@nasalot188 DH is so similar, I call him out on how he drives all the time, he routinely likes to drive 13 over and it irritates the piss out of me because he's gotten so many tickets and warnings and acts like he's sti invincible?! And if I can him out he's a salty baby the rest of the night and next day as well. I'm glad your weekend got better at least but it's too bad it started rough. @Mylitta that's frustrating.. if your move isn't time sensitive I'd stop doing as much and hopefully he'll realize quickly that you're doing way more than he thought?
@mamabearcj There's no outside deadline, but we're hoping to sell it sooner so we can save more on the interim. He'd like to be out completely this week - which is great as he has wed-fri off for the 4th. I work Wednesday through Saturday, so I'm trying to cram and I'll be doing stuff after work too. Fun. With work and travel it's already a 14 hr day. Get DS down for bed, then do an hour or so? I'm hoping for 4 hrs of sleep... I'm going to try.
@Mylitta I feel you with the packing and moving stress. It's like husband's think things just get magically done by themselves! They also love to procrastinate! Hopefully you guys get it all done this week annd relax a little after
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
My H has been acting similar about house stuff. Trying to get the house decluttered and ready so I don't have things to worry about after the baby is here. I keep saying I want to get it all done sooner rather than later, because I'm not going to want to do shit here in like another 6 weeks. And we're running out of weekends. But then he just wants to sit and watch tv and drag his feet. And he's not getting rid of anything, and most of the clutter is his. So I'm just waiting for his ass to go through it all and I'm impatient.
DH has been saying he's going to put together the dresser for Gs room for weeks. He promised to the other weekend and kept saying he forgot. When I reminded him he told me he really didn't want to do it. I feel like if I dont push it, it won't happen.
I feel like my DH is just like my father, meaning, he has projects to do or important tasks and doesn’t. He’s a mechanic in the military so I understand he’s tired and wants to rest on the weekends. I work as well and still get things done (I know different work load, but still). Love him to death but I don’t want to come off as a Naggy wife about my car. It needs a new catalytic converter and on multiple occasions slows right down in traffic and will not get speed. This is frightening to me, I don’t want to cause an accident! I feel like he’s not thinking about my life and his unborn child’s because the car “runs.” The other day I was going 45mph and trying to speed up to 55mph and my car started to lag and put. RPM was going but the speedometer was slowing down. I pulled over to let traffic pass. I tell my husband every time this happens and he never seems concerned!!! It’s like he doesn’t believe me because he hasn’t experienced it. To top it off not my AC vent selector is out and only blowing during defrost. It’s HOT in this GA heat!! I’m about to get rid of him. I also feel like he’s not motivated to fix since we might get a new car in a month. Plus the other day my back was really hurting and he likes to just get on my nerves. He always has to give me a hard time (sick humor) and get me PO at him. He was refusing to, but wasn’t serious this is what I mean by sick humor. He always has to get a rise out of me. Then he said he would rub my back but I had to get the lotion and at this point I had enough and didn’t feel like getting it. I didn’t know why he couldn’t so I called it a night and went to bed at 7:30.
@alexa_94 Tell him you'll take it to an autoshop and have it repaired for whatever it costs on Monday. That means he has the weekend to at least begin working on it or not. His choice.
I agree with @sliztee. Tell him you no longer feel safe and the heat is also taking it's toll on you and the baby. That you'll be taking it to an autoshop by x date if it's not done or you'll be taking his car. if he feels he has to experience it, make him take your car from now on.
My husband went down the rabbit hole on some blog he found, and came to the conclusion that pregnant women can't use sunblock because it causes birth defects. (?!?!?!?) He then proceeded to throw out all the sunblock in the house (like $40 worth) and not tell me, and essentially leaving me and my toddler, both fair skinned, red-haired Irish people with no sunblock for the fourth of July. I just can't.
@alexa_94 switch vehicles with him, and if he still doesn't think it's a problem then he can drive that while you have his vehicle. He'll hopefully see the concern driving it himself and fix it.
@jengibre_zorro Does he think all sunscreens cause birth defects, or only certain ones? Pregnant women are advised to avoid certain sunblocks (most of the mainstream ones really) due to potentially harmful chemicals/hormone disruptors. https://www.womenfitness.net/sun-protection-pregnancy/
ETA: I'd be equally pissed if he didn't tell me and I went to grab some not realizing he threw it all out!
@jellybelly114 - he just threw out everything rather than read labels. I actually had a completely safe one for my son and i that was mineral-based, but he just pitched it ALL.
Last night I was complaining to DH that he needs to help me get the boys ready in the morning because he only gets himself ready and I do everything else. He said that he would start washing DS2 bottles. I was like great that's a start. A few minutes later I see him in the kitchen rinsing the bottles out with water and putting them on the drying rack! I didn't even have the energy to deal with his bs so I just correctly washed them myself!
I have an issue with my spouses parents! There is mould growing up the walls in there home from damp and they have done nothing at all to sort it. To make matters worst, as well as not cleaning thier house for 5 months since they have moved in (and I mean not a hoover or a mop anywhere!) They still have not organised any of their belongings which literally stack up the walls like a hoarders house. Now I understand me and my baby won't be living there but recently the mother said this- " I've bought a blanket for my house for when baby stays here" excuse me? I had told my spouse previously that there is no way my baby will be staying with them if they were to babysit especially when they obviously need to sort their house and lifestyles out. But as she made this comment, it makes me wonder if he has even said anything to them? Maybe I should? Or do I just ignore it and ensure they never ever babysit ever?
@knottie3bfee8ababdf79ef Hello, not sure if you've introduced yourself or not but check out the how to change your screen name thread so we know who you are! Also this sounds like a great addition to the crazy family thread instead of the partner complaint thread since it's more about your inlaws than it is your husband.
Took pizza to Curtis and his guys for lunch since they have a huge job planting at UCCS today. Started raining so he got into my car to hang out till it stopped. I’m horny AF all of a sudden but he said no to my suggestion of banging in the back seat like teenagers. (My back windows are 5%, fronts are 20% and the windshield is even tinted. Nobody can see in here) Whatever dude ok fine. The worst part? He even turned down a free BJ. Who does that?! Now I’m sitting here trying not to cry. Thanks a lot hormones.
@jynjer91 UGH I hate when they turn you down. It is the worst feeling. Sorry you didn't get satisfied. Hopefully you can later! DH likes to say well now you know how it feels when I turn him down! I think it is 10 x worse tho!
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
@chyvie that's so rude!! It's not like we're turning them down to be mean, if I turn down DH it's because I'm not feeling it and dont want to fake it or I just dont feel good. Not to be a bitch...
Honestly, I know my husband (or myself) wouldn’t be interested in having car sex...especially when one of us was working or on our lunch break from work. It just wouldn’t feel right.
@mamabearcj I think he means it as a teasing way to lighten the mood because I can get really upset when it happens. Deep down I know he's turning me down for the same reasons I turn him down (not in the mood, tired etc) so he just gently reminds me of that it's the same feeling. He doesn't do it in a mean way or anything.
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
@sliztee Lately when the urge hits it doesn’t just go away because I’m in my car or grocery shopping or whatever. When I need it I need it now. Not that I’d do it in the grocery store lol but yeah.
Wtf DH.. he stayed late for overtime last night which is totally fine, I went to bed when we normally do around 130 and planned to wake up at 10 to get ready for tonight. He comes home at roughly 345am comes to bed closer to 430 and wakes up for the day at 630!?! This man wont get up earlier than 11 without a fight but nope not today.. I swear the last few times we've had stuff going on that I plan its hell to get him up and ready but when it's his stuff and we can still sleep a bit he's up and roaring to go!? So now I'm awake and cant fall back asleep and on top of it I can hear him in the other room going through his new air intake that came In yesterday.. if he was so excited to open it he should've done it last night so we could still be sleeping!!! Oh I'm gonna be a grouchy momma bear guys...
Re: Partner/Spouse Complaint Zone
@Mylitta that's frustrating.. if your move isn't time sensitive I'd stop doing as much and hopefully he'll realize quickly that you're doing way more than he thought?
Thanks ladies. I needed to vent a bit
Hopefully you guys get it all done this week annd relax a little after
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
I feel like my DH is just like my father, meaning, he has projects to do or important tasks and doesn’t. He’s a mechanic in the military so I understand he’s tired and wants to rest on the weekends. I work as well and still get things done (I know different work load, but still). Love him to death but I don’t want to come off as a Naggy wife about my car. It needs a new catalytic converter and on multiple occasions slows right down in traffic and will not get speed. This is frightening to me, I don’t want to cause an accident! I feel like he’s not thinking about my life and his unborn child’s because the car “runs.” The other day I was going 45mph and trying to speed up to 55mph and my car started to lag and put. RPM was going but the speedometer was slowing down. I pulled over to let traffic pass. I tell my husband every time this happens and he never seems concerned!!! It’s like he doesn’t believe me because he hasn’t experienced it. To top it off not my AC vent selector is out and only blowing during defrost. It’s HOT in this GA heat!! I’m about to get rid of him. I also feel like he’s not motivated to fix since we might get a new car in a month.
Plus the other day my back was really hurting and he likes to just get on my nerves. He always has to give me a hard time (sick humor) and get me PO at him. He was refusing to, but wasn’t serious this is what I mean by sick humor. He always has to get a rise out of me. Then he said he would rub my back but I had to get the lotion and at this point I had enough and didn’t feel like getting it. I didn’t know why he couldn’t so I called it a night and went to bed at 7:30.
ETA: I'd be equally pissed if he didn't tell me and I went to grab some not realizing he threw it all out!
Hello, not sure if you've introduced yourself or not but check out the how to change your screen name thread so we know who you are! Also this sounds like a great addition to the crazy family thread instead of the partner complaint thread since it's more about your inlaws than it is your husband.
DH likes to say well now you know how it feels when I turn him down! I think it is 10 x worse tho!
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada