I am really fighting the urge to passive aggressively comment a link to either the snopes fact check of the information or a link to Charity Navigator which actually evaluates charities and provides their financials. Everyone has a right to choose who they donate their hard earned money to so don't go spreading lies about actual good charities because some people don't know how to make their own informed decisions.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krashke Preach, girl! I've been on an unfollow/unfriend streak of those "friends" who consistently only share incorrect and inaccurate information like that. Do a little research people!
@krashke those are some odd "instead of" options given the charities listed as "bad"... IMO... also clearly a lack of understanding of what March of Dimes does..... research and education are important too!
@doxiemoxie212@sabby2 I don't even think posting a snopes link would be passive aggressive. There is SO MUCH misinformation on places like Facebook right now, you're just doing people a service.
@LaceyBee522 I actually don't have anyone in my feed who shares things like this. I'm fairly lucky that most of my friends on facebook are either deadzones who post nothing at all or are very media savvy. DH has a few distant relatives who I unfriended because they posted weird stuff, but it was more like...... elderly aunts posting photos of themselves in lingerie, so... decided I didn't need that in my life anymore lol They probably would've also eventually posted ill-informed articles, but oh well, I'll never know now. hahaha
Maybe this is more of a FFFC but... I unfriend people who consistently post crap articles that aren't remotely true. Whether it's vaccines, politics, whatever. If you're posting fake articles from shady sources, I'll post a link refuting it from a real news source one time. After that, you're gone. *exceptions may be made for family members I like.
@krashke I regularly crush my aunt's soul with logic and peer-reviewed science when she says crackpot stuff. Doesn't change her mind, infuriates my mom (her sister), but makes me feel lovely so I count it as a win! lol
I got off my butt and made banana bread, which I have been craving for weeks. Made two loaves, so I can have more than one slice (because let's be real, DH and the kids will demolish it) and DH tried to take a loaf to work with him. When I said No, he got pissy. Told me "you don't need two loaves." Which of course made me pissy. Sometimes I bake enough to share with friends and his coworkers, but not every time. I'm not sending them food every time I bake. So now he went to work pissy and I'm feeling both pissy and upset because I hate disagreements, even minor ones. Bah.
@May14th2011 I am the same way. Even minor disagreements make me so blah. I'm sure he will be over it by the time he gets home. Enjoy your banana bread. I wouldn't share either!
@May14th2011 Leave the recipe out for him and let him know that he is more than welcome to borrow it if he would like to put his big boy pants on and make it himself
Why does every bra ever feel like torture device these days? I even got a bigger one this weekend.
I also had a discussion with MH about my boobs and how huge they have gotten, how I now have "pepperoni nipples" and how my nipples have gotten darker. He has definitely been less interested in them lately so I was asking him if he still likes them or if he liked them better before. He said he likes them but he already sees them as the babies. They are just so different that he has disassociated with them. It made me kind of sad. He has always been a boob man and he has already given up on them and probably wont get them back for at least 18 months and then I'll get pregnant again.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krashke bras are my enemy. But going braless sucks too because they’re so big now. I thought maybe it was the underwires but no.
And yea, I used to have very cute, 32C/30D boobs with very small nipples, and now I’m just like ugh, these huge things that sit on my belly and have weird huge lumpy nipples. And DH laughs at them lol. I’m mostly fine with them not being sexual, I’ve never gotten any sexual pleasure from them in the past, but it’s annoying that the weight of them hurts my back but any kind of support hurts my rib cage. Ugh!
My biggest issue is when people are posting about gun control in the states. I don't wanna get into a huge debate because I'm sure everyone is dealing with it as well, but the lack of knowledge and the lack of communication political parties.
It's not an easy conversation, but it's one that needs to be had.
oh bras- had to get new ones this weekend too....and yet they're still not comfortable. there is no winning.
If you have a Thyme Maternity, go there. I've gotten 2 in entire time and they're great. I had to get resized before buying the first, but they're so comfy.
@MissKittyDanger With DD, I actually lost cup and band size (went from 44 DDD to a 42 DD.) With DS1, while nursing, I went up to a 42F.) I currently have no bras that actually fit me and am hesitant to spend any money, as I have no idea what the girls will do post-partum.
Thank you @MissKittyDanger ... as a large breasted woman for the last 30 years (yes 30! Boob fairy was both early AND generous) I appreciate the fact that there is recognition of our plight. I never really passed the pencil test, prefer have it the 8-pack crayon test (fail that now too, post partum), no cute sundresses with spaghetti straps for me, and strapless dress sans corset is essentially a belt waiting to happen. Swimsuits, cute tank tops, not shopping at Victoria's Secret or any other mainstream CUTE lingerie store, and no boyfriend getting anything lacy and or cute. It is a challenge we have to bear...
Being a 36-38 F/G pre baby, with an expanded rib cage apres DD to a 42DDD, and then add on some for this wee one, I am one bra hate wearing mother. But, let me tell you, I will not unleash these puppies on the world without one.
Mama to a wonderful DD - Sep 2015, Wife to my DH since 2011, 2 dogs, a cat, and hoping to add No. 2 in May/June 2018. Canadian. 5 - IUIs, 3 - IVF retrievals, 2- failed transfers (fresh, and frozen), PGS on second IVF resulted in 1 perfect emby, and DD. 3rd IVF w PGS resulted in 3! perfect embys. 1st transfer - Sep 2017 2 more on ice.
@misskittydanger - I don't know that I've heard of that place. With the exception of the bras this weekend (and some new nursing tanks) I have only gotten 1 new mat shirt this time and am using everything from last time so I haven't exactly been on the look out for maternity clothes
@rnielsen321 solidarity girl. I'm typically a 38 or 40DDD and anything strapless is a joke, including a strapless bra. I would also never let the beasts out in public without a bra. Not even when I was 18 because they are too heavy to have ever been perky on their own. I have never bought anything from VS. Ive found a few cute options at Lane Bryant as far as lingerie goes but I don't put too much into it, as I don't think my SO really gives a care--just take it off is more his thought process.
Has anyone found a good, wireless, nursing bra for those of us who are larger? I hated the ones I wore last time. I like Bravado Bliss, but I want something a little more comfortable immediately postpartum. I've heard good things about the Kindred Bravely bras, but I haven't bitten the bullet yet.
@kfren@rnielsen321 I was average 34B, and when I got measured I was closer to a 36C {boobs grew quick with this one lol} and I just can't imagine this being the size constant. Friend of mine was DD in grade 7, and it's just like howwwwww
My boobies shrank after breastfeeding my son for about 1.5 years. Then again, I lost a lot of weight in general as a result of the breastfeeding, so it's hard to say what exactly was happening there. Now all my bras overfloweth again, so they're baaaack.
I also have the dark pepperoni nipples (thanks @krashke - perfect description) only the edges are kind of uneven. My partner thinks I look hilarious in my bras but luckily he is as into the boobs as ever. Bless him.
None of that was a rant. I guess my rant is how difficult is to find a decent pull-out couch around here. We spent all of Saturday shopping around for one. We must've hit 12 stores but only saw THREE pull-out couches. In a city where 70 square meters / 800 square feet is the norm, you'd think these things would be in demand??!! Nope. So we ordered an air mattress.
going to rant about bras also. I'm normally extremely picky with bras and the shape they give me. when I was pregnant with DS, I needed bigger bras and found this one kind of bra that was perfect... even nice and cheap from target! I've been wearing this brand ever since. same bigger size also. for some reason they are not working this pregnancy. I feel like I'm bouncing all over the place and the shape is awful. but I have absolutely no interest is going out hunting for new bras cause, again, extremely picky. so since I WFH, I'm just dealing. wear a tank top under some tops to hold the girls down more.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
Mine haven’t changed size this pregnancy (and didn’t with DD), just feel fuller and heavier? I didn’t let my milk come in with DD because I was just over it with the latch issues so idk whether to expect they will grow at that point this time? I have a couple of nursing sports bra type things, I’m hoping they will hold me over until I see if they end up growing or not..
I normally have mosquito bites for boobs, so I am slightly enjoying being a bit more filled out. However, underwire is terrible, so I don’t get any lift of shape. So, defeats the purpose.
I gave up Facebook for Lent and contemplating clearing out my friends list when I return because of the crap people post.
I left facebook more than 3 years ago and am taken aback every time someone mentions a post like @krashke shared. My life is better without the crazies, though I will miss all of you when you move over to FB.
For any of you disappointed with YHs' reactions to pregnancy chest, I totally get it but think it's actually a bit sweet -- they like you best just as you are were (and will be again). If it's any comfort, a friend came on my bachelorette party 3 months after giving birth and while still nursing, and she got more attention than ever before in her life. The boobs may be weird and our husbands may be unimpressed, but they'll win you free drinks at the pool!
@May14th2011 Good. for. you. I fully expect you'll share a good laugh this evening at the banana bread crisis of 2018. Hopefully while enjoying that second slice!
Maybe I'm really ranty today, lol. Finally got referrals for DS to speech pathology and audiology. Called to make appts and they are booking through May and my waiver runs out in March. So now I have to wait for the insurance to give me an actual authorization. So by the time he has his appt, I'm gonna be a million weeks pregnant or have newborn which I'm not going to want to drag 2 hours away.
And just to prove that my day isn't all bad, I got a brand new leather jacket for DS for $10, it will fit next winter. And we're having steak for dinner, which I'm excited about so, my day is not going all bad, just pieces of it lol.
@May14th2011 dang girl that sucks juggling pre auth and appts... Plus thinking of the journey with likely two children! But, glad you got the ball moving that's got to feel accomplished. Nice score of the leather jacket and steak too!
For those of you searching for a bra that you don't want to murder, I ordered the bamboobies yoga nursing bra a few weeks ago and it is wonderful! I'm not super huge chested (38C pre-pregnancy) but I honestly forget I'm wearing it sometimes.
And now prepare yourselves for a rant only worthy of having spent 4 days in the same time zone as people who share my DNA...
First I should say that the shower was wonderful and I'll post about it later when I sort through pics and start a thread, but omg my mother spent the whole time either a) telling me I need to be careful with what I eat so I don't get gestational diabetes, even though I told her I already took the glucose test and passed or b) telling me how I need to completely change my personality or I will be a bad mom. Like turn into a crazy neurotic, paranoid, shell of a person in order to ensure my child's complete safety at all times. Sorry but I'm a very laid back person and always will be.
My sister refused to give me more than single word answers to any question I asked her and spent 99.9% of the time glued to her phone to avoid conversation. I tried so many times to bond since we're both pregnant but it didn't even come close to working. She also never said goodbye. Got off the couch Saturday night without saying a word. I assumed she was going to the bathroom, but I guess went to bed, and then left at the crack of dawn before anyone woke up to drive back to North Carolina.
But the real kicker is my dad/stepmom, who first declined to see me because my mom didn't invite my stepmom to the shower, and then proceeded to send the most horrible/passive aggressive family email I've ever read in my life. It was about a family vacation this summer (it should be noted that my family goes on vacation every summer and this is the first time I have been included in the email chain in about 4-5 years). They wanted to plan a trip to North Carolina at the end of August since my sister will still be on maternity leave and won't want to travel far with a 1 month old. It was a 3 paragraph email talking about how excited they are to meet "baby girl S" and how it would be a great time to meet her for those of us who hadn't yet. Nowhere in the email did it mention that I am also having a baby, that it might be difficult for me to travel across the country with a 2.5 month old (heaven forbid they plan a trip near me while I'm on maternity leave) or that anyone should be excited to meet or see my new baby. I understand that it might be in retaliation to my shower but I just couldn't believe how blatantly obvious it was that they could give a shit that I am also pregnant with my dad's first grandchild.
Tl;dr my family makes me crazy and I'm throwing up so many middle fingers to Maryland as I get ready to board my flight back to Phoenix.
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
@Amphibious22 your mom and my mom must read the same parenting newsletter. I'm super laid back, even now with 2.5 kids lol. My mom brings it up all the time. My kids are allowed to be crazy wild at home, running, jumping, screaming etc (at least until it gets on my nerves lol) and we've gone 6 years with no ER visits from my laid back attitude. *knock on wood* lol.
@Amphibious22 fuck 'em. I'm sorry they were shitty. What size did you get in the bamboobies bra? I keep seeing it advertised on FB, but I'm on the cusp of the band being too large but the cups being too small... it looks so comfy, though!
doxiemoxie212
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DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
When I said No, he got pissy. Told me "you don't need two loaves." Which of course made me pissy.
Sometimes I bake enough to share with friends and his coworkers, but not every time. I'm not sending them food every time I bake.
So now he went to work pissy and I'm feeling both pissy and upset because I hate disagreements, even minor ones. Bah.
I also had a discussion with MH about my boobs and how huge they have gotten, how I now have "pepperoni nipples" and how my nipples have gotten darker. He has definitely been less interested in them lately so I was asking him if he still likes them or if he liked them better before. He said he likes them but he already sees them as the babies. They are just so different that he has disassociated with them. It made me kind of sad. He has always been a boob man and he has already given up on them and probably wont get them back for at least 18 months and then I'll get pregnant again.
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
And yea, I used to have very cute, 32C/30D boobs with very small nipples, and now I’m just like ugh, these huge things that sit on my belly and have weird huge lumpy nipples. And DH laughs at them lol. I’m mostly fine with them not being sexual, I’ve never gotten any sexual pleasure from them in the past, but it’s annoying that the weight of them hurts my back but any kind of support hurts my rib cage. Ugh!
It's not an easy conversation, but it's one that needs to be had.
You are the real heroes ...
Being a 36-38 F/G pre baby, with an expanded rib cage apres DD to a 42DDD, and then add on some for this wee one, I am one bra hate wearing mother. But, let me tell you, I will not unleash these puppies on the world without one.
5 - IUIs, 3 - IVF retrievals, 2- failed transfers (fresh, and frozen), PGS on second IVF resulted in 1 perfect emby, and DD.
3rd IVF w PGS resulted in 3! perfect embys. 1st transfer - Sep 2017 2 more on ice.
I also have the dark pepperoni nipples (thanks @krashke - perfect description) only the edges are kind of uneven. My partner thinks I look hilarious in my bras but luckily he is as into the boobs as ever. Bless him.
None of that was a rant. I guess my rant is how difficult is to find a decent pull-out couch around here. We spent all of Saturday shopping around for one. We must've hit 12 stores but only saw THREE pull-out couches. In a city where 70 square meters / 800 square feet is the norm, you'd think these things would be in demand??!! Nope. So we ordered an air mattress.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
MissKittyDanger - yup, 90% of my maternity wardrobe is from motherhood (including this recent round of bras).
I was around a 34 c pre pregnancy (1st preg), got up to a 34DDD, was down to 34 c post pregnancy, and just got 36 DDs this weekend.
I gave up Facebook for Lent and contemplating clearing out my friends list when I return because of the crap people post.
I left facebook more than 3 years ago and am taken aback every time someone mentions a post like @krashke shared. My life is better without the crazies, though I will miss all of you when you move over to FB.
For any of you disappointed with YHs' reactions to pregnancy chest, I totally get it but think it's actually a bit sweet -- they like you best just as you are were (and will be again). If it's any comfort, a friend came on my bachelorette party 3 months after giving birth and while still nursing, and she got more attention than ever before in her life. The boobs may be weird and our husbands may be unimpressed, but they'll win you free drinks at the pool!
@May14th2011 Good. for. you. I fully expect you'll share a good laugh this evening at the banana bread crisis of 2018. Hopefully while enjoying that second slice!
Finally got referrals for DS to speech pathology and audiology. Called to make appts and they are booking through May and my waiver runs out in March. So now I have to wait for the insurance to give me an actual authorization. So by the time he has his appt, I'm gonna be a million weeks pregnant or have newborn which I'm not going to want to drag 2 hours away.
And just to prove that my day isn't all bad, I got a brand new leather jacket for DS for $10, it will fit next winter. And we're having steak for dinner, which I'm excited about so, my day is not going all bad, just pieces of it lol.
And now prepare yourselves for a rant only worthy of having spent 4 days in the same time zone as people who share my DNA...
First I should say that the shower was wonderful and I'll post about it later when I sort through pics and start a thread, but omg my mother spent the whole time either a) telling me I need to be careful with what I eat so I don't get gestational diabetes, even though I told her I already took the glucose test and passed or b) telling me how I need to completely change my personality or I will be a bad mom. Like turn into a crazy neurotic, paranoid, shell of a person in order to ensure my child's complete safety at all times. Sorry but I'm a very laid back person and always will be.
My sister refused to give me more than single word answers to any question I asked her and spent 99.9% of the time glued to her phone to avoid conversation. I tried so many times to bond since we're both pregnant but it didn't even come close to working. She also never said goodbye. Got off the couch Saturday night without saying a word. I assumed she was going to the bathroom, but I guess went to bed, and then left at the crack of dawn before anyone woke up to drive back to North Carolina.
But the real kicker is my dad/stepmom, who first declined to see me because my mom didn't invite my stepmom to the shower, and then proceeded to send the most horrible/passive aggressive family email I've ever read in my life. It was about a family vacation this summer (it should be noted that my family goes on vacation every summer and this is the first time I have been included in the email chain in about 4-5 years). They wanted to plan a trip to North Carolina at the end of August since my sister will still be on maternity leave and won't want to travel far with a 1 month old. It was a 3 paragraph email talking about how excited they are to meet "baby girl S" and how it would be a great time to meet her for those of us who hadn't yet. Nowhere in the email did it mention that I am also having a baby, that it might be difficult for me to travel across the country with a 2.5 month old (heaven forbid they plan a trip near me while I'm on maternity leave) or that anyone should be excited to meet or see my new baby. I understand that it might be in retaliation to my shower but I just couldn't believe how blatantly obvious it was that they could give a shit that I am also pregnant with my dad's first grandchild.
Tl;dr my family makes me crazy and I'm throwing up so many middle fingers to Maryland as I get ready to board my flight back to Phoenix.
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020