Say what????

greenhillgirl

My boss at our dept meeting of 12 people last week- everyone can have a drink at the party except ___my name, then repeatedly saying that as if it was hilarious. Then she had to have a public stream of consciousness convo about if I could walk across this challenging art installation safely or not and asked me if I was going to. I said I'd have to look at it first, then decide. THEN she said that we could all walk or waddle across it and stared at me.

rooonilwaazlib

Many people call me Mama now, instead of using my regular human name. Like "Hiii mama" when I get greeted -- It's actually kind of creepy.Especially when my FIL does it... I don't even want my wife calling me mama when baby is here!  

AliKay20

These days, when random people who don’t even know who the f I am guess I’m due in the next two months, I just go along w it and say “yup. Any day now.” 

The joke’s on them. I can’t even let these comments get to me bc I’m too tired to care.

kianarain

@rooonilwaazlib the male partner at work calls me this now..... "Hey mama. I'm getting you used to it!"...and he's so proud of himself/thinks he's so funny for it. It makes me cringe every. single. time. 

KLS123

kianarain said:

@rooonilwaazlib the male partner at work calls me this now..... "Hey mama. I'm getting you used to it!"...and he's so proud of himself/thinks he's so funny for it. It makes me cringe every. single. time. 

uuuuugh I also have a male coworker that has taken to calling me "mama" and it is so creepy. Not to mention kind of professionally demeaning.

For reference my husband also happens to work at the same company and not a single person has called him "daddy" so.....

Also it seems to be everyone's favorite question at the office to ask me how much time I am taking off for maternity leave and then give some sort of an opinion about it. Note that 99% of them are men with stay-at-home wives that "use to work and only made it back 1 day before quitting to stay home with the baby". Essentially implying that I will do the same and won't cut it as a working mom. thanks for the vote of confidence a**holes

kianarain

@KLS123 HA I actually choked on my water reading your "daddy" comment - could you imagine?! Ugh it makes the double standard so much more obvious. 

greenhillgirl

Lol I said  @KLS123 hows it going Dad to a new dad at work a few weeks ago. Guess I'm just that obnoxious 

My boss just called me and asked me to waddle over to her office and I said sure but can you not use that word. Please. She laughed it off but I think she finally got it. 

MrsDho11

I took DD to Target first thing because we were out of diapers*. Our checker drove me nuts. She was telling me all about how there’s always someone in the baby section and I should get them to put the box of wipes in the cart next time because it’s too heavy for me to lift. And then I don’t have to take them out at the register, they can scan them in the cart.

I bought very few other groceries, but she separated them into two bags so they wouldn’t be too heavy AND left the gallon of milk on its own because, you guessed it, too heavy.

I know she was trying to be nice, so I didn’t say anything. But MAN does that piss me off.

*or so i thought, then when I was putting them away, we clearly already had some. #PregnancyBrain

bradleysmommy28

@KLS123 I had to laugh at the daddy comment.  It actually does happen sometimes.  DH works with all guys and they are 2 to a truck but hang out with others on their shift for lunches.  They call each other daddy when they are having babies.  And they call their crew leader grand daddy as a joke since he's their boss.

KLS123

@bradleysmommy28 @kianarain @greenhillgirl I think maybe I should start calling my husband "Daddy" at the office just to make it suuuuuper awkward for everyone else 

galactickates

Ew the "hey momma" comments creep me out. The only person I want calling me that is DS and my husband because he's talking about me too DS. Everyone else can just stop

MrsDho11

Yeah. Being catcalled while KU with "mommy" or "momma" always squicks me out.

leighbrek

@MrsDho11 Okay. The catcalling is a total ew, but I love your use of the word squicks!

not_another_knottie

So quick back story, I’m a server at a restaurant. Instead of wearing an apron I wear a fanny pack. I had this asshole of a guy ask me today “hey so what’s in the pouch?” So me thinking he talking about my fanny pack I start listing things I keep in there. I walk away and come back and he proceeds to tell me how his neighbor ended up having a baby but didn’t know she was pregnant. My response was something along the lines of “wow I couldn’t even imagine not knowing”. He follows that up laughing and telling me how he “didn’t know if I was just fat or didn’t know I was pregnant.” Which is why he left it alone about my comment. If I wasn’t on the clock I would have probably committed murder. I am a human being. Not a fucking kangaroo!! Why are people so stupid?  Ughhh

leighbrek

@ms_stevens87 What. In. The. Actual. F*ck?

not_another_knottie

@leighbrek Yes. This is a real life thing. That just happened to me a couple of hours ago. 

MrsDho11

uuuugggghhhh @ms_stevens87

tosh24

Holy shit @ms_stevens87. What a dick head.

not_another_knottie

I’m still floored by the entire interaction. Trying to move past it but I still want to strangle him. 🤬

galactickates

@Ms_Stevens87 that's seriously terrible.  Next time ask him what's in his pouch? Beer? Cue double middle fingers

not_another_knottie

galactickates said:

@Ms_Stevens87 that's seriously terrible.  Next time ask him what's in his pouch? Beer? Cue double middle fingers

If I wasnt at work when it happened. I would have loved to @galactickates

UnbreakableKimmySchmidt

Got my first rando comment today from the cashier at Costco. She saw my daughter and asked if she was going to have a little sister, I said, “oh no, it’s a boy.” She then told me she has four boys and asked me if we were going to have anymore kids after this one...I’m like “whatttttt???” I mean, totally fine sharing but I have never met this person before and that’s a very personal question! 

LeahNicole

A girl I work with asked me this weekend "if I'm sure about my due date", and made some comment about gaining more and quicker with the second one. Then she proceeds to say "well at least all your weight gain happened at the beginning"....I just can't with people. Why is it ok to say something like that, I haven't even gained half of what I gained with my daughter, I will likely gain just as much this time around, so still more to go. Gahh

skilouise

I was at an event this weekend, and started chatting with a couple I hadn't met before.  They were there with their four daughters, ages ~ 7-12.  I spoke with the wife first, and she asked if we knew whether we we having a boy or a girl.  When I said boy, she replied  (while sitting next to two of her daughters) "yeah, we tried four times for a boy."

Later her husband joined her, and his wife mentioned I was expecting a boy in January. His immediate response, said in what was supposed to be a joking tone, was "I hate you." One of his daughters (the youngest or second youngest, I think) was sitting next to him. She piped up with "Daddy really wanted a boy."

I felt so sad for their daughters, especially the younger ones.  

MrsDho11

@AshVA that’s awful. 

UnbreakableKimmySchmidt

@AshVA goodness! Way to ensure that your kids are going to need therapy...

CoastieGirl79

@AshVA that is so sad. Those poor girls. Way to devalue their existence. 

AliKay20

@AshVA that’s really messed up

sarahsaurus-2

Last weekend, I was working with a coworker who I normally dont see often, so it was her first time seeing me since learning i was pregnant. She started telling me all about how she had almost been a grandma recently, but her daughter in law ended up going into labor at 22 weeks and the baby didnt make it. I mean, I'm just trying to work and this woman is giving me ALL the details on this baby that only lived for an hour (and I was 24 weeks when shes telling me about this happening to someone at 22 weeks).
I understand that everyone wants to find some way to relate and talk to me about pregnancy/babies, but do people not realize that telling stories of miscarriages and stillborns and stuff can be kind of scary to someone who is still pregnant? 

leighbrek

I know it's been said, but I'm so unbelievably tired of the, "Oooh, just wait!"
May I please have permission to tell people to eff off?

Mandamay1414

I've gotten tons more comments this time than with DD.. Usually I don't mind that much, but it's weird when people ask me if we are "done" after this. I don't know.. let me get this one out first and see how we feel. I know some people are pretty set on how many kids they want, but we aren't really in that mindset.. which is super weird considering how type-A I am about planning everything else in my life. 

kaf1788

I don't have people asking me about how many kids yet (thank god) but pretty much everyone asks/assumes we'll immediately be selling our 2 bed condo to move out to the suburbs. Ummm how the heck would I know that until I actually live here with a baby and see how it goes. Also selling a condo/moving with a newborn sounds AWFUL.

People also like to tell me I obviously have to move somewhere with better public schools. Like do they not understand that my child is not going to be in school for like 5 years? LET ME LIVE.

molosmiles

I definitely get the 'are you done after this' question from everyone. My answer is a definitive yes, but I think it would annoying me if I wasn't sure or the answer was yes. I also got my first, 'you look due any day now ' comment. Nope, sir, baby has about 5 more lbs to grow and 11 weeks til due date. 

AliKay20

Same @molosmiles & they automatically assume we’re done bc we got 1 girl, 1 boy. Wtfffff

MrsDho11

Got my first “oh you already have a girl and this one is going to be a boy? That’s good!”

*eye roll*

rooonilwaazlib

Me: holding a medium sized pumpkin on line today at the farmers market
Lady on line near me: "Ooooh what's bigger, the pumpkin or the baby bump?" ::laughs maniacally::
Me: ...
Me: says nothing, puts the pumpkin down and walks away before I hurl it at her.

SMH some people!!!! 

sweetyjenj

@mrsdoh11 I've gotten a few of those. I always respond with "actually we were hoping for a girl so they could be sister's, but of course we're thrilled either way." Just because I want them to know that one of each isn't every person's dream. Yes, I'm happy we will have one of each, but I would have been ecstatic even if it was another girl. 

One of my good friends just had her 3rd boy after REALLY hoping it would finally be her girl. Right in front of her another of our friends said the "ooh how great, 1 of each" line to me and I felt so bad. 

sweetyjenj

With just signing a contract for new windows and getting floors replaced, we've talked to several sales people at this point. I'm SO SICK of salesmen (yes, all men) immediately zoning in on the fact that I'm pregnant. They ask about it, tell me about their kids and experiences, then later tell me I better hurry up and save money with their promotions because baby is on the way and xyz. Ummmmm..... Show me your damn windows, give me a quote, get out the door. I'm nice about it because sales works both ways and it's a psych game, but inwardly I'm dying. 

MrsDho11

@sweetyjenj I definitely had pros and cons lists of either outcome running in my mind before we found out, and I didn’t have a huge preference. 

tosh24

@MrsDho11 I'm team green but this entire pregnancy when people ask if I know the sex and I say "no", they always respond with "oh well it doesn't matter anyway because you already have one of each". Um, sure. I always feel like making them really uncomfortable and telling them after 6 years of trying and 3 dead babies I couldn't give two shits if this baby has a penis or vagina. Hasn't popped out of my mouth yet but it just might at some point.