone looking like this. Oh well, maybe I'll bring DD and that will distract everyone!

eleven_

@ShadeofGreen816 Your night sounds like my night. I hate when my kids are in my bed. I'm jealous you have time for a nap. Take one for both of us!

eleven_

I feel like Thankful Thursday and Ten Things Tuesday are the same thing.

Also, I love that we haven't created a spreadsheet. 

nmbrcrnchr1

@meatballs37 we’ve had no sickness in our house and DD and I have been chilling and watching tv and eating microwave/leftover meals all week. So do what you need to do and I hope you feel better 🤗
@eleven_ Agree about 10 things and thankful Thursday. Also, I understand how the spreadsheet could be helpful but if someone starts one I won’t participate...too many lurkers and it just creeps me out a bit. If you want to know when I’m due or what state I’m from, read all the posts hahaha. 

marijaa333

I was unable to get to work today - too exhausted. Good thing I'm going half way around the world on Saturday on a business trip. That should work out just fine.

I'm also a bit anti-spreadsheet...

dntstpbelieveing

Does anyone ever actually use the spreadsheet for anything?

jhems776

Wait, people do a spreadsheet on TB?  Seems odd, too many people, on FB it makes sense.  
I've never heard of Thankful Thursday, I thought 10 things usually had a theme, like 10 favorite shows, or 10 things you like about summer. 

eleven_

I don't think I've ever used the spreadsheet once in any of my BMBs. I've always felt they are unnecessary. 

emeraldcity603

I actually like the spreadsheets because I can refer to them when I see someone commenting about something. I may not be able to remember how many kids they have or something else that may be relevant to the conversation. 

With that said, it isn't that often that I have used them. 

meatballs37

I also never used the spreadsheet for previous bmbs. Add me to the +1 For finding them helpful once we move to fb. Especially when we include a column with TB screen name. 

prpl11butterfly

I think moving to FB it would for sure be helpful. After A15 moved I created the spreadsheet to help make sure people were legit and so we could easily sort out RL to SN. It was a lot more work that way (sleep deprived, newborn attached to boob) so maybe before that point we could start a basic one and just leave out the really personal info. 

meatballs37

@prpl11butterfly that sounds like a really good idea 

eleven_

But I was so happy to be the rebel BMB without a speadsheet!  

Jokes aside, I really don't care if someone wants to make one though. I can see why it could be beneficial for FB.

prpl11butterfly

@eleven_ We are already the coolest 😉 . Let's leave some superlatives to the other BMBs 

nmbrcrnchr1

well my real first name is “number” and last name is “cruncher” so I will be easy to identify on fb 🤣

jhems776

@nmbrcrnchr1 I never realized that is what your screen name meant  🙈.

carleym93

STM’s, when are you planning on telling your kids about the new baby? I don’t want to tell DD (3) until we know if its a boy or a girl. Definitely don’t want to tell her now in case of a loss. But DH wants to tell her right away 😐

carleym93

@prpl11butterfly I feel like we STILL get randoms in the A15 group! The last person who posted their BFP in there this week is not even someone I recognize 😟 

lovemesomemonster

Newbie here and enjoying reading all the posts! This seems like a very nice group and I am excited to be here!

Work has been running 7-7 every day this week and I am running a half Saturday morning and then straight to work.. Sunday cannot come soon enough!

KissMeImScottish

I’m struggling with a dilemma at the moment. I started a new job about three weeks ago. I am an instructor at an art studio that uses paint and stain on a daily basis. I LOVE this job - it’s something that is mine, that I enjoy, that fell into my lap at what felt like just the right time. I enjoy going to work after having been out of the work force for over 5 years. Mentally, I need this. All the stains and paints are low VOC and the room is well ventilated. However, I am calling to doctor tomorrow (before I talk to my boss) because obviously this baby’s health trumps the job and I need the doctor’s input on of it is safe for me to continue working there. And I will defer to medical advice. But it’s making me so sad to think about having to give this up and I am so stressed about the potential issues (having not yet spoken to my doctor). This is very frustrating.

ETA: While this baby is very, very wanted, it is also a pretty big surprise, so the timing certainly wasn’t planned.

SunflowerMama428

carleym93 said:

STM’s, when are you planning on telling your kids about the new baby? I don’t want to tell DD (3) until we know if its a boy or a girl. Definitely don’t want to tell her now in case of a loss. But DH wants to tell her right away 😐

We told DS1 (4) already. And the baby doesn’t have a clue about his own hands right now so there’s that lol he’s excited. We kind of have an age appropriate honesty policy in our house. We will always be honest just make it age appropriate so when he asked why I was going to the DR, I told him. If we experience a loss then we will just explain it to him. It sucks to have to explain things to your kids that aren’t positive but I also don’t want to raise my kids in such a sheltered space. If I did have to give him bad news he would take it and be a little sad and then move on. Kids are pretty resilient like that. If you want to wait then do that. But I promise she will pick up on something being Up with you by 20 weeks. She won’t guess it’s a baby but she’ll notice your different. Lol kids are smart cookies! 

meatballs37

We told DD (she’s 2) there is a baby in my belly. She lifted up her shirt and pointed to her belly and said “her own name, have baby too.” Poor DH looked like a deer in headlights. 😆 

@KissMeImScottish I’m sorry the new job and the baby timing isn’t quite right. I’m curious to see what your doctor says. I work with some chemicals that aren’t safe for pregnant and lactating women (xylene) and know I have to tell a few co-workers when we get a certain test if they will do it for me. I’m dreading that because some are really cool about it, and some get all pissy because they have to do a little extra. Hopefully your doctor says that paint won’t be a huge issue and you can continue at your job. 

prpl11butterfly

@carleym93 we told K&N around 8wks last time and obviously I regretted that. Since I'm having more "monitoring" this time it could be different. K is also old enough that she will start seeing signs and may question. And, there have been a few posts recently that caught me off guard name wise but I dont participate in a lot of threads so I think they likely don't either.

runyogamom

@KissMeImScottish hope you get news from your doctor that you can continue with your work. It stinks that the timing isn't great for your new job though. Let us know what you hear!