I told my mom the day I got a positive. She knows everything, so I was obviously going to tell her right away. I also told my two best friends the day I found out... I have been friends with them for 14 & 12 years. My dad and my husband’s parents also know now (we told them this week). I would want all of them as support if anything happened anyway. We have our first ultrasound on the 17th, we’ll tell siblings after that. We can’t wait because my brother is expecting his first (due exactly 6 months before us) and my SIL is expecting her second in Dec/Jan.
We’ve told a few people - MIL, FIL, my Mom, 2 of my sisters, my best friend, and my boss. My boss is amazing and I had no worries telling him about it. My last pregnancy he just wanted to know if I’d be back. Didn’t care when, just if.
Going to tell my parents if I have a good 6wk scan on Tuesday, then gradually tell my other friends on the DL. Not going to announce on social media until the 20wk scan though. My first loss was around the 12wk mark so I don’t feel ‘safe’ at that point.
Pretty sure most of my friends have already figured it out- DH and I are traveling for a wedding and I haven’t had a drop to drink on all of our bar-hopping friend get togethers. Hmm...
I told 60 of my closest baby mama friends in my Facebook group 2 seconds after I POAS. My mom was visiting from the opposite coast so we dressed DD in a big sister shirt so Gaga would see it when she woke up in the morning. We then took a pic to send to my dad and also told MiL.
DH told one of his coworkers because he doesn’t have a Facebook daddy group to share with. I get it. He wants to tell everyone. He’ll tell his nurse at a dr appointment because he’s just so excited.
@lovelybabybumpz I told my F16 FB group too but waited a week. Another mama in the group is due the same time I am but not sure if she made it over here yet.
We have had a Hawaii trip planned for months in October. I’m 5w as of right now. Figured we’d wait till we went to Hawaii to visit my parents, tell them, and then send a postcard to my work I’ll be about 12w by then I think.
We haven’t told anyone yet, and my sister is getting married in October so I think we will wait until after that to share the news. Seems so far away!!
Only 3 people know so far, and we're waiting a bit until we tell more. My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 6 weeks back in May, and we'd started telling several people before then, making it difficult to then have to tell them all about the miscarriage shortly after telling them we were expecting. So far this time, one of my very best friends knows, and we told my parents while they were visiting so we could tell them in person. Besides that, we've held off from telling others so far. We may tell his parents soon so they don't get jealous if they find out my parents knew so early, haha! But besides that, probably not anyone else until the ultrasound at the end of this month.
I told my fiance, family, and work colleagues. I plan on a formal social media announcement in October when I'm at 12-13 weeks with a photoshoot, maybe a Pumpkin patch.
We're waiting until October to tell family and friends. DH's mom lives across the country and we want to tell her in person. Also, I can be pretty private and want to wait until the probability of miscarriage is lower. So far we've told my doctor, one friend (had to blow off her out of state bachelorette party due to bad cramps), and a lyft driver lol.
@jennb85 this is probably a FFC, but I secretly love telling my MIL last. She’s so dramatic and full of herself so it fun watching her get jealous that my parents know before her. I actually told DH I wanted to tell FIL first becaue I know he’d love to hold that over her(yes they’re still married lol). Or I wanted to mail a postcard to everyone and since I know she only checks her mail once a week, she would definitly know last. But DH nixed thosw ideas since even though he knows his mom is crazy and selfish, he is still a mommas boy.
I’ve only told a few people at work since I work around chemotherapy and I’ve left early for labs/doc appts.
We are most likely going to wait to tell family until after the 1st trimester. We’ve had 2 previous MMC and with both, we told our immediately family pretty early. If everything goes okay, this will most likely be our last baby, and I want to keep things a secret until I know things are going to be okay. If we need the support later, I’ll still tell my family.
My DH and I have lots of siblings all of which are very active on our Family messenger, so we posted our back to school shopping last week and waited to see who caught on. We will announce publicly after our 1st Ultrasound at 9 weeks.
Sooooo I planned to keep it a secret until after the first trimester.... Then I told one friend, then another... Then my DH told his artist friend because we want her to make a charicature for our pregnancy announcement (she made charicature for us when we were first dating and for our wedding). Then we told another friend because he was pressuring us about his destination cruise wedding (sorry bud, we might hopefully have a one month old). And I had to tell a coworker because we were doing whole year plannin and I didn't want to knowingly make her life harder. Then this weekend I went camping with my family and my cousin (who I'm very close with) turned to me and said ”you're pregnant.” I was prepared for questions, but had noooothing planned for a direct statement. I dragged her away from my other cousins and confessed. Her reaction was so emotional and perfect I really am so excited to share more! So now my cousin is my first family member to know and she's a really bad liar, so we'll probably tell our folks/sibs after our first appt next week.
@lovelybabybumpz I told my F16 FB group too but waited a week. Another mama in the group is due the same time I am but not sure if she made it over here yet.
@tumblefluff I’m from F16 also! It was my firstborn and I wasn’t super active but I definitely learned a lot from reading what others posted
@lovelybabybumpz I told my F16 FB group too but waited a week. Another mama in the group is due the same time I am but not sure if she made it over here yet.
@tumblefluff I’m from F16 also! It was my firstborn and I wasn’t super active but I definitely learned a lot from reading what others posted
Another F16 alumni here too! Even though DS was 2weeks early and ended up having a January Birthday. (I’m also a June13 alumni)
So, we are telling my daughter this week. Now that weve had a good 8w scan and honestly the %of success at this point doesn’t change by much (.04% better after 12w).
Anyway she is 2.75 and loves doc mcstuffins. There is an episode when Doc is given a new doll (CeCe) and told that they are getting a new baby(adoption). So, she had watched only this episode for 3 months and asks to go see CeCe in Walmart And pets her and loves her and asks for her for Christmas.
So my idea is to get her CeCe (she’s in the mail) and tell her it’s an gift from the new baby that is growing in mamas womb. To let her practice taking care of babies. Because the baby loves her.
After that, I think DD will do most of the telling about our pregnancy for a few weeks and after my oct 1, 11 week, ultrasound we will announce online too.
blueberrymomma That is funny! And with the mail, you can't say you didn't try to tell her! Have you done this with her before, or will this be your first baby?
We still haven't told DH's parents yet. I get along with them pretty well, although I am a little upset with how his dad and step-mom handled our miscarriage back in the spring. They never said a word to me until they came to visit a month afterwards, and it took several days before his step-mom even brought up the topic. And neither of them have said a word about it since then. I'm sure they were both upset about it (his step-mom was in tears while talking to me about it), and I think maybe they just didn't know how to respond, but still I felt like I had zero support from them. I had a really rough time all summer working through the depression from the miscarriage, and so it really hurt that I didn't even hear from them when I needed the support. His mom on the other hand was more supportive, but she just had a major back surgery and is struggling with recovery and on a lot of pain medication for the time being, haha! Anyway, I think we may wait until our first ultrasound in a couple more weeks when we confirm things are going positively this time around. My sister is coming to visit and just happens to be arriving to town on the day of the ultrasound, so I'm going to surprise her then!
I’ve already started telling close friends and family, but I’ll probably do something fallish for the big ‘Facebook announcement’. I saw this picture and kinda liked the vibes it was giving❤️
Not planning on telling anyone until Thanksgiving!! My family lives in another state and won’t see me until then so thought it would be fun to show up with a baby bump and surprise the heck out of them! It’s been hard keeping it from my mom and sister!!
At this point I feel like I’ve told a billion people. Almost everyone at work. All of our families. A few friends. In 2 weeks, after our 11 week apt I think I’ll officially be “out” and tell other people. Social media probably around Christmas.
My husband and I experienced two early losses before this pregnancy so we told everyone early. I’m a couple days shy of 12 weeks so we posted a little announcement. My feelings are if we only get a small amount of time with this baby I want to celebrate it as much as I can and have my support system around me in case anything happens.
This was our announcement we posted yesterday with “we are both pretty creative so we decided to make a person!”
We are almost 9w and havent told anyone (except our doctor of course). I asked my husband what he wanted and he stated he didnt want to tell our family until after our first doctors apt-10 1/2 weeks. Giving him some control over something seemed to make him less stressed and just us having the secret is sort of romantic. That bring said- Im so excited to tell our families!
@jennb85 this is our third. We usually just tell her in person. I’m just super annoyed with her this year lol (actually the whole family is annoyed but that’s a looong story)
We told our friends and family the day we found out so 4-5weeks. I’m a stay at home mom so I didn’t have to consider work this time (last time I was so sick that by 7weeks I had to tell my boss since I was out on disability often). I will wait until at least my first appointment/ultrasound to post on social media so for me that’s 10 weeks or so... I personally would tell everyone if I miscarried because I would need the support and for me that would be important. But I acknowledge that for some sharing a loss like that would be harder. It’s just personal, there’s no absolute wrong or right.
I told my mom this weekend because we were selling clothes at a mom2mom sale and she would wonder why all my nice baby clothes weren’t at the sale lol To my surprise she was genuinely happy. Which has help ease my anxiety. My dad was way too happy but he gets mushy and weird about things like this lol. I’m still in no hurry to tell any other family memebers(aka in laws)
Most of my friends in town know now. I would have needed the support if anything happened. I sent this photo frame to my parents. Should be there tomorrow! my mil knows bc I was so sick when she was here a couple weeks back. Dh will tell his family around 12 weeks and I'll do a social media post end of October sometime.
We told my daughter (as mentioned in the how to tell your kids thread) and now we just bring her around and have her tell people about her new doll, and she usually yells “I got my doll because I’m going to be a big sister!!” And they don’t know what to do because they aren’t sure if she is pretending or if she should be telling them and I get to just nod and smile and they freak out. My daughter is 2.75 and very very high in vocabulary skills so it’s really fun.
@florallimeade, wtf kind of friends are those?! you should NOT feel bad about any of that! poor them b/c they have to hear you decline all the fun things they are asking you to do while you grow a fucking human for 9 months?
sorry. probably hormones.
so I think the day has come to break the news to my boss. not looking forward to it. not b/c I have anything like a promotion or project on the table. and I know what benefits I'm entitled to, so that isn't a concern. but the last time I told him I was pregnant, his response was, "congratulations... be careful what you wish for." the guy has 2 feet firmly planted on the spectrum, I'm sure of it. and not to diss anyone on the spectrum, it's just that his severe lack of social skills is difficult enough to put up w/ when I'm NOT dealing w/ all the pregnancy symptoms under the sun.
I'm 12 weeks, 1 day and there is no denying this belly. (it's more food baby than baby-baby, but I can't suck this in anymore) but part of me wants to let it all hang out and keep him in the dark until my next appointment... but a small voice is telling me I'm being unprofessional...
@batmama31 it's not unprofessional at all! You can tell work whenever you are ready. I believe the law only requires 30 days notice, and I think we all end up giving way more than that. Wait until you're comfortable - if that's now, great, but if not, later is just as good.
As for me, I came back to this because I think we have to start spilling the beans to our immediate families soon. We're 10 weeks tomorrow and aside from one friend who sort of caught me, we haven't told a soul. I think our families, particularly mine, would be a little bummed if we told them at the same time as everybody else, so it probably has to be this week or next at the latest. I got our son a super generic big brother shirt (but it has a dinosaur on it so it's still cool, right?) - we'll just throw it on him one of these days. Last time I called my mom crying at 4.5 weeks because she's a nurse and we found out right before a trip to Zika territory, so unoriginal as the shirt might be, it's better than that!
I’m 13 weeks today, and I’ve been bursting to tell my homeroom kids at school, so today I told them some bad news and some good news. The bad news is that I started feeling really sick over summer - tired and throwing up and not feeling normal. So, I went to the doctor and it was confirmed that I have a growth in my abdomen. This growth has made me feel sick, it’s messed up my hormones, and is making me gain weight. I will need to have the growth removed in the spring so with that and recovery time, I won’t be able to finish the year with you guys.... ... (at this point I had a class full of silent, open-mouthed students who were getting very worried) .... the good news? The good news is that the growth is a human baby!
Literally 5 whole seconds of teenage brain churning before it dawned on them what I was talking about. It was so awesome!!! I love messing with their little brains like that!
After a great scan on tuesday we posted on social media. Most of our close family and friends knew already so it was just getting everyone else - and it was super cute.
I still haven't told work yet. My probation was up on Tuesday but **TW a couple of the lawyers that I work with have had deaths in their families and once has been diagnosed with cancer END TW** so it's not the right time to throw that into the mix as well. It's getting harder to hide at work so hopefully next week there will be a good time to tell them.
Me: 31 H: 36 L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
@jroisback, yikes. That's not cool. Is this her first grandkid? I can kinda understand the excitement and all, but she definitely shouldn't be announcing it before you get the chance to....
Re: Have any of you told everyone about being pregnant? And if not how do you plan to?
Pretty sure most of my friends have already figured it out- DH and I are traveling for a wedding and I haven’t had a drop to drink on all of our bar-hopping friend get togethers. Hmm...
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
DH told one of his coworkers because he doesn’t have a Facebook daddy group to share with. I get it. He wants to tell everyone. He’ll tell his nurse at a dr appointment because he’s just so excited.
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
We are most likely going to wait to tell family until after the 1st trimester. We’ve had 2 previous MMC and with both, we told our immediately family pretty early. If everything goes okay, this will most likely be our last baby, and I want to keep things a secret until I know things are going to be okay. If we need the support later, I’ll still tell my family.
My DH and I have lots of siblings all of which are very active on our Family messenger, so we posted our back to school shopping last week and waited to see who caught on.
We will announce publicly after our 1st Ultrasound at 9 weeks.
Anyway she is 2.75 and loves doc mcstuffins. There is an episode when Doc is given a new doll (CeCe) and told that they are getting a new baby(adoption). So, she had watched only this episode for 3 months and asks to go see CeCe in Walmart And pets her and loves her and asks for her for Christmas.
So my idea is to get her CeCe (she’s in the mail) and tell her it’s an gift from the new baby that is growing in mamas womb. To let her practice taking care of babies. Because the baby loves her.
After that, I think DD will do most of the telling about our pregnancy for a few weeks and after my oct 1, 11 week, ultrasound we will announce online too.
We still haven't told DH's parents yet. I get along with them pretty well, although I am a little upset with how his dad and step-mom handled our miscarriage back in the spring. They never said a word to me until they came to visit a month afterwards, and it took several days before his step-mom even brought up the topic. And neither of them have said a word about it since then. I'm sure they were both upset about it (his step-mom was in tears while talking to me about it), and I think maybe they just didn't know how to respond, but still I felt like I had zero support from them. I had a really rough time all summer working through the depression from the miscarriage, and so it really hurt that I didn't even hear from them when I needed the support. His mom on the other hand was more supportive, but she just had a major back surgery and is struggling with recovery and on a lot of pain medication for the time being, haha! Anyway, I think we may wait until our first ultrasound in a couple more weeks when we confirm things are going positively this time around. My sister is coming to visit and just happens to be arriving to town on the day of the ultrasound, so I'm going to surprise her then!
I told my my sister tonight. She really liked how I casually added it into our conversation
This was our announcement we posted yesterday with “we are both pretty creative so we decided to make a person!”
Giving him some control over something seemed to make him less stressed and just us having the secret is sort of romantic.
That bring said- Im so excited to tell our families!
be telling them and I get to just nod and smile and they freak out. My daughter is 2.75 and very very high in vocabulary skills so it’s really fun.
sorry. probably hormones.
so I think the day has come to break the news to my boss. not looking forward to it. not b/c I have anything like a promotion or project on the table. and I know what benefits I'm entitled to, so that isn't a concern. but the last time I told him I was pregnant, his response was, "congratulations... be careful what you wish for." the guy has 2 feet firmly planted on the spectrum, I'm sure of it. and not to diss anyone on the spectrum, it's just that his severe lack of social skills is difficult enough to put up w/ when I'm NOT dealing w/ all the pregnancy symptoms under the sun.
I'm 12 weeks, 1 day and there is no denying this belly. (it's more food baby than baby-baby, but I can't suck this in anymore) but part of me wants to let it all hang out and keep him in the dark until my next appointment... but a small voice is telling me I'm being unprofessional...
ugh.
As for me, I came back to this because I think we have to start spilling the beans to our immediate families soon. We're 10 weeks tomorrow and aside from one friend who sort of caught me, we haven't told a soul. I think our families, particularly mine, would be a little bummed if we told them at the same time as everybody else, so it probably has to be this week or next at the latest. I got our son a super generic big brother shirt (but it has a dinosaur on it so it's still cool, right?) - we'll just throw it on him one of these days. Last time I called my mom crying at 4.5 weeks because she's a nurse and we found out right before a trip to Zika territory, so unoriginal as the shirt might be, it's better than that!
The bad news is that I started feeling really sick over summer - tired and throwing up and not feeling normal. So, I went to the doctor and it was confirmed that I have a growth in my abdomen. This growth has made me feel sick, it’s messed up my hormones, and is making me gain weight. I will need to have the growth removed in the spring so with that and recovery time, I won’t be able to finish the year with you guys....
... (at this point I had a class full of silent, open-mouthed students who were getting very worried)
.... the good news? The good news is that the growth is a human baby!
Literally 5 whole seconds of teenage brain churning before it dawned on them what I was talking about. It was so awesome!!! I love messing with their little brains like that!
I still haven't told work yet. My probation was up on Tuesday but **TW a couple of the lawyers that I work with have had deaths in their families and once has been diagnosed with cancer END TW** so it's not the right time to throw that into the mix as well. It's getting harder to hide at work so hopefully next week there will be a good time to tell them.
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019