@lindsayleigh1989 hugs. DS has been a monster lately and I’ve been super short with him, overall feeling miserable and just not the mom I want to be. Meanwhile DH has been working even more and has been zero help. I’ve definitely been wondering what the hell were getting ourselves into, and how I’ll possibly handle two home all day with no help, especially with the way DS has been acting. I hope it will all fall into place. Hugs hugs hugs
@lindsayleigh1989 I’m definitely feeling that way too. I lost my crap on DD for coloring on the wall with crayon and spent the rest of the day feeling like super sh*t. And I also have the feelings of “what did I get myself into” because baby 3 was definitely my idea and I’m worried about being in over my head. I’m sorry you’re struggling. I definitely think getting your body back will help things feel a little better- or at least make the discomfort less. Hugs mama
Thanks everyone! Feeling a little better this morning. Yeah I think it is definitely a day by day, moment by moment time as far as parenting goes right now!
@lindsayleigh1989 definitely cannot relate as much as an FTM but just for perspective I've had similar feelings even just about one, no matter how wanted, planned and excited for this babe is! Especially when daycare expenses start looming and you worry about going back to work and handling it all. I know it's not nearly the same, but I have days where the sense of despair for all these changes tries to take over. Hugs!
I've been more of a lurker this past weekend and week. There is a lot going on and I'm stressed, overwhelmed, and all around emotional. I just havent had the energy to fully participate, which sucks because you ladies have been a great support system. Im just so overwhelmed, I'd rather zone out and try not to cry. I'm trying to catch up with all that has been going on in the group...
+1 to bringing mental health thread back more often.
Sending everyone some much needed hugs and positive vibes!!!
@zombiehoohaa I can relate to that too. I’m sorry you’re feeling overwhelmed. I definitely haven’t been participating as much lately (sorry everyone) it’s hard to keep up on here when there’s so many feelings IRL.
@zombiehoohaa YES to ALL this, been mainly reading and haven't participated, but I'm basically on the same page with so many of you with the crazy toddler days, trying to take care of my mental health, and the blahs of the last month of pregnancy. I do remember doing this last time with DD so at least I can remind myself that IT DOES GET BETTER!
@zombiehoohaa hugs - I can totally relate - I tend to be ignoring adult things and living on this board because i'm in denial and procrastinating :-P hope things pick up for you soon.
I wrote lists of things I still need to have for baby and things I need to do and it's a lot, but I am hoping baby doesn't come too early and I have time to get it all done. I am not really stressing about it tho because preparing the pump parts is the only thing I actually should do before baby arrives...but even that is not 100% necessary since I can use the hospital pump while I am there and they let me keep supplies I use. Also...I am an adult fully capable of paying for my own things but I kind of want to wait until my mom gets here a few days before my due date to buy stuff for me. She loves spending money on me, and I hate spending $$, so it works haha!
I'm so sorry to everyone struggling, sending hugs and support! I am definitely on the emotionally struggling train as well. And physically. I've totally been questioning if I can really be a mom to 2 under 2. I've also been having crazy weird scary nightmares about all kinds of things (mostly related to pregnancy/childbirth), and just in general not sleeping well at all, and I think lack of sleep really adds to it. The last month of pregnancy is hard as hell but we're so close, I know we can all do it!
I wrote lists of things I still need to have for baby and things I need to do and it's a lot, but I am hoping baby doesn't come too early and I have time to get it all done. I am not really stressing about it tho because preparing the pump parts is the only thing I actually should do before baby arrives...but even that is not 100% necessary since I can use the hospital pump while I am there and they let me keep supplies I use. Also...I am an adult fully capable of paying for my own things but I kind of want to wait until my mom gets here a few days before my due date to buy stuff for me. She loves spending money on me, and I hate spending $$, so it works haha!
Yup...me too! Waiting on laundry until mom gets here...waiting on more bras and tanks until mom gets here...I know she'll buy the crib too. No shame. About to drop $$ on the ac unit this weekend then we *should* be done with expenses over $100.
I actually really enjoy being around my DH and appreciate him most of the time. He is someone who works hard, smart, and is on top of his shit. When he wants to relax and do nothing, he deserves it. I don't feel like I can talk about him like that with all the other usual DH discussions here.
Hmmm I can totally talk about my husband in both types of SO discussions haha. He is an amazing dad, does so much around the house, goes out of his way to try to help me when he knows I’m struggling, and is genuinely a really good person. He also drives me absolutely crazy sometimes with the dumb shit he says/does, has a lot of...vices...that have caused him to do some hurtful things to me (but I know he’s trying to work through them and better himself), and sometimes I resent him for not understanding/caring about our finances so i am left feeling like the burden is all on me. We don’t live a fairy tale marriage by any means but the love is definitely there
Agreed, my DH can be the WTF or the TW and the amazing SO at the same time...I guess I forgave him for last night but only because today we received 7 unexpected gifts from the registry and I got all excited!
@lindsayleigh1989 I cannot relate since I’m a FTM, but I do also feel so crappy now. I can only imagine how hard it must be for you STM and TTM. Sending so many hugs and support and uninterrupted naps your way!
Yeah I mean, I want to punch my SO in the dick a lot but he has a lot of positives, and I think a "Why my SO is awesome" thread does a good job of reminding us whey we married them at a time when we are all stressed and going through some big changes (both baby related and otherwise).
oh no - I honestly believe all our H's have positive qualities and can be superheros some/most days otherwise we wouldn't have married them. I find hormones and husbands don't usually mix though lol I feel totally differently about my husband when I'm pregnant. They will never really get all the ups and downs of what our bodies and minds are going through and I find (at least with mine) he can be insensitive to pregnancy woes because the closest he can get is a bad stomach bug.
Maybe in honor of father's day we should have one this weekend.
As much as I complain about my H and can’t stand him when I’m pregnant, he’s a great father and husband and person. I think he’s an even better, stronger person because of the issues he’s dealing/dealt with and I’m happy to support him. I think it’s easier to bitch about all the issues with our H’s than it is to focus on the positives, especially given the hormone situation.. +1 for a Father’s Day thread!
You guys are making my heart happy! It's felt kind of like the opposite of social media...you know where everyone only posts about the good stuff and it makes your own life seem crappy? Here has often felt like everyone else is completely and utterly miserable every day and it has genuinely made me sad sometimes. We could use some real positivity (not just funny stuff) dropped in here sometimes.
Congratulations again @devilcat139! So glad the twins didn't need NICU time and were such a good size! Hope ur all adjusting well to a new routine and hope to hear some more updates later!
My son wanted his hair out of his eyes, and I cut it...then his bangs were too short, so I cut the rest...now he looks ridiculous. Trying to decide if I care enough to go get it cut real short or if I'll just leave it like this for the few weeks it'll take to grow out, lol. I was watching him awake on his monitor and I'm like, holy crap, you look a bit ridiculous kiddo.
Also congrats @devilcat139! Glad no nicu time was needed and hope everything is going well as you adjust!
@devilcat139 congrats!!! Hope everyone is doing wonderful at home!
@SmashJam I screw up DS hair almost every time I cut it and wind up shaving it down because I can’t stand looking at it. But then he ends up looking like a baby skinhead which is even worse lol
So interesting story. MH has been having bad knee pain for about a year and a half and finally saw an orthopedist yesterday about it. He gets some x-rays done and then the doctor says he sees the issue and thinks it might be Osteochondritis Dissecans (OCD) which is typically seen in children through late teens so he's getting an MRI to rule out other things. The doc was like it would be super rare for it to show up now and asked if he ever had issues in this knee before to which MH says no he doesn't remember anything.
Fast forward to later in the evening and MH finds old MRI films from when he was younger. Sure enough he had an MRI done of the SAME KNEE when he was 19. Now he has to call his old doctor to find out why he got them taken.
My question is....HOW DO YOU FORGET SOMETHING LIKE THAT! I mean, I get it when you were little, but 19?? I remember having MRIs done when I was 14. SMH.
Okay...I’ve been super busy for over a week and catching up. I’ve read good chunks of the threads this week and going to jump on in and hope i can keep up.
Hugs to everyone this week that has had challenging moments with the kids, husbands, commutes, etc.
While I think the SO positivity thread is a good idea he is officially on my sh*t list today. Toddler ranand grabbed his glasses off his nightstand while I was getting out of bed and I immediately yelled at her to put them back because she knows she can't have them. So she runs away with them and pretty much breaks the one side... But he is mad at me and proceeds to tell me how this "always happens" and how I "trash the house" every day.... none of which is true and now I am just pissed and frustrated.
@flockofmoosen3 agreed! We do need more positive threads and a thread for our SOs! I thought we did have one way way back? I’ve been especially appreciative of my H after being in the hospital and so sick afterwards- he had to pick up so much slack and didn’t complain. I felt like I could actually recoup and not feel guilty. I got him an extra Fathers Day gift this year because of how lucky I feel to have him.
@devilcat139 Congratulations on your babies!!! Happy to hear you are all doing well!
Anyone else lose weight recently? I’m 37+3, and I went to my OB appointment yesterday and found out I lost 4 lbs since last week. My dr did not seem concerned about it at all, and everything else is normal. But I did read that sudden weight loss can be a sign of impending labor. And I had A LOT of Braxton Hicks yesterday. I’m also extremely restless. I cannot sit down, I have to be busy or I feel like I’ll go crazy. Now I’m just anxious 24/7 wondering if I’m going to go into labor any second.
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@lindsayleigh1989 hugs. DS has been a monster lately and I’ve been super short with him, overall feeling miserable and just not the mom I want to be. Meanwhile DH has been working even more and has been zero help. I’ve definitely been wondering what the hell were getting ourselves into, and how I’ll possibly handle two home all day with no help, especially with the way DS has been acting. I hope it will all fall into place. Hugs hugs hugs
I think everyone goes through the "oh shit what have we done" days to a certain extent, especially getting this close.
+1 to bringing mental health thread back more often.
Sending everyone some much needed hugs and positive vibes!!!
@lindsayleigh1989 I feel like that is totally normal, especially when you have a toddler. I have had those "oh s***" moments pretty often lately.
If anyone wants a popcorn moment, head to the Ramzi thread in January 2019...
I actually really enjoy being around my DH and appreciate him most of the time. He is someone who works hard, smart, and is on top of his shit. When he wants to relax and do nothing, he deserves it. I don't feel like I can talk about him like that with all the other usual DH discussions here.
Maybe in honor of father's day we should have one this weekend.
As much as I complain about my H and can’t stand him when I’m pregnant, he’s a great father and husband and person. I think he’s an even better, stronger person because of the issues he’s dealing/dealt with and I’m happy to support him. I think it’s easier to bitch about all the issues with our H’s than it is to focus on the positives, especially given the hormone situation.. +1 for a Father’s Day thread!
Also congrats @devilcat139! Glad no nicu time was needed and hope everything is going well as you adjust!
@SmashJam I screw up DS hair almost every time I cut it and wind up shaving it down because I can’t stand looking at it. But then he ends up looking like a baby skinhead which is even worse lol
Fast forward to later in the evening and MH finds old MRI films from when he was younger. Sure enough he had an MRI done of the SAME KNEE when he was 19. Now he has to call his old doctor to find out why he got them taken.
My question is....HOW DO YOU FORGET SOMETHING LIKE THAT! I mean, I get it when you were little, but 19?? I remember having MRIs done when I was 14. SMH.
Hugs to everyone this week that has had challenging moments with the kids, husbands, commutes, etc.
While I think the SO positivity thread is a good idea he is officially on my sh*t list today. Toddler ranand grabbed his glasses off his nightstand while I was getting out of bed and I immediately yelled at her to put them back because she knows she can't have them. So she runs away with them and pretty much breaks the one side... But he is mad at me and proceeds to tell me how this "always happens" and how I "trash the house" every day.... none of which is true and now I am just pissed and frustrated.
Anyone else lose weight recently? I’m 37+3, and I went to my OB appointment yesterday and found out I lost 4 lbs since last week. My dr did not seem concerned about it at all, and everything else is normal. But I did read that sudden weight loss can be a sign of impending labor. And I had A LOT of Braxton Hicks yesterday. I’m also extremely restless. I cannot sit down, I have to be busy or I feel like I’ll go crazy. Now I’m just anxious 24/7 wondering if I’m going to go into labor any second.