I made this for DS to wear. My parents are coming to town tonight so that’s how they will find out! We will do the same thing with the in laws after my first appt and we will take a picture of DS wearing this sitting by the dogs for our actual announcement
I was making a photo book for my mom and grandma of pictures of my boys with the last picture being of them with a sign that said they were going to be big brothers. *TW My original plan was to give it to them for Christmas, but I ended up miscarrying in early December.*. I still like the idea, but I’m not sure if I want to wait for Mother’s Day to tell them (I’ll be 16.5 weeks then) and they’d know something is up if I have them a gift before then.
I still need to figure something out for my father in law too. Last time we told him on Father’s Day with a few grandpa gifts.
@jaylii is that the hardcover or the paperback? The paperback is a lot cheaper on amazon than the hardcover but i was wondering if the paperback would prop open as well.
Me: 33 DH: 31 Location: Castle Rock, CO DD: 10.13.18 baby #2 due: 7.14.20
I was going to announce on Easter/April Fools. I guess thats a bad idea though. Even if I am actually pregnant and not just kidding. I wanted to because obviously no one would take it seriously, then the day after post my ultrasound and say I wasn't joking! I guess the internet is too sensitive for something like that though. I'm at a loss now lol. I don't know how or when I want to do it anymore. Guess I'll figure it out in due time though. When I post on social media I want to be kinda vague about it. Maybe when I find the gender out I'll just post "It's a ____!" And leave it at that. Then people can ask me questions if they wanna know more.
I'm really sensitive to posting on April 1st. Originally that was my thought too. It's actually DH and my 6 month wedding anniversary, so I thought it was kind of fitting. However, I worry some will think it's a joke and that some of my friends who have struggled with infertility will be upset/offended. I've told many of those friends already, but I'm sure there are some I don't know about.
We will know sex by 3/28, and plan on revealing to our parents the 30th or 31st. I will probably post the reveal on FB that same weekend.
I'm also in the boat of people thinking about announcing on April fool's day but more because it's my birthday and this is the best birthday present ever. Everyone close to me knows i have a hard and fast rule about no overlapping April fools pranks with birthday stuff so i think it'd be fine. But i also might just keep waiting.
We thought about doing it on April fools too since it’s not actually a joke. It would go over well with my family and friends but I don’t want to unknowingly hurt someone. DH thinks it’s a great idea tho.
We’re annoucing to DH’s family on April Fools. They’ll think it’s funny. It’ll be fine. We don’t do a social media announcement, but if we did, I wouldn’t do that on April Fools.
I plan on having a little disclaimer on the post either at the beginning or end saying this is in no way a joke and very serious. I hope my friends and family would know us better than that to post something incredibly sensitive and such a big deal as a joke. I understand others hesitation and completely agree with them but posting on Easter is something DH and I have been looking forward to since we found out I'd be far enough along to "be out of the woods" and I can't keep this a secret much longer!
If I had a friend announced their pregnancy on April Fools, I would think they were unbelievably cruel. What if you have a friend who (and this stuff is usually unknown to people) who just had their first failed IUI? Or a failed IVF? That shit rips your soul apart...I would know, I have had both. Its painful as shit for people dealing with losses or infertility and for people to put it on a day of joking is cruel to people you may not even know are going through that stuff. There are 364 other days of the year you can announce...waiting an extra day will not kill anyone. Just my two cents....
Honestly- if you are the kind of person who does April Fool’s pranks, then your friends and family would have every reason to assume it is a prank.
On the otherhand, if you are the kind of person who marks holidays such as Easter, then your friends and family should know that this is a serious announcement.
Yes, some people might question your timing, but this is the first of many choices you are going to make as a parent, and you should make the choice that is right for you and your family- not based on some hypothetical other person’s issues.
FYI - there is a thread here with suggestions on how to let a friend who is struggling with infertility know that you are pregnant:
@knottieamusements thanks for sharing this. I have an annual camping trip coming up and almost all of the women who are going struggle with infertility issues. It's the first time I've seen them in person and my 2nd time around bump is already a bit obvious so I've been wondering how to handle it
Honestly I've never been one to be big into pranks or April fools for that matter. It's more of a symbolic gesture as my parents told my grandparents they were pregnant with me on April fools and it just so happens to be Easter, DHs favorite holiday. Most of our family and friends know this. If I had any friends or family that I knew were struggling I would 100% speak to them first and let them work through how they feel in their own ways and be sympathetic towards that. I've been very lucky to not personally know many women and families actively trying and struggling to conceive and/or losing pregnancies.
@mamabearcj You probably do, you just don’t know they’re struggling with it. Most of the people I know don’t have a clue that I had multiple m/cs.
That being said, I think April Fools Day is kind of dumb. And even with all the struggles I’ve gone through over the last 2 years, I wouldn’t care if somebody announced that day.... I wouldn’t even care if it was a joke. I don’t expect people to cater to the possibility that I might be struggling and be sensitive to it when they don’t even know about the struggles. Everybody struggles with something at some point and not everybody will be able to cater to them. That’s life. Just realize this is probably a UO and people on your friends list may not be happy about the announcement on that day.
Our parents and siblings know, but we will be telling the rest of the family on Easter. I think we'll slip it in as part of grace at dinner and see how long it takes my grandparents to catch on.
We won't be telling the rest of the world other than close friends or family for at least a few weeks after that.
We told my family this past weekend because they were in town visiting us from the east coast and I wanted to tell them in person. We got a shirt for DS that said “Can you dig it? I’m going to be a big brother” and we put him in it and just had him walk out of his room to them.
DH’s parents are flying out in a couple weeks because we’re all going on vacation together with his sister’s family, so our plan is to tell them all on the day that we’re leaving. We’ll have DS dressed in the same shirt and see who notices it first.
@indias95 a girl I never from college announced her pregnancy on FB by saying something new would be arriving around Halloween. That’s pretty vague lol
I want to do an Easter announcement, but will probably post it on April 2nd. Unfortunately, my sister loves April Fools day and has (without my consent) made me the topic of April fools day pranks in the past.
Most notably, when I was 17 she told my parents that my bf proposed to me at school (they flipped). The same year she forged a letter from the MVA saying my drivers license was revoked (I flipped). In college she conspired with my friends to take all my clothes out of my closet expect a banana suit. There was like 10 people in on this. And my first year teaching she created a fake wedding announcement that stated me and my BF had eloped (with a picture).
I take back what I said- I wasn't thinking that deep and I do apologize about the "sensitivity" thing. I'm still thinking of posting on the first but making it Easter themed? I saw a cute little poem Easter related on pintrest and it would be so perfect to use! And putting my ultrasound pic inside an open Easter egg. Its such a great day to announce as the holiday is literally about new life! Such a shame I had to get pregnant the year it happens to be on April Fools lol. Again I'm sorry for the insensitive comment ladies I did not mean to offend. Edit: Talking social media announcement. The important ones already know. But I can't contain my excitement and feel like telling the world
Is anyone planning on announcing earlier than 12/14 weeks? Our immediate family already knows, and close coworkers as there's too many drinking events but, I don't know, once the doc told us risk was % I felt like 'sure, people can know!' For context- Easter is very much celebrated in our home, and Apr 2nd is my grandmother's birthday (she passed last year and my mother was VERY close to her), so I would love to share the news in a week that means so much to us and especially to my mom. That said, we'll only be 11 weeks then, which does seem early and I'm afraid we'll have to walk backward if something goes wrong. Torn between something that would be special for our family vs risk/jumping the gun (no pun intended with UO thread.)
I’m 11w2d, and the only reason I’m not shouting from the rooftops is that I am waiting for the results of the genetics testing. I’ve started telling some of my extended circle of friends, but just the ones I trust to not talk more broadly.
@chopchop25 I announced, broadly, at 9 weeks. Our situation was a bit different: since we had been very open about our IVF it seemed weird to go radio silent for 3 months. But part of that is also who I am- I am an open book and not good at hiding my emotions or what I am going through, I like to talk all that out. I figure if I did/do happen to miscarry (very low likelihood at this point), then I would be happy for the support of other people. I know so many people who have had a m/c and they said it was so isolating, and that wouldn't work for me. So regardless of the outcome, for me, having people know is only a good thing- either to celebrate or rally around me if that happened.
@chopchop25 We’ve announced to almost every we will announce to already. DH wants to wait till April Fools for his family. Whatever. But I’ve told my immediate family and friends between 7-8 weeks. I’ll wait to tell work until at least 12 weeks, maybe even later. I work from home though so it’s not like it’s hard to hide. We don’t do any kind public Facebook announcement until baby is born.
I do realize there’s a higher chance I could have to explain to people if something goes wrong. But I’d rather be able to talk about it then have to pretend like nothing happened. It’s something that affects so many people but rarely gets talked about.
@chopchop25 - I think it probably depends on what your biggest concerns are. Mine is totally around the risk that I might have a child with Downs Syndrome. I know it is small, but its a thing.
I actually had one of my close friends chastise me for telling too many people too soon. It is a personal decision; I told him to butt out. I’ve mostly been telling the people who are aware of my journey, because I want to make sure that a) I have the support I hope for and b) my important people find out from me, not through the grapevine.
I actually had one of my close friends chastise me for telling too many people too soon.
WHAT?! Uncool. This bugs me so much because I think it's a large contributor to @tinattt23's and @kiwi2628's point that it could be such an isolating time. We should encourage women when they put themselves out there (this is NOT an all/nothing statement - keeping it private is absolutely understandable, but why shun someone who wants to put it out there to not feel alone?)
Thanks for all of your feedback guys, you rock! @kiwi2628 your comment about being an open book really resonates, because I would not want to be sad alone if something happens. Weirdly I feel like I had to justify that in this 'keep it quiet until first tri mindset.' I'm also an open book, and not sure why I wasn't ready to just own that that is who I am.
<runs back to planning my Easter-themed announcement to launch on Grandma's bday!>
@chopchop25 - Agreed. We actually ended up having a long discussion about boundaries and being supportive and shit. I kind of wish that my friend had actually expressed his concerns when I initially told him I was planning this rather than turning into a dick for the first month after I told him. I didn’t realize how much baggage he was dragging into the situation, and would have handled things with him a lot differently if I had known.
I'll be just shy of 11 weeks when we announce I think. I really just want to see my baby before I tell everyone. I've however told many friends. I'm also not being super private on commenting on friends statuses and such on FB.
I had wanted to announce right after my next US on the 27th. I had planned to share pictures of the various rooms in our new house because we are moving this week and throw in a picture on baby's room with a sign saying 'welcome baby' and the due date. I'm having second thoughts though. I worry it'll feel like a trick, burying it in a bunch of other things like that. So now I have no ideas! Maybe I'll wait until I know the gender which should be a week or so later.
@drurose That's cute! Put the pictures into like a slideshow video and make the babies room the last picture so everyone really sees it and acknowledges it's real and not just snuck in there.
You might want to make a note to watch till the end. I had friends make a video of her and her hubby and it said "make sure to watch till the end!". At the end, they announced baby #2.
@drurose that's such a cute idea! We did something similar when telling my dad and stepmom. They hadn't been over since we bought our new house and actually finished decorating so when we gave them the tour we told them we'd be turning our guest room into the baby room. It took them a minute but they were so excited. I agree with @sammierose464 to put a disclaimer to watch til the end! Someone is bound to notice and when they do it'll set off a chain reaction
We just announced on social media today although our close family and friends have known for a few weeks. DH and I love sushi and I found this onesie on amazon and I just couldn't resist. Glad my nausea has mostly subsided though so I could snap the pic!
We are doing our announcement this Friday! So excited! One is for my dogs Instagram account and the other one for our social media accounts. What do you ladies think?
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
Re: Announcement ideas?
I still need to figure something out for my father in law too. Last time we told him on Father’s Day with a few grandpa gifts.
Me: 33 DH: 31
Location: Castle Rock, CO
DD: 10.13.18
baby #2 due: 7.14.20
We will know sex by 3/28, and plan on revealing to our parents the 30th or 31st. I will probably post the reveal on FB that same weekend.
DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
After much more of the same...
On the otherhand, if you are the kind of person who marks holidays such as Easter, then your friends and family should know that this is a serious announcement.
Yes, some people might question your timing, but this is the first of many choices you are going to make as a parent, and you should make the choice that is right for you and your family- not based on some hypothetical other person’s issues.
FYI - there is a thread here with suggestions on how to let a friend who is struggling with infertility know that you are pregnant:
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12724412/sharing-pregnancy-with-someone-struggling-to-get-pregnant#latest
That being said, I think April Fools Day is kind of dumb. And even with all the struggles I’ve gone through over the last 2 years, I wouldn’t care if somebody announced that day.... I wouldn’t even care if it was a joke. I don’t expect people to cater to the possibility that I might be struggling and be sensitive to it when they don’t even know about the struggles. Everybody struggles with something at some point and not everybody will be able to cater to them. That’s life. Just realize this is probably a UO and people on your friends list may not be happy about the announcement on that day.
We won't be telling the rest of the world other than close friends or family for at least a few weeks after that.
DH’s parents are flying out in a couple weeks because we’re all going on vacation together with his sister’s family, so our plan is to tell them all on the day that we’re leaving. We’ll have DS dressed in the same shirt and see who notices it first.
I want to do an Easter announcement, but will probably post it on April 2nd. Unfortunately, my sister loves April Fools day and has (without my consent) made me the topic of April fools day pranks in the past.
Most notably, when I was 17 she told
my parents that my bf proposed to me at school (they flipped). The same year she forged a letter from the MVA saying my drivers license was revoked (I flipped). In college she conspired with my friends to take all my clothes out of my closet expect a banana suit. There was like 10 people in on this. And my first year teaching she created a fake wedding announcement that stated me and my BF had eloped (with a picture).
Edit: Talking social media announcement. The important ones already know. But I can't contain my excitement and feel like telling the world
originally we were going to do that weekend. Now I'm thinking we will announce next Wed or Thurs after we have our U/S.
For context-
Easter is very much celebrated in our home, and Apr 2nd is my grandmother's birthday (she passed last year and my mother was VERY close to her), so I would love to share the news in a week that means so much to us and especially to my mom. That said, we'll only be 11 weeks then, which does seem early and I'm afraid we'll have to walk backward if something goes wrong. Torn between something that would be special for our family vs risk/jumping the gun (no pun intended with UO thread.)
Would love some thoughts and advice!
(edit-I'd be 11 weeks then, not 10)
I do realize there’s a higher chance I could have to explain to people if something goes wrong. But I’d rather be able to talk about it then have to pretend like nothing happened. It’s something that affects so many people but rarely gets talked about.
I actually had one of my close friends chastise me for telling too many people too soon. It is a personal decision; I told him to butt out. I’ve mostly been telling the people who are aware of my journey, because I want to make sure that a) I have the support I hope for and b) my important people find out from me, not through the grapevine.
Thanks for all of your feedback guys, you rock! @kiwi2628 your comment about being an open book really resonates, because I would not want to be sad alone if something happens. Weirdly I feel like I had to justify that in this 'keep it quiet until first tri mindset.' I'm also an open book, and not sure why I wasn't ready to just own that that is who I am.
<runs back to planning my Easter-themed announcement to launch on Grandma's bday!>
We just announced on social media today although our close family and friends have known for a few weeks. DH and I love sushi and I found this onesie on amazon and I just couldn't resist. Glad my nausea has mostly subsided though so I could snap the pic!
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada