I was supposed to have an apt yesterday but bc of the ice my Drs office closed. When the receptionist called to reschedule she told me my dr didn't have an opening until Feb 8th. I told the receptionist I didn't feel comfortable waiting that long and not having a 12ish week apt. Bc waiting that long would make me 15ish weeks. After her basically saying that was my only option and I replied I understood they had lots of appts to make up but I needed another option. She then told me I could see a different dr in the practice...which of course I said that I would bc I really don't feel comfortable not having an end of first trimester apt. Question: is this a red flag?? Or a receptionist issue? Is this a sign my dr may have too many patients?
@neeraja_k mine never changed really until I began to BF!
My DS was also sunny side up during labor, he was born with a cephalohematoma from banging up against my pubic bone. It was a tennis ball sized lump on his head, not dangerous, looked a lot worse than it actually was, but took several weeks to go down! Also had all back labour, that was interesting!
DS was he same for me with sunny side up and being up against my public bone. I ended with a c/s because he was so wedged and I’d gone 30hrs from the time my water broke. He had the same lump on the left side of his head, but his was only super noticeable the first week or so.
Is anyone who is finding out the sex of the baby through the blood test planning on waiting to open results or asking for results to be written down to read at a different/more special time? Finding out randomly seems anticlimactic. I don’t know if this is even an option.
I won’t know if I’m doing the blood work until I talk to my OB next week and see if it’s covered since I’ll be 35 at delivery. If we do, I will ask they are written down and given to us so we can find out ourselves instead of being told. We did the same at our a/s with DS. We had the u/s tech write it down and put it in an envelope. DH and I then went to dinner at a fancy restaurant downtown right after the appointment and I had him open it and tell me. I figured he’d be telling me in the delivery room, so I still wanted to semi have that special moment!
@danna_lyn That would concern me. My practice is huge and has tons of doctors, which of course presents other issues, but they always get me in relatively quickly. I’d definitely have a problem with a doctor not seeing me until 15 weeks. If possible, you could send a message to your doctor about it to see if it’s just a problem with the receptionist. If that’s the issue, I’m sure the doctor would want to know the receptionist is pushing people out too far.
Two things; my boobs never really changed with DS. In fact, I think they got smaller! I didn’t breastfeed.
Secondly i I was so mad 1st pregnancy because I’m pretty small and DS was massive and stretch marks literally didn’t show up until the last 2 weeks and it was like BAM. I’m still slathering with stuff even if it won’t make a difference this time hahha
@multifariousmermaid I had nitrous oxide for my manual placenta retrieval. All I remember about that part is putting the mask on, then I woke up an hour later. I would definitely want it as an option.
Now it should be noted that when they give you nitrous during labor, it’s not 50/50 like they normally give people during typical medical procedures. It’s 70/30 (oxygen/nitrous)
I agree that finding out the sex just on the phone or on an email seems kinda anticlimactic, I was just saying that somewhere else here too. Especially bc we were team green for all 3 before! But I and desperate to know so I don’t think I can really wait any longer than it takes my midwife to call me with the results lol!!
eta: since we won’t reslly get a big moment I’m going to do a cute reveal for my kids. Nothing fancy just colored filling in a cake but hi the are kids so it’ll be the best day ever - - - CAKE!!!
We we won’t have that amazing delivery room moment but I will get to have a fun reveal for the kids
I was supposed to have an apt yesterday but bc of the ice my Drs office closed. When the receptionist called to reschedule she told me my dr didn't have an opening until Feb 8th. I told the receptionist I didn't feel comfortable waiting that long and not having a 12ish week apt. Bc waiting that long would make me 15ish weeks. After her basically saying that was my only option and I replied I understood they had lots of appts to make up but I needed another option. She then told me I could see a different dr in the practice...which of course I said that I would bc I really don't feel comfortable not having an end of first trimester apt. Question: is this a red flag?? Or a receptionist issue? Is this a sign my dr may have too many patients?
I don't know, sounds like more of a receptionist issue. I had a similar thing happen in my first pregnancy so the Dr told me that if it happened again, to email her and she'd be sure to get me in.
I got my home Doppler today and DH was able to hear the heartbeat. Pretty cool!
I'm also curious about this. I'm so tempted to get one.
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I asked DH if he thought we should get a doppler and he said no because he knew that I would be likely to panic if I struggled to find it....and I have to admit he is right!
@danna_lyn so personally this would worry me. I had some minor issues with my first pregnancy (spotting, pulled a muscle in my stomach) and my OB was able to see me right away, which helped with my stress and in the case of my pulled muscle I was able to get a brace to help with the pain, which was horrible because the weight of my stomach kept aggravating the pulled muscle.
I would just make sure if you follow up with them that they put time aside for emergencies. For me at least I would be annoyed if I had to go to the hospital for something like that.
I asked DH if he thought we should get a doppler and he said no because he knew that I would be likely to panic if I struggled to find it....and I have to admit he is right!
This is also me. DH talked me out of it during my pregnancy with DS, but I feel like my anxiety as a whole is slightly better this time around. However, I'm sure the first time I struggled to find the HB I would go into full panic mode!
I was supposed to have an apt yesterday but bc of the ice my Drs office closed. When the receptionist called to reschedule she told me my dr didn't have an opening until Feb 8th. I told the receptionist I didn't feel comfortable waiting that long and not having a 12ish week apt. Bc waiting that long would make me 15ish weeks. After her basically saying that was my only option and I replied I understood they had lots of appts to make up but I needed another option. She then told me I could see a different dr in the practice...which of course I said that I would bc I really don't feel comfortable not having an end of first trimester apt. Question: is this a red flag?? Or a receptionist issue? Is this a sign my dr may have too many patients?
I don't know, sounds like more of a receptionist issue. I had a similar thing happen in my first pregnancy so the Dr told me that if it happened again, to email her and she'd be sure to get me in.
@danna_lyn How long have you been with your OB and how attached are you? The front desk people at my OB's office can be real snappy. But my OB is amazing and I love her. I have gone around them directly to her when I need to in the past.
After a missed MC my first pregnancy I rented a Doppler for a month with both my other pregnancies, just to get me through the end of first tri/beginning of second tri. This time I don't have one and it really is hard mentally. I saw baby girl this week at 11w6d so that really set my mind at ease thankfully. For me it was very reassuring and I only let myself use it about once a week.
My question for the girl mamas out there: Talk to me about hair accessories! I know baby girls rip them out but I really want some anyway - even cute girly hats if the headbands and bows aren't good for newborns. So far I bought one set of bows just from carters (they are on a thin band that goes around the head) but I want MOAR. I want some wide headbands, hats with bows, etc etc - can someone walk me through this - what's good when they are little and what should I save for when they are older with hair? Thanks!
@alinafed I lucked out and E has super curls. So at 14 months we just put some styling gel on, and a bow. Before that we just let it wild! Yes, she looks like Einstein some days.
All the bows I have we got from Walmart. They have some 3 or 4 packs for $2.50. So we loaded up on them. I have also crocheted her some super thick (2 inches, she is still little) 'ear warmer' type band that has a button so I can change out the flower on it.
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@multifariousmermaid yessssss to all the nitrous oxide. I sucked those tanks dry and don’t know if I could’ve had an I medicated delivery without it. It stops working during the pushing stage, but it took the edge off through labor so that I could actually relax between contractions. It wears off very quickly after each “use” but it was a big crutch for me. It really only makes you feel happily buzzed and relaxed—I remember everything and like someone else said, it’s not the same as what they use for surgeries.
@derbysquirrel I'm also curious how's far along you are and what brand doppler you purchased. I've been shopping for one online and would like to get one very soon.
@multifariousmermaid yessssss to all the nitrous oxide. I sucked those tanks dry and don’t know if I could’ve had an I medicated delivery without it. It stops working during the pushing stage, but it took the edge off through labor so that I could actually relax between contractions. It wears off very quickly after each “use” but it was a big crutch for me. It really only makes you feel happily buzzed and relaxed—I remember everything and like someone else said, it’s not the same as what they use for surgeries.
Thank you! I'm happy to hear some feedback on NO since I've been thinking about using it this time around to manage labor. With my first DD I didn't use anything (not a fan of this route!) and with my second DD I received an epidural. I also wasnt a fan of the epidural since it was one-sided and slowed pushing down. Looking for my next option and NO seems to be a pretty popular choice among mommies.
@alinafed DD could only keep on wide, nylon headbands similar to these. The elastic bands would just slip right off her head. Also, she had a lot of hair, but we struggled (still do!) keeping any kind of bow or clip in her hair because it's very fine. I've stopped bothering now, but at 1 year old, she would just rip it out immediately anyway. I dunno how many hats you want since it will be summer - I'd start with a couple cute sun hats. You'll definitely need those!
@alinafed DD could only keep on wide, nylon headbands similar to these. The elastic bands would just slip right off her head. Also, she had a lot of hair, but we struggled (still do!) keeping any kind of bow or clip in her hair because it's very fine. I've stopped bothering now, but at 1 year old, she would just rip it out immediately anyway. I dunno how many hats you want since it will be summer - I'd start with a couple cute sun hats. You'll definitely need those!
So true - my other two babies were January and December so I just remember them ALWAYS wearing a hat as newborns, even while sleeping etc like those little cotton newborn caps that come with their outfits. August will be so new for me!
@alinafed I personally hate headbands on babies, but DD had a ton of hair when born We used little clip in bows that didn't hurt or pull. She rejects them now, but let them stay in when she was an infant. I think we got them from buy buy baby.
Can any ST+M’s weigh in on the transition from one to two? How much should I be mentally preparing myself for this? I just worry about dividing my time and attention and neither child feeling left out.....any advice?
@rosalie0208 honestly one to two was harder on DH than it was on me. With one, on weekends for example, i did way more than my share of child care. If you had asked DH he would have told you we contributed evenly to child care, but no. I basically gave up most of my hobbies and extracurricular activities, especially when I was breastfeeding, and had zero time to myself ever.
But since I had basically already given up on my hopes and dreams with #1, #2 was no big deal for me. However, when I was with #2, DH had to be primarily responsible for #1, at least at the beginning. He had a similar adjustment as I did for the first kid, which was very difficult. He was like "I don't know when I'm going to work out, I mean I'd have to get up at 5am!" And I was like "right, I've been doing that for two years already, so bite me."
That said I think it will be a lot easier as they get older and don't need constant attention. I've heard that going from 2 to 3 isn't as bad, because you're already used to splitting time, so that's good. I hope that is true.
Can any ST+M’s weigh in on the transition from one to two? How much should I be mentally preparing myself for this? I just worry about dividing my time and attention and neither child feeling left out.....any advice?
In 100% honesty I still constantly feel guilt between 1 and 2 and I’m always worried one is getting more attention/love/whatever than the other. I’ve learned as a mom I always feel guilty about something and this was true as a mom of one and now Mom of two. That being said, the transition from zero to one was WAY harder than one to two. Babywearing saved my life; I was able to give DS2 the nursing and cuddles and closeness he needed while playing and spending time with DS1. It definitely takes some time to find your new normal but having a newborn feels like a freaking cakewalk when you’ve experienced toddlerhood already.
I think adding #2 was the hardest. Adding #3 was the easiest so far. Hopefully I’m not pushing my luck adding #4. Lol. But my oldest will be 13 and the others 4 and 8. So. It’s not like I’m dealing with multiple diapers or anything. They are pretty independent.
It wasn’t too hard adding #2, BUT they are only 14.5 months apart. L was just off bottles and formula, so it was an easy switch back to having those. We upgraded our diaper bag, so each kid had a side of pockets. Everything else was communal, creams+wipes+Tylenol when needed+ spare clothes.
It was easy as L really wanted to help with everything E needed. This time we will have 3 toddlers + infant and I think it might actually be awful and difficult.
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@delujm0 thank you! I can see our situation being very similar although I didn’t think about it until you shared your experience...DH helps out a lot, but not as much as he thinks he does. When I’ll taking care of #2 and he’s in charge of DD it will be an adjustment for sure. I’ve come to terms with my life being on the back burner at times....I guess now it’ll be his turn to come to that realization!
@calimom2524 thank you for your honesty! I fall into the Mom guilt trap too and I see that happening more when a newborn is needing attention too...DD wasn’t a fan of babywearing so hopefully this baby is! I never tried nursing while babywearing. You had success with it? It would definitely be helpful!!
@dirtanddiamonds I bet your older kids will be really helpful! DD will be just over 2 when the new baby is here so I’m not sure how helpful that’s will be lol she loves her dolls though and is obsessed with babies in general so hopefully that works in our favor
@princesslockness I love your diaper bag and communal items ideas! I’m hoping to have DD potty trained by then to avoid two in diapers, but if she’s not ready then so be it. I hope your next transition isn’t awful and difficult! That doesn’t sound good at all....hopefully the older ones are excited to help out and you find your new normal quickly
Alright, thanks to y’all I’m feeling a little less worried. I guess I’ll take it one day at a time until we find a new rhythm. That’s all we can do!
Adding #2 was way harder than I thought it would be. I cried every night for the first two weeks. (DH works 630-12) Bedtime was all on me with a 2 year old and a newborn. DD needed to be fed, and DS was not adjusting well because he wasn’t the only anymore. I’m hoping #3 is better. I do have an 8 year old SD who is here 3 weekends a month and she is a HUGE help with her younger sibilings.
So I have a question about RLP, because a Google search was fairly useless on detailing exactly where. Besides, learning things is fun.
The past couple of days I've been experiencing some minor twinges and I was curious if that's what it was. It's definitely not the typical uterine cramping.
The one is in my pubes just left of center, directly above the pubic bone (if you poked a finger from the front you'd hit bone). The other is on the right side, like if you drew a V up from the pubic bone on both sides of where the uterus is. Neither is horrible or debilitating (yet). I've been fairly active this week trying to get my house cleaned up for company, so I guess it might be that.
So I have a question about RLP, because a Google search was fairly useless on detailing exactly where. Besides, learning things is fun.
The past couple of days I've been experiencing some minor twinges and I was curious if that's what it was. It's definitely not the typical uterine cramping.
The one is in my pubes just left of center, directly above the pubic bone (if you poked a finger from the front you'd hit bone). The other is on the right side, like if you drew a V up from the pubic bone on both sides of where the uterus is. Neither is horrible or debilitating (yet). I've been fairly active this week trying to get my house cleaned up for company, so I guess it might be that.
I am jealous at the fact that you have the energy to clean. I feel like the laziest bum right now. I have to keep reminding myself this is only temporary.
I have a completely serious, non judmental question for those who said they wore baby 2 for hands free success. Did you notice a difference in physical development in #2? I totally plan on baby wearing much more with #2, but I saw a friend of mine who constantly wears her second child. This baby was 4 months old and could barely hold her head up on her own. My DD was almost sitting on her own by 4 mos. It could be something else, but I can't help but wonder if all the baby wearing is limiting her second's physical abilities.
I have a completely serious, non judmental question for those who said they wore baby 2 for hands free success. Did you notice a difference in physical development in #2? I totally plan on baby wearing much more with #2, but I saw a friend of mine who constantly wears her second child. This baby was 4 months old and could barely hold her head up on her own. My DD was almost sitting on her own by 4 mos. It could be something else, but I can't help but wonder if all the baby wearing is limiting her second's physical abilities.
I wore my second DD so much I joked she lived in the baby carrier her first year. She was sitting in a normal schedule and walked at 9 months!!! They say baby wearing actually helps with neck and core strength because they hold their heads up to look around rather than lying flat in their backs. It was probably just the development of that particular child.
Oh totally. I just loosened the strap of the side I was going to nurse on so he had a little bit more room, whipped out the boob, and done.
Thanks! I’m definitely going to be trying that...with the first, it’s all quiet nursing sessions full of cuddles and chill time. I feel like number two will be shoving the boob in his or her mouth while constantly chasing the first one!
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Question: is this a red flag?? Or a receptionist issue? Is this a sign my dr may have too many patients?
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
We did the same at our a/s with DS. We had the u/s tech write it down and put it in an envelope. DH and I then went to dinner at a fancy restaurant downtown right after the appointment and I had him open it and tell me. I figured he’d be telling me in the delivery room, so I still wanted to semi have that special moment!
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
Secondly i I was so mad 1st pregnancy because I’m pretty small and DS was massive and stretch marks literally didn’t show up until the last 2 weeks and it was like BAM. I’m still slathering with stuff even if it won’t make a difference this time hahha
eta: since we won’t reslly get a big moment I’m going to do a cute reveal for my kids. Nothing fancy just colored filling in a cake but hi the are kids so it’ll be the best day ever - - - CAKE!!!
We we won’t have that amazing delivery room moment but I will get to have a fun reveal for the kids
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I would just make sure if you follow up with them that they put time aside for emergencies. For me at least I would be annoyed if I had to go to the hospital for something like that.
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
All the bows I have we got from Walmart. They have some 3 or 4 packs for $2.50. So we loaded up on them. I have also crocheted her some super thick (2 inches, she is still little) 'ear warmer' type band that has a button so I can change out the flower on it.
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So true - my other two babies were January and December so I just remember them ALWAYS wearing a hat as newborns, even while sleeping etc like those little cotton newborn caps that come with their outfits. August will be so new for me!
We used little clip in bows that didn't hurt or pull. She rejects them now, but let them stay in when she was an infant. I think we got them from buy buy baby.
But since I had basically already given up on my hopes and dreams with #1, #2 was no big deal for me. However, when I was with #2, DH had to be primarily responsible for #1, at least at the beginning. He had a similar adjustment as I did for the first kid, which was very difficult. He was like "I don't know when I'm going to work out, I mean I'd have to get up at 5am!" And I was like "right, I've been doing that for two years already, so bite me."
That said I think it will be a lot easier as they get older and don't need constant attention. I've heard that going from 2 to 3 isn't as bad, because you're already used to splitting time, so that's good. I hope that is true.
guilty about something and this was true as a mom of one and now Mom of two. That being said, the transition from zero to one was WAY harder than one to two. Babywearing saved my life; I was able to give DS2 the nursing and cuddles and closeness he needed while playing and spending time with DS1. It definitely takes some time to find your new normal but having a newborn feels like a freaking cakewalk when you’ve experienced toddlerhood already.
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It was easy as L really wanted to help with everything E needed. This time we will have 3 toddlers + infant and I think it might actually be awful and difficult.
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@calimom2524 thank you for your honesty! I fall into the Mom guilt trap too and I see that happening more when a newborn is needing attention too...DD wasn’t a fan of babywearing so hopefully this baby is! I never tried nursing while babywearing. You had success with it? It would definitely be helpful!!
@dirtanddiamonds I bet your older kids will be really helpful! DD will be just over 2 when the new baby is here so I’m not sure how helpful that’s will be lol she loves her dolls though and is obsessed with babies in general so hopefully that works in our favor
@princesslockness I love your diaper bag and communal items ideas! I’m hoping to have DD potty trained by then to avoid two in diapers, but if she’s not ready then so be it. I hope your next transition isn’t awful and difficult! That doesn’t sound good at all....hopefully the older ones are excited to help out and you find your new normal quickly
Alright, thanks to y’all I’m feeling a little less worried. I guess I’ll take it one day at a time until we find a new rhythm. That’s all we can do!
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The past couple of days I've been experiencing some minor twinges and I was curious if that's what it was. It's definitely not the typical uterine cramping.
The one is in my pubes just left of center, directly above the pubic bone (if you poked a finger from the front you'd hit bone). The other is on the right side, like if you drew a V up from the pubic bone on both sides of where the uterus is. Neither is horrible or debilitating (yet). I've been fairly active this week trying to get my house cleaned up for company, so I guess it might be that.
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