One of my ER docs replaced my Diet Pepsi on the desk with a bottle of water... she's lucky she still has hands... I work 12 hour nights and can hardly stay awake as it is... don't touch my shit!!
YOU ARE MY NURSE TWIN. Solidarity, sister!!!
me . early 30's | h . mid 30's | < 3 . 2013
ntnp #2 . summer 2018
*siggy warning*
ttc#1 . jul 2015
mmc . mar 2016 | 6w2d
dx PCOS (non-IR) / subclinical hypothyroidism . summer 2016
tx metformin, levothyroxine, LP progesterone, femara + trigger + ti . fall/winter 2016 BFP! . jan 2017 DD . oct 2017
My psychiatrist asked "How did this happen?" And "You're keeping the baby?" I also get asked every time I go if I'm "still pregnant?" (Man, I wish I could find another psychiatrist)
People keep saying the bit about being "outnumbered" and I'm like, we were outnumbered at 2. Florence takes at least 2 adults to keep up with her...
Friend: You need to eat a good variety of foods, like A, B, C... Me: I'm allergic to C. You know that. Friend: I know, but you should eat it anyway. It's good for the baby.
How is it good for the baby if I'm having an allergic reaction??
Also, I'm the one weirdo who doesn't mind the "was it planned?" questions. It might bother me a bit from coworkers or people I barely know, but I'll gladly share our circumstances with friends and family in case it helps someone else with their own family planning.
I haven't had comments this time bc I'm not showing yet but with my first my uncle (never married no kids) walked into my small family shower and announced very loudly "there's my fat neice" everyone was stunned. I responded "there's my fat uncle (bc he is) at least I'm pregnant what's your excuse?". And for the record I wasn't even fat! I only gained 23 lbs my whole pregnancy. I wanted to throat punch him
@asickles98 Wow, that's really whacko! This is my eighth baby (and yes, we're Catholic, lol) but I really don't hear mean things too often. I don't know if I look mean or what.....
There is something about number five, though. I think because people see families with four kids, even if they consider that large, it's still somewhat normal. But five sort of bumps you over into "weirdo territory". I think after number five, people just wrote us off as too crazy to even talk to about it, lol. I'm sorry people are jerks about big families.
I feel like at 4 kids, it's already that "are you nuts?" category. I had someone at my eye Dr today get a shocked look when I told her this is number 4. She just goes "oh.....wow. you're going to have your hands full". Uh, thanks?
It makes me so sad that people turn their noses up to big families. My parents both come from huge families (13 and 7 kids) and it's always been a lot of fun! I love having tons of aunts, uncles, and cousins. If I had started having kids earlier, i would probably try to coax DH into at least 4 or 5!
@JessDG I have a big extended family also. My mom is 1 of 9, my dad is 1 of 7 (2 are half sisters from his dad). I have over 20 first cousins alone and holidays were always fun having so many kids around to play with. Then I met dh. He has 3 cousins. 3! But we always knew we wanted at least 3 kids because we're both 1 of 2 and it stunk.
" what took you so long?!?": from family who have been asking when it's time for another since DD2 was 2. We waited to try until DD2 was 5 but we weren't fortunate enough to have it happen right away. So here we are and now she's almost 7. People and their comments :eyeroll:
@asickles98 some of those....wow. People really need to stay out of your business!
I've gotten:
when finding out that this will be boy #3 "better start planning for #4 now! you need a girl!" No thanks I'm happy with my boys.
"you just really don't ever want to have any money do you?"
after finding out that I'm 16 weeks with #3 "you aren't showing at all, it's not your first? That's weird, whats wrong?" Gee thanks lady. Now I'm constantly worried that something is wrong with this little guy and I should be bigger.
It makes me so sad that people turn their noses up to big families. My parents both come from huge families (13 and 7 kids) and it's always been a lot of fun! I love having tons of aunts, uncles, and cousins. If I had started having kids earlier, i would probably try to coax DH into at least 4 or 5!
Yesto this. Both my parents come from huge fams too (dad 9 mom 15(grandfather had 3 wives, all under the same roof(EW lol i know))) And if my body and my bank account allow me id have at least a basketball starting five.... Even a soccer team as a fam lol
First thing as I walk into work this morning, "Wow you're really.. starting to look pregnant!" I don't think he was trying to be rude but still. I am very aware of how I look, but thanks lol.
I have not had too many things so far I'm sure I will as I look more and more pregnant. I'm most afraid of people touching my stomach or asking too it creeps me out I don't touch other people's stomachs why would anyone need to touch mine? Also on my husband's side of the family his cousin has a girl and my sister in law is expecting a girl soon and I get the "it better be a boy" apparently there are too many girls in the family. It makes me laugh cause obviously I have no control over the gender my child is and it is my first so I don't have an excess of either gender. anyways.
First thing my MIL said when we told her: "Were you trying for a boy or a girl???" Ummm... we were trying for a baby? DH explained afterwards that she subscribes to the theory that if you have sex every day it's more likely to be a boy, but if you do it every other day it's more likely to be a girl. So she was basically asking us how often we were having sex. Super uncomfortable.
I've gotten unsolicited theories on why I'm going to have a girl (we won't find out until later this month). I've also heard from some folks at the gym and some of my clients on how big I've gotten in the last couple of weeks. Uh...thanks? I already feel like a hot, bloated mess and that just boosts the self-confidence.
June 2017 Siggy Challenge: "You had one job to do!"
@Brambles23 I could go on allllllllllll day about her crackpot theories. And it's crazy how many of them DH just accepted as true (until he met me, ha) because they were drilled into him at such a young age ... it makes me appreciate how influential parents can be when they present things as absolutes to little kids. I have a rough time with my ILs but I can appreciate that they are a good reminder of how I do NOT want to parent!
@migdala I'm probably going to come off slightly SS here but.... we discussed the whole Shettles theory and I read papers where following it gave you a 70% chance of determining sex. I eye roll at A LOT but this one had some bit of science and discussed ovulation and sperm life/speed differences between a boy sperm and girl sperm. Having said all that, we didn't apply the method but it would have been quite interesting to have conducted an experiment but temping didn't appeal to me.
@buttercream_frosting I thought it had been largely debunked but I haven't looked into it. If it's true then we're destined to have all girls - I don't have the stamina to try for boys
"You don't seem like you're in a good mood..are you okay?" "Yes, I'm fine, just a little tired I didn't sleep well last night" "OH YOU JUST WAIT, YOU ARENT EVEN THAT FAR ALONG"
STFU, I know, being a parent is hard and this pregnancy is going to get harder, but you asked why I was in a bad mood and I told you and then I get a "you have no idea, you just wait" if I had a dollar for every time I've heard that I wouldn't have to work anymore.
@tyannej This is one of many reasons I never speak of my pregnancy at work unless I have to. Everyone I work with directly knows but I'm sick of rude comments just because I said I had a headache or whatever. Some people just can't be nice.
@tyannej: the 'how are you doooooing' question are so annoying because if you say anything other than fine - it is lecture time or worse listen to someone's pregnancy/delivery horror story.
My answer is the same, 'I'm fine how are you?' and keep it moving. I don't know why people think it is helpful to tell others how aweful 3rd trimester is going to be or how much less sleep you will get with a newborn.
@NervousNelly825@wittyacronym THANK YOU! And I try to keep it to an "I'm fine" but they wouldn't let up so for the last week they're like oh you just wait. STFU. Or I'll shove that "you just wait" up your ass.
@tyannej Honestly, I feel like the first trimester is the WORST time of the pregnancy. Yes, I know I'll be uncomfortable, etc, towards the end but it beats tired and nauseous. Plus it's more tolerable and motivating when you're close to seeing your baby versus just starting out.
On the boy/girl note, we're planning to go to an elective place in a few weeks, and I am already dreaaaaading the comments we're going to get from people either way. Why can't people just be excited and not put their own visions of a perfect family on other people?? I don't think I "need" a boy to make my family complete, and I feel like it's insulting to my girls to keep insisting I need a boy.
@emwj10187 When we told my grandmother we were having a boy she looked at me disappointed and said aw I was hoping you'd have a girl :-/. I get where you're coming from!
@TallMomma29 We were originally going to find out and then when people asked say "we're keeping it a surprise" (true for them at least) to avoid all of those shitty comments. I was especially worried about starting the gender stereotyping before she's even born. But then we found out and were excited to tell people so that went out the window. When we've told people I've been pretty vocal about how I feel on the topic and our friends at least get it. Except the one who keeps suggesting stripper names cause he thinks it's funny...
"Not everyone glows, some people get swollen and ugly.. so if you're glowing, you're going to have a girl and if you're ugly, you're going to have a boy" ...My mom always knows what to say SMH
Here's a new one I got at dance last night. While chatting with a mom of a little girl about saving on used items etc I mentioned I only have sentimental stuff left from my girls and will need to buy almost everything whether this ones a boy or girl. She goes , " what one?" I said, "oh I'm due in Oct. " she said , " oh my I didn't even realize. Congrats. " I never thought I'd be so annoyed by someone NOT realizing I am pregnant. I mean I'm actually showing now. What did she think? I'm a pro pillow smuggler ?!
Re: Sh*t People Say to Pregnant Women
Yeah I am done with people already and I still have 26 weeks of this.
ntnp #2 . summer 2018
*siggy warning*
ttc#1 . jul 2015
mmc . mar 2016 | 6w2d
dx PCOS (non-IR) / subclinical hypothyroidism . summer 2016
tx metformin, levothyroxine, LP progesterone, femara + trigger + ti . fall/winter 2016
BFP! . jan 2017
DD . oct 2017
WTAF. You need to fire your psychiatrist ASAP.
**June Siggy Challenge: You Had ONE Job!**
LO#2 EDD October 18th
Me: I'm allergic to C. You know that.
Friend: I know, but you should eat it anyway. It's good for the baby.
How is it good for the baby if I'm having an allergic reaction??
Also, I'm the one weirdo who doesn't mind the "was it planned?" questions. It might bother me a bit from coworkers or people I barely know, but I'll gladly share our circumstances with friends and family in case it helps someone else with their own family planning.
It's none of your damn business!!
There is something about number five, though. I think because people see families with four kids, even if they consider that large, it's still somewhat normal. But five sort of bumps you over into "weirdo territory". I think after number five, people just wrote us off as too crazy to even talk to about it, lol. I'm sorry people are jerks about big families.
" what took you so long?!?":
from family who have been asking when it's time for another since DD2 was 2. We waited to try until DD2 was 5 but we weren't fortunate enough to have it happen right away. So here we are and now she's almost 7. People and their comments :eyeroll:
Oct. '17 June S.C. "You Had 1 Job"
I've gotten:
when finding out that this will be boy #3 "better start planning for #4 now! you need a girl!" No thanks I'm happy with my boys.
"you just really don't ever want to have any money do you?"
after finding out that I'm 16 weeks with #3 "you aren't showing at all, it's not your first? That's weird, whats wrong?" Gee thanks lady. Now I'm constantly worried that something is wrong with this little guy and I should be bigger.
And if my body and my bank account allow me id have at least a basketball starting five.... Even a soccer team as a fam lol
**June Siggy Challenge: You Had ONE Job!**
LO#2 EDD October 18th
Although i know she's not. DH and I are so excited!
**June Siggy Challenge: You Had ONE Job!**
LO#2 EDD October 18th
**June Siggy Challenge: You Had ONE Job!**
LO#2 EDD October 18th
"Yes, I'm fine, just a little tired I didn't sleep well last night"
"OH YOU JUST WAIT, YOU ARENT EVEN THAT FAR ALONG"
STFU, I know, being a parent is hard and this pregnancy is going to get harder, but you asked why I was in a bad mood and I told you and then I get a "you have no idea, you just wait" if I had a dollar for every time I've heard that I wouldn't have to work anymore.
My answer is the same, 'I'm fine how are you?' and keep it moving. I don't know why people think it is helpful to tell others how aweful 3rd trimester is going to be or how much less sleep you will get with a newborn.
Im a little hormonal too lol
On the boy/girl note, we're planning to go to an elective place in a few weeks, and I am already dreaaaaading the comments we're going to get from people either way. Why can't people just be excited and not put their own visions of a perfect family on other people?? I don't think I "need" a boy to make my family complete, and I feel like it's insulting to my girls to keep insisting I need a boy.
While chatting with a mom of a little girl about saving on used items etc I mentioned I only have sentimental stuff left from my girls and will need to buy almost everything whether this ones a boy or girl. She goes , " what one?" I said, "oh I'm due in Oct. " she said , " oh my I didn't even realize. Congrats. "
I never thought I'd be so annoyed by someone NOT realizing I am pregnant. I mean I'm actually showing now. What did she think? I'm a pro pillow smuggler ?!
Oct. '17 June S.C. "You Had 1 Job"