I looooove white lights on all the things. I mix in some multi-color strands because The Toddler loves them, but if he didn’t care then I wouldn’t bother.
@bettyvonsomethingstein thank you! I couldn't have said it better myself. @kiki75 I think every once in a while it can be about yourself..... and that is okay. When I was *TW* in the physical act of having a miscarriage, I mean - legit middle of the process. I found it within myself to get up and go wedding/bridesmaid dress shopping with my BFF and her girls. It has taken months to organize a day where we could all go and this was vey special for her.... so despite the emotional pain and physical discomfort, not to mention the need to get undressed multiple times to try on dresses while wearing a huge pad, I went. *End TW*Now that is obviously an extreme example - but quite frankly, if somebody can't be mature enough to suck up once in a while ( and it really is once and a while... wedding... baby... these things don't happen every other weekend) and put on a good face and celebrate a big moment with someone they care for - then to me that is more selfish and self centered than throwing oneself a party. of course things DO happen and last minute issues and complications do come up .... but let's be honest. people bail at the last minute all the time because and make up BS excuses to not do something because they are tired and simply dont want/feel like going once the moment arrives. Lastly - everyone who has brought up hosting their own shower on these threads has indicated that their motives for doing so were because nobody offered - not because they felt they could throw a better party themselves. Why should a new mom or FTM miss out on this experience simply because they don't have a person capable of doing this for them. It's not tacky to want to celebrate what to them- is probably the most important thing that has ever happened to them.Those who cast judgements on others for making decisions that feel right by them - are in the wrong. I'm really getting tired of people being cut down over this.
@kiki75 wow! so to me you just crossed a major line... you just totally made it personal. I shared an extremely Personal story about what was one of the hardest days of my life ... and I very purposely drew zero specific comparisons (ie - infertility) because I understand that everybody has their own existence and story. All I said is we all have moments where supporting another is difficult, but there are times I believe (and not always) that you should put your feelings aside to support another person. Somebody else drew a comparison to infertility...not me. in fact, if you read my comments - you will see that I specifically chose not to pursue that conversation...because I do not believe that type of comparison is ever healthy . pain is pain and iv don't think people should be competing over whose is worse. to flat out say that my experience of *TW* miscarrying while out trying on dresses with other bridesmaids is not the same or as difficult as someone else who is living their own version of a total nightmare is completely inappropriate and I can only assume your intent there was to hurt me. And congratulations - you succeeded. I'm now sitting in my car in a parking lot because I'm too upset to drive. How dare you! that was so wrong on so many levels. that wasn't an unpopular opinion - that was a total cut to my own experience.I'm sorry that you find the idea of women supporting women so vulgar. excuse me for believing there is enough hate and anger and ugliness in this world that I choose to try to support other people, even those i disagree with, by having a conversation that is first and foremost respectful. you can share a different opinion with someone and still be kind.
And a related UO: I don't believe that anyone is obligated to support everything someone does or says simply because they share a gender.