I'm so jealous of all you who had early ultrasounds and go to a practice that routinely does dating ultrasounds.(Happy for you though!) My OB practice does not do US until 20 weeks unless there is a concern (which, I'm happy I haven't had any issues to be concerned about). I won't even have an appointment to listen for the heartbeat until 12 weeks. They did a whole panel of bloodwork last week but in the results I dont even see an hcg level or any test that would imdicate pregnancy. I'm sure everything is fine, but would like some reassurance! That is all! Thanks for letting me rant.
@jjess1201 My OB doesn't see you until 10 weeks (nurse visit at 8 to get family med history). I don't know what to expect because with DS I had a SCH and had a US at 7wks. I think there is a US at 12/14wks but my BFF didn't get hers until 20 (same practice).
For us, it's a pregnancy confirmation appointment around 5 weeks which is just pee in a cup for an in-office urine pregnancy test plus vitals. Then a family history appointment around 10 weeks and an OB physical around 12. The only standard u/s for my practice is the anatomy scan around 20 weeks but you can opt-in to a first tri NT scan, which I will, which is around 11-12 weeks.
I had a viability check at 7 weeks with DS because of a previous loss. I debated asking for one again this time, but it didn't feel as necessary with a successful pregnancy between my loss and this one. It is weird to have to idea what's going on in there though.
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@jjess1201 Can you request an US? My birthing center only does one US at 20 weeks but said we can ask for them any time. Which I will be doing at my 10w appointment because this PGAL brain cannot wait 11 more weeks to check in on the bean.
@DanyTargaryen I am in the exact same situation! I had an early US with my son due to a previous loss and did consider asking for one again but thought they would probably say no since I had a successful pregnancy last time....and I am trying to be more patient and let whatever happens, happen. But it's hard! Haha
@SkilledSailor No, I haven't asked...I was trying to be more patient and laid back about this pregnancy...but it's hard sometimes! But you're right, they might do one if I ask, but I hate asking for things. I only have a little over 2 weeks until my next appointment so I'll survive.:)
@stothi. YOU SHOULD TRY IVF!!! :bawling: <img alt="" src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/2r/ds5nj7gqc9yb.gif">
ETA @jjess1201 Not for nothing, but I would trade all the early ultrasounds in the world for just the chance at a spontaneous pregnancy. You're healthy! Consider yourself lucky!
How random was it for a girl from April 2018 board find her way to our board... posting a lot. It was a huge amount of information.. but did she not think any here were S+TM.. maybe this should have been posted on the BF board I bet she goes around to every board just copying and pasting the same thing trying to get a rise out of people.
The last two days have me anxious as can be! I think I am 5w+6d but have my first appointment next Monday 2/5 and it can’t come soon enough to ease my mind. Yesterday my symptoms pretty much stopped aside from sore nipples. I don’t have any bleeding or spotting, but I am still afraid something is going wrong. Don’t want to cal the dr though and be the worry wart pregnant lady. It took us a little over a year to conceive and it feels like every time I get excited about anything in my life I lose it or it goes away. Don’t want that to happen here.
@klj0228 *hugs* I’m sorry you’re feeling so worried. My anxiety was through the roof before my first appointment. FX everything turns out fine. I know you the waiting is hard though.
@klj0228 hi there.. I was just going to let you know that there's a thread called "odds of not having a miscarriage" on here that really helped me when I didn't have any symptoms.. I went about two and a half weeks in January without any symptoms and it had me nervous too.
I made our registry public today... I first started it on Babylist a little over a year ago when we first started trying. I've been adding and deleting stuff on it since. Family had been asking what they could start getting for the baby and if we didn't tell them, then they'd just start buying whatever. I'm in the later weeks of the first trimester so I felt comfortable with making it public.
@smsaulino I'm working on finishing our Babylist too. Our parents keep asking what they can get so I want to be able to share it with them. I made a quick Target registry that my mom has been using but Babylist is just so much better!
Thank you @SkilledSailor and @smsaulino I am sure it will get better and that everything is fine, but these hormones sure do not make pregnancy any easier on the nerves. It’s nice having a group of people to go to going through the same thing.
@DanyTargaryen I switched to a new OB practice this pregnancy. They seem to follow a specific protocol, unless you are considered high risk. The welcome letter basically said the first ultrasound is the anatomy scan around 18-20 weeks.
I hope they allow me to opt-in on the NT scan, as you mentioned!
At my previous OB doctor, they highly recommended the NT scan at 11-12 weeks. However, I had too many unnecessary (imo) ultrasound throughout. That seemed to create more anxiety because that was my first pregnancy.
Interesting how different each practice handles prenatal appointments and ultrasounds. I think everyone would feel better if the standards were the same and we all knew what to expect when.
Last pregnancy my OB gave me a binder of useful info like when appointments will be and things to expect. She's pretty A+ so I'm happy to have her again
Edited to add: she's also a family practitioner so I see her for everything else and she's DDs doctor. I'm really like always seeing the same person, it really helped after DD was born and I could ask her questions at all the follow up appointments
@klj0228 It seems like there are a lot of consistency between the different practices, and I’m sure there are various pros and cons of the few things that vary...like having an in-office confirmation of the pregnancy, and when to do an early viability/dating ultrasound. I remember my last pregnancy at the end everyone on the BMB was posting how dilated they were, and my doc never checked! I asked her and she said “I can check if you want, but the information won’t change anything for you”. Maybe for the other moms it would change their care plan, or the doc was doing it unnecessarily. Who knows!
Does anyone know if zicam (the nasal swabs) are safe in first trimester? Im googling but can’t find a concise answer online. I’ll confirm with doc before I take anything but wondering if you all know the answer? DH may be coming down with a cold (lord help me, he’s a man-baby when he’s sick) and he always gets me sick too - trying to nip it in the bud and stay well.
I feel like a poop mom. All my symptoms are the worst in the evening before bedtime and obviously my toddler's behavior is at its worst at the same time. When my husband is traveling for work there's never anyone here to help me then. Maybe earlier in the day depending on the day, but not at bedtime. Tonight dinner did not sit well so I am feeling worse than usual and my toddler was seriously out of control and I screamed at him so much. I feel bad He's not doing anything so bad that a parent functioning at normal levels couldn't handle it. Like he's not even "bad," he's just all amped up in that over tired crazy way that toddlers can get. But I'm in physical pain and trying not to barf and I'm so tired I want to cry. Ugh. Solo parenting is freaking hard and I feel like poop.
@chillmama1518 Yes!!! At first I thought maybe I was spending way more time on my phone that I realized, but I definitely think it's the app. @stothi I'm right there with you. Thank you pregnancy hormones!!! I hate when I realize that I just flipped out on my kids for no reason. Worst feeling ever! But the fact that you feel bad about tells me you are in no way a poop mom! Hang in there. You got this! ETA: I hope you husband get home soon to give you a break. How much longer?
International Cesarean Awareness .... Network maybe?
Either way it's a group to support women who are having, had, or are trying to avoid a cesarean. I joined my local group on Facebook and went to in person meetings for a while after my son was born. Kinda wish I'd gone before, they had resources to suggest for breech delivering providers, etc, and they keep track of VBAC-friendly (not merely tolerant) providers. The group is how I have found suggestions for home birth midwives to interview.
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@lotsofsunshine a few more months? It's hard to say. He's been gone for about a month so far this time, and it was a couple of months before that. This is the only big project he's traveling for though, so once he gets home it'll be back to normal with just occasional 2-4 week trips, maybe a few overnights. We knew he had this ridiculous amount of travel coming up so we'd very much planned on not trying for a second until after this trip(s) was completed. Obviously that didn't work out, lol. If everything goes as scheduled he should be home to stay sometime around when I'm 17-20 weeks, give or take a couple of weeks.
We lost my grandfather last night, I found out first thing this morning, after night 2 of DS teething and pregnancy insomnia keeping me up for over an hour whenever he woke me up. So 2 nights I think I've had 5 or less hours. Nap time yesterday involved a toddler sleeping on my chest so the other toddler didn't wake him, and this morning said teething toddler managed to get out, open, and feed himself dog food for breakfast. I'm leaving for work in an hour, to probably not make much (Thursday day shift at the bar has sucked lately, I'm averaging like $8.50/hour).
I want to sleep, and grieve, and not to smile for drunks, jerks, or annoying homeless guys today.
To add a positive ending though, I'm picking up Spock (new puppy) this evening. My grandfather was a huge Star Trek fan.
Thanks for providing me with a space to vent!
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@pourmeamocktail I'm so sorry for your loss. I really hope you have an easy shift that goes by fast. Enjoy your puppy cuddles tonight! Love the name, btw.
@pourmeamocktail *hugs* girl. You are having a seriously rough time. I love that you're naming your dog Spock and how it will always remind you of your grandfather. I hope you're able to get through the work day and that the evening is quiet enough for you to have the space to grieve tonight.
@pourmeamocktail I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds like this will be a tough day, but you will get through it! I hope it moves fast. I love that your new puppy’s name is Spock, and that is such a special and timely tribute to your Grandfather
I'm so sorry for your loss @pourmeamocktail and that you can't take the day to yourself. I hope puppy cuddles help out later - they always seem to provide a bright spot when things are hard.
_______________________________________________________________________________________________ MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks DS born 9/13/16 BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
I'm sorry for your loss @pourmeamocktail and for the crappy upcoming shift, but am glad you have a bright spot with Spock! I hope the crappy part of the day goes quickly!
@pourmeamocktail I'm so sorry for your family's loss. I hope today goes by quickly so you can enjoy puppy snuggles and hopefully get more sleep tonight.
I'm so sorry for your loss @pourmeamocktail. Puppy snuggles hopefully help. I think that's a fantastic name for pup and your grandfather is probably smiling from ear to ear with your decison. What a great way to cherish his memory
Re: Weekly Randoms w/o 1/29
I had a viability check at 7 weeks with DS because of a previous loss. I debated asking for one again this time, but it didn't feel as necessary with a successful pregnancy between my loss and this one. It is weird to have to idea what's going on in there though.
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
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ETA @jjess1201 Not for nothing, but I would trade all the early ultrasounds in the world for just the chance at a spontaneous pregnancy. You're healthy! Consider yourself lucky!
BFP#1: 11/15/2010 * Missed M/C 12/28 * D&C 12/29/2010
BFP#5 12/26/2017 *SURPRISE* Due 09/02/2018
I hope they allow me to opt-in on the NT scan, as you mentioned!
At my previous OB doctor, they highly recommended the NT scan at 11-12 weeks. However, I had too many unnecessary (imo) ultrasound throughout. That seemed to create more anxiety because that was my first pregnancy.
I am rethinking switching practices now!
Edited to add: she's also a family practitioner so I see her for everything else and she's DDs doctor. I'm really like always seeing the same person, it really helped after DD was born and I could ask her questions at all the follow up appointments
@stothi I'm right there with you. Thank you pregnancy hormones!!! I hate when I realize that I just flipped out on my kids for no reason. Worst feeling ever! But the fact that you feel bad about tells me you are in no way a poop mom! Hang in there. You got this!
ETA: I hope you husband get home soon to give you a break. How much longer?
Either way it's a group to support women who are having, had, or are trying to avoid a cesarean. I joined my local group on Facebook and went to in person meetings for a while after my son was born. Kinda wish I'd gone before, they had resources to suggest for breech delivering providers, etc, and they keep track of VBAC-friendly (not merely tolerant) providers. The group is how I have found suggestions for home birth midwives to interview.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
TW: family loss
We lost my grandfather last night, I found out first thing this morning, after night 2 of DS teething and pregnancy insomnia keeping me up for over an hour whenever he woke me up. So 2 nights I think I've had 5 or less hours. Nap time yesterday involved a toddler sleeping on my chest so the other toddler didn't wake him, and this morning said teething toddler managed to get out, open, and feed himself dog food for breakfast. I'm leaving for work in an hour, to probably not make much (Thursday day shift at the bar has sucked lately, I'm averaging like $8.50/hour).
I want to sleep, and grieve, and not to smile for drunks, jerks, or annoying homeless guys today.
To add a positive ending though, I'm picking up Spock (new puppy) this evening. My grandfather was a huge Star Trek fan.
Thanks for providing me with a space to vent!
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!