Yet another 5am wake up from DS for no earthly reason. Aaand now I’ll be the owner of a hatch alarm clock tomorrow. Thank you Amazon prime one day shipping.
RE: Father's Day - each year I get pictures of DD holding the letters D and A, then print 3 and put them in a frame so they end up saying DAD. She was having NONE of it this year so her pictures are interesting, but it still turned out cute. I also bought him a scope thing that attaches to his cell phone for working on cars, plumbing, etc. He was being nosy and already looked in the Amazon box, the little punk.
Father’s Day- he got a $50 jump rope for crossfit. I got him a silly shirt that says something like I do t scare easy I have two daughters. And then a silicone wedding band for when he takes his off to work out. He needs new flip flops so he will order those and some more protein powder and pre work out crap that is $$ so we will call those gifts as well
For father's day I usually get hubby a cutesy dad gift then plan a fun activity and any dinner her wants.
For his first father's day I got this picture collage and he loved it (etsy sample picture)
This year I got him this shirt because he likes this stuff and DD says he's a superhero. On Saturday we're going to a BBQ/beer festival thing and DD and I are taking him out to dinner on Friday. Pretty low key this year.
Well a bad night had to happen at some point. Woke up at 2am with a weird feeling of something bothering my left side. Couldn't tell if I was sore from sleeping on that side, or the baby positioning or if the pain was even there! Went to pee, was trying to sleep, noticed baby wasn't moving so of course freaked out and woke him up which worked.
Then DH had a nightmare, started shaking violently and woke himself up and grabbed my arm. He looked so scared! He was cute but of course he added another 30 min to my insomnia. And he started snoring...
Awake again at 6am because the window was open and it was loud outside. And looks like my computer was on so I could hear emails coming in! Back to sleep and now it's 830, DH can't get up either and I am foreseeing a work from bed day.
Well a bad night had to happen at some point. Woke up at 2am with a weird feeling of something bothering my left side. Couldn't tell if I was sore from sleeping on that side, or the baby positioning or if the pain was even there! Went to pee, was trying to sleep, noticed baby wasn't moving so of course freaked out and woke him up which worked.
Then DH had a nightmare, started shaking violently and woke himself up and grabbed my arm. He looked so scared! He was cute but of course he added another 30 min to my insomnia. And he started snoring...
Awake again at 6am because the window was open and it was loud outside. And looks like my computer was on so I could hear emails coming in! Back to sleep and now it's 830, DH can't get up either and I am foreseeing a work from bed day.
I hate rough sleeping nights!
I feel asleep on the on the couch last night have came up at midnight in which H cuddled me which is unusual since he was already asleep. Then next thing he is horny. Which is funny because he will NOT have sex while I’m pregnant. Since he was half awake I thought maybe I could get him to without even realizing it but decided that wouldn’t be very nice. Then I woke up at 2 and never went back to bed. Working nights really is messing me up when it comes to sleep on my days off
@elizabethrn87 my H will do that every once in a great while! It’s strange and super funny. He never remembers being horny in his sleep, which is even funnier to me.
Is it bad I'm not planning on doing anything for DH for father's day since he didn't do anything for me on Mothers day?
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
DH got a electric guitar for fathers day/birthday present so I won't be doing an extra gift this year. Maybe I'll encourage him to go golfing or something to celebrate.
For fathers day I called up a few of DHS friends and made plans for them to go golfing together on the 24th. He's been complaining that he hasn't been golfing in years so I thought it would be a nice gift to just make it happen, plus he gets to spend the day kid free with some of his best friends! Doesn't get much better than that in my opinion!
So my work from bed day def didn't happen because I COMPLETELY forgot the cleaning crew was coming in at 9:30am. I had the realization as I was making breakfast in my robe...amazingly, DH also called me to remind me because "it popped up as a reminder on my phone" - THIS actually made me so happy because the google calendar with enforced reminders must be working!!! anyways, I quickly gathered all my strength to pick up some stuff around the house to make the cleaning easier and I guess the good thing is that I am being pretty productive at work...dying to take a nap though!
elizabethrn87 DH got all excited when i lifted the pregnancy pillow to cuddle the other morning while he was half awake - he thought I was waking him up for sex - yea right lol he was rather disappointed
One step closer to the kitchen being done - though at this point baby's coming before kitchen completes (but that also means hubby will be home to manage contractors). I bargain shopped and found the fancy SS apron front sink and faucet for way less than GC could get it - both arriving this weekend. Contract signed for GC and deposit paid. DH just needs to get busy assembling those 150 boxes of cabinets!
H has been planning to take about 5 weeks off out of his 10 paid. But the last week or two he will work one day out of the week. He has a full year to use up the rest. Well apparently there is this new big project starting in July that he wishes he can be a part of (huge opportunity!). But it looks like instead they plan hire someone to fill in for him and lead the project. Once H is back full time there won’t be enough work for both of them, so his boss i guess said they’ll have to let someone go. Knowing the hot head my H is of course his response is that he’ll just look for a new job. Wtf?! No you can’t just say that! H said that his boss knows he didn’t mean it (but he hasn’t verbally confirmed with his boss of that being untrue). There are other ways of going about this and he’s been a good standing with his boss and company for almost 2 years. Now one more thing for me to talk him out of or have him reason that he can’t just through out threats like that! He did something similar when DS was born. Ugh i went through a similar opportunity loss when DS was born but I push through them and eventually found a better opportunity without burdening our family. This guy just doesn’t think!
@wildtot you don’t usually hear of men loosing opportunities. You would think your DH would be protected from being let go after taking leave he is allowed to take.
So I had my 34 week appointment and there was no mention about my weight. I did maintain my weight from last time though. They measured the bump to be 33 weeks, so smaller considering I will be 35 weeks on Thursday. Then the midwife commented that I carry small and that it was impressive considering my first was almost 9 lbs. so I went from gaining too much weight to carrying small. Annoying. I told myself not to get upset over the last appointment because this happened last time. Anyway, I treated myself to a meatball sub for lunch but then opted for a really healthy dinner.
@wildtot that sounds kind of illegal...how can they let him go due to time away from work that he’s entitled to take?
Ugh I seriously Can’t figure out if I’m having contractions or it’s just the baby’s movement/position. I’m getting sooo sick of this! This is the most painful it’s ever been, it’s even radiating down my legs. And crazy pressure in my rectum which is new. Midwife did say today he feels very low for only being 35 weeks. I guess I’ll take a shower or bath after my son goes to bed and see if it calms down, but my H is working late and I’m home alone with my son for at least another 2 hours so I really hope it goes away!
@wildtot that sounds kind of illegal...how can they let him go due to time away from work that he’s entitled to take?
Ugh I seriously Can’t figure out if I’m having contractions or it’s just the baby’s movement/position. I’m getting sooo sick of this! This is the most painful it’s ever been, it’s even radiating down my legs. And crazy pressure in my rectum which is new. Midwife did say today he feels very low for only being 35 weeks. I guess I’ll take a shower or bath after my son goes to bed and see if it calms down, but my H is working late and I’m home alone with my son for at least another 2 hours so I really hope it goes away!
I feel your pain. I keep rationalizing with myself if I am having contraction or baby just moving. I am 31 weeks today and it is getting more and more painful/uncomfortable. I have a trip to New Orleans planned the week of Fourth of July and am hopong I am not miserable. UGH
@wildtot how frustrating! I hope it’s all works out ans DH doesn’t matter me any quick decisions.
@zande2016 I’ve been feeling similar. Last night I was half convinced I was in labor but I don’t really know what contractions are like. I hate the question am I sick or is it a contraction or is it nothing lol
in other news my DH and I got done with a BPP appointment and baby looks good but my fluid is low, even lower than last week, and baby is measuring 2 weeks ahead. Not sure if that means I’ll have a giant baby or go into labor sooner. My DH keeps thinking somehow my tracking from the beginning has been off. Who knows, I thought I tracked it pretty good- we got pregnant after all lol. Anyway I guess I’m just getting excited and I want to know when this baby is coming! Lol (I’m sure that’s what we are all thinking!)
@zande2016 i hope things calm down over there, at least until DH gets home. Keep cooking a little longer baby! Also, meant to ask, how's DS?
@wildtot I hope he calms down about this! It does seem weird that he would lose his job while out on leave...I hope his boss isn't just being an a-hole to pressure him into not taking the time.
@catftm2018 are they concerned about fluid level or just commenting that it’s decreased? I do think it’s normal to go down as you progress but they have a cut off where they start worrying. My fluid is the other end of the spectrum, its getting close to where they’d consider it high, but not there yet so we’ll see.
@smashjam it has calmed down a bit, still not sure if it was contractions or movement/position but I got up and moved around and it seems to have settled. I’m not really expecting my body to do much of anything until at least 39 weeks, I think it’s just trying to fake me out and torture me. DS is good, thanks for asking! He lovesssss taking his medicine thankfully lol and he’s been extra tired but acting more like himself every day.
@zande2016@chaser61 yeah i was thinking there would be a legal problem and honestly his boss should know better. During a regular call with our director (Hs boss’s boss) he asked for my opinion on the whole project thing. I told him it wasn’t my place to say but that maybe he should to to him directly. This way they can clear the air of the expectations once he returns. H just got home and i think i managed to talk some sense into him and calmed him a bit. I think expectations just need to be discussed. H has done well for himself there he just needs to chill and things will work out.
@wildtot agreed that it sounds illegal not to mention pretty ruthless from your H's boss to even think about doing something like that! I hope it works out and that H takes some time to get accurate information and figure out his options.
Today I forced myself to do 3 things I procrastinated because they "scare me". 1) Daycare options in case our nanny plan fails miserably 2) New car insurance, because more money... 3) California Disability to make sure my ducks are in row.
I really want to have 14 weeks covered between my California Disability and my additional disability insurance but I am not sure how to make it work, I'll have to investigate a bit more. Basically I am covered 12 weeks with California (I am not taking any time before my due date) and I am trying to see if my additional disability can cover the last 2 weeks, although at that point it is not exactly disability anymore, more bonding time. Looks like California pays more than my additional, so it might not even be worth using my State Farm. Days like these I wish I was in a bigger company with an HR department!
@wildtot That is seriously messed up and does not sound at all legal. I hope all calms down and H doesn't make any rash decisions.
@chaser61 Oh my gosh, the size difference is infuriating! 9 lb first baby and my last appointment at 33+4 measured 31 weeks at biggest. Ugh. I hear you on the too much then too little. We plan on one more several years down the road, so maybe I'll actually get it right THEN, lol.
@zande2016 YES. "Early labor or baby position" is my new favorite pastime, lol. Also, on the fathers day topic, we don't do gifts for it (or mother's day). We just kind of do whatever it is that person wants to do. DH wants our favorite hole in the wall Mexican food so we'll grab an early lunch then head to the beach for some sun and bbq to test out the gobq from Kickstarter that finally came in ("with real meat" he dictated).
@kissableviv i was able to use Cali STD and my company STD combined to make up for the pay difference. But i honestly don’t know if you can use one after the other since your not technically medically disabled. Do you have pto to cover the last two weeks?
@wildtot from what you explained, it does sound legal for them to decide after he returns which employee to let go, I think. They aren't telling him that he doesn't get to keep his job if he goes on leave, just that the situation at the time he returns may be different and could result in someone being let go. My question is why can't YH or the new guy just get reassigned to another project if there wont be enough work--why go nuclear and fire one of them? I think your husband should talk to them about what other projects will be going on at the same time that he can hop on if not this one.
@kissableviv good job getting things done today! It always feels good to finally do something you’ve put off.
@wildtot +1 for that sounding illegal. @flockofmoosen3 I think when you go on any sort of protected leave like that the company is agreeing that the employee will return to the same or a comparable job. If they plan to potentially fire him when he comes back I would think that’s a problem.
@zande2016 I hope things get better for you and baby stays put for a bit longer!
Found this shirt for my husband! It won’t make it here in time but he’s going to love it! We love Moana and sing the songs all the time lol (yep, our first child is still in my belly but we do watch kid movies already )
@zande2016 they seem to be concerned that it’s so low for me. There main concern would be that it could be leaking and I don’t know it. When looking at LO she only found one small pocket of fluid in one quadrant. The others were just baby against me.
@flockofmoosen3 the project happens to something unusual. His position doesn’t typically deal with that stuff it’s just a pilot they are testing in his branch. Without the special project someone else already in the company can cover for Hs tasks (it’s not unusual for that to happen). But there is someone in the company who is pushing for a new hire to manage this new pilot (not even Hs boss). That person is just putting everyone in an awkward position and i think that’s what’s bugging H. But still H should if not reacted that way. I’m hoping our director will speak to him and outline what his expectations will be upon his return. It’s honestly hard to believe they would let H go because he’s had nothing but high remarks from even higher ups. I think his boss just didn’t know how to respond to all this either. These men are getting ahead of themselves causing panic! Hoping for the best.
@kissableviv i was able to use Cali STD and my company STD combined to make up for the pay difference. But i honestly don’t know if you can use one after the other since your not technically medically disabled. Do you have pto to cover the last two weeks?
Do you mean you were able to get your full salary by combining the 2, or that your Cali std paid less than your company StD, so your company std paid for the difference? In my case it seems like Cali would pay more.
I'm at the newborn class and DH is being so annoying. I swear he takes everything competitively. He was telling me I was swaddling wrong so I just handed him the doll and told him to do it himself. I just can't pay attention after I spent all my breaks at work figuring out insurance, disability, and miscellaneous admin crap he never wants to do.
@kissableviv i combined both for a full salary. Each had their max payment and the Cali STD has to process first then my company would make up the rest up to a certain amount.
eta this was two years ago so things may have changed. I also remembered that state goes by your salary rate from a while back (which is lame) but my company paid out at my current rate so that helped with the difference.
Knowing im officially two weeks away from baby day and I have to admit I am really depressed and anxious. I don't feel like I can handle a newborn and a toddler and I cry thinking about it. I have a really short leave and I won't have a lot of support outside of the first two weeks. I kind of feel like I shouldn't have gotten myself into this now. Which makes me feel worse. I am so short with toddler these days and I feel awful because I should be cherishing these last few days of her beinf an only child and giving her lots of attention but I hurt all the time, Its hard to move around and I just want to hide in bed. Ugh I feel like such a mess
@lindsayleigh1989 I'm sorry you're having a hard time, I can relate. I know it's going to be hard after LO is here but I think this stage of pregnancy (in pain all the time, hard to move and breathe, tired, etc.) makes it really hard now too. I feel like I'm just too tired and sore to do anything well. But I also think after the first few weeks of healing, being able to feel more like a normal person again will makes things feel settled. And I'm sure you'll love the new little one and will be able to find a new balance. Hugs though, it's definitely hard!
@lindsayleigh1989 I am so sorry that you feel this way, but I do think its somewhat normal! I have definitely had thoughts of, "what did we do?!" but I think for me its more life circumstance right now. I have cried thinking about how dumb we were to have a second kid because of finances, etc., and what were we thinking, but in reality our circumstances are temporary and I think I forget that in the stress of these last few weeks.
You can do it! And you will fall into a routine in those two weeks of support and do great. But it is totally normal to be scared about how you will handle it-you likely felt the same way before #1 was born, right?
@ashbub714 that shirt is amazing. We love Moana as well, and DH would LOVE that shirt. If I wasn't boycotting his ass and fathers day presents I would steal your idea!
@lindsayleigh1989 sorry to hear your having some rough days! I can totally relate too. My playful interaction with DS is limited because of just how my body is feeling these days. I’m anxious and just don’t know how I’m gonna do this. I’m worried that my c section healing will make it even harder and I’ll become more frustrated with DS but only because i wish i can spend more time with him. I know it will be hard but i hope it will be better than the first time. Hang in there your doing great! This is certainly not an easy journey but we can get through it. Also thinking we should bring back the mental health thread and maybe check in more frequently if possible.
@smashjam you could get it and save it for when you’re not boycotting him? Lol
@lindsayleigh1989 I’m sorry you’re having a rough time! Only two more weeks! You’ve got this mama. *hugs*
Woke up at 2:45 last night with intense poop pains and had that uncomfortable first day of your period feeling. Went to the bathroom and still had them a little when I laid back down so I had trouble getting back to sleep. I’m tired this morning and hoping that odd period feeling goes away.
+1 to the mental health thread idea. I could totally check in. And I know there are mommas who went back on their meds and I'm interested to see how they are doing since I recently went back on mine.
@lindsayleigh1989 I am beating myself up for being short with DS too, so I think what you are going through is normal. It is hard moving around and toddlers are always testing bounds.
@lindsayleigh1989 +1 to everything you and PP said. It's soo hard right now to be zen patient mommy with the not sleeping and discomfort. We do a lot of counting and deep breaths around here and I still lose it on her... After a bad blow up and tears between us I'll sit down with her in her room eye to eye and talk about what happened - "mommy asked you to do this for a reason" "we don't spit food" "we don't throw toys" - and then say "we'll do better tomorrow" and give her a big hug and kiss. You're a great mom and you got this, just take it one day at a time.
Re: Weekday Randoms 6/11
RE: Father's Day - each year I get pictures of DD holding the letters D and A, then print 3 and put them in a frame so they end up saying DAD. She was having NONE of it this year so her pictures are interesting, but it still turned out cute. I also bought him a scope thing that attaches to his cell phone for working on cars, plumbing, etc. He was being nosy and already looked in the Amazon box, the little punk.
Then DH had a nightmare, started shaking violently and woke himself up and grabbed my arm. He looked so scared! He was cute but of course he added another 30 min to my insomnia. And he started snoring...
Awake again at 6am because the window was open and it was loud outside. And looks like my computer was on so I could hear emails coming in! Back to sleep and now it's 830, DH can't get up either and I am foreseeing a work from bed day.
I feel asleep on the on the couch last night have came up at midnight in which H cuddled me which is unusual since he was already asleep. Then next thing he is horny. Which is funny because he will NOT have sex while I’m pregnant. Since he was half awake I thought maybe I could get him to without even realizing it but decided that wouldn’t be very nice. Then I woke up at 2 and never went back to bed. Working nights really is messing me up when it comes to sleep on my days off
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
One step closer to the kitchen being done - though at this point baby's coming before kitchen completes (but that also means hubby will be home to manage contractors). I bargain shopped and found the fancy SS apron front sink and faucet for way less than GC could get it - both arriving this weekend. Contract signed for GC and deposit paid. DH just needs to get busy assembling those 150 boxes of cabinets!
So I had my 34 week appointment and there was no mention about my weight. I did maintain my weight from last time though. They measured the bump to be 33 weeks, so smaller considering I will be 35 weeks on Thursday. Then the midwife commented that I carry small and that it was impressive considering my first was almost 9 lbs. so I went from gaining too much weight to carrying small. Annoying. I told myself not to get upset over the last appointment because this happened last time. Anyway, I treated myself to a meatball sub for lunch but then opted for a really healthy dinner.
Ugh I seriously Can’t figure out if I’m having contractions or it’s just the baby’s movement/position. I’m getting sooo sick of this! This is the most painful it’s ever been, it’s even radiating down my legs. And crazy pressure in my rectum which is new. Midwife did say today he feels very low for only being 35 weeks. I guess I’ll take a shower or bath after my son goes to bed and see if it calms down, but my H is working late and I’m home alone with my son for at least another 2 hours so I really hope it goes away!
@zande2016 I’ve been feeling similar. Last night I was half convinced I was in labor but I don’t really know what contractions are like. I hate the question am I sick or is it a contraction or is it nothing lol
in other news my DH and I got done with a BPP appointment and baby looks good but my fluid is low, even lower than last week, and baby is measuring 2 weeks ahead. Not sure if that means I’ll have a giant baby or go into labor sooner. My DH keeps thinking somehow my tracking from the beginning has been off. Who knows, I thought I tracked it pretty good- we got pregnant after all lol. Anyway I guess I’m just getting excited and I want to know when this baby is coming! Lol (I’m sure that’s what we are all thinking!)
Also, meant to ask, how's DS?
@wildtot I hope he calms down about this! It does seem weird that he would lose his job while out on leave...I hope his boss isn't just being an a-hole to pressure him into not taking the time.
@smashjam it has calmed down a bit, still not sure if it was contractions or movement/position but I got up and moved around and it seems to have settled. I’m not really expecting my body to do much of anything until at least 39 weeks, I think it’s just trying to fake me out and torture me. DS is good, thanks for asking! He lovesssss taking his medicine thankfully lol and he’s been extra tired but acting more like himself every day.
Today I forced myself to do 3 things I procrastinated because they "scare me". 1) Daycare options in case our nanny plan fails miserably 2) New car insurance, because more money... 3) California Disability to make sure my ducks are in row.
I really want to have 14 weeks covered between my California Disability and my additional disability insurance but I am not sure how to make it work, I'll have to investigate a bit more. Basically I am covered 12 weeks with California (I am not taking any time before my due date) and I am trying to see if my additional disability can cover the last 2 weeks, although at that point it is not exactly disability anymore, more bonding time. Looks like California pays more than my additional, so it might not even be worth using my State Farm. Days like these I wish I was in a bigger company with an HR department!
@chaser61 Oh my gosh, the size difference is infuriating! 9 lb first baby and my last appointment at 33+4 measured 31 weeks at biggest. Ugh. I hear you on the too much then too little. We plan on one more several years down the road, so maybe I'll actually get it right THEN, lol.
@zande2016 YES. "Early labor or baby position" is my new favorite pastime, lol. Also, on the fathers day topic, we don't do gifts for it (or mother's day). We just kind of do whatever it is that person wants to do. DH wants our favorite hole in the wall Mexican food so we'll grab an early lunch then head to the beach for some sun and bbq to test out the gobq from Kickstarter that finally came in ("with real meat" he dictated).
@wildtot +1 for that sounding illegal. @flockofmoosen3 I think when you go on any sort of protected leave like that the company is agreeing that the employee will return to the same or a comparable job. If they plan to potentially fire him when he comes back I would think that’s a problem.
@zande2016 I hope things get better for you and baby stays put for a bit longer!
Found this shirt for my husband! It won’t make it here in time but he’s going to love it! We love Moana and sing the songs all the time lol (yep, our first child is still in my belly but we do watch kid movies already )
I'm at the newborn class and DH is being so annoying. I swear he takes everything competitively. He was telling me I was swaddling wrong so I just handed him the doll and told him to do it himself. I just can't pay attention after I spent all my breaks at work figuring out insurance, disability, and miscellaneous admin crap he never wants to do.
eta this was two years ago so things may have changed. I also remembered that state goes by your salary rate from a while back (which is lame) but my company paid out at my current rate so that helped with the difference.
You can do it! And you will fall into a routine in those two weeks of support and do great. But it is totally normal to be scared about how you will handle it-you likely felt the same way before #1 was born, right?
@ashbub714 that shirt is amazing. We love Moana as well, and DH would LOVE that shirt. If I wasn't boycotting his ass and fathers day presents I would steal your idea!
Also thinking we should bring back the mental health thread and maybe check in more frequently if possible.
@lindsayleigh1989 I’m sorry you’re having a rough time! Only two more weeks! You’ve got this mama. *hugs*
Woke up at 2:45 last night with intense poop pains and had that uncomfortable first day of your period feeling. Went to the bathroom and still had them a little when I laid back down so I had trouble getting back to sleep. I’m tired this morning and hoping that odd period feeling goes away.