Weekly Randoms (week of 2/12)

doxiemoxie212

@krashke I bought new bras too!

May14th2011

@doxiemoxie212 We moved several years just for a job of mine. DH didn't want to move, but I kind of insisted. He was miserable and that made me miserable and we ended up moving back less than a year later. It was a terrible idea and if I could redo it, I wouldn't have done it at all. 
It is a hard choice, and I hope you guys are able to find a decision that works for both of you.

aharv77

@stephcat421 No creepers! Just changing to be a little more discrete

Austenista

@sunshineandwhiskey I aspire to be as simultaneously comfortable and cute as you appear in your HDBD photo. 

MissKittyDanger

Random thing .... I seem to be showing same as many STM's and I'm a FTM
Did I give birth and miss it, or am I imagining things lol!

dinodna3

@mytinc We’ve never actually celebrated Valentine’s Day our entire relationship. We both worked in restaurants when we got together and we absolutely could not have the day off.

@doxiemoxie212 I know you’ve already got a ton of responses but just my two cents. I moved across the state when I was 36 weeks pregnant with DD. We were staying with my parents when I had her, so we brought her home to their house. It made an already challenging time of learning to care for a newborn harder because DH was unhappy we were living with my parents. We all have a great relationship and don’t even fight or bicker but it’s just a hard dynamic living in someone else’s home. He holds in his emotions and just gets frustrated and short with me, so I felt like I had to take care of two people during that time. It’s also really hard to get into a good groove when you are living out of suitcases and all the baby stuff is placed where it fits not necessarily where it is useful and convenient. Then when we finally got into our own place, I had to set everything up with a newborn. In your case, travel back across country with a newborn and get into a new routine in your home. 

In addition to just giving birth in California, you will have to go to all those early doctors visits there then transfer back to a new pedi in NYC. Given you don’t have any weight or nursing issues, they still have to go a few times to the pedi in those first month or two. As a FTM, I know I had no idea what to expect health/growth wise and having a good relationship with our pediatrician was very beneficial to my own sanity. 

I’m sorry you are put in this position but if YH is willing to go to therapy in California, he should be willing to go in NYC. It should not be a bargaining chip he can use. I hope you guys are able to come to a decision that works for both of you. 

LaceyBee522

@krashke You're saying that's not sexy???!?

katelynrae86

@amys614 Hugs! Its so hard when anniversaries like that fall on holidays. Sounds like your hubby understands and is very supportive. Hugs to you today!

@doxiemoxie212 When you originally mentioned going to CA, it sounded like a good idea to me just because of the hospital situation and for having your mom's support (didn't realize she would be in NYC if you stay there). But after reading the pros and cons, it seems like there's a just a bunch of stress associated with moving. I know I'm not adding much that others haven't already said, but I am sorry you two are going through this and hope you agree on your decision.

Agree with @Austenista , I had the same thought that @sunshineandwhiskey looked so cozy cute in the pink sweater and boots!

We are boring Valentine's people over here too. I'm making DH linguine with shrimp scampi for dinner and counting that as his gift, because I'm not a shrimp fan and he loves it. Don't worry, I bought garlic bread to fill me up

Now you guys are making me nervous with my first+middle user name (that I think I made up years ago on The Knot)...but I'm just keeping it. Nobody be a stalker, kthanksbye...haha

doxiemoxie212

@dinodna3 yes! the pediatrician thing will be such a nightmare! Obv I can find good pediatricians in either place, but transferring the records... oof.

@katelynrae86 yeah, the hospital is literally the only legit pro on the list for California. Every other supposed pro is just DH being like, "IDK I think it will be better," which isn't a tangible factor. Dumb.

I mean, maybe DH will get an offer from a different, better law firm in CA, and they'll pay our moving expenses, and then we'll end up moving before the end of April anyway -- but at least that would be for real, and it would be for a good reason without all the downsides. Chaotic, sure, but worth it at least. 

sunshineandwhiskey

@Austenista @katelynrae86 awe shucks ladies. The dress is a sweatshirt dress from Okd Navy! And any time I can match and get away with wearing my boots to work I will! 

sabby2

You guys, I love the Olympics!! We've watched some every day since they started

May14th2011

We told the kids tonight that we're having a boy and my 5yo DD was not amused.   we've always talked about how it could be one or the other and we don't get to choose, but apparently she really wanted a girl. It was exactly like one of those reveals gone wrong you see on facebook lmao.  She's still excited though, just unhappy that we can't use her name for the baby. 
 Our 2yo DS just roared and ran off, lol. He doesn't care about the invisible baby.

Austenista

So, uh, holy hormones. Last night my husband was teasing me about my mouth breathing because after dinner my insides just feel so crowded and uncomfortable with baby plus food and he’s making me laugh hysterically. My feelings were not hurt in the slightest. Suddenly I’m not laughing but crying and even as I’m sobbing uncontrollably, I have no idea why. I cried for a good five to ten minutes while my poor husband tried to figure out what was wrong (nothing was) and then I sat up and blowed my nose, got a sip of water and was ready for bed. No residual sadness because, you know, I wasn’t really upset. Then I just went to sleep.

doxiemoxie212

We decided officially that we're staying in NYC until the fall unless an amazing job opportunity appears for DH before mid-April. I think he is accepting of this. Neither of us are particularly excited about it, but the time will fly by, and DH is allowed to take up to 4 weeks of paid paternity leave off so I think that will also help him get some distance from his job this summer. 

aharv77

@sabby2 I have been hooked on the Olympics too! And also an uncontrollable hot crying mess every time someone wins gold! Sean White, Chloe Kim, even when the US luge guy got silver...tears! I'm just so happy for them!

Amphibious22

@doxiemoxie212 I'm glad you guys came to a decision! Even if it's not perfect, just deciding is probably such a relief. At least that's how I feel about our move. Really not excited about it, but so relieved to not have my life be up in the air. 

MissKittyDanger

Weird question, I've been searching through posts to see if I can find an answer but maybe I'm missing it.

Will there be a thread eventually where STMs can suggest what FTMs should have on their registry? We've started working on ours {shower gonna be early April, but I wanna feel on top of things lol} and right now it feels really small. {we have stroller, carseat, crib and 2 things where baby can be clicked in and either kick feet or be rocked/vibrated to sleep {preggo brain not letting me think of what it's called}

Anyways .... if there isn't a plan for this thread, can there be? I feel it might be super helpful for FTMs so we don't go 'registry happy' and ensure we get real needs

doxiemoxie212

@MissKittyDanger I think that's sort of the purpose of the Product Spotlight threads. Each category is sort of a must-have in certain situations, and then for others it might not be, so that's why S+TMs typically provide some insight into how they feel about the category overall and any lifestyle factors that might impact their decision. Full schedule and list here: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1gjNtxy2Kd2JceTYYR5wkwVcpTbU-khgazhjcZnfI1y4/edit#gid=0

krash_

So I thought I was to the point of people knowing I'm pregnant and not just getting fat but I was in the break room chatting with a coworker about how we get to wear jeans everyday now but I've run out of jeans by Friday because I only have two pairs of maternity jeans so I might have to wear dress pants. She had no idea I was pregnant. 

elsie42

I always heard pregnant ladies talk about getting kicked in the downstairs and I never really understood it. Now I do

catlady1215

@doxiemoxie212 glad you guys were able to make a decision. those 4 weeks are going to be amazing for him I think also!

marcus7676

@doxiemoxie212 I'm glad you reached a decision and can now plan accordingly.  

jsl82

@doxiemoxie212 the summer will absolutely fly by once LO makes her appearance- and he may hate his job but 4 weeks paternity leave is amazing- so hopefully that helps.

@MissKittyDanger you can also check out Lucie's List... it helped me a lot when I was making my registry with DD just having everything in one spot so you don't feel like you are forgetting anything 

MissKittyDanger

@doxiemoxie212 Yeh I figured that part, but I mean things that are more a list of items instead of talking about one specific {then FTMs or other S+TMs can go to the proper part to figure out what brand, etc is best for them}
If that makes sense?

@jsl82 Never heard of Lucie's List, is it on TB or somewhere else?

doxiemoxie212

@MissKittyDanger yeah, I guess I just can't imagine how that would be different than what we have going on already? It's basically a list of categories like what we have on the spreadsheet, and then each person is going to prefer specific items within that. And some people are going to ignore certain categories because they don't need them for their personal life? We have a "check my work" section coming up toward the end where I imagined FTMs would list what they're thinking of buying/already have and S+TMs could provide feedback on the gaps/overlaps. Is that sort of what you're imagining? 

krash_

@MissKittyDanger Lucie's List is a website that reviews and evaluates kid/baby/parenting products. They will walk you through the categories of items you should consider. Here is their "crib sheet" a google doc with all of the categories and top items in those categories. 

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1IugsUXAnYqBtntPL2L-3xfc7IdKE_O3SAk0rK8UgmNE/edit#gid=374724590

You are just going to have to think about your family, lifestyle and how you would use or not use products to see what is really necessary for you or not. 

MissKittyDanger

doxiemoxie212 said:

@MissKittyDanger yeah, I guess I just can't imagine how that would be different than what we have going on already? It's basically a list of categories like what we have on the spreadsheet, and then each person is going to prefer specific items within that. And some people are going to ignore certain categories because they don't need them for their personal life? We have a "check my work" section coming up toward the end where I imagined FTMs would list what they're thinking of buying/already have and S+TMs could provide feedback on the gaps/overlaps. Is that sort of what you're imagining? 

Yeh that could work probably best. Just so I understand the numbers on when to anticipate it, does that go by week?

doxiemoxie212

@MissKittyDanger I'm not sure what you mean...? We do them every Monday, and they're in order, if that makes sense. 

sabby2

@elise42 that is all my baby does!!

LaceyBee522

@doxiemoxie212 I'm glad you have a decision made.

@MissKittyDanger I second Lucie's List whole-heartedly. It has been a life saver for me, especially in the twins department.

AFM...I'm so effin' busy at work. But now I've hit that point where I'm so busy, I'm overwhelmed. So, instead of getting anything done, I'm over here reading and chattin' with y'all. Totally cool, man.

doxiemoxie212

@LaceyBee522 I have a ton of freelance work I need to get done today, and I feel a little overwhelmed by it (it's not particularly challenging, just time consuming), so... same! 

doxiemoxie212

So, I noticed that nearly every brand post that shows up in my FB newsfeed is because this one particular girl has liked the page -- not the post, the page. And they're varied and random, and a lot. I finally decided to see if I could find out from her facebook about section if it would tell me how many brand/company pages she's liked -- again, not individual posts or photos, but just the entire brand/company page. And I did indeed find that answer. 

If you had to guess how many you think she has liked, what would you say? What is your guess? 

LaceyBee522

@doxiemoxie212 20??

doxiemoxie212

@LaceyBee522 gonna need to up that significantly. I'll give you two more guesses.

krash_

@LaceyBee522 @doxiemoxie212 I am also overwhelmingly busy. I had a meeting this morning with my boss and coworker about a price change to a bunch of customers and I have a lot of stuff to do based on that and at the end of the meeting my boss says "so there's not much we can do right now" and I'm like "seems like a lot to me" and she said "well most of the customers are yours sooo" 

So instead of doing that I will play, Doxie; 57?

doxiemoxie212

@krashke much higher

MissKittyDanger

@doxiemoxie212 Ohh okay ... I think i get it
Btw yay on making decision about moving. Must feel like a weight off you

krash_

@doxiemoxie212 168?

ETA: are we doing price is right rules? closest without going over?

doxiemoxie212

OKAY YOU ALL GIVE UP 

doxiemoxie212

9,650.

NINE THOUSAND SIX HUNDRED AND FIFTY.