Has anyone made copies of u/s pics?! MIL bought a frame and were going down tomorrow so I want to give her some options but not give her the actual u/s picture.
@mamabearcj you can ask your OB to see if they save the photos in their system. They may be able to print out extras so it would be an actually u/s pic but without having to use of of yours.
Anyone else’s SO freaked out by baby movement? Last night I got some good hard kicks when I went to bed and took DH’s hand. He got weirded out and yanked his hand away. I think the baby scared him!
@quiltandknit yes! DH has body issues anyway. He's pulled his hand away and been like "holy S, I don't know how you do it, I'd be passing out all the time if I had to carry a baby"
@quiltandknit my H is the same way. He liked feeling DD kick at first because it was so new and he was like, “whoa that’s my actual baby in there,” but after the first few times it freaked him out. He pretty much never felt DS kick and he’s only felt this LO once and that was only because DD wouldn’t stop telling him to. He also got majorly freaked out toward the end of my pregnancy with DD when we could actually see her little foot outline and basically refused to look at my belly at all for the rest of the pregnancy
+1 to H not liking to feel baby kicks. At first it made me sad, but now with baby2 I'm over it. Not his thing I guess. He finds it creepy...i still make him feel once in a while tho!
DH doesn’t seem to be freaked out by the movement, but he was really surprised yesterday when he got a good hard kick. I on the other hand get freaked out by the movements sometimes! The other night in the middle of the night he was flailing all over the place and almost felt like he was stuck in an uncomfortable position. I rolled over and he stopped being so crazy with his movements. That honestly did kind of freak me out!
Honestly sometimes I find the baby movement to be creepy. It kind of feels like there an alien trying to escape my belly sometimes, and it just gets worse he bigger they get!
Sometimes it just feels so weird. He moves a lot, and most times its just like intestinal rumblings but I know it's him. It's so crazy to watch my stomach move too.
Dh hasn't felt much but it is because of my anterior placenta. Baby also stops once his hand appears so poor dh has like no chance! I have seen my belly move a littlr and it is cool and creepy at the same time.
To everyone packing a hospital bag early and buying bras and stuff on sale...how are you picking a size to buy? I feel like I have NO clue what size nursing bras and camis I will need
@chopchop25 With both my other babies I got a few of the sports bra/sleeping bra types to bring to the hospital in the size that fit while pregnant and then waited to buy the real nursing bras until after baby came as I was told my cup size would change once my milk came in. For me, my bra size didn’t change at all before,during, or after pregnancy but I suspect it might be because I’m super chesty to begin with.
Pretty sure this kid sees the shadow of DHs hand and freezes just because he’s an ornery little turd. DH likes feeling/seeing him move but never has the patience to wait for it.
STM have experience and FTM have any ideas of how to stay connected with your spouse after baby is born? I know you are in survival mode for a while. I know most women switch to mother mode vs wife mode and I don't want my husband to feel left out and I sure as heck want to avoid mothering him! I know people do dates with baby along (dinner is the oy thing I can think of) . Non sex related massage or touch. Cuddling while watching a TV show or movie after baby is asleep. Other ideas?
+1 for baby movements stopping when DH touches the belly. He gets so upset because he loves them. +1 for thinking the baby movements are weird though....It feels like there's something in there twisting up all my organs and it just feels wrong lol.
Re: bras. I have big boobs and shop at a specialty bra shop. They’re really good at sizing for growing pregnant women and nursing bras before you need them. I’d try there if you’re picky about bras and not afraid to spend a little extra.
Re: US photos. I found that my phone takes better pictures than my scanner can scan. I literally just snapped a picture of each one of Z’s and printed them up.
How do you ladies handle unwanted belly touching >.< Now that you can tell I’m pregnant everyone seems to want to touch. I had two women at work as they were walking by reach out and touch me and I felt awkward and had no idea how to react.
DH also thinks it’s super creepy to feel baby kicking. At first he was into it because you could barely feel. Now I have a little ninja and DH won’t wven touch my belly. When we are going to bed and cuddling if he feels LO kick he moves his hand away from my belly. I just tell him he doesn’t need to use it as an excuse to feel my boob haha. Recently it’s been weirding me out as the movements are into my ribs and then feel like my pelvis when I’m sitting. It almost tickles I don’t know how to explain it’s weird and I sort of attempt to push Lo out of my ribs.
@chopchop25 thanks for asking, it’s been on my mind as well. I think it’s a good idea to do the sports bra type at first. With DD I went from a B to a DDD o.O so I really wasn’t sure how to go about nursing bras this time lol.
@chopchop25 I was really trying to hold off on bras but even my sports bras wouldn’t work anymore. This is my first and I went from 34c to 38d in 27 weeks. It was actually my husband who dragged me to tre maternity store and said I was being ridiculous. I was embarrassed to even get measured! I ended up buying two sale nursing bras (they were about $17 each) that have no wire and should be a little flexible with size. Hopefully they will last the pregnancy. My plan is to invest in some nicer ones closer to when baby is born or after if I’m able. I will pack them both for the hospital but also just a regular robe that I can nurse in. I’m not planning to have too many visitors so I don’t think it’ll be a big deal if I even have to go braless during the stay.
I do have a few nursing camis on my registry. I asked what they thought at the baby store and she said they are very forgiving with size because you’ll mostly wear them around the house.she recommended I size up from my prepregnancy medium to a large.
Okay next question!! I have been chafing so badly on my upper thighs into the like vagina crease area to the point where it hurts to wear jeans/shorts/some undies!! The skin is pretty raw at this point, is there anything you ladies could suggest to just help the skin heal up and keep it from happening in the future..?? I plan on living in dresses until it heals up but I dont want to deal with this the rest of the pregnancy
I dread having to put a bra on every day. Living in a small town I don’t have any options for maternity clothes. I either have to purchase stuff online or make a trip to the city (4 hour drive) I have been living in sports bras but my boobs are getting too big for those now too! Hopefully heading to the city again soon so I can stock up before baby comes.
Edited. Oops I forgot to add my question. Anyone have any solutions for under boob sweat?? I am starting to get a rash and am almost tempted to break in to the diaper rash samples I have?
@SweetSweetTooth We didn't do the date night thing, but we typically watch shows together after bedtime. So we started doing that again, or getting a show in when he was sleeping. Mostly just doing the normal things that we did. My H loves being a dad and I think having DS around makes him feel close to me too. Also I'd send him lots of pics of DS, and me too sometimes, and tell him how excited we were for him to be home and see him. But not to take over care of DS or anything like that. To have dinner with him or let him play with DS... the fun stuff. (While on leave - after leave we definitely added the less fun stuff too, ha ha.) And my sex drive never really lessened last time - even after birth. H was insistent about no sex until my 6w checkup but we did other things - which helped the closeness I'm sure. Since I wanted to go into labor naturally, if possible, I put us on an eod regimen. I decided it might help and since it was a guaranteed 6w afterwards... it couldn't hurt. So no huge gaps there.
I think you have a good idea going in. Just keep open communication. That always helps. I needed H and let him know, it's always nice to feel needed. I think it's ok to be 'mom' instead of 'wife,' just don't be supermom, be mom who needs dad's help.
@alexa94 totally swat away hands! People dont seem to realize, that it's technically assult. Or be very loud and obnoxious about it, like "WHY would you think it's appropriate to touch another person without asking". Honestly I got very good and watching around me for on coming possible touch and calling people out before they could. You don't have to be super nice about it. People need to learn to keep their hands to themselves. Those are the same people that see no problem with touching a newborn without asking or that they don't know.
@jandmnumber1 corn startch, (make sure if it is a rash now it isn't yeast or you will need at least it anti-fungal to get rid of it. The bust dust has great reviews. I feel like we just talked about this and there was a lot of great answers, but I forget which thread!
@alexa_94 I use my arms to form an "X" in front my belly and try to wiggle out of the way. I have also told DH to help block if the lobster claws come out. I also tell anyone who will listen how much I hate having my belly touched, so I think a lot of people know by now. I have had some family friends that are just so damn quick and just reach in there before I know what;s happening, but at least it was quick, and no lingering? lol
@mamabearcj@jandmnumber1 For sweat rashes/chafing that is already an issue I always use baby powder and then just try and let the area dry out as much as possible. And then to prevent more in the future I use an anti-chafe stick (there’s lots of different ones usually designed for runners if you google runner anti-chafe they should come up). My favourites are body glide and another that I will try and find the name of (DH had it from his marathon days and it was designed for nipple chafing).
Not sure if this should go here or the glider spotlight thread but I will try here.
Now that we have the furniture set up in the nursery, I’ve realized there is no room in there for a glider or even a small rocker or chair. Have any of you STMs had experience not using a glider? Some people I have talked to suggested putting one in the living room but we already have a full living room set and no room to add. I think I will plan to do nighttime feedings in there in one of our regular chairs and set up my pumping station there (we have a very comfy oversized leather chair that I think I would plan to use). Is it a problem not having something that rocks, or does it really depend on the baby?
ETA: we live in a bungalow so our room is upstairs and everything else, including the nursery, is on the main level. We plan to have him in his room from the beginning and I will probably sleep in the guest room across the hall for a few weeks so we don’t plan to do nighttime feedings in our room either.
Personally, for me the glider is about ease. The fact that there's a chair in his room that I can sit in right away and not fumble to the living room in the dark. If I didn't have it, I'd be fine I'm sure.
@chopchop25 for bras, I would just go to motherhood maternity or a maternity store and ask to be measured and for advice. At the hospital, once you deliver and start breastfeeding, you won't use your sporta bra. It'll be your nursing bra or Cami. I either wore a nursing bra or cami. You don't wear both at the same time. I know I wondered that . Since you put in the nursing pads, in your nursing Cami at all times, your nipples won't show through. I sized one up from my prepregnancy size. That's what everyone recommended for me and it was comfortable.
@SweetSweetTooth this is so important. Just remember that you guys are a team. The husband tends to get the grunt of the hormone rage that happens after you deliver. Even my pastor's wife warned me about this before I went into labor. She said she was always mad at him because he was doing everything " wrong". My best advice, more than thinking of ways to spend time with your husband, is to pick and choose your battles. Also that your way isn't the absolute right way (to wash the dishes or clean your pumps or change the diaper etc, do the laundry , givea bath..) . Let him do those things without nagging. If you nag alot in the beginning about how he's doing it the wrong way, you'll fight more, he will do less and you will find yourself doing everything and then getting mad at him for doing nothing . He will also never learn how to do these things. Everyone survives in the end and eventually everyone isn't as sterile or nit picky months later with how they do their dishes or laundry etc. You're a team. What helps is to remeberr that he came first and in the end, when the baby is grown up and with their own family, he will be the one by your side still. So put him first. All this helped us alot to still be dating while being married
@spartan4life it doesn't matter that you have a rocker in your baby room. I mainly used it during those late breastfeeding nights to have a comfortable chair to sit on while nursing. Nursing hurts your back and neck so much and in the beginning you're sitting in the chair for a long time. Nursing in the beginning takes an hour because the milk comes out so slowly. I didn't rock the chair to have him fall asleep.
@spartan4life I didn't have a glider with DS because we weee in a small appartment and it just wasnt possible. I made due just fine though. It would have been nice, and I'm really considering getting one this go around, but again will make due with out if I have to.
@spartan4life I have never had a rocker. I have a place on the couch that my husband/children must vacate when I want it. We didn’t have the space with my son and then with my daughter, her room is on the smaller side and I just figured we didn’t need it. I’ve looked at some second hand but I’ve done fine without it so the extra expense doesn’t seem worth it at this point.
@ashin121 oh yes. i plan to leave DH alone to work stuff out on his own and to remove me so I don't feel the urge to tell him what works for me. Or I will go take a nap I have heard that so many times that he needs to learn his way of doing things with the baby, not your way. I know we are pretty good about asking one another if something isn't working if they want to hear what worked for us last time with something. Sometimes I say no as I want to figured it out on my own lol I am sure with hormones it won't go as smoothly!
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Third pregnancy, fourth baby, and I think this one is the only one DH has felt move! It’s just not his thing.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
I know people do dates with baby along (dinner is the oy thing I can think of) . Non sex related massage or touch. Cuddling while watching a TV show or movie after baby is asleep. Other ideas?
+1 for thinking the baby movements are weird though....It feels like there's something in there twisting up all my organs and it just feels wrong lol.
Re: US photos. I found that my phone takes better pictures than my scanner can scan. I literally just snapped a picture of each one of Z’s and printed them up.
DH also thinks it’s super creepy to feel baby kicking. At first he was into it because you could barely feel. Now I have a little ninja and DH won’t wven touch my belly. When we are going to bed and cuddling if he feels LO kick he moves his hand away from my belly. I just tell him he doesn’t need to use it as an excuse to feel my boob haha.
Recently it’s been weirding me out as the movements are into my ribs and then feel like my pelvis when I’m sitting. It almost tickles I don’t know how to explain it’s weird and I sort of attempt to push Lo out of my ribs.
@chopchop25 thanks for asking, it’s been on my mind as well. I think it’s a good idea to do the sports bra type at first. With DD I went from a B to a DDD o.O so I really wasn’t sure how to go about nursing bras this time lol.
I do have a few nursing camis on my registry. I asked what they thought at the baby store and she said they are very forgiving with size because you’ll mostly wear them around the house.she recommended I size up from my prepregnancy medium to a large.
ETA thank you for u/s pic suggestions!
Edited. Oops I forgot to add my question. Anyone have any solutions for under boob sweat?? I am starting to get a rash and am almost tempted to break in to the diaper rash samples I have?
Also I'd send him lots of pics of DS, and me too sometimes, and tell him how excited we were for him to be home and see him. But not to take over care of DS or anything like that. To have dinner with him or let him play with DS... the fun stuff. (While on leave - after leave we definitely added the less fun stuff too, ha ha.)
And my sex drive never really lessened last time - even after birth. H was insistent about no sex until my 6w checkup but we did other things - which helped the closeness I'm sure. Since I wanted to go into labor naturally, if possible, I put us on an eod regimen. I decided it might help and since it was a guaranteed 6w afterwards... it couldn't hurt. So no huge gaps there.
I think you have a good idea going in. Just keep open communication. That always helps. I needed H and let him know, it's always nice to feel needed. I think it's ok to be 'mom' instead of 'wife,' just don't be supermom, be mom who needs dad's help.
Jk but next time ask them to please not touch anymore as it makes you uncomfortable
@jandmnumber1 corn startch, (make sure if it is a rash now it isn't yeast or you will need at least it anti-fungal to get rid of it. The bust dust has great reviews. I feel like we just talked about this and there was a lot of great answers, but I forget which thread!
And then to prevent more in the future I use an anti-chafe stick (there’s lots of different ones usually designed for runners if you google runner anti-chafe they should come up). My favourites are body glide and another that I will try and find the name of (DH had it from his marathon days and it was designed for nipple chafing).
Now that we have the furniture set up in the nursery, I’ve realized there is no room in there for a glider or even a small rocker or chair. Have any of you STMs had experience not using a glider? Some people I have talked to suggested putting one in the living room but we already have a full living room set and no room to add. I think I will plan to do nighttime feedings in there in one of our regular chairs and set up my pumping station there (we have a very comfy oversized leather chair that I think I would plan to use). Is it a problem not having something that rocks, or does it really depend on the baby?
ETA: we live in a bungalow so our room is upstairs and everything else, including the nursery, is on the main level. We plan to have him in his room from the beginning and I will probably sleep in the guest room across the hall for a few weeks so we don’t plan to do nighttime feedings in our room either.
@SweetSweetTooth this is so important. Just remember that you guys are a team. The husband tends to get the grunt of the hormone rage that happens after you deliver. Even my pastor's wife warned me about this before I went into labor. She said she was always mad at him because he was doing everything " wrong". My best advice, more than thinking of ways to spend time with your husband, is to pick and choose your battles. Also that your way isn't the absolute right way (to wash the dishes or clean your pumps or change the diaper etc, do the laundry , givea bath..) . Let him do those things without nagging. If you nag alot in the beginning about how he's doing it the wrong way, you'll fight more, he will do less and you will find yourself doing everything and then getting mad at him for doing nothing . He will also never learn how to do these things. Everyone survives in the end and eventually everyone isn't as sterile or nit picky months later with how they do their dishes or laundry etc. You're a team. What helps is to remeberr that he came first and in the end, when the baby is grown up and with their own family, he will be the one by your side still. So put him first. All this helped us alot to still be dating while being married
@spartan4life it doesn't matter that you have a rocker in your baby room. I mainly used it during those late breastfeeding nights to have a comfortable chair to sit on while nursing. Nursing hurts your back and neck so much and in the beginning you're sitting in the chair for a long time. Nursing in the beginning takes an hour because the milk comes out so slowly. I didn't rock the chair to have him fall asleep.