October 2017 Moms

Sh*t People Say to Pregnant Women

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Re: Sh*t People Say to Pregnant Women

  • mkholt86 said:
    "Not everyone glows, some people get swollen and ugly.. so if you're glowing, you're going to have a girl and if you're ugly, you're going to have a boy" ...My mom always knows what to say SMH
    See and old wives tales have it the other way. Girls steal your beauty and boys make you glow ( according to tale). Moms, pshhhh lol 

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  • KSweetKSweet member
    @canonmom413 Don't be peeved....for the most part, unless a woman is asking me to take her to the hospital, I generally won't bring up a pregnancy until she does. I've had a couple of times when people have asked me if I am when I'm not and boy, does it hurt :( 
  • I can't stand the gender comments. We have two girls and a boy and yes, we would love for our son to have a brother and we have said this. They also know we have struggled with losses the past year, so just staying pregnant has been a blessing. But our families just can't stop with the "I hope for (DS's) sake that it's a boy" or suggesting that if it's a girl, it will be a disappointment.  

    Naturally, when our first was a girl and second was a boy, we got TONS of "oh how perfect, now you get one of each" comments. The nicest parr about having a third when you already have one of each, you don't tend to get many comments about how it "needs" to be one gender over the other
  • canonmom413canonmom413 member
    edited May 2017
    @sjohns908 I hate the gender comments too I have stopped engaging in comments back. This is my childhood BFF and my mother:

    My  husband has two little pals already. This baby will be just as much of a pal to him as our girls are. 

    Edited photo to block more names. 

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  • ariz17ariz17 member
    A pillow smuggler!! Lol @canonmom413
  • I got married in November so I know what you mean!
  • KSweetKSweet member
    @canonmom413 your friend's could just be a gender prediction? I bet you love how I'm providing excuses for everyone for you, lol. 

  • KSweet said:
    @canonmom413 your friend's could just be a gender prediction? I bet you love how I'm providing excuses for everyone for you, lol. 

    I wish. She is a mom of 2 boys and 1 girl. She's pro boy right now so her sons have another friend lol 

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  • Someone asked me if I knew when I conceived. I said yes. Then they asked when? (Excuse me?) Then, they told me their story of conceiving their daughter. 

    So personal! 
    Me: 30 | DH:34
    Married: 08/04/12
    DD: 6 years | Born: 03/28/13
    DS: 1 Year I Born 10/15/17


  • Friend as I'm reaching for my third snack in 4 hours on our road trip: "So have you been tested for gestational diabetes yet?"

    Shuddddup it's just kettle corn!
    Uh, what friend says that?!?! 

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  • virginiahamvirginiaham member
    edited May 2017

    Friend as I'm reaching for my third snack in 4 hours on our road trip: "So have you been tested for gestational diabetes yet?"

    Shuddddup it's just kettle corn!
    Uh, what friend says that?!?! 
    We had been talking about all things baby and testing and I think it was an unfortunate case of a *really* poorly timed question.  But then again I don't know, immediately after that I offered her some and she goes, "No thanks I know how you are with your kettle corn."

    You can walk home with your judgment, lady  :D
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  • I told my coworker when I was about 11 weeks (not showing yet) and she said "I thought you'd gained some weight!"
  • I've gotten the "was it planned?" question a few times (today included).  Like, I get it...not all pregnancies are planned, but it rubs me the wrong way and I dunno why.  Maybe it's the heat and I'm cranky when it's hot.  
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  • I've gotten the "was it planned?" question a few times (today included).  Like, I get it...not all pregnancies are planned, but it rubs me the wrong way and I dunno why.  Maybe it's the heat and I'm cranky when it's hot.  
    I hate when people ask this. It's no one's business. And even if it was, what difference does it make to them? None 
  • tyannejtyannej member
    IF PEOPLE DONT STOP WALKING UP TO ME AND TOUCHING MY STOMACH. 

    Like no. No, I don't like being touched in general, much less by someone I'm not close too, and on the stomach. 

    You can say "awh, when are you due?" Without your hand on my stomach! 
  • Smartin90 said:
    "You're so small!" I'm a couple days shy of 16 weeks, and I'm a first time mom. Did you think the baby starts out at birth size and weight in there? I mean, I know I had to explain how I'm growing the baby to my 7yr old SD, but I didn't think so many grown people would be making comments like this. It just makes you unnecessarily worry sometimes.

    Another good one? "I didn't think they'd let you do a registry this early since you just don't know..." Got that a few days ago when we told MIL we'd started our registry since we had a free weekend. Soooo, should we wait until the baby is here or maybe when labor starts...?
    I'm 21 weeks & a ftm! I get this from people that I have known my whole life! I'm 5 ft and have never been over 95 pounds. They say, "You're so small! How far along are you?"  :| Was I a big person before I was pregnant?!? Than they are in shock when I say, "I'm over half way. We should have a baby in roughly 4 months!" Then I get, "You need to eat more! But you don't want to gain too much weight!" "That baby is going to be as big as you are!" "It's gonna be a vagina wrecker!" Thanks for making me feel better about being underweight and for the encouragement for delivery!
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  • My mother in law is set that we MUST have a boy as our first born is a girl. Really I don't care as long as baby is healthy, last night she was over and made the comment that if it's a girl we have to do it all over again. Sorry but the factory is shit down after this. My husband had the nerve to say thanks for the consideration. My body, my pain, my horomones, my sickness, sorry but I'm done after this so please conisider that lol
  • I went to get a massage at this Asian spa place near our house. The man saw me and goes, "ahhhh, belly" as he pats his stomach. I laughed and moved on. At the end, he sticks his belly out as far as he can, pats his stomach, and makes some tribal noise beating sound with his voice. He walked in circles and said, "belly, belly, belly." 

    WTF! I was so uncomfortable, and it was really weird. 
    Me: 30 | DH:34
    Married: 08/04/12
    DD: 6 years | Born: 03/28/13
    DS: 1 Year I Born 10/15/17

  • @kmornelas29 wow that's super weird
    Me: 28 | Him: 31
    Married: 11/12/16
    BFP: 02/09/17
    FTM | EDD: 10/13/17

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  • @kmornelas29 Bahahaha that's hilarious!

    @wittyacronym Everyone kept telling me it's better to have a girl this time. Hmmm ok thanks. And WTF with people saying it's not fair to your husband?!?! Who says that archaic shit?

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  • @kmornelas29 what the heck? Lol that's so weird!

    @wittyacronym do people not understand how chromosomes work? How unfair of you to only have x chromosomes.
  • I was asked yesturday if I was having twins. Which is just rude in my opinion, I realize I'm growing but that's fairly normal. And I'm not even big. I'm 19 weeks and told everyone this week. Also my mother in law thought it would be nice to tell me I look shorter then ever with my round belly
  • - so did y'all plan this? (Coworker, bachelor)

    - I could tell something was different with you! (No just fat)

    - why don't you want to do a gender reveal? The whole point is more gifts! (The whole convo was weird to me)
    I hate when people ask if a baby was planned. It's way too personal 
  • emwj10187emwj10187 member
    edited June 2017
    i know this has been said a few times on here... but my own "progressively feminist" sister who hasn't seen me in a few weeks came over the other day and said or actually yelled "wow!! you're HUGE!"

    I just looked at her with a blank stare and said "thanks".... 

    She apologized and realized her mistake but i was still annoyed...
    \


  • One of the older women at the gym comments on how much bigger I am every time she sees me.  Some days it doesn't bother me, but today it irked me.  Thanks for pointing out the obvious.
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  • @bluejeanbabi05 I like the way you think! 
  • I hadn't seen some of my classmates for a few weeks, and today one of them walked in the classroom and asked, "Are you fat yet?" 

    Um. Yes? No? I'm actually not sure of the correct answer to this question. 
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