@doxiemoxie212 ugh talk about a PITA! That's small potatoes($50). Hoping your H can get them not to truly need this other wise you may have some work ahead of you!
@doxiemoxie212 Underwriters are tough these days. If you go into the bank they should be able to print transaction histories for you that only show certain transactions for a specific amount. Since it's not an official statement the bank can sign and stamp it and it's usually good enough for the underwriters. If the history doesn't show your name and account number, have the banker type up a letter to accompany it stating what the history shows. I did this all the time for customers. I learned that most underwriters don't care how the information is displayed as long as they can cross one of their meticulous requests off their list.
@doxiemoxie212 Could you just send the bank statements as-are and not tell YH I kid, of course. MH is equally squirmy about that sort of thing and would never forgive me. Whereas I have a pretty good idea what they do with these sorts of KYC requests (i.e., nothing) and can't get too worked up about providing.
Hope the redaction's kinda fun/soothing once you get going!
F you daylight savings time. Or maybe it was my weird schedule last week for work. Not sure. Being a second shifter, I go to sleep around 130am everyday. I CAN NOT sleep past 730am these days. So annoying.
I just got off the phone with insurance to see if I would have any OOP costs for a SpectraS2 Plus. I figured why not try a new pump if it's not gonna cost me anything. I had read somewhere that Anthem was going to set a cap on pump coverage, so I just wanted to double-check. 20 minutes later, I have given my info to four different people, been disconnected just as they asked for a call-back number, got transferred to the wrong department, and cried out of frustration after starting a disclaimer intro to the last rep I talked to, who probably thinks I'm a nut. All this to have the last rep tell me that given her experience, after I place the order, the company will tell me if I have to pay extra. I AM CALLING YOU TO AVOID HAVING TO WAIT TO FIND OUT.
I have no desire to people anymore today (except with y'all. You're okay.)
@kfren I also have Anthem and I sent them a message asking what breast pumps were covered. They basically sent me a letter back saying that I would need to contact one of the two medical device companies in-network (Edge Park and Byram Healthcare). I have looked on those two sites and the Spectra is available but I don't know if all of it is covered. I am going to get my prescription at my next appointment; the Anthem letter said I needed a prescription. Then I will call both of the medical device suppliers and see what they say as far as how much the Spectra costs.
I just think its funny because retail price, Spectra is less than Medela. I think they just don't want people doing something different than the norm.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krashke I just ordered from Byram, where I got my other two pumps from. Both times, they were shipped fairly quickly and I never actually got a prescription myself; I gave them my OB's info and they took care of it. I'll let you know when they email me if it's extra.
I thought I would be done ranting but nope, so mad at my dog right now. He didn't poop on the morning walk and then starting whining at the door around 2:30. I usually walk them in the afternoon between 4-5 to avoid the heat, but since he seemed desperate I decided to walk them early. Well it's almost 90 degrees today and after an hour outside that jerk still didn't poop! And now I'm dripping sweat and so uncomfortably hot. Can't wait for the construction next door to be done so I'll have a fenced in yard!
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
Guys, when does pregnancy become this "beautiful experience" people talk about? I'm just exhausted and fat. I know my body is doing something incredible, but this is RIDICULOUS!
I hit this physical wall this morning walking from my hospital to my office. I was huffing and puffing and when I get upstairs my face was all red. WTF? It is a 20 block walk - something that should be easy. On top of that, it is now 2:15 in the afternoon and I feel like I'm going to fall asleep. Not a pretty picture, y'all.
@LaceyBee522 I keep wondering the same. Last Sunday I went out without washing my face, etc. "Oh you're glowing!" "You look great" Uhm thanks but I need a shower, so natural oils y'all .... this was all family saying this so I quipped back with "Cool. I need a shower, I have baby dragon in my stomach and my back hurts. "
As I keep telling people, my expectations were at an 8 when they should have been at a 4
It's a beautiful experience after the baby is born and you're not experiencing it anymore, lol. I really missed being pregnant when DD was like a year, now that I'm pregnant again I'm like what exactly did I miss about this?!
It's a beautiful experience after the baby is born and you're not experiencing it anymore, lol. I really missed being pregnant when DD was like a year, now that I'm pregnant again I'm like what exactly did I miss about this?!
People keep saying I'll miss it .... but tbh I don't think I will lol I have a strong feeling of "one and done"
edit MIL keeps telling me not to wish it away any time I say I want this over ... I just respond with "I haven't really enjoyed this, so I'd like it over so I can hold her and make it worth it"
I haven't exactly hated pregnancy so far but I definitely haven't enjoyed it. I just don't feel like myself. I am also getting to the point where I'm getting sick of it after 6 months but I think other people are just now getting exited. Like family and co-workers all know about it now, strangers can tell, and everyone wants to ask me how I'm feeling and if I'm excited and at this point I'm just over it. I want to have the shower so I can start getting everything set and ready to go.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krashke if I could drink, I’d probably be 100% fine with pregnancy. The spd thing is annoying but I don’t think I have it that bad yet. And as she keeps growing I think my ribs are going to become super painful, but first and second trimesters were a breeze. I’m worried this means I’ll have a terrible recovery from birth and she’ll be a terror as a baby
I was super over it during first tri, but even with the aches and pains I'm kinda enjoying it. I think it's a body positive thing for me. Kinda thinking about shooting for 2 under 2.. we'll see how I feel once I actually have a baby though.
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
@Amphibious22 I was two months shy of having 2u2 with DS1, but when DS2 comes, I'll have a newborn, a 22 month-old, and an almost 4 year-old. I think the age gaps have been just enough to make me forget why I hated pregnancy so much. Oddly enough, I think this one has been the easiest.
Work rant: I live in a English-French city. I'm not bilingual.
It's apparently shocking and appalling when people call the office and I'm not French. This guy's logic just wasn't there. He felt the company name was French. Him: Isn't CompanyName French? You don't speak French? *appalled and shocked voice* Me: There are people here who speak French. I don't unfortunately. I also don't share a last name with the company. Him: *silence - likely realizing his flawed logic*
Also he kinda talked down to me, so that was fun. Him: I live in SmallTown, do you know where SmallTown is? Me; Yes near X-Place. Him: Yes, yes.
Like fuck off dude .... 0 fucks given further along in pregnancy I get
@lrichhx05 yup, agreed. I've missed being pregnant over the years. Anytime I saw someone with a belly, I'd get all the 'awwwws'. I must have been blocking out the hip pains, the huffing and puffing, the digestive issues. Event he kicks and jabs are more uncomfortable than I remember. but trying to suck that part up cause it is my favorite.
@may14th2011 well said. I'm beyond happy I'm getting the chance to do this all again, but its made my decision easy.. we're done after this one.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
+1 to the "when is this going to be beautiful". I am 27 weeks tomorrow, and I am still throwing up, and when I throw up I piss my pants. My back hurts, I'm tired, I feel fat and I'm getting fatter....lol.
I knew it wasn't going to be glamorous, and I'm so happy I finally got pregnant after all this time, and we have a healthy baby coming. But 2 things- 1) how do people do this multiple times, and 2) next person that says "oh I LOVVVEDDD being pregnant, I have never felt so good/beautiful/energized/etc might get punched.
@bearmoons I've literally never met someone who has been pregnant who enjoyed being pregnant (most flat out hated it), so I thought it would be the absolute worst thing ever. Do you actually know people who loved it? Crazy! lol
+1 to the "when is this going to be beautiful". I am 27 weeks tomorrow, and I am still throwing up, and when I throw up I piss my pants. My back hurts, I'm tired, I feel fat and I'm getting fatter....lol.
I knew it wasn't going to be glamorous, and I'm so happy I finally got pregnant after all this time, and we have a healthy baby coming. But 2 things- 1) how do people do this multiple times, and 2) next person that says "oh I LOVVVEDDD being pregnant, I have never felt so good/beautiful/energized/etc might get punched.
Unfortunately my mum is that person. She's learned that I am not having an easy time, and has empathy for me but at the same time she explains she's unsure how I feel considering she was fine.
We also had a discussion about it. Rough pregnancy could mean easier labour. She had great pregnancy and labour was horrible, and I'm an only child due to that.
I had an easy pregnancy last time. I loved being pregnant. Wasn't sick, tying my own shoes, I was having a good time all the way up to the pre-e. @doxiemoxie212 DS was an easy baby too, so never fear.
So here I am again and I was so sick first tri and now I'm so sore and uncomfortable going into the third tri. This pregnancy has been so different. Everyone around me keeps commenting about how fast this pregnancy is going - ha! Nope. Seems like a snail's pace to me.* I'm so excited to meet this boy and I'll likely go for another again if I can but still, I am really really looking forward to June and having him outside.
*I think some of the snail's pace is because I have everything and don't need to do much to prepare. Last time every thing was exciting and new and we had so much to do. Now? If he was full term tomorrow I could be ready lickety split.
@catlady1215 agreed about the kicks. That's what I loved most about being pregnant but I don't remember them being so uncomfortable! Also definitely done after this one, I don't want to do this a third time.
@Austenista 100% agreed. I think it's more fun when you're deliberating on cribs, doing up a nursery etc. Now I'm just in a hurry for baby to be here so I can snuggle him. Everything else is done. (I guess I should pick up nb diapers... lol )
It happened... this past weekend. TWO people in DH's family decided they should greet me by touching the still relatively non existent bump I have. The whole idea that people think that they can touch another person without even asking just boggles my mind and infuriates me. Has this happened to any of you yet? How do you handle it?
I just wrote a page long rant about DH.... twice. But we have such a unique living/working situation that it’s not very relatable to most other people in the working world. So I’m going to spare you all from the details and just say that my rant today is DH’s self employment (which he excels at) and his lack of reality/responsibility when it comes to the rest of his life (which is very much not excellent). So much rant. The end.
@doxiemoxie212 oh yes. One of my attendings has 3 kids and her worst symptom was a little reflux. And each labor was about 2-3 hours long. Several people at work claim they felt fantastic and can't imagine not feeling great while pregnant. These types seem to be the most vocal. But most everyone I encounter says the general "just wait, it gets worse" deal.
@MissKittyDanger I'd be fine with an easy labor! Haha. I figure, as long as the babe is doing well, I can shove ahead...but I don't know if I'll be doing this again!
@bearmooms I think some doctors are just super freaks who are able to ignore pain and physical needs and can sleep instantly on command because I don’t understand how else they make it through residency (two of my friends are doctors and fit this description but have yet to have kids so tbd if my theory holds with them lol)
@doxiemoxie212. I loved being pregnant with DD. My first pregnancy was a breeze, the worst symptom I had was some heartburn that could be handled with Tums.
These second and third ones have been relatively easy too, I just have hip and sciatic pain to deal with. However, I definitely ready for this one to be over.
I'm late to the game this evening bc I work with selfish, immature, aholes sometimes.
Anywhoooo,
@bearmoons , I really feel for you. I can only imagine still being sick at this point. That is the most miserable symptom, IMO.
That being said, I have almost forgotten how miserable that first trimester is. I remember thinking "why in God's name would anyone do this more than once?!" Pregnancy /birthing amnesia must be a real thing, bc it's happening already. Today I can say, I love being pregnant. I don't love the SPD and sciatic pain I've had for 12 weeks, or the miserable time sleeping, or the headaches, but I DO get sad thinking about not being pregnant anymore. I'm sure by week 35 I will change my tune.
I think part of my thing is that my body likes to fail me sometimes. I have had awful panic attacks, weird stomach issues, chronic heart issues, hormonal imbalances, etc etc. But here it is, somehow doing THIS right on its own. And I really love it for that and am incredibly thankful I didn't have the struggles many have had. I've always loved pregnant bellies and now I get to have one. So I guess that's my UO Thursday. TBD if my mind will change. Someone remind me of this when I'm screaming at 38 weeks to get this kid out!
@doxiemoxie212 I had an easy pregnancy with DS - some nausea, but not bad. Recovery was hellish. And he was a tough baby (refused to sleep or eat). This pregnancy is so much worse. By your theory, I should have an easy postpartum experience, I hope!
@austenista yes. you said it perfectly. I also agree that this one is going at a snail's pace. But I keep getting annoyed with myself to rush to the newborn stage because I hated the first three months last time. I keep trying to remind myself to try to enjoy the moment.
Re: Rants Rants Rants Rants Rants Rants! (3/12)
Hope the redaction's kinda fun/soothing once you get going!
20 minutes later, I have given my info to four different people, been disconnected just as they asked for a call-back number, got transferred to the wrong department, and cried out of frustration after starting a disclaimer intro to the last rep I talked to, who probably thinks I'm a nut.
All this to have the last rep tell me that given her experience, after I place the order, the company will tell me if I have to pay extra. I AM CALLING YOU TO AVOID HAVING TO WAIT TO FIND OUT.
I have no desire to people anymore today (except with y'all. You're okay.)
I just think its funny because retail price, Spectra is less than Medela. I think they just don't want people doing something different than the norm.
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
I'll let you know when they email me if it's extra.
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
I hit this physical wall this morning walking from my hospital to my office. I was huffing and puffing and when I get upstairs my face was all red. WTF? It is a 20 block walk - something that should be easy. On top of that, it is now 2:15 in the afternoon and I feel like I'm going to fall asleep. Not a pretty picture, y'all.
"Oh you're glowing!" "You look great"
Uhm thanks but I need a shower, so natural oils y'all .... this was all family saying this so I quipped back with
"Cool. I need a shower, I have baby dragon in my stomach and my back hurts.
As I keep telling people, my expectations were at an 8 when they should have been at a 4
edit
MIL keeps telling me not to wish it away any time I say I want this over ... I just respond with "I haven't really enjoyed this, so I'd like it over so I can hold her and make it worth it"
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
It's so hard, but it's like positive reinforcement.
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
I live in a English-French city. I'm not bilingual.
It's apparently shocking and appalling when people call the office and I'm not French. This guy's logic just wasn't there. He felt the company name was French.
Him: Isn't CompanyName French? You don't speak French? *appalled and shocked voice*
Me: There are people here who speak French. I don't unfortunately. I also don't share a last name with the company.
Him: *silence - likely realizing his flawed logic*
Also he kinda talked down to me, so that was fun.
Him: I live in SmallTown, do you know where SmallTown is?
Me; Yes near X-Place.
Him: Yes, yes.
Like fuck off dude .... 0 fucks given further along in pregnancy I get
@may14th2011 well said. I'm beyond happy I'm getting the chance to do this all again, but its made my decision easy.. we're done after this one.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
I knew it wasn't going to be glamorous, and I'm so happy I finally got pregnant after all this time, and we have a healthy baby coming. But 2 things- 1) how do people do this multiple times, and 2) next person that says "oh I LOVVVEDDD being pregnant, I have never felt so good/beautiful/energized/etc might get punched.
We also had a discussion about it. Rough pregnancy could mean easier labour. She had great pregnancy and labour was horrible, and I'm an only child due to that.
Or it can sit there and taunt me cause I'm too lazy to dye it. Whatever.
So here I am again and I was so sick first tri and now I'm so sore and uncomfortable going into the third tri. This pregnancy has been so different. Everyone around me keeps commenting about how fast this pregnancy is going - ha! Nope. Seems like a snail's pace to me.* I'm so excited to meet this boy and I'll likely go for another again if I can but still, I am really really looking forward to June and having him outside.
*I think some of the snail's pace is because I have everything and don't need to do much to prepare. Last time every thing was exciting and new and we had so much to do. Now? If he was full term tomorrow I could be ready lickety split.
@MissKittyDanger I'd be fine with an easy labor! Haha. I figure, as long as the babe is doing well, I can shove ahead...but I don't know if I'll be doing this again!
These second and third ones have been relatively easy too, I just have hip and sciatic pain to deal with. However, I definitely ready for this one to be over.
Anywhoooo,
@bearmoons , I really feel for you. I can only imagine still being sick at this point. That is the most miserable symptom, IMO.
That being said, I have almost forgotten how miserable that first trimester is. I remember thinking "why in God's name would anyone do this more than once?!" Pregnancy /birthing amnesia must be a real thing, bc it's happening already. Today I can say, I love being pregnant. I don't love the SPD and sciatic pain I've had for 12 weeks, or the miserable time sleeping, or the headaches, but I DO get sad thinking about not being pregnant anymore. I'm sure by week 35 I will change my tune.
I think part of my thing is that my body likes to fail me sometimes. I have had awful panic attacks, weird stomach issues, chronic heart issues, hormonal imbalances, etc etc. But here it is, somehow doing THIS right on its own. And I really love it for that and am incredibly thankful I didn't have the struggles many have had. I've always loved pregnant bellies and now I get to have one. So I guess that's my UO Thursday. TBD if my mind will change. Someone remind me of this when I'm screaming at 38 weeks to get this kid out!