Have any of you told everyone about being pregnant? And if not how do you plan to?

duck_mommy

I am almost 7 weeks pregnant and only very few people know. I'm really excited and want to spill the news to everyone else but I feel it is just to early yet. Have any of you spilled the beans to more then just a couple people? If not when and how do you plan on "telling the world"?

sheknows6

I think it's up to you and your level of comfort with the risk involved of telling early.

DH and I have told both sets of parents, siblings, and our innermost circle of friends and that's it, but we are ok with the fact that this comes with a risk.

There's no rule on when you tell. It's totally your call

MRDCle

Same as @sheknows6. Parents, siblings, and a few choice good friends. Once we have our first appointment/after first tri is over we'll be more open about it. 

kaleesi93

I've told my girlfriend because she kept me sane while I was waiting to tell my BF, and then a few IG followers because products and workouts came up with accountability groups and what not so I just said you know I'm pregnant. 
I originally wanted to wait till after 12 weeks to tell my family but a big reunion was scheduled for next weekend and it's the only time this year everyone can get together so I'm telling them then, it's a big birthday bash weekend for my brother who I'm super close with so I'm telling him he's going to be an uncle, and then per my BFs request I'm having to tell his parents this week before my family comes up/down because his Dads birthday is the same weekend and he thinks his dad won't be happy about getting to know he's a grandpa on his birthday... it's kind of stressful on that score because of everything and my BF thinking his parents won't be happy makes me feel just awful. I wish we could put off telling everyone but this is the only time I will see them in person in a long time so I'm trying to calm my PGAL brain and just be happy! 
And honestly for me.. I already told my fam when I miscarried last time and they were soo supportive so i feel the waiting is more of an unnecessary safety net in my mind than it should be. 

2babes3angels

We told our families basically the same day we found out and close friends within a couple of days. I agree with everyone else, it's really whenever you feel comfortable sharing your joy! My backstory (and also TW)--For us in the past, we've waited to tell and 2 of those times I ended up having a miscarriage. I regretted not sharing because grieving those little loves in isolation was really difficult. Since then, we've always shared the news early and with the most recent loss we had--not that it was any better-- but we at least had community to rally around us and it made it at least less lonely. 
But all that to say it's up to you Momma 

kangstadt

I agree with the previous posters, it's entirely up to what you're comfortable with.  With my first, it was an unplanned pregnancy and I ended up telling my family very early (7 weeks) because I wanted their support.  With this one that we were trying for, I'm waiting until the end of the month and after my first appointment to tell family (I'll be just past 8 weeks then, and have a mini family vacation planned when I'll be able to tell my parents and a few siblings).  In my mind, if anything were to happen, I would want their support anyway.  I'll probably tell my boss at 8 weeks also.  As for the rest of our acquaintances, I'll probably wait until 10 or 12 weeks to announce on social media.  But it's entirely up to you!

ShallowSeas

We've told both families including grandparents, and my two best friends. H told a few coworkers who knew we were trying. I plan on announcing it on social media after my first US at 8 weeks.

I understand why most people wait until 12 weeks or longer to announce it, and that was my thinking with DD, but this time around I'm more in the mindset of "I'm pregnant and happy and I feel like it's something to celebrate now". 

roo1381

I don't plan on telling anyone for awhile. This will be our 4th, and I'd line to postpone the "are you crazy?" remarks. I also miscarried twice before DS (14 months old). Since I'm AMA, I figure I'll hold off until 2nd trimester. Everyone is comfortable at different times and while i love other people's big creative announcements, i've never done one. 

Piccola1988

I caved and told one friend because I just didn't feel like lying and I was so surprised I needed to say it to someone other than H (well...text it), but nobody else knows.

I don't plan to tell anybody else until at least after our first ultrasound at around 8 weeks, and at that point it would be our immediate families if we tell anybody at all before NIPT results come in.

Last time I kept things quiet for a while because I was a nervous wreck.  This time I'm mainly just avoiding the reactions to us having 2 so close together.

thatbaintforbetty

No knows right now except DH. I will probably tell the one friend who knows we were trying whenever I see her. 

As for my family I’m waiting as long as possible.  They will be a very mixed bag of emotions and I can and will tell them where they can stick their opinions. My sister turns 30 in October and wants to go wine tasting, assuming she sticks with that plan we will probably tell then. 

I don’t plan to announce on social media but my mom is a damn blabber mouth so I’m sure it’ll be all over FB in like 2 seconds. Another reason I don’t want to tell them. 

I’ll tell work when I need to. Or can’t hide it anymore. 

Piccola1988

thatbaintforbetty said:

I’ll tell work when I need to. Or can’t hide it anymore. 

THIS.  I am not looking forward to that discussion.

daniellel0322

I’m 6 weeks and told my dad and his parents right away (at 4 weeks). We told siblings the following week and 1 friend (my best friend). And at 6 weeks, after the 1st ultrasound, we told my grandparents, 2 aunts & 2 uncles. But I’m very close with them all.

Also, we were trying for a while and a bunch of those people knew we were doing fertility treatments. So, my grandmother kept asking my father and he didn’t want to keep lying.

I dont know if we would’ve told as many people so early if they weren’t all aware of what was going on. 

thatbaintforbetty

Piccola1988 said:

thatbaintforbetty said:

I’ll tell work when I need to. Or can’t hide it anymore. 

THIS.  I am not looking forward to that discussion.

Truthfully I’m not either. I’m technically a temp and while my company has told me that they intend to hire me on permanently I don’t know when that will happen. 

Also my direct boss is a mom of 3, so I think she might figure it out anyways. 

chelseay416

I've told the friends I see multiple times a week just because it's nice when people understand that you feel under the weather. Our families live far away and we will probably tell them around 8/10 weeks or after a good ultrasound. 
I will say, during my last pregnancy, I was so happy that I had told a few people early even though I ended up mc. It was so nice to have people rallying around me and making sure I was okay emotionally and physically. It was nice to grieve with people other than just my husband and hearing other peoples stories made me feel less alone. 

We will probably share on social media around 12/13 weeks

wearegroot

@thatbaintforbetty We’re waiting as long as possible to tell our family, too.

If something goes wrong, we’ll tell them, but we just want to keep this between us. I’m just not looking forward to answering “how are you feeling” during every phone conversation, and then being told what I “have” to do. Basically I just don’t want the interference.

So far the only person I’ve told is my fitness instructor. We are taking a trip to Disney at the end of October with my parents, so we’re going to tell them then because they’ll figure it out when I don’t go on the thrill rides, plus we can take some cute pictures. The current plan is to make a sign that says “Our Ohana is growing” and taking a picture with Lilo and Stitch.

LeslieCHNC

DH was so stressed about it at work he broke down and talked to two coworkers he works closely with. He needed someone he could talk too and both of them have larger families. I've told my dad because I also needed to talk to someone and I can always talk to him.  #5 was not at all planned and my in laws were pretty negative about #3 & #4 so we are loosing sleep and stressing big time about telling them.
I will also be telling my good friend from Church as I will need her help and support, emotionally I am not ready for 5. We do NFP and and there was like a 2% chance for this to happen so needless to say it was a huge shock for both DH and I. We need our big family village to know whats going on so they can rally around us as we navigate this!
Also praying really hard about how to break the news to our friends who have struggled/ can't to start a family. It breaks my heart that here I am with this 2% chance and they are longing for a little one. Why me God, why not them!?!?! 

kaleesi93

@wearegroot that's the cutest little announcement idea
Even though my Grandma is a great gma it barely counts because my older sibling divorced after a year and lost the baby in a custody battle so my grandma never heard about the pregnancy or birth till way later and never got to see the baby.. so I'm telling her she's finally a great grandma at last

professormama

I already told my department chair since they’ve been asking me to commit to a spring schedule. Telling families tomorrow and later this week, when we see them in person. Friends will be more dependent on context, when we see them, etc. Social media probably in December when we mail out announcement / Christmas cards to extended family. 

blueberrymomma

Besides DH and myself we’ve told two close friends because I knew they’d be the most supportive. I also told my trainer and chiropractor just because I feel they need to know for the baby’s and mine well being.
im 1000% surprised my mom hasn’t figured it out.She knew with the first two before I even peed on the stick. I’m also afraid to tell her because she a firm believer in two is enough especially since we already have one of each
My MIL is a huge blabber mouth and makes it about her, so I always want her to be the last to know(DH won’t go for it).
I want to take a family photo with a sign that says “We’re adding another blueberry to our patch” (my husband and his family are blueberry farmers)
I’ll be 7 weeks Monday, my ultrasound is Wednesday. Not sure if I want to tell at 8weeks or wait till 10

mels823

I’m a giant bloated mess already so the majority of my coworkers have probably figured it out although I’ve only told one of them.  We will be telling our parents next week when we go on vacation with them. I bought the girls some cute shirts a friend made, my 3 year olds say  s “big sister professional” and the2 year olds says “big sister in training”. We haven’t told the kids yet either. Im dying to start telling people though! 

cabearit

We just found out last Wednesday, so the only people that know are some very close friends. H told his best friend and I told mine the day after BFP. We were going to hold off on telling anyone else, but I went to Happy Hour with two other close friends and had to spill the beans to them as well. It's not like me to opt out of cheap drinks.

We are considering waiting until the end of 1st Tri to tell our parents and I am still trying to think of a creative way to tell them all. Who knows if we will make it that long...

ashley_mb

Being our first together (my husband has had baby fever for about 4 years now), the day we found out we told our parents and 2 best friends (at 4wks). It's just such a happy time and we really wanted to share that with the people that we are closest with- also, if something does go in a direction that isn't favorable, we know that those people will be able to support us through it. The rest of our friends and the children in our family, including my DSD, we plan to wait until around the 12 wk mark. We plan to let everyone else know with some sort of cute announcement, just not sure how yet- and we have time to figure it out 

irshdancr5500

So far DH hasn't told anyone, but I've told all the ladies from my first BMB. We haven't told any family yet, and I honestly haven't thought about when that should happen, besides before anyone else so they don't get upset. We're going to a wedding of my friends end of Sept, so we'll probably let some people know then. I'm currently up for a promotion at work, so I don't want to bring it up there until I know how that plays out. Social media will probably be an announcement Nov or Dec. 

elmich3

I feel more relaxed about telling with my second. I understand why people wait because of possibility of loss but I'm pregnant right now and I don't want to hide that. It's a happy thing! So around 6 weeks I told family and close friends. I didn't tell them they couldn't tell anyone because they don't need the pressure of keeping a secret for 6 weeks lol If people know, they know! Support is great and makes me feel better.

I think the stress of people not knowing and having to "appear normal" makes me feel even worse. I work for my parents so that was luckily an easy one lol

I won't mention it on FB (soo important lol) or anything until 12 weeks though. 

kayceebaby1

We haven't told a soul and it's been wicked hard. Last night we were out with friends and they were all talking about the warning labels on their beers (do not consume when pregnant) and that started a whole story about how one girl didn't know her friend was pregnant even though she wasn't drinking. The whole time my DH and I were avoiding eye contact. I just stared at my water bottle....

Tonight we're hosting family dinner and my mom is not shy about asking and I'm pretty sure my dad expects a big announcement soon because I stopped drinking when we started trying...

Anyways, except for the social awkwardness I really like having a secret with DH.

thatbaintforbetty

I just got sucked into the Spirit Halloween website. If anybody’s looking for funny Halloween announcement costume I’ve got it. Think would only work for STM or more moms though. 

Plaid skirt, stockings, pigtails, cardigan and a shirt that says “Oops I did it again” with an arrow pointing to the belly. 

Im half tempted to use but don’t really plan to announce. Might have to do it anyways because hilarious. 

jmesue1030

I’ve told the two people I work with, two close friends, and my husband’s aunt and uncle who were in town from across the country who we wouldn’t have been able to tell in person otherwise (and who would have looked at me funny when I wasn’t drinking with everyone else at dinne) we plan to tell the rest of our immediate families when we see them in person around Labor Day... so about 8 weeks. I wanted to wait until we had the first ultrasound but unfortunately that didn’t get scheduled until the week after Labor Day. We would tell immediate family sooner but really prefer to do it in person

kattle

I told my bestfriend and sister the day I got the BFP (4.5 weeks), then waited till Dr had done a blood test the next day to confirm it before telling parents and my DH family, but asked them to keep it immediate family only at this point.

Have now told most of our friends and also the girls on my netball team as was struggling to play Centre like normal thanks to nausea, and also cause I was so excited. 

I know it's a risk but I am also of the mind that I would also want these people to know if something does go wrong, as I am not the kind of person who could just pretend I was OK, and would want their support.

Will wait until results of harmony test (around week 14 I think) before considering any kind of social media announcement however!

But am very much of the mind each to their own and however people want to share thats great.

Have seen a few people get judged for telling early and was a bit worried myself at some backlash, but it's my life and realised if people judge me thats their issue not mine :-D

lizziealyssa

1st-told family over Christmas when I was 9 weeks
2nd-told family the day I found out because they all happened to be in town for my first's baby dedication
3rd-told family at 12 weeks
--announced on social media at 12 weeks with first 3

4-6 were late first trimester miscarriages.  We told family after the fact.

7-(this one) I had a huge bleed at 5 weeks and thought I'd lost it (I have a hematoma.) My husband told his mom and I told my mom so they'd know what was going on.  A couple friends know mostly to explain why I couldn't go to meet up anymore since I'm on bed rest.  I will not announce this one on social media until it arrives.  

So I've been all over the place and I'm happy with the timing on each one.

booksandlace

We told our parents and siblings and I told a couple of my closest friends. Everyone else will have to wait till around 12 weeks. I want to get a onsie that says "without the storm there would be no rainbows" and take a cute picture of us with it

whats0nemore

We haven’t told a soul yet. I have a 4/26 due date so only almost 5 weeks at this time. My mom will have it blasted all over Facebook so i’m keeping it secret as long as I can. My H’s parents probably aren’t going to be too happy when we tell them but tough cookies. It’s been tough keeping quiet at work though when I just want to scream it out loud! 

TheSouffleGirl

Haven't told anyone yet.  Friends generally find out almost immediately because I NEVER let a glass of wine sit in front of me untouched, but my family is kind of emotionally intense so we usually wait as long as I can convince my husband to, ie about 2 weeks.  I always feel bad wanting to hide it from them, but *TW* I've had 3 miscarriages and every time I've just wanted to not have told them so I don't have to deal with them on top of myself.  It's kind of a selfish impulse because these burdens are meant to be shared, but... that's just why I can usually talk him into waiting 2 weeks if I look stressed enough.

Megz1902

We aren't planning to tell anyone until after our first appointment September 17th. But, Labor Day weekend we will be at our family cottage with a lot of family, and I'm not sure my lack of drinking will go unnoticed. So, we'll see if they out me before our appointment. Otherwise, as long as the 8 week appointment goes well, we plan to tell our parents and siblings, then the rest of the family at 12 weeks, then social media around 20 weeks I guess, once we know if it is a girl or boy.

kangstadt

I caved and told my boss today because I've been feeling so awful.  My other friend guessed based on a comment by my DH.  So much for waiting until after our first appointment, haha.

plumpoppies

Everyone here at our base in Italy knows. It's a very small community and things don't work the same way. Between me needing help figuring out how to get progesterone and going to the OB ER I swear everyone I know here knows. 

I also told my mom group from the original nest board I was a part of.... and now our mother's know. 

Basically I'm not going fb official until after my ultrasound next week. This isn't how I had planned for it to go.... but really anyone who knows would know if there were a loss as well. 

kayceebaby1

@TheSouffleGirl my friends and family started asking right away because I stopped drinking when we were just trying. My FIL is the family bartender so he was in the loop right away (that we were trying). I finally caved yesterday and texted my best about the BFP while I was feeling really gross at work. I needed someone to be excited with/complain to.

BarefootContessa

baya5 said:

 I’m also afraid to tell her because she a firm believer in two is enough especially since we already have one of each

Yes, so much this. This is my MIL through and through. I have so much anxiety around telling this time because she was extremely rude about the announcement of our last pregnancy. It's a very long back story but we announced our third, she didn't congratulate us, only asked if it would be our last. BIL and SIL announced they were pregnant with their second like two weeks later and she started crying and jumping in the air. DH was extremely hurt. FF two months and (TW) BIL and SIL lost their baby at 14 weeks. She sobbed for them, and offered to drive out of state to take care of them. We lost our son at 22 weeks. She told DH "You two can handle it." She never told me she was sorry, and she's never mentioned our baby since.

So... needless to say.. I want to wait until we're in the delivery room to tell her.

wearegroot

@barefootcontessa I am so sorry! That is just terrible. I can’t imagine treating your children that way.

cabearit

@BarefootContessa That is shockingly insensitive. I am so sorry. 

blueberrymomma

@barefootContessa I’m so sorry you had to go through that. That is completely insensitive and I would also not want to tell her till I was in the delivery room. My MIL treats my BIL/SIL and their child like they’re gods gift to this world as well

molecularmolly

@LeslieCHNC We also use NFP, are you also Catholic? Somehow we've managed to go 4 years married without a pregnancy, until we decided to start trying last month then *boom* lol. I'm worried about having many unplanned kiddos after our first though, I've seen it happen to a few ladies at church :-/. Apparently Creighton method is better after birth though?

We told my family on Sunday (I'm 6 weeks), by giving them onesies and baby clothes in cute little boxes with their new titles on them (Grandma, Grandpa, Auntie, Great Grandma), it went well and they were all excited...I feel like I may have already posted this though...:-D Pregnancy brain! Sorry! Lol